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Post-stillbirth grief counselor

Jan 2008

I lost a baby at 20 weeks a year ago and am having major fears about trying to have another child because the grief was so severe. I have been blessed with one healthy child, but the unexplained loss that I had has made trying to conceive again very stressful. Can anyone recommend a counselor - preferably in SF, but I would go anywhere to see the right person -- who has addressed these multiple issues? Thanks so much. Anon


First, I want to say I am very sorry for your loss. I had a stillbirth 3 years ago this month and have not had children before or since due to fertility issues despite my being under 30. I can recommended a therapist by the name of Donna Rothert. She facilitated a support group on pregnancy loss and also saw patients individually. I saw her in both capacities over the course of 10 months in 2006-07. She has offices in Oakland's Rockridge district and in Walnut Creek though I only saw her in Oakland because I'm on this side of the hills. She is very knowledgeable on infant loss, miscarriage and stillbirth. More than anyone I have ever seen. http://www.donnarothert.com/ Grieving Mama
The therapists at Perinatal Psychotherapy Services (Donna Rothert, Gina Hassan, and Lee Safran) are wonderful. They deal with pregnancy loss issues all the time. They are in Berkeley, and may be worth the trip, or they may know excellent people in SF. Good luck. You're not alone. http://www.perinatalpsychotherapy.com/
I am sorry for your loss. Having gone through a stillbirth and 2 subsequent pregnancies, I totally recommend counseling to support you through the process. I saw Kim Kluger-Bell. She is warm, understanding and knowledgeable. She has written a book about pregnancy loss and is well known in the field. She is in Berkeley on Solano Ave. I wish you peace on your journey. Been There Too
I'm so sorry for your loss. I missed your original post, so I don't know if you have heard of SAND (stands for support after neonatal death), a support group run through Alta Bates Hospital. I started going to SAND in 1982, close to a year after losing my first child to premature birth and several months after starting work with a grief counselor. I didn't go earlier because I couldn't imagine that hearing many different stories about losing a baby would make me feel better, especially since I was having trouble conceiving again. However, SAND proved to be invaluable in my emotional recovery from the loss and subsequent infertility. First, I met women with similar stories which helped me set aside ''what if.'' (What if he had been a girl, what if I were of a different ethnic category, what if I had gone to the doctor sooner, what if he had received treatment at a different hospital...We were all at risk.) I was encouraged by the women going through successful 2nd (or 3rd or more) pregnancies. I received incredible support for moving on--through adoption and (10 years later) a birth as well. I went to SAND regularly for about 2 years. According to the website, SAND meets from 7:00 to 9:00 pm on the first and third Wednesdays of each month at 3030 Telegraph Ave. (at Webster St.) in Berkeley. It is free and registration is not required. For more information, call (510) 204-1571. I wish you the best in finding the help you need and in growing your family. Sympathetic mom

Grief support for 10-year-old - father's suicide

October 2007

I am looking for a grief support group in or near Berkeley. My daughters father committed suicide two weeks ago. We have been seperated for five years but were on good terms. My daughter is 10. I called suicide prevention but they don't deal with grief. I have called many numbers and a: got no return call (800)260-0094 b: number out of service c: told suicide is too specific. We are having a hard time due to the violence of his death. I am waiting for my daughters school to refer a psychologist but am interested in a group of others who have this unfortunate experience. Alta Bates refered Pathways but haven't been able to get through yet. I keep calling numbers that are refered and then they refer and on only to be told finally that they don't deal with suicide or better yet they do but in Los Angeles. Does anyone have RECENT experience and phone numbers? Having a hard time


Sutter VNA & Hospice in Emeryville has a number of bereavement support groups. I looked on their website, but didn't see any groups for children. Perhaps they would have a referral for you. Also, Jewish Family & Children's Services in Berkeley may have a good referral. Have you considered family or child counseling in the interim until you find a support group for your daughter? Wishing you healing.
I'm so sorry for your family's loss. Try contacting the Bereavement Counselor at Zen Hospice Project. I'm sure she'll be about to refer you to a kid's group. When I volunteered there we had a kid's group meet in the guest house, but I don't think they still run that program. http://www.zenhospice.org/15_bereavement_services/bereavement-services.htm Jennifer
I am so sorry to hear about your and your daughter's loss. My husband died about a year ago, and I wondered how to help my two kids (then 7 and 4) deal with their grief and loss. I found a counselor who was experienced in grief counseling for children, and got the kids and I enrolled in a support group. I strongly recommend doing both individual and group.

I felt very fortunate to find the East Bay Agency for Children's Circle of Care program. They conduct free biweekly support groups for families who have experienced a loss. It was good for my kids to be exposed to others who had also been through a loss. A 10-year-old would have been right within the ages covered. They had kids from around 4 through 11 or 12 as I recall. I, too, found it really helpful to talk to other parents about the experience of grieving with kids. They meet in the evenings and serve pizza, and do ask for contributions to defray the food cost. They conducted the children's and parents' sessions concurrently. They are located in Oakland, and many Berkeley families participate. Here is a link:

http://www.ebac.org/programs/circle/index.asp

My other thought is to contact hospices in the Berkeley area. They also often provide family grief support groups (there is one in Dublin that I am aware of (Hope Hospice).

