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Hi - would really welcome some advice about the following - my
parents (mom and step-dad) are celebrating their fifthieth
wedding anniversary in 2010. We're here in the East Bay, my
folks and siblings all live in different parts of the country.
For the past twenty years, we've gone away as an entire family
to celebrate every five years (we stay in a condo complex in a
family-oriented mountain resort, not too high end) - my brother
and wife and daughter, sister and her husband and three sons,
and my husband, myself and two kids. Now of course the kids
are much older, some will be well into college by then, all the
others except the youngest in high school. So here's the
question: in the past, everyone has come along. This time,
I'm not at all sure the older kids (in their very late teens)
will want to come along at all. So I could really use some
tips on how to navigate: my inclination is to go anyway, with
whomever is available and able to attend the reunion. My
sister thinks we should organize this around the kids and make
sure we are in a place that is especially attractive to them,
so that they'll want to come. My brother is in the midst of a
divorce and can't even plan past next weekend. And of course,
this is a huge anniversary for my folks and I really want to
meet their needs most of all. So I'm wondering about how to
pull this off, where to go (actually, especially where to go -
two parties on the East Coast, two on the West), who to
include, whether to go anyway even if the teens are
unavailable. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.
planner by default
When my parents' 50th. anniversary happened 8 years ago, we all went
on a cruise. They didn't want a big party with their friends (a lot
of their friends have died). They said they just wanted to be with
their family, so we all went. There is something to do for everyone on
a cruise. There are activities for all ages, and you hang out with
whomever you want whenever you want, as much or as little as you want.
You have meals together, usually. It's actually quite perfect for a
family reunion or celebration. My parents really love cruises. The
younger generation does too. We in the middle, from the 50's
generation don't like it so much, but for this sort of family
gathering, I still think it's perfect. Look into it!
Check out Club Med Sandpiper in Florida. It is a fun place for all
ages and abilities. If you sign up for their email you will get
occasional notices about specials. My husband and I went there
pre-kids, and (not being the canned vacation/cruise type of people) we
had a way better time that we expected there. It was amazing. It's
extremely family-oriented, but also extremely friendly to the
child-less at the same time. I think teens, young adults, young kids
and grandparents would all enjoy it. We swear we're going back there
with our kids someday. The best part is that it's all-inclusive,
there are tons of activities that require zero planning and zero extra
cost, all meals are included, and the food is wonderful. There's no
''where should we go for dinner tonight?'' Once you get there, you
lock your wallet in your room safe and have no need to touch it until
check-out time. The more active will enjoy water skiing, sailing,
trapeze & trampoline, tennis, yoga, etc (with free lessons and
equipment for all of these), but it's just as good for those who enjoy
less physical activities. There are three swimming pools including
two for families/kids plus a quiet no-kids pool for when you need a
I organized my parent's 50th anniversary/family reunion in Las
Vegas, lots to do for everybody of various ages. It was a great
success. We all stayed in a motel with a nice pool, many folks
with kids went pool-hopping. Practically all the big hotels
have theme parks, and there are video game malls. And of
course, the strip... They organized a banquet for us that was
fine, and there's a Costco there for other celebration
supplies/food. We even rented a fountain for champagne, which
was very fun but I wouldn't do it again; the champagne went
flat too fast. Just a thought... enjoy!
It is my parents 50th wedding anniversary this year and they have expressed a desire, rather
than have a big party, to spend a week in Carmel. Do you have any reccomendations for
accomodations Carmel or the area - possibly something cozy with character? I'm thinking of
something with a little bit more than a standard motel room type atmosphere for the special
occaison. They are in the late 70s but active so I was thinking something near Ocean Ave
would be good so they could could entertain themselves and dine without having to get in a
car and drive themselves somewhere every day.
We just returned from Carmel over Pres. weekend. We drove down Ocean Ave. which is a great street w/ lots
of art galleries, restaurants, specialty stores, boutiques etc. We noticed an inn called the Normandy Inn
which looked great for a stay in Carmel right on Ocean Ave. and between all the shops and the actual
beach/Ocean. If you're looking for a place for your parents to stay and not have to drive I would
definitely check them out. It looks like they also serve a complimentary breakfast. Their rooms look
quaint and well done.
We had a family reunion at Asilomar and the weather was so bad we got depressed. In June the weather was
glorious everywhere else and grey, cold and windy at Asilomar.
