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We've been invited to a good friend's son's first communion. What would be
an appropriate gift, considering that we're not Catholic?
My son is also preparing for his First Communion. There are many
Book Stores in the Bay Area. I would suggest a Crucifix for the child's
bedroom, a rosary, a Children's Bible or a Children's Lives of the Saints, a
statute of saint (perhaps the saint that the child is named after), or a
medal with a saint's image on it (or the Blessed Virgin Mary if the child is
a girl). Some book stores also carry videotapes of religious movies
(sometimes animated) that are very nice for kids.
If you would prefer a nonreligious gift, then a US Savings Bond for the
child's college fund would also be nice. A friend gave one to my daughter
when she was baptized.
I am struggling myself with a gift for my nephew. I previously bought a
garden plaque with an image of Mary as a child for my niece's communion
a store called something like Sacred Arts in Oakland. They specialize in
religious, particularly Catholic gifts, but also have a world's religions
bent. It is a very nice store for communion gifts. I think I will try and
donate money to a charity on behalf of my nephew, since I can't imagine
religious gift being of much use to him. Does anyone have any ideas how
donate in someone else's name?
From the time of my first communion 35 years ago to my youngest son's
communion two years ago, the focus has changed from an automatic event
party in a Catholic child's life at age 7 or so to one which occurs a
slightly later age, which is more of a conscious decision on the part of the
child (he/she must answer that this is what they want after a period of
study), one for which he or she truly participates in the preparation, and
one which marks a welcoming into a ''community''/larger group, by choice.
a family friend or honorary aunt/uncle, there are some special ways to
this idea, acknowledge a new level of maturity for a child and make the
event special, without overt religious gifts. Gift certificates are often
given for book or record stores, some toys, but one of my son's favorite
gifts, which I thought was very special and appropriate was a trio of books
from his aunt and uncle: a children's book of heroes, enscribed ''To help
you find your place among people''; an age-appropriate book about
''To help you find your way in the world''; and a children's book of history
''To help you find your moment in time''.
My son received various nice gifts: crosses, crucifixes, books and some nice
nonreligious toys -- which made for a great balance.
Hi, I was raised (and still am) Catholic. I remember for my first
(and my siblings' and cousins' etc.) that we got religious articles from
close family members (necklace with cross, rosary beads, children's book of
prayers or bible stories, etc.) but from some other friends of the family we
received either nothing (which is completely appropriate!) or a nice
''congrats on your first holy communion'' card (hallmark has tons) coupled
with a small non-religious gift (something you'd get for a birthday party).
It's very kind of you to think of bringing something, so I think you can't
really go wrong.
Any gift is a great gift for First Holy Communion. Don't worry about
to get anything holy-moly. A nice book is always a winner.
I received my First Communion back in 1968, so my experience isn't too
recent, but I got a few regular gifts--similar to birthday presents--some
money (I bought a Twist and Turn Barbie with it and was thrilled), and a
items of a religious nature such as rosaries or saint's medals.
I don't think you have to give a religious object. I still have a Better
Homes and Gardens Kids cookbook I received from our Jewish next door
One suggestion if money seems too crass: a gift certificate to a bookstore.
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