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Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
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My wonderful son, going into 3rd grade, has OCD. We've wondered for a while, but now there's really no getting around it. This feels devastating. I don't know what it means for his future happiness and ability to be independent and successful, and I'm not sure how to best help him. He is aware, even at this young age, that there is something in his thought process that is throwing up big obstacles. We are, of course, seeking professional help. But I would really appreciate advice from people who experienced pediatric onset of OCD symptoms, or parents of other OCD kids. In particular, we would love to know what sorts of therapy or approaches helped the most, and what strategies have helped you to combat the symptoms and be happy. Worried Mom
That said, I will tell you that raising her was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. OCD affects individuals in many ways. Some sufferers have to line up their shoes ''just so.'' Some are counters (they count compulsively in their heads, I don't know why). Some are checkers - did I lock the back door, did I turn off the stove? My daughter had deep-seated fears that led to compulsive behavior that to an outsider looked like horrific tantrums. We tried therapy (I recommend cognitive-behavioral therapy, which is easy to find in the Bay Area), but she wouldn't do what was needed. She went over the edge in 7th grade and we turned to medication. PLEASE DON'T EVER LET YOUR SON TAKE ABILIFY! My daughter's weight doubled in a year due to that drug. Medication is tricky because there isn't a one-size-fits-all solution. If you go that route, expect many changes and second thoughts and weeks of waiting to see if a medication works. The toll on the family can be profound, depending on the severity of the symptoms. I was in a state of fight-or-flight for years, since my daughter relied on me completely to keep her sanity (what does that mean? She included me in her rituals, such as standing on the front porch yelling ''good bye'' dozens of times and watching me turn the corner on my way to work - if I didn't follow exactly the same path, she'd have a meltdown and I'd have to start over. Stuff like that.)
Kids are different from one another in how they cope with life and what they are handed at birth. You can learn more on the Internet and join listserves for OCD families (I unsubscribed from one because it was depressing to read about kids with worse symptoms than my daughter's and from families without viable access to treatment). You, truly, as a parent, need a support network. I was not able to find a support group here in the Bay Area when I needed it most, but there may be one now. My daughter is bright, articulate, witty and often wise beyond her years. I truly love spending time with her and trust that her strength of will and character will get her through life despite her OCD. I will pray for the same for your little boy. Best of luck. Worried mom for 18 years now
My OCD stemmed from extreme anxiety about my home and family life. We were abused badly by my father, neglected by my mother. I lived in terror that my mom would be killed by my dad if I left her alone for any reason. Obviously, I had to leave the house, and obviously, I was a little kid and couldn't actually do anything, but I was convinced I could (cue:magical thinking) and this triggered anxiety that was so extreme that I began to create behaviors (counting, walking rituals) that I thought would protect her if I was unable to. It got very disruptive to me, and I started to feel it infringing into too many areas, making me look weirder than I already was, in my mind. And with extreme effort and dedication, at age 11, I stopped it. It took me about 1.5 years. As I got older, I discovered there was a name for it, and how OCD worked, the connections with anxiety, and the best therapy modalities for treatment-I also went into (like so many other secret and obvious ''nutters''(I say this with nothing but self deprecating affection for my field))field of psychiatry as an adult.
I feel like your child is at a great advantage because you are all unified in assisting him in addressing this disordered thinking, and creating new behaviors that can break his maladaptive ones. Addressing root causes of anxiety can be of great(est) assistance. And be conservative with medications. Medications can be of great service. They can also be prescribed with a lack of understanding and regard, even by people that should be well versed in all aspects of medicating patients. Any medication should be prescribed foremost to give your child the greatest chance of success in behavior change. He must be seen by a MD or NP who can work with a therapist to create a serious action plan that is focused on therapy, not reliant on medications. Look at therapists offering CBT, DBT, MBBT modalities who also have extensive experience managing anxiety disorder in Peds populations. Do not allow over medication. Research the current best practices and treatment outcomes for Peds and anxiety disorders. Work tirelessly to address and treat the root causes of the disorder, while seeking to relieve the symptoms. Do not make symptoms the focus of treatment.
