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My daughter is in the Berkeley School system. She is in Kindergarten, and is young compared to her peers (one of the last birthdays, but within a year of all of them). I know the school is considering a behavior plan because of something I overheard, but am honestly a bit scared to ask what that IS. She's a high energy wiggler, doing about average in all areas, and works with us at home on getting skills up in short bursts (30 minute), with time to run in between. She doesn't hurt other kids, has ever rotating friendships, and says most everything that comes into her head which is sometimes not socially appropriate. She's also fun, funny, and always raises her hand for questions, and seems to be engaged.
What's a behavior plan? Is she normal? How can I ask this and deal with the answer? Like all of us, I worry about my kid and want the best for her.
Help? worried parent new to school system
That said, I don't know what school you're at, but I'm sorry, school, you don't get to write one of these without parent input. If you actually overheard school staff talking about this for your child, it blows my mind how incredibly inappropriate that is! Has anybody even had a talk with you about what's going on the classroom?
Don't be scared, there's nothing scary here, your child is fine; particularly since it seems as though you already have some kind of behavior plan at home that's actually working. If they think a plan is necessary, they should just ask you what to do; you know what's best for your child!
Feel free to contact me directly if you have any questions. Good luck! Jill H.
My son was having some issues at school and I ASKED for help once I'd tried all I could think of. Things seem much better now. There is no shame in having a kid that needs a bit of a push in the right direction, it is not a reflection on your parenting. Also, if you can and if you are welcome, try to spend time in the classroom so you can see for yourself what their concerns are.
You sound like a concerned, involved parent, that is great, sometimes you also need collaboration. it really does take a village
Bring someone with you who knows your daughter well, who can support you, add additional perspective to the discussion, and rehash it with you afterward.
I am a special education advocate - if you write to me, I can send you a copy of one and we could talk by phone. Dana Lear, DrPH firstname.lastname@example.org
So you may have overheard talk about a school wide or room wide behavior plan. Or you may have hear something specific to your child. Either way, the best way to figure out what is up is to make an appointment to speak to your child's teacher when the two of you can speak alone (no kids around).
If your child's teacher is interested in an Individual Education Plan(?) (IEP?) for your child, then that is a negotiation and agreement between you and the school about what assistance the school district will provide for your child and what the goals are for your child regarding needs identified in an IEP. Lots of kids have IEPs for speech therapy, occupational therapy, and other issues that the school can really help a lot with, or get an outside specialist to help with. So if they'd like your kid to have an IEP, yes, it is pretty normal. If an IEP is what they are talking about, then you can query IEPs on this list serve archives and talk to your friends to get advice on their IEPs with BUSD. I know lots of kids (inlcuding my own) that have benefited hugely from services provided for free under an IEP. Anon
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