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I am hoping to get some current recommendations for family
therapists in the Berkeley/Albany area. After much
consideration, I have decided to separate from my pre-teen
son's dad. As a child of parents that probably should have
divorced but stayed together for the kids, I haven't
experienced divorce. However, I did experience how unhealthy
it can be to stay together when the relationship isn't
working. I tried everything to make my relationship work.
But, it's clear we aren't successful. My ex doesn't agree
and thinks I'm crazy for wanting to put effort into going to
therapy to learn how to separate/co-parent instead of
wanting to try and make our relationship work.
My son, an only child, has very few
friends whose parents are divorced. He feels he has no one
to talk to. He is wary, but open to therapy. I would
appreciate your recommendations for therapists in the
Berkeley/Albany area that are experienced helping families
navigate divorce, co-parenting, and supporting pre-teens
through divorce. We are on a limited income, so sliding
scale or low cost fees are appreciated - although I would
pay full cost/expensive fees for the right person. The best
fit for our needs takes priority over cost. Many thanks.
Family in transition
Yes! My parents SHOULD be divorced, but thrive on their
misery(insanity). I didn't want to mess up my kids the same way, and
also chose to leave their father.
We have been having incredible success with Holly Forman at Bay Area
Children First (BACF) (on Rose & Shattuck) in Berkeley. The whole
process has really helped the whole family. Working with her has
helped me put myself aside and really do what's right for my kids.
It's hard, but helps to have someone like Holly who is completely
concerned with the welfare of my sons!
I highly recommend Bay Area Children First. Holly is so amazing, I'm
sure other counselors there are, too!
Whatever you and your husband decide, couples counseling would
probably be beneficial for the two of you. If you go to counseling and
work things out, great; if you go to counseling and decide to
separate, great - because you will still have to deal with each other
either way. Actually being civil after an unhappy marriage is the hard
If nothing else, perhaps you could seek therapy/counseling for
yourself. I've been going to personal counseling since my separation,
and my oldest son has been in play-therapy for a year. I just started
couple's counseling with my current partner - and it's really amazing.
Amazingly difficult, but wonderful.
We don't have a lot of money, but have found great counselors on a
budget (after one fail) at BACF and SafeStart/TALK Line Family Support
Center (in SF, I've been going there for individual for 3 years).
Be patient with yourself. It will get better.
getting better every day
Play Therapist for 4.5 yr old coping with divorce
My daughter is 4.5, almost 5 years old. Her father and I
recently told her we were moving to new homes. She took it
well initially, but recently has been experiencing rather
extreme tantrums. She cries easily and quickly escalates to
tantrums. I want a play therapist with experience with
young children to help her deal with all her emotions. I
know that this will pass in time, and we are all adjusting,
but want to insure she gets all the love and support she
Try Dr. Simone Taylor on Telegraph in Oakland. She helped us a lot.
She has a background with child trauma, conflict, etc.
Kid's Turn is a great organization with a very useful 6-week
program for families going through divorce (www.kidsturn.org). And
I also recommend Betty Tharpe, a wonderful play therapist who
helped my daughter through a difficult transition. One entire
wall of her office is chock full of play figures--very compelling
for kids and adults alike. My daughter was resistant to therapy
after several not-so-
good experiences with therapists at Kaiser but Betty's warmth and
patience created an atmosphere of safety and respect. Her number
is 549-2092 and her office is on Ashby near Domingo.
Therapist for teen whose parents are divorcing
Does anybody have a recommendation for a child psychologist to
counsel a teen in the setting of divorce? Any recommendations will be
I can highly recommend Deborah Raphael, LCSW as a therapist for your teen. Her
office is on the Arlington in Kensington and her phone # is 849-4495. One of my
teens has been seeing her for about a year and likes her very much. I can also
recommend Kent Grelling, PhD in Orinda (he has a website). Very personable and
specializes in kids.
Thank you for finding someone for your kid to talk to...
I have two wonderful therapists to recommend who both work warmly and competently
with teens. I have known both of the therapists for years, and they are very
experienced with divorce issues. One is Judy Elkin, Ph.D. on Piedmont in Oakland,
tel.654-0245. The other is Connie Philipp, Ph.D., on Solano in Berkeley, tel.
526-0999. They are equally great, but this gives you two geographical options!
I would try Shira Gallagher, LCSW. She is a great psychotherapist who has a lot of
experience working with adults and adolescents. She is smart, effective, and
caring. Her office is near Berkeley High. You can check out her website at
www.shiragallagher.com or call her at 510-594-4008.
