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Re: Student with mild aspergers looking for high school
As an MD and parent of two teens, one with mild LD, one without; one
currently in BHS, one who went to a competitive private high school
and is now a junior at an Ivy League college, I wanted to respond both
to the HS for ''mild AS'' question and the private vs public HS, because
I think there are some key principles here:
1) knowing your child and what they need for both support and appropriate challenges (and helping them recognize and advocate what they need for themselves)
2) recognizing that our understanding of LD/ADHD/AS/ASD is primitive; that diagnostic labels are imprecise shorthands for complex individuals who have a wide spectrum of specific difficulties and strengths, which also vary from quite mild (and occasionally overdiagnosed) to profoundly challenging.
So our child with LD/AS feels great about doing well academically at BHS. He has done well in part because of the study skills and routines he learned at his private elementary and middle school; in part, he has been in one of the small school programs and has had excellent responsive teachers--as good as most of those we have had in private schools. BHS has been accepting and even welcoming of his social eccentricities.
We expect we will be utilizing tutoring help in the future, and he has done pragmatic speech groups for social skills work. We looked at Orinda Academy, which I think would have been excellent for him, but he felt he did not need that level of structure--so far, he seems to be correct. But for other teens, Bayhill or Orion may be the environment in which they can thrive and learn.
Our experience of private schools has been positive--but far from ''real world''--of course there are great kids, families, opportunities--but the one overwhelming impression that sticks with me is--too much money and consumerism. Our older son felt underprivileged (FAR from true) when he wasn't spending spring break in Barbados. Of course your family is the primary determinant of culture--but I was troubled by the peer messages... even more true in private colleges--the amount of spending money many kids have is striking. And in retrospect, I'm sure our older son would have done just fine in public high school with good AP classes. learning as we go....
My son, who has attended private schools since kindergarten,
has dysgraphia and a social skills deficit similar to NLD. He
is now in 8th grade at a very small school. He is a highly-
motivated person who does well in school with accommodations
and forms close bonds with his teachers. He is just this year
starting to learn about advocating for himself. My question is
whether anyone has a child with similar characteristics who
went through Berkeley High. He would need to use a computer in
all his classes for note-taking, assignments, and tests. I'm
concerned about getting his accommodations and also about
whether a kid who cannot read social cues would be safe there
Worried Mom
My son, currently in 8th grade at a small independent school, really
wants to go to
Berkeley High next year. I would like to support this, but I am
worried about how he
would handle it. He was diagnosed a few years ago with Non-Verbal
Learning
Disorder, which means that he has a great deal of difficulty
organizing, negotiating
complex situations or directions, and is not highly attuned to social
cues. He often
forgets to write down assignments and isn't good about seeking help --
he'd rather
cruise under the radar and hope that everything will turn out okay. On
the plus
side, he's a very positive kid, works hard and wants to do well. He's
a voracious
reader who delves deeply into politics, history and geography in his
free time.
Since we are at a small school now, we can work with teachers to make
sure that
they understand his limitations and can bring out the best of his
abilities. My
concern about Berkeley High is that he would get lost. What kind of
support does
the school offer to ensure that this doesn't happen?
8th grade mom
Last updated: Nov 21, 2009
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