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My 16 year old has eating disorder due to weight lost. She has strong resentment about medical treatment and therapy, only agrees to eat more at the condition of w/o getting too much weight back. However, I was told by the doctor that the only way to get her period back and improve her weak vital signs is to get at least 10 pounds back. Any advices of dealing with teenage girl with similar situation will be greatly appreciated. Very concerned and frustrated Mom.
I went through something similar with my daughter and she immediately came around once she understood what she was really doing to herself. If your daughter is at a place where she can't listen to reason, and it sound like she might be, maybe try therapy (individual or group)--she may have issues she needs to talk through and you are probably not be the person she can do that with. And there are surely local support groups that could help. Best of luck with this difficult situation. anon
Of course there was therapy etc. and she too, was very angry and resistant to it all. Along the way we met a great nutritionist who, for some reason, did not annoy my daughter. I recommend her highly. Her name is Tami Lyon (in SF and Marin.) You can find her number online. It's such a hard, and complex disorder. I wish you and your daughter well. Been there.
Hi, I am a mother of 18 years old boy who is suffering eating desorder. I just realized that every time he eats, he goes to bathroom turn on the shower, than nobody can hear him, and start to provoke vomiting. Before that I new something wrong was happening with him. But he never wants to talk, every time I tried, he said he didn't want to talk and locked into his room.
I am desperate because I never thought that could happen with him. He is a happy boy, he loves to dance, he is a ballet dancer. I don't know how to start to resolve this problem, because he is already 18 years old and do not want to talk about that.
If somebody can help me organize my ideas and figure out how I can help him, I will really apreciate. Thank you very much for who can help me. Desperate mom.
does anyone have any therapist recommendation for parent support with dgthr with eating disorder in East Bay? a therapist with United Behavioral Health group? How about for young adult with eating disorder? thank you! therapist search ED
Last night I walked into the bathroom and found my 14 yr old son trying to throw up because he said he had eaten too much earlier in the evening and his stomach hurt. I'm afraid that he may be heading toward some body image/bulimia/anorexia type thing.
He's normal weight, with a good appetite, has never dieted, but I know he's concerned about his body (what teen isn't) and wants to be fit and muscular. How worried should I be? He doesn't binge, so I don't think it was a bulimic purge, but still it was frightening to see.
We eat a healthy diet, and have always stressed eating until feeling full and then stopping. I've allowed him to self regulate (mostly) in this way since the beginnning, and thought everything was going well, since he is at an ideal weight for his height. But what I saw last night really has me shaken.
How should I handle this? worried mom
I was wondering if anyone knew of a weekly therapy or support group for teenagers with eating disorders, specifically anorexia/bulimia. I know that Overeaters Anonymous has groups but this does not attract young women. The best resource would be a weekly therapy group that meets in the late afternoon or early evening. Thanks.
When we wearied of travelling to Palo Alto, we found a therapist at Kaiser Oakland who also conducted private practice. She tried to get entree for my daughter to Kaiser groups, but they would not allow non-Kaiser paitents in to their sessions. We learned that private practice pyschologists are reluctant to hold groups, because the psycology of the disorder is that individuals can either learn new ways to perpetrate the behavior through others in the group, or they can get support for overcoming it--the former being a big liability risk for a psychologist without a large pool of patients to draw from.
Ultimately, we put together a triage here that replicated the Stanford care: our family physician followed the Stanford protocol of weight monitoring and setting limits on weigh loss and other activities; she collaborated with a nutritionist who agreed on pace of weight gain, eating protocols, etc; and they both worked with the therapist who played the role of calming the waters as new, more healthy behaviors were instituted, helping examine the self-destructive thoughts, and working to mediate the family dynamics that become so central to the agony of eating disorders. We never found a group setting once she was out of hospital care.
Throughout all of this, I always felt like yoga, acupuncture, meditation--energetic things that helped calm my daughter's anxiety--were as critical as the structures the triage gave her.