I'm helping a friend look for a therapist for her
12-year-old son. The parents are divorced and their son now
seems ''ready to talk'' about that and various other family
and school issues. They have a short list of therapists who
are covered by their insurance plan and considered ''good'' by
their behavioral pediatrician:
Mary C. Heller (Piedmont Ave. in Oakland),
Lenora Poe (Blake St. in Berkeley),
Joan Wenters (Solano in Albany)
Do any of you know anything about any of these three? Can
you make a recommendation one way or another? Any info would
Dana, Consider an appointment for a brief interview to get
a feel for the therapist, before you pick one. Also, I
noticed that your choices were three women. You might add
to your list Stephen Wright (Berkeley office,
925-284-8280/work). He helped a young musician (13) very
successfully overcome some restrictive social issues. Good luck.
My husband and I are in the process of dissolving our marriage. We are still
living together but are essentially separated. It is amicable at this point. My
daughter is about to leave for college in the fall and is clearly struggling with her
feelings. I am trying to be supportive but she needs more than her parents to
talk to. Anyone have recommendations for a therapist good with teen girls and
My daughter saw Kirsten Beuthin 510-652-0990 last year when
she was a high school senior. Definitely good with teen
girls in an important transition year and with divorcing
Six months ago i separated from my husband of 15 years. I would like to
find a therapist to help my daughters, ages 8 and 5, through this period.
Does anybody have recommendations for a good child therapist in the
Berkeley/Oakland area? I have strong preference for therapists who take
I highly recommend Rikki Sudikoff who has worked with kids and families for years. She is
smart, warm and experienced. Her number is 558-8450 and she is on San Pablo near Marin.
If you are willing to go to San Francisco, Marenka Cerny is a family therapist who is working
with kids and she is excellent. You can reach her at 510-717-9365 and the website is
www.somatic-psychotherapy.org/ Her fees are reasonable.
I think that my 7- and 9-year olds could benefit from a trained
person to help them cope with the divorce of their parents. I
know about TURN.
Looking for recommendations.
I know a Psychotherapist who specializes in working with Adolescents and their
families. She is really warm, caring and professional. Alexandra Howells,
My family is going through a terrible divorce. My 11 year old son has had his
father walk out and break up the family, his sister leave for college, is entering
a new middle school and is adopted and has learning issues. I'm looking for a
supportive group with an experienced therapist to help him work through his
anger and saddness and help him to develop coping skills. I believe it would be
extremely helpful for him to be part of a childrens group and to understand
that he isn't alone in his experience and that he will get through this and be
OK. He is a great kid and I want to help him any way that I can. Any
recommendations would be greatly appreciated. S.
You might want to contact Kids Turn. www.kidsturn.org.
They are an organization devoted to helping kids and their
parents through the divorce process. They offer a 6-week (1
night per week) class and it features a specific curriculum
that's designed to assist children with the emotions they are
encountering through divorce/separation.
I have run groups for Kids Turn and it's a truly wonderful
organization. Linda E.
I am looking for a referral for a child therapist/psychologist
who has expertise with children of divorce. I would like to
work with someone to evaluate custody plans, advice on issues
if arise with child, communications about divorce with child
and if necessary to see child. Has anyone had experience with
Dr. Ellen Singer or Dr. Marie Claire Hefron?
Dr. Mary Clare Hefron is an amazing woman. She's intelligent,
extremely skilled, gentle, and warm. You and your child will be
in good hands if your have the opportunity to work with her.
You asked about Dr. Mary Claire Heffron -- I would highly
recommend her. I'm a Psychologist who's worked with Dr. Heffron
through her position heading the Early Childhood Mental Health
Program at Children's Hospital. (I believe she's also in private
practice.) Dr. Heffron is lovely to work with -- she's very
knowledgeable, bright, compassionate and experienced. I would
say she's one of the most highly respected Psychologists in this
county who works with young children and their
Hi there, my son is now 6 and has been seeing a wonderful play
therapist since he was 4 to work on issues with divorce, living
in 2 households, etc. I cannot recommend her highly
enough--Laurie e. Werbner, MFT,
I hope this helps!
Can anyone wholeheartedly recommend a therapist for my 16
year old niece? She has expressed the desire to see one (I'm
thrilled). She is *very* smart and, on the whole, very well
adjusted. She moved here this past August and her parents are
going through a messy divorce - the culmination of her whole
life of watching her parents be horribly dysfunctional. Her
father is seriously awful.
My daughter saw Kirsten Beuthin, and she really liked her.