Good luck to you. This is the first time I have ever told anyone my secret, ever. Never in school, never professionally, never personally have I shared this. I've been doing great for the past 20 years, but still have issues with anxiety and worry, but I have been able to learn how to deal with them in helpful, healthier ways through therapy. I no longer fall into these maladaptive behaviors to try to relieve my anxiety. Your son may have a similar battle against anxiety, but if you can stand by him and help pull him through he will have a chance at getting through this. You can get my email from the mods if you have further questions. Anon Sans Magical Thinking
Every so often, my now 6-year-old son will go through a period where he exhibits some quirky behaviors. In the past it's been things like: very frequent need to urinate or constantly worrying he's wet his pants (when he hasn't); repeatedly apologizing for everything, over and over; spending over an hour wiping his bottom and never feeling like it's completely satisfactory. These things went away and now they're back, along with an inability to make very simple decisions (which book do you want to read?) or answer questions about his feelings and opinions. None of these things is a big deal - it's the intensity and repetition of them that worries me. I wonder if it's anxiety or something more serious like OCD. It seems to peak a few weeks into the school year (i.e. now), when the novelty has worn off and his anxiety sets in. He's exceptionally bright and has no trouble with school work, but he'll spend hours on 5 minutes of homework, constantly asking if he's doing it right. My spouse will not consider getting him evaluated for OCD, so I'm kind of stumped as to what to do. At this point I don't feel comfortable violating my spouse's refusal to have him evaluated/treated, but perhaps if I could get some guidance myself I could get a better handle on how to minimize his struggles. Clearly he's struggling with something, and I want desperately to help him. Can anyone recommend a Berkeley or Oakland therapist I could meet with to get ideas on how to help him cope with some of his stress? Again, this would have to be someone willing to meet with me, not with my son, at least for the moment. THanks for the recommendations in advance. East Bay Mom
The therapist uses and highly recommends this book (and the series). http://www.amazon.com/What-When-Brain-Stuck-What-/dp/1591478057/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1318899683&sr=1-1
My daughter really connected to it and it gives us some language to use. I think it would be helpful though to work through it with a therapist but I could see it being useful on your own. Good luck. anon
Though my beautiful, funny, smart, eight-year-old has done well in school, she's had a bit of trouble making friends and has seemed to ''put off'' the other girls with her huge need to impress and please. Her teachers like her and she has a close relationship with her 5-year-old brother, but she hasn't bonded with anyone her age and I know it makes her sad to not have a ''best friend''.
The behavior that concerns me started about a year ago with a need to have her covers just-so and having to straighten them out three times before she could sleep. In the last couple of months (this summer, actually) it's escalated into tapping rituals (gently touching things three times) and ground touching. She tries to do it when we're not looking, but when it's noticed, she explains it as something she ''has to do'' not because something bad will happen if she doesn't, but because if she doesn't do it ''now'' she won't have the opportunity again. Once she said that she couldn't stop thinking about sticking a spoon down her throat, or in her eye. She says that the urges come with a ''tickly feeling'' in her vagina.
This behavior seems to have gotten worse with the attempt to stop biting her fingernails (which she started in an attempt to stop picking her nose).
She's willing to talk to me about all of this and I've told her that if she needs to touch the ground, or to tap, to go ahead and do it. That it's okay. I've told her that if she feels like hurting herself she needs to talk to me or to someone she loves about it right away, and after the spoon incident, I told her to take her thoughts to a place where she was happy (the beach, etc.) and that seemed to work. I've pointed out to her that when she suppresses her urges, the outcome is fine, nothing bad happens. I'˘m extremely anxious about saying or doing something that's going to make her feel abnormal or wrong. I don't want to damage her self-esteem, but obviously I do feel like something is wrong, and I'm sure she picks up on it. Her dad says, ''Eh, I did things like that when I was a kid, she'll grow out of it.'' :(
So, am I over-reacting? Is this some pre-pubescent thing that is typical of an 8-year-old-girl? Or am I a neglectful parent for not rushing her to the nearest OCD specialist? Very honestly, I am fearful that a visit to a therapist will label her as "troubled" when maybe she isn't, but I have no experience with anything like this, and I am scared for her. Thank you so much. Concerned Mom
My just turned 6 year old's behavior is confounding me. There will be times that after a week or a few days I'll think she is so troubled I must have some sort of behavioral assessment. And then we'll have some great time and I think If I just manage things better she is better.