The therapists trained in eating disorders who helped us: Therapists: Thomasine McFarlin 510.538-0304 (near telegraph and derby); Manda Hakimi-Ederer (415) 710-9301 (practice on Piedmont ave); Nutritionist: Michelle Vivas: (510) 595-9474 (Rockridge).
If you're a parent who wants to talk to another who has come out the other end, call me.
Anonymous out of respect for my daughter's privacy
Hello,
My 19 year old daughter has an eating disorder and has
expressed a desire to see a therapist again. She has some
difficulty trusting doctors, etc. due to a past negative
experience in counseling. She is attending college in San
Francisco and lives on campus, so I am seeking referrals for
female therapists in San Francisco who specialize in working
with teens and eating disorders. Thanks in advance for your
help.
My 20 year old daughter suffers from an eating disorder. She has admitted she has a problem and has agreed to go for counseling. I am looking for a counselor who comes well recommended and has experience dealing with this issue. We would prefer someone in the Berkeley/Albany/El Cerrito area, but are willing to travel a bit if necessary to get the right person. Thanks for your help.
Ultimately, it was my daughter's decision. Preston, in turn, recommended an excellent family therapist who we all went to together alongside her therapy with my daughter, named Dr. DiMartini (don't recall his first name, maybe John). My daughter feels as good about Preston now as she did 5 years ago. Preston worked for many years in the in-patient units for eating disorder teens back in the days when they were subsidized by the government. She worked well with my daughter, and also consulted well with the psychiatrist who treated my daughter when she became an in-patient through Kaisewas totally paid for by Kaiser ($48,000). But we paid for Preston ourselves, which was around $20,000 over a several year period. These are the realities of private medicine. And this was the total after we received some reimbursement from New York Life, which was covered $1000 per year for the first couple of years by her step-father. It's an enormous long-haul, something which is ongoing. One way to look at it is that it takes a long time to go in this direction, and takes some time to make a different pathway. I wish you great luck with your child.
Editor Note:
Several therapists also wrote in to share recommendations from their own
professional experience as well as suggestions from their colleagues.
These appear below.
I also recommend a center in Marin called Beyond Hunger. Their web-site is www.beyondhunger.org
A national web-site with a lot of information and links is www.edap.org (eating disorders awareness prevention)
I would be very happy to talk with you about this subject, as I have been working somewhat with several young women with eating disorders. There are also some good in-patient places, which would be easier to discuss over the phone.
I wish you and your daughter lots of luck and many blessings on this journer to healing.
Sincerely,
I am forwarding this referral info re: teen eating disorders from the etree
of the East Bay chapter of California Marriage & Family Therapists.
I have announced to the EBCAMFT etree that I am posting their
suggestions.
They are happy to have the word of mouth recommendations posted to the
greater public. Several have written back with their permission.
- AltaBates inpatient programs for eating disorders and their
psychiatrist, Dr. McKnight, whose specialty is EDOs. She works
with adolescents. She might be able to refer to outpatient
therapists who specialize.
- Jane Kaplan, Ph.D., at 524-6117. On Solano and Curtis in Albany.
She is doing extensive work with teen girls with eating disorders and
the parents. She is an eating disorders specialist. Very smart and
competent.
- Vicki Ryan, at 591-0862, in Oakland.
- Marcia Perlstein, in Berkeley, three blocks north of University on
Martin Luther King. 510 486-1662
- Patricia Burke, Ph.D. 510-523-4851 works with biofeedback, EMDR,
neurolinks plus kineseology. in San Leandro about a 5 minute walk
from Bart.
Does anyone know of any resources for moms who have eating disorders? Not moms
of kids with eating disorders, but moms who have them themselves. I'm struggling
with trying to raise my daughter to have a healthy relationship with food, while
my own is so screwed up.
Thanks - Struggling Mom
Do you have a recommendation for a therapist in the east bay
who specializes in eating disorders with adults? looking for
someone who would take United Health Insurance.
Thank you.