Kirsten was able to develop a solid relationship with her, which
I believe helped her deal more effectively with the various
issues of being a teenage girl and family stress. It's wonderful
that your 16 year old niece is asking for a therapist. Kirsten's
number is 652-0990.
I would like recommendation of psychologist who specializes in giving good
info to adults who are considering/in throes of divorce, especially ones who
know child psychology and can give advice on childrens issues. I want someone
who will give me good facts more than anything.
About the psychologist who deals with divorce and child issues.
I would recommend Jan Ruchlis. She's an MFCC in Oakland who advertises in
the Neighborhood Parents Network newsletter and in the Parents Press. I
went to her for a while for support in between having both my kids. My
issues were not the same as yours are now, but she was very insightful,
compassionate, and had lots of good ideas. She specializes in divorce and
parenting, among other things. She was really great at providing me with
just the kind of help I asked her for, and I loved that. I wanted support
and practical ideas, not to be psychoanalyzed. And I got the former, not the
latter. You can get her number from the phone book (business pages of the
I would recommend the following therapist for Adults and Children moving
Terry D. Trotter,MA 510 433-7371 Her office is on Solano Avenue in Berkeley.
My husband and I are going through a divorce and
I'm seeking help for our 4 year old child.
Kaiser Oakland Psychiatric Dept. runs a kids divorce group -- led by a very
good, kind therapist Dr. Mary Haake. Quite low key but a nice, safe
experience for the kids to discuss weighty issues w/peers. Groups are
divided by age, not by gender. Both my kids (age 4 and 8) loved Dr. Haake
(the feeling doctor)
Milton Kalish, LCSW, holds class sessions for children of divorce
at the Lafayette Orinda Pres. Church (classes have nothing to do with
the church). They are held simultaneously with the parenting group
which meets every Monday evening at 6:30. (These meetings are great,
by the way, with childcare provided, all for $3.00!) So you're both
learning and receiving support!
He has about three 8-week sessions per year at a cost of I believe
$60. He is extremely compassionate and loving, uses art and games to
draw out the children's feelings. My 7 year old daughter likes it a
lot and always begs to go.
He MAY have an Oakland location, too. His number in Lafayette is
A friend in social work was generous enough to pass on the following
regarding _counseling for a 4yo_:
"... tell her that she should sign herself and her
child up for Kid's Turn,
which does psychoeducational groups for divorced
and separating families (415-437-0700). She can also call Kaiser to find
out what her mental health benefits are and then ask her pediatrician for
referrals to a Kaiser therapist that works with kids. If that doesn't
work then she can call WestCoast Children's Center
(527-7249) and if they
can't see them they can refer out.
Hope this is helpful.
Sounds like you are asking about a group called Kid's Turn. I have
been a workshop leader for them. It is a six-week workshop, meeting
once a week, either on Saturdays during the day, or a weekday evening.
Because of vacation schedules, they usually don't conduct workshops
during the summer, but you should call them to check on that. Ideally,
both of the parents attend, but it is a requirement that at least one
attends. For each workshop, there are two parents' groups, so that
former spouses are not in the same group. They work on parenting and
communication skills for divorced/separated parents. Kids' groups are
divided by age: 5-7, 8-10, and 10-14. (A support group for teens was
being discussed, but I'm not sure whether that got off the ground or
not). The kids' workshops focus on communication skills and peer
support. The entire workshop is focused on
kids, and is not a group therapy opportunity for
the parents. Fees are on a sliding scale, based on income. The Oakland
sessions are at the Presbyterian Church on College Ave , near Dreyers.
There are workshops in Alameda, SF, Marin, and Walnut Creek, as well. I
don't know what the full price is exactly, but would guess around $200
or so per family. 835-8445 is the East Bay # for the organization.
Their main office is in SF.(I don't have that # handy). They don't make
millions off of anyone. Good luck.
I participated in a program for families going through
separation/divorce called Kids Turn. It is excellent.
I believe it is based in San Francisco and has workshops
throughout the Bay Area. I don't have a current phone #.
I don't know the names of good books for you and your kids re:divorce,
but I do know of a good workshop for you and your kids to attend: A
510.835.8445. This is a terrific resource for families during
a difficult transition. Good luck. jhelwig
Bananas would probably know about support services in relation to
divorce. Their Warmline number is 658-6046.
Here are a few other resources:
Bay Area Children First
Single and two parent families/ Divorce program
Divorce Program workshops (create a healthy co-parenting plan and
415-512-4760 (there may be an Oakland office as well)
Support Groups: Kids and Divorce
Touchstone Counseling Services
Single Parents/ Children of Divorce Groups
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