I don't know if you have a counselor for your daughter, but I also highly recommend Jan Dombrower, but she is in Hayward (510) 537-8630) and that might be a bit far for you. Grief counseling for children is one of her specialties, and she was very helpful to me and my children after their loss. A couple nice things she did for them: worked with them to create ''memory'' boxes where they could store small items that remind them of their dad. And one day they decorated helium balloons for their dad and then released them into the sky.

Again, my deepest sympathies. Ellen


Call Circle of Care, 510-531-7551 in Oakland. They have really wonderful support groups for familes who have experienced the death of a parent. There are usually other kids in the groups who have had a parent die of suicide - which helps tremendously. You'll have to do a brief phone interview, and then meet with a counselor. Groups are on weeknight evenings, in Oakland near the Mormon temple. Can't reccomend Circle of Care highly enough. good luck

Grief Counseling for loss of my Mother

April 2007

My mother recently passed away. Can anyone recommend a grief counselor in the East Bay? I would be interested in seeing someone who is also great with working with family dynamics. Thank you anon


Sheryl Sheets on College Ave near Ashby is great for grief counseling for loss of a mother. She has an MFT. I worked with her during my mother's terminal illness and after my mother's death. She was at (510) 549-9297. Anon
I have been working through the loss of my father and also my my feelings regarding my aging mother with Yvonne Mansell who specializes in death and dying, mindful parenting, and menopause. I have found the work manageable due to her ablilty to bring compassion, honesty, and at times, humor into most difficult moments. She offers individual and group sessions. Her office is in Albany and you can visit her website at www.yvonnemansell.com Best of luck to you.
Howard Lunche is an incredible grief counselor. He reallly helped me understand and manage my immense grief after my husband died. He also wrote a book about grief that I gave to the people around me so they could understand what was happening with me. I very highly reccomend him as a caring and compassionate therapist. his number is 841-2930 and his office is in berkeley.

Support Group for parents who h ave lost a child

Feb 2007

Dear BPN members, I am a pediatrician and am writing to see if anyone knows of any support groups or therapists for parents who have lost a child. Unfortunately, I only know of some in Oakland or Berkeley, but the family lives in Tracy, but would travel to Pleasanton or Castro Valley easily. Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you, Laura


Hi -- I would start with Compassionate Friends (www.compassionatefriends.org) - they are a national organization with many local chapters. Most local chapters have a weekly support group and they can also help connect to other resources. eva
Please check out Circle of Care (http://www.ebac.org/programs/circle/groups.asp) - this is an organization specializing in grief, loss and trauma. They have groups appropriate for living with loss and living with illness for all age groups and they offer these services for free. They are located in Oakland. Buddy

Grief support for young mother

June 2003

I'm writing on behalf of my next door neighbor with a two year old daughter whose husband was recently killed riding his bicycle to work. She is very interested in talking with other parents who have lost partners while their children were young. Does anyone know of a grief support group and/or individuals who have been through this experience who she can talk with, commiserate with, get some perspective. Any ideas or referrals welcome. Thanks in advance - Julie


Recommendations received:
  • Ann Martin Children's Center
  • Circle of Care (formerly PediatriCare)
  • Visiting Nurses Association Hospice Center
    Other suggestions:

    The Center for Attitudinal Healing (based in Marin but I believe have various groups around the Bay Area) also provides bereavement support. Their website is http://www.localcommunities.org/servlet/lc_ProcServ/dbpage=page&m ode=display&gid=01004011550947263615155189 and their phone number is 415-331-6161. Hope this is helpful. Hannah


    There is a great group called Namaste which provides free grief counseling. I worked with them about 10 years ago. They may not be active any more--if they are you should be able to find them in the Berkeley Phone book under the name ''namaste''.

    Support Group for teens who have lost a parent

    July 2002

    My 17-year-old stepdaughter lost her mother to cancer two years ago, and while she is a strong and courageous young woman who is healing well, she might benefit from some peer support. Does anyone know of a support group for teens who have lost parents? Thanks! Amy


    Editor note: There are some previous recommendations about this: "PediatriCare, a program of East Bay Agency for Children, offers support groups and home based counseling services for families coping with illness, bereavement or loss...." PediatriCare also "Grief Counseling"
    The Women's Cancer Resource Center in Berkeley has a support group for teens who have a parent with cancer. They may be a good resource for a grief support group as well. Their phone number is: (510) 548-9272.

    Alta Bates Comprehensive Cancer Center would also be a good resource: they offer a variety of support groups. Phone: (510) 204-1591.


    Therapist needed for recent traumas

    November 2001

    I need to find a grief counselor for some recent traumas, The following names were recommended to me. Does anybody know anything about the following counselors? Georgia Schwimmer, Albany Roberta Stern, Berkeley Marilyn Girard, Berkeley Deborah Scott, Berkeley

    Recommendations received:

  • Howard Lunche (3)
  • Dusky Pierce
  • Visiting Nurses Association Hospice Center

    Therapist for grieving children

    My husband recently passed away. Does anyone have any recommendations for a therapist/counselor who could advise me on how to deal with my children and their questions and grief? While they have seen therapists, the verbalized issues about their father seem to arise only when they are with me. Thanks.

    Recommendations received:

  • Alameda County Crisis Counselling Center
  • Thana Christian
  • Rachel Clark
  • PediatriCare
  • UC CARE Services
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