The food was so bad we could barely eat it, especially the bag lunches. Asilomar is often a very cold,
windy place. We just stayed at Carmel last weekend with gorgeous weather and stopped by Asilomar for a
walk on the way home and could barely get out of our car. On both of our visits to Asilomar the weather
has been pleasant in Carmel and freezing in Asilomar. Carmel is expensive and staying in Monterey or the
Big Sur area is less expensive.
We are regaular visitors to Carmel and have stayed at many places
- from Casa Palmero and The Lodge at Pebble, to the Carmel Valley Ranch, Bernardus, etc. L'Auberge Carmel
sounds like exactly what you are looking for. It is a recently (3-4 years ago) remodeled old inn just a
block off of Ocean. Very European - rooms aren't really large, but, extremely well-appointed. The hotel
restaurant is probably the best in Carmel. The hotel owner also operates Bouchee, the other ''best''
restaurant in Carmel (he also recently opened an Italian restaurant that we have heard good reviews on).
Prices not cheap but FAR less than places in Pebble or Bernardus and such - and not as commercial. It is,
to us, a very special place - they really make you feel well-taken care of and special.
Content in Carmel
We need help planning a family vacation for 9 adults and 4
children (16,7,4,2) for my in-law's 50th anniversary. We would
like to go somewhere warm in late December (their anniversary
is December 22) and are looking into Hawaii (Maui or Kauai),
Mexico, the Carribean, or Puerto Rico. We are willing to spend
some money, knowing that prices are higher at this time of
year, but we're certainly not looking for 5 star
accomodations. We'd love to all fit in one or two places -
villas or condos perhaps. To add to the mix, we also need to
be near a hospital as the 2 year old child has hemophilia, and
if any emergency came up, he would need to be treated (we're in
touch with our doctors about this as well).
We don't need super touristy - in fact, we'd prefer to avoid
it. But swimming (ocean/pool), some shopping, decent
restaurants, and golf would be nice.
Any ideas? Thanks for the help!
My family is going to Kauai next Jan. (parents, three siblings with
spouses and kids, ranging from newborn-11yr old) 16 of us total. We
found a great place, not super fancy, but seems perfect with kids. It is
just a short walk to a beach that is where all the locals take babies and
small kids, because it is very protected. The place is called Hale
Pohaku. We choose it because it has units all together, so we can be
close but not on top of each other. It has one big house and several
smaller cottages. It has a pool. It is near Poipu, but not right in the
middle of town. I believe there is golf course very near by. I don't
know about the proximity to a hospital, but I would imagine it is close.
I am sure there is one in Poipu.
Hi - My in-laws will be celebrating their 50th anniversary in mid-December.
Originally they wanted to take the whole family on a cruise. This has now been nixed for a variety of reasons (including the fact that they couldn't find one short enough for my husband, who would go nuts on a 6-day cruise). I am looking for recommendations for a trip that we can all enjoy to help them celebrate at that time of year. The trip would be approximately 4-7 days, depending on where we go. Most family members live in NY, a few live in Florida, and we live in the Bay Area. The only kid will be ours, who will be 6 at the time. The next youngest would be 18 by then. So we need someplace where our kid could have fun as well as the grownups. There would be my in-laws, my brother-in-law/sister-in-law and their daughters (then ages 18 and 20), my other brother-in-law, and my husband, daughter and me. From what I understand, going someplace warm was originally the idea, but now my mother-in-law is talking about going to New Orleans (we've never been). Would be grateful fo!
r any reative/fun/interesting idea
occupied. Going someplace to just hang out on a beach and veg out, for
example, would not work for the majority of the family members - there have to be lots of things of interest to actively do/see. Thanks!
If timing is the major stumbling block, please be aware that you
*can* get a 3-day or 4-day cruise from Florida. I have taken a
3-day cruise from Orlando to the Bahamas and another 3- or 4-day
cruise from Miami to the Bahamas on two different cruise lines.
Any travel agent could set you up with trips before or afterward
to Disneyworld, Cape Canaveral, etc. I don't care for cruises in
general, and I don't unconditionally recommend them, but FYI I
liked the Norwegian cruise better than the Royal Carribean
because the lunches were better food and better organized.
David in Berkeley
There are Mexican cruises that are shorter from around here, but
I'm with your husband: Being trapped on a boat for any length of
time is my vision of hell. Have you considered renting a big house
in a vacation spot? Some place like Cape Cod/Nantucket or the Outerbanks>
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