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Jan 2007
Hi! We are in the process of applying for financial aid for
our son (only child) who will be starting kindergarten next
Fall. We feel like we look ok on paper (about $90k income, we
own 2 properties and have investments), but realistically
wouldn't be able to afford the $15,ooo/per year tuition without
at least 50% assistance. I am asking for any advice, additional
resources, and experiences with the system. Do you have a
similar situation, and have you received or been denied aid? I
should note that our son is biracial (1/2 African American)...
not sure if it makes a difference. Thank you for your thoughts.
Anon
With your income and assets, I think they are going to expect you to
pay more than
what you want to pay. You should fill out the SSS form that most
schools use and
request a family report. You will get it just a few days after you send
in your info,
especially if you do it online. That will tell you what they think you
can contribute.
Each school then decides on their own how much to really give you. But
just for
reference, I just filed and qualified for a pretty low contribution and
I make WAY
WAY less than you. Basically, they do not expect you to just let your
investments sit
untouched. You have to pay what you can. You also need to find out how
much your
school offers in financial aid. For example, if 50% is the maximum they
give,
someone much poorer than you is probably going to get that amount
before you do.
good luck
March 2004
In searching for a kindergarden for my son I thought I would
look at the private schools even though we can't afford it. I
was curious what they had to offer that public schools didn't
and if they were so much better. Well, I fell in love with
Tehiya Day School and knew it was the perfect match for our
family. The problem is we really can't afford it. Our income
covers our expenses with a little left over for a camping
vacation and some fun activities maybe once a month. We have
some savings, not much, and no prospect in the future of
becoming well off. I suppose if we give up our minimal leisure
activities we could somehow swing it but is it worth it? Our
son might be happy in the school but we wouldn't be able to
afford anything else - especially the after school activities.
We do live in Albany, however and I did like the schools, but
not as much as Tehiya. Has anyone had this dilemna? I'd love
to hear how people feel about not being able to offer a private
school education to their children and those that live in
Albany who considered private school but ended up at the public
school and have been happy. I was also concerned
about ''bullying'' especially among boys and thought that private
school would offer a more protective environment and thus less
of the school yard antics.
''wanting the best'' mom
I, too, fell in love with Tehiyah Day School! It is a wonderful
school and an especially wonderful community. I know that it is
a school worth some level of sacrifice.
Please talk to Amy Friedman, Tehiyah's Director of Admission
about your worries and how much you love her school immediately
(before all the contracts are due next week and all of the aid
is gone). Tehiyah, in their committment to community, ''will
make the money work out when we know that a student and family
is a good match for us.'' (Tell Amy that Wanda suggested you to
call!)
Also see Albany School District's API scores in this past
Wednesday's Chronicle...impressive, if you believe that
standardized scores make all the difference.
Good luck with your school selection. Wanda
Wanda
Have you even looked at your public schools? I find that people
are willing to completely blow off thier public school without
ever having seen it or visited it and without much information on
which to base their assumptions that the school is not going to
be okay for their kid. My child goes to Crocker Highlands in
Oakland, and it is amazing how many people assume because its in
Oakland, it is no good (btw, must brag, it scored a 9 out of 10
in the recent State rankings).
Everybody wants ''the best'' for their kid,but what does that
really mean? There are academics but also other factors one must
look at. When we looked at private school, I was concerned about
the lack of diversity (mostly socio-economically) and how it
would be for my kid to always be the one who had the smallest
house, and didn't go skiing in Tahoe for a week every winter, and
all those social pressures which can be difficult to handle,
especially as kids get older. And if you are on the edge about
being able to afford a private school, I'm doubting you will have
the money they will expect you to donate on top of the big
tuition fee you will pay. I am jealous somewhat of what some of
the private schools can offer my child, like a huge garden, and
the ability to discuss certain issues (like gay rights), but you
know what? I can provide that to my child in so many other ways,
that I dont' need to rely on a school to do it.
So I would encourage you to really look at your public schools
and have a different paradigm about what really makes a good
school experience for your kid. With a little work and lots of
school involvement, you can make it what you want it to be!
Hilary
I'm not sure that private schools are any better about bullying
than public schools. A lot of kids are just mean. My son was
bullied even at a very small private school (though it was not
Tehiya). He had a wonderful classroom teacher at Albany's
Cornell school, but he was still bullied at recess, and spent
most of his time in the library, the safe haven. That had also
been his strategy at the private school. Albany Middle school
is even worse because there is less supervision and it's a
horrible age for meanness. I do think the bullying has more to
do with my child's personality and inability to deal with
teasing than anything else. But I am seriously concerned with
some of the things I hear about the goings on at Albany Middle
School right now, and if I could afford to switch him to private
school, I'd definitely look into it. He seems to be concerned
for his own safety, at times, which is how I remembered feeling
in the berkeley public schools, back in the 70's, and what I so
hoped to protect him from, in moving to Albany.
Having said all that, I really think the biggest benefit of
private school is the quality of the education and smaller class
sizes, rather than any particular kindness on the part of the
other students or parents. People are people, and some of those
aren't so nice, whether they have money or not. A religiously
based school like Tehiyah might have a different culture. You
may find that in the older years there is less emphasis on
sexuality and fashion among the students, but I don't really
know that either.
concerned public school parent
Both my kids go to Tehiyah and while we do not have financial
aid (they think we make too much money) I know many people who
have received very generous financial aid without much
difficulty.