What I do know is that, more time with me, good sleep, good food and good food at the right time (making sure she doesnt' get too hungry), sunshine and exercise, good routines all keep her mood under control. I think maybe regular probiotics and omega 3's have helped.
Her habits that are of concerning to me are incredible fussing around how neat and clean things are. She has taken most of the books off the bookshelf so she can have books the same size and color in little groupings and when she gets upset she'll say she hates the bookshelf and wants to cover it up.
If the kitchen is messy in the middle of cooking dinner she'll complain - on good days I can say ''Child this is the life of a home, I am cooking dinner, I'll clean up soon, take a break, or offer an alternative, or ask her to join me'' and it works, on bad days she starts flying around shoving stuff away and ends up crying. I think objectively our house is tidy and clean but not perfect at all times (3 small kids this one is the middle child). She can have a great morning and then open the coat closet door and if a coat has fallen off a hook and a few shoes are just tossed in side - she'll start crying.
Sometimes she'll be in the middle of games having a good time and then freak out that everything is messy and start cleaning up to the regret of her sisters. The freak outs are sobbing and flailing and are hard to distract out of. She is also very fussy about her hair - needs to brush it a lot.
She isn't that interested in friends but is social with adults and plays well with sisters. Sometimes smells and noises make her fussy.She doesn't get upset about these things at school. In other ways she is a sweet and helpful child and in total her blowups are probably less than others - but it is just that they are on such specific and consistent themes.
The fact that I know she is so happy when all is good makes me feel guilty. But I know life can't be vacation all the time. Is this just a quirky kid? What is the evaluation that one would do? I don't want to push to hard on something that I should just let time solve. Perplexed Mom
So you idea that she might have OCD or something related sounds very insightful. She is lucky to have you for a parent. You may want to have a chat, soon, with the pediatrician to get a referral, and also ask for experts in OCD in children on this list serve. If you can get this addressed, it will make life way less painful for her, and way less frenetic for you and her siblings, and friends and teachers.
In the mean time, consider putting a piece of a sheet or curtain over the front of the book case (attached with tacks or velcro?) so she can cover over that particular obsession when it bugs her toooooooo much! Hope you all get some relief soon. Anon
My four-and-a-half year old daughter has some quirky arranging
behaviors that are beginning to make me wonder if she has
obsessive-compulsive tendencies. She will create elaborate
''displays'' of toys and objects all around the house. This in and
of itself is not a concern, but there are some problems. For
example, when it comes time to clean up, she totally falls apart.
Once she created a display on my aerobics step bench. When I
moved it so that I could excercise she had a complete breakdown
and I couldn't calm her down for more than an hour. She was
screaming that I was a ''yucky mommy'' and then started repeating
''Come back! Come back!'' about her display. I tried to solve the
problem by setting up some small tables for her to arrange things
on which I promise I won't touch, but if a playdate comes over
and picks up an object from the display or the cat jumps up and
knocks over something, she loses it. She will demand that it be
put back ''just the way it was''. She is otherwise a very
easy-going and sweet girl. I know that there are OCDs that are
characterized by this sort of thing, but I wonder if it's
actually normal behavior. Anyone else experience this?
Our oldest child, a 3.5 year old girl, is extremely particular about things to the point of being obessessive. For example, she will spend forever complaining that her chair is not pushed in exactly the right amount, or that her sink stool is not the exact right distance from the sink. She has to use a certain fork when she eats and everything has to be arranged on her plate the exact same way. We need to say good night in exact same way each night (and blow her a kiss from the same distance from her bed), etc etc. Or else she has a tantrum. Hopefully, this post will generate a lot of responses along the lines of, ''This is all perfectly normal for her age, etc.'' but we thought we'd see what folks thought. Or if anyone had any suggestions. Thanks. T
You can begin by observing how other parents and kids your daughter's age act socially: Do other mothers gush about taking their little girls out and showing them off, while you may not feel you can? Have you and your partner changed the way you interact with the world? Can you go out in public without fear of a tantrum? Can you leave her with a new babysitter? Can you distract her from the troubling behaviors with toys, stories, food, promises? Is motherhood much, much more stressful for you than it seems to be for other moms?