I'm looking for a therapist in Berkeley who focuses primarily on
food issues; compulsive overeating and bulimia in particular. Any
insurance is fine, just somebody who is easy to talk to and not
judgmental.
Thanks
Hi there,
My entire life, I've been battling with my weight. I went on
several diets, and found that the tricky thing for me is the
uncontrollable desire to eat chocolate (lots of chocolate - at
least 2.5 lbs a day).
Yes, I've been to therapy before without much success. I was a
teenager then and I am hoping that at 37 I am open enough to
tackle a significant change.
AFTER the birth of my first and only 2 year son, I gained over
60 lbs. I had post partum depression and I am still taking anti-
depressants. I just cannot lose it. I am able to control food
intake and exercise but I cannot control the binging. It got to
a point that I cannot even look at myself in the mirror
anymore. I need help immediately.
So...any leads on therapists, psychologists or psychiatrist
specialized in eating disorder 'beyond' the Caldecott tunnel
would be deeply appreciated.
Thanks!
I am looking for a therapist who can help me with compulsive
overeating/food addiction and my general inability to take care
of myself physically. I would prefer to see someone with an MSW
or a PhD, but would be open to providers with other education if
they are really good. Thank you for your help!
anon
Can anyone give me a current recommenedation for a therapist or
psychiatrist (or other) for the treatment of chronic adult
bulimia?
Anyone know of any new medical treatments? Any ''alternative''
treatments?
Thanks.
I have binge eating disorder and am seeking a good
therapist who specializes in treating eating disorders. I
would also like to find a therapy or support group for people
with eating disorders. I am sure there are many good
therapists and groups that address this issue, but the
problem is that my eating disorder was triggered by
financial stress, so I am seeking low fee and or sliding
scale options. I'd prefer something in the East Bay (El
Cerrito, Albany, Oakland, Berkeley) or nearby (San Rafael),
but would consider driving farther if necessary. I'd
appreciate any advice or referrals. Thanks!
Can anyone recommend a therapist (or other treatment option) for a
mother suffering from bulimia? I have looked at the UCParents website
and have not seen any information on this topic. Any information would
be welcome. Thank you.
Meg Siddheshwari Sullivan
Regarding eating disorder specialists...
I'm a psychologist here in the East Bay who specializes in Eating
Disorders. I work with the young population but am full in my
practice right now. I wanted to give you a comprehensive list of who
I consult with and work with. Please make the recommendations
anonymous. I can tell you that Jane Kaplan runs groups and works well
with parents as well as the patient. She would be my first
recommendation as a resource in the area. I think Claudia and Preston
are great with young people. Susan is excellent and I think a little
better suited to an older population. Alison has a good reputation
but her work I am not as familiar with. I gave you a list because we
all tend to run pretty full at this time of year when school returns
and Cal is back in session.
Here is a list all in Berkeley, Oakland, Albany:
Jane Kaplan,PhD 510-524-6117
Susan Sands,PhD 510-841-4889
Alison Trules,PhD 510-654-5582
Claudia Toomey,PhD 510-339-2373
Preston Parsons, PhD 510-653-5504
Diane Cohen, PhD 510-653-1464
From: Eileen Crean, MFT, therapist, and parent of BHS Sophomore
I specialise in both teens and eating disorders. I have worked in many settings treating teens--residential treatment, outpatient clinics and in private practice. In addition, I am both a Marriage and Family Therapist and Registered Dietitian having experience in both fields treating teens, adults and some males with eating disorders. Currently, I have some day and evening appointments available in Castro Valley.
Catherine Kvikstad, MFT Marriage and Family Therapist
(510) 537-1606 Castro Valley
Two very good therapists who specialize in eating disorders:
Joan Wickstrand MFT 530-9434 (Alameda), and Esther Lerman MFT (No.
Oakland) 548-6241.