It's worth applying, the worst that could happen is you'll be
turned down.
Are you absolutely sure you can't afford it? That's what we
thought but when we sat down and worked things around our budget
we found that we could do it, though it would be tight.
Are there any relatives you can ask for help?
Since we've been there the tuition has gone up every year
(sorry, that may sound discouraging).
I know this isn't the direct answer to your question, but I'm
hoping it'll give you another way to look at the possibility.
Good luck.
June
I feel you should be realistic about what you can afford.
Unless someone changes jobs or takes on more work, it sounds
like Tehiyah is cost-prohibitive for you. That of course, would
just be the tuition but what about all of the 'extras' i.e.
fundraisers, activities, keeping up with the ''Jones''' and all
that the other families may be able to afford. Remember too
that the Bay Area is just going to get more expensive. Since
you live in a great school district I would give that a go
first. Volunteer there when your child starts and that way you
will see just what goes on each day. I actually quit my job to
be around more when my child started kindergarten to help with
the transition, reading, learning, etc.. instead of stressing
out over high tuition costs. It's not easy but I think (and
hope) we have the same result in her education in the long run.
HL
Dear Parent:
You sound really devoted to your child but your posting leaves
out whether a Jewish education is an important part of wanting to
make sacrifices to send your child to Tehiyah. If so, then no
the Albany schools are no replacement. If, however, you think
that there is no ''bullying'' at Tehiyah or independent schools,
you might want to know that the quality of boy bullying in my
son's class, and some other instances in some other grades, would
sadden you. And Tehiyah in our experience is pretty resigned
about it.
I am not sure what you mean by ''worth it,'' but know that our
experience after having two sons in two different independent
schools in El Cerrito is that a good public school may be doing a
better job of meeting consistent curriculum and state-mandated
curriculum better than independent schools. At both Tehiyah and
the other independent school that my other son attends we are
finding huge holes in the curriculum and very different qualities
of teacher (uneven teachers can happen in public school as well,
I know).
If the Jewish aspect was not important to us, my kids would
likely be going to public school in Orinda or Moraga. And I also
worry that my kids don't have any real built-in friendships on
our street because everyone is in different public or private
schools. I sure liked that part of my childhood where I had
close friends as neighbors.
Good luck to you.
Realistic mom
If you really like tehyihah or any other private school I would
encourage you to apply for financial aid. We just received our
acceptance and rejection letters from private schools for
kindergarden. We were in the boat of thinking that we had too
much money to receive financial aid but also couldn't figure out
how we would pay for private school, short of refinancing our
house or me going back to work. (Right now I'm at home with our
4 year old and her younger sib.) We did receive financial aid
from Head-Royce and I know another family in the same boat who
received financial aid from Park Day. Each school has different
amount of resources for financial aid and a different set of
criteria for whom they make awards. It's worth a talk with the
admissions directors of schools you are interested in. But it
appears that some of these schools are making good on their
commitment to provide aid to ''middle income'' (in the Bay Area
definition of that term!)families. It's certainly worth a try,
and if you do not get enough aid, at least you have another good
option in the Albany Public Schools.
anon.
It's much easier to fall in love with a private school than to
pay for one. And Tehiyah is particularly lovable. Have you
asked about the possibility of financial aid? Most private
schools have scholarship programs and I'm pretty sure that
Tehiyah does. If they can't offer you assistance with tuition,
you have a hard choice, but not an impossible one. You are
lucky to have a better public school option than most of us do;
Albany public schools are supposed to be among the best. If the
lifestyle compromises required to pay for Tehiyah would make
your family unhappy, don't make them -- go with the public
schools.
Ann
If your child has special needs / learning differences / might
need an IEP (individualized education plan) then I would advise
that you give public school a serious consideration. We have
not had good experiences at Tehiyah with regards to the
teachers' and the administration's ability and willingness to
modify the program for children with learning differences. We
have had to spend a lot of money on outside services, tutoring
and therapy, etc. some of which would be provided by BUSD if we
were enrolled in public school. So if finances are a concern
for you, the possibility of these extras should be factored in
to your decision.
There is a lot of variability amongst the teachers at Tehiyah,
some have been helpful, some ineffectual, and some actually
damaging to my child's self esteem. We have received a lot of
lip service when advocating for changes, but in my experience
the school does not ''walk the talk''.
Tehiyah parent
[Editor] See Tehiyah Day School reviews for a response
to this discussion.
April 1998
A Better Chance does offer aid to disadvantaged and minority students to
high school.
I don't know their phone, but you should be able to get it from information.
Myriam
You know, some of the Montessori schools offer scholarships of various
kinds. Nia House in Berkeley has a good scholarship program, although a
long waiting list. Growing Light Montessori offers discounts to single
parents and other sorts of scholarships as well. Generally there are
waiting lists for this type of thing; but then again, this is probably
going to be an ongoing issue for your daughter. Might be worth getting on
some waiting lists. -- Mary Carol
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