In our case, our pediatrician urged a psychiatric evaluation early on, not knowing that it would lead to a diagnosis of OCD. Eventually we got that diagnosis, and last year when my child was ten we tried therapy (unsuccessfully). We are now using medication, and it appears to be having some of the desired effects.
If your daughter has OCD, it's not the end of the world ... but it takes a terrible toll on families and can ostracize you from a network of ''normal'' families whose kids don't need constant reassurances and whose tantrums are normal. Read some books about OCD and visit the OCD Foundation's website to see how your daughter's behavior measures up against symptoms.
Best of luck. Mom of OCD kid
My 2.9 yr. old daughter who always has been a very stubborn little girl, increasingly worries me with her strange behavior. This has been going on and seems to have gotten worse over the last 2 weeks. I can’t really pinpoint what might have triggered it. For example: she does not want me to let the water out after her bath; suddenly wants to go home when we are in a social situation and frantically begins to gather everything and cleans up while she cries “I want to go home”; does not want her sister to take off the sticker inside her shoe that has the size on it and starts to cry “don’t take that off, don’t take that off” almost as if it would hurt her if she did; does not want anyone to stay outside of our house when we are talking to our neighbors; does not want her sister to go and play in the backyard: does not want to open her lunch bag to have a snack….and more. When in a situation like this she gets a huge tantrum and looks very fearful and once it is over is a perfectly normal toddler. The tantrums are resolved either because I somehow manage to distract her or by giving in. I started her in a small daycare/preschool last fall but had to take her out after 3 months since she did not seem ready and kept on asking/crying for me. It seemed the right thing to do. She also does not nap during the day and has not done that in about 8 months. But sleeps 12 hours at night (usually waking up at least once). She likes to be very funny and surprises us often with her smart observations and sentences. I also have a 5 y old but she was a completely different toddler. Did any of you have a similar experience or any solutions/ advice if this is just a phase or normal behavior or something more worrisome? worried mom I don't have any advice for you, but I could easily picture my son (about the same age) doing every single one of the ''strange'' things you describe your daughter doing. So either we both have weird kids, or (more likely) all this behavior is within the range of normal for that age. This is my first child, and although he's certainly challenging at times, I figure that's just how toddlers are. Mother of weird (?) toddler
My nine-year-old daughter had a psychiatric evaluation which resulted in a diagnosis of OCD. She is bright, vibrant, good in school, etc. However, she has terrible fits of rage when she can't control certain rituals or when her expectations are not met. This is quite different from feelings of disappointment, hurt, anger, and so on. What I need is ... a support group. For her, for me, for both of us, for the whole family! We have a tradition of not going anywhere, really, because of her reaction to new and unexpected things (she doesn't adapt easily when under stress). She relies on me for comfort and for support and not at all on her dad, because he seems to just ''not get it.'' I want for her to have therapy, but it will have to be when she is willing, which is not quite yet. I would like for ME to have therapy, but right now I don't know where to turn for a good recommendation. But for immediately, what I would desperately love would be to have access to other parents who are dealing on a daily basis with this very special-needs kind of kid. If you're alone with no recommendation and want to talk, I would love to arrange for that, too. Thanks. Exhausted mom
Hi, My 8-y-o daughter apparently has obsessive-compulsive disorder (and possibly other anxiety-related issues). I called the cognitive behavioral center in Rockridge based on previous recommendations on the UC parents list, but Michael Tompkins (the main guy there) is booked up. They did give me a referral; does anyone know anything about Melinda White, in Berkeley? Or does anyone have recommendations for another female (or easy- going, non-intimidating male) therapist who is trained in cognitive behavioral therapy for OCD? Thanks. anon
My three and a half year old won't stop counting in sets of threes. At first, we were proud of his counting ability. But for the past two months, he insists on counting in particular patterns before he can continue with ordinary things. For example, before we clip him into his carseat he says, ''Wait!'' then he counts 1-2-3 on the right hand then 1-2-3 on the left and 1-2-3 on the right again then says ''OK, now you can clip me in.'' The patterns are getting increasingly complex but continue to hold patterns of 3.