I have an office in Oakland and SF and specialize in working w/adults
w/eating disorders individually and in group. I have a group in Oakland on
Wednesday evenings from 7:10-8:40pm. This group is process-oriented and
addresses food addiction and body image. I also teach a class at Oakland
Kaiser called "Food for Thought" and it addresses people's food use and
abuse. It includes some interesting exercises w/food, meditation, and
helpful tools. It is open to Kaiser members for $40 for 8 weeks, and
non-members for $80 for 8 weeks.
You can reach me @ 510-436-4055.
Helene Redmond
I have my practice in Berkeley and I focus on treating eating disorders,
especially compulsive eating and bulimia. I also accept referrals for
anorexia if the individual is working closely with their physician. In
addition, I work with mother/child dyads
(child can be any age, but I work primarily with younger children to
pre-teen) to help mothers foster attuned and healthy eating in their
children. You may forward my name if you wish.
Kellie Carbone, MFT
(510) 594-8262
Questions about Adults
Mom with eating disorder - raising a healthy daughter?
Dec 2012
This is a great resource by Karen Schachter: DishingWithYourDaughter.com
She has a newsletter about healthy relationship with food. she is a mom who
recovered from an eating disorder and is on a mission to break the cycle and help
other women and their daughters change their relationship to food. She also does
1:1 consulting.
My mother is 72 and has an eating disorder, still. I congratulate you for seeking
help. Don't give up. It is a strain on our relationship to this day. it's worth
it to keep trying
Therapist for adult eating disorders?
Nov 2009
Dr. Jill Rodgers-Quaye is a highly qualified therapist with expertise in
treating eating disorders- she is well known in the bay area as one of the top
therapists in this speciality and she is very pragmatic as well as easy to
talk with. Check out her website at drjillrodgersquaye.com for more info.
Satisfied customer
Therapist needed for compulsive overeating and bulimia
August 2008
Try Fern Nemenay she has an office in Berkeley 510-654-9448.
She has a lot of experience with food issues.
anon
Alison McCabe, MFT is very experienced with food issues and eating disorders.
She is in Berkeley or Oakland. (510)273-9969
I know that Lisa Lancaster, who is a fabulous therapist,
sees a lot of patients with eating disorders. 510-841-2525.
a.
Eating Disorder Therapy in Lamorinda, Walnut Creek
June 2006
Why not give Overeaters Anonymous a try? It's free and I personally
have seen people experience miraculous results after years of all
kinds of extremely serious bingeing, purging, starving and compulsive
eating of all types. You can find information about OA and a list of
meetings in your area here: http://www.dvig.org/ or here: www.oa.org
Anon
I don't have a specific recommendation for a therapist, but I can
recommend a woman who specializes in regulating sugar cravings
and depression, among other things, through the use of amino
acids, herbs, and other supplements. She will tell you that your
cravings are likely related to something your body actually needs
and is trying to get via the chocolate. Her name is Julia Ross
and she is in Marin and has written two books, The Diet Cure and
The Mood Cure. I worked with her several years ago and the amino
acids really helped. I beleive GABA is the one that reduces
sugar cravings. I hope this is helpful. I am glad you are
seeking help.
anon
Help with compulsive overeating
May 2005
I highly recommend Victoria Green, MFT. Her focus is eating
disorders and food/body issues. She is also a nutritionist. Her
office is located in San Francisco in Laurel Village but she
will occasionally take a session over the phone if you are
unable to get there. Her number is 415.974.9322. I believe her
fee is $95/hour.
She has also recovered from an eating disorder so she can
relate on a very deep level. I encourage you to call.
anon
Treatment for chronic adult bulimia
March 2005
You might contact Kirsten Beuthin to get information and/or
treatment for eating disorders. She helped me and my family deal
with our daughter's bulimia. She is in Oakland and SF.
510-652-0990 or 415-401-7180.
Dr. Tara Rech is a wonderful therapist with an office on Collage
Ave. She helped me with bulimia some years back. Goodluck!
anon
Julia Ross in Marin County is a therapist-turned-nutritionist
who treats eating disorders with nutrition, vitamins, etc. She
has a book out, ''The Diet Cure''. If you go to her office, I
recommend you see Julia for your appointments, not one of
her assistants.
jenny
Dr.Francis Dreher, in Kensington at Colusa Circle is a
hypnotherapist who works with eating disorders (and other
issues) and has had many successes.
He's at 528 3738.
I do not have a recommendation for a therapist, but a friend of
mine started a website on eating disorders that you should take
a look at, called paysonroad.com. Best of luck to you.
been there
I have several friends and a relative who have recovered from
bulimia and/or anorexia through Overeaters Anonymous, a free 12-
step program. They have a website at www.oa.org, which has a
link to a list of local meetings. I guess you could call OA
an ''alternative'' treatment for bulimia.
Anon
I also wanted to
let you know about another 12-step program for folks with
eating disorders --http://www.foodaddicts.org/ -- this program
is amazing and really strong here in the Bay Area. The focus is
on being completely abstinent from overeating, undereating,
throwing up, and other unhealthy behavior around food. I went
to a psychiatrist, a therapist specializing in eating
disorders, and Overeaters Anonymous before finally finding FA
three years ago. The change in my life has been amazing -- I'm
at a healthy weight, I'm happy, and food is finally ''in its
proper place'' -- not something I obsess about, worry about, or
even really think about :) If you're interested, check out a
meeting (look on the website for days/times) -- there are a lot
in SF and the East Bay. You'll find people of all ages, races,
and experiences (folks who've lost 100+ pounds, folks who've
stopped starving themselves or throwing up, folks who didn't
have a weight problem but have overcome an unhealthy obsession
with food and weight ...) and a ton of support. Good luck to
you!
Finally free
Low-cost therapy for binge eating disorder
March 2004
contact stanford university hospital. they have an inpatient
eating disorder unit that deals with both anorexia and bulimia.
they may have recommendations on therapists and groups on the
east bay. please, please, please pursue a group, individual
therapy and medical evaluation on a regular basis. all are
essential for your recovery and day to day health monitoring.
anon
Overeaters Anonymous is a wonderful support group for people who have
issues with food - undereating, overeating, purging, etc. Members include
people from all ages, races and backgrounds and both sexes. Plus, you can't
beat the cost - free! Go to the east bay website at www.oaeastbay.org
Lisa
Mother suffering from bulimia
July 2001
Preston Parsons, LCSW. She is located in Rockridge. Good luck. Sara
I would highly recommend Peggy O'Neil (843-8959), located here in Berkeley.
Peggy is the director for the Eating Disorders Treatment Program at JFK
University in Orinda (the program trains therapists & health care providers
in the diagnosis & specialized treatment interventions of all eating
disorders). She has dedicated a large portion of her professional career to
working with those w/ eating disorders & is highly
knowledgeable/experienced. She also has a good working relationship w/
several MDs & nutritionists in the area which is also very important for
safe, thorough care of someone w/ an eating disorder. I have trained under
her in the program at JFK as well as collaborated w/ her on a few cases. I
have found her to be very approachable & well liked by her patients,
students & colleagues alike.
Romy
I would recommend Pamela Zelnik, MFT, a therapist who has worked with eating disorders (including bulimia), post-traumatic stress (response to child post dog-bite), and integrates a cognitive-behavioral approach into her work. She has been treating individuals, couples, and families for over 13 years. She is astute at teasing out
issues, is warm and very easy to talk to. She is also the mother of a 3-yr-old, so she has first-hand (and not just clinical) experience with many of the therapeutic issues facing parents. She has an office in Berkeley and can be reached at 527-0274. Good luck.
Janet
Can't recommend a therpist for bulimia, but Overeaters Anonymous has meetings
for bulimics. Also people with bulimia are addressed and welcome at all of
the meetings. The therapy at OA lies in the support from other members with
the same problems.
Years ago I was involved with OA as a compulsive overeater and got
unbelievable benefit from the meetings and made a lot of close friends as
well as conquered my compulsion. OA is in the phone book and there are
meetings all over the Bay Area.
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