We have tried to urge him to count in different patterns. He will do it for fun, but falls back into 3's again. I have thought about modifying his diet and tried to get him to eat turkey (which I have heard might be good for him). But all he wants to eat is sugar. We are pretty stringent about sugar in our house. Most of what we eat is organic produce, tofu, organic grains of a variety and beans. He will go for a few days only eating a little bits here and there (mostly breads, juice and soy milk) and then he will binge on proteins or veggies in one sitting.
At what point should we start to be concerned about about his behavior? Has anyone tried a natropath or homeopath to address something like this? Marty
I am looking for recommendations for a child psychologist or child therapist who is familiar with complusive behavior brought on by anxiety.I checked the archives and haven't seen any recent posts. Also are there any opinions out there as to whether a child should see a licensed psychologist or a therapist with an MFCC?
A great therapist for OCD in kids (or any kid/adolescent problems) is Dr. Michael Tompkins of the Center for Cognitive Therapy. He is a psychologist and fantastic therapist. I am also a psychologist and can tell you that although OCD can be very challenging it is also one of the most treatable psychological disorders and Dr. Tompkins is one of the best at it. Good luck. LRE
I am a stay at home mom of twin three year old boys. One of my sons is very sensitive in ways that range from immediately changing his clothes if he gets a drop of water on them, to affectionate hugs and kisses, to really getting attached to children 4-5 years older than him who pay special attention to him, to having hightened visual and tactile senses.
A few examples of his obsessions are:
* Whenever a present is being wrapped in the house, he insists on carrying it around, sleeping with it, and basically owning it until it is given to the intended recipient. He loves to wrap his own toys and pretend they are presents. If his twin gets a hold of one and opens it, he becomes very irrational and extremely upset - basically a tantrum ensues until i can tape the paper back together and make it look newly wrapped again.
* He has gone through periods where he carries around and sleeps with videos (even though he does not particularly want to watch them), which must be in the proper case, and when he finds a case missing the video he obsesses over the missing tape until it is replaced. If his brother takes the tape out he screams until it is returned to the case.
* Today we were leaving my sisters house and he insisted on taking a extra scrap piece of wrapping paper and when he could not also take another piece for his twin he spent the next 10 minutes in the car whining and complaining that he did not get his brother a piece of paper. His brother was oblivious and totally uninterested in the paper.
It is often his extreme thoughtfulness and attention to detail as well as persistance and insistance that makes it a difficult situation to remedy calmly. He gets very attached to things as he does to some people, and likes routine and predictability. Much of these behaviors make him quite endearing, but i am beginning to wonder if some of his obsessive behaviors that result from him being so sensitive should be of concern to me, and whether or not i can expect him to outgrown his obsessions.
Clearly these are signs of a sensitive, spirited child and most of the time I understand and embrace that about him, but it would be helpful to know if other people have experienced these behaviors and the strategies they use for dealing with them. anon
other people usually see his sweet, gentle, loving side. at preschool, the teachers love him! he is obedient and happy. it took along time for him to adjust to being there, but now he's comfortable there.
i get to see all sides of him, sometimes within minutes! there are times (usually 2-3 times a day) that i have to tread lightly as to not upset him, because when he gets that way, we both go nuts! when he gets focused on something (an object, an activity, a food item), it is impossible to refuse him without his blowing up! here's an example: when i pick him up from school, i try to bring a little snack. sometimes it is too little and he demands more (which i don't have). i try to reason with him that there is NOTHING to offer, but he keeps pushing and eventually will burst out crying, kicking and screaming! it sucks the life right out of me. sometimes he wants to watch a video and when i say no, he can go from zero to sixty right away.
he sometimes is so sweet. he takes care of his sister and ''reads'' to her. he nursed a beetle back to health. he hugs and kisses me repeatedly. he loves to be helpful sometimes (washing the car, picking weeds...).
but, not a day goes by that he doesn't have a fussy episode or some sort. i get so frazzled by this! reasoning does not work even when we wait until he has calmed down. maybe he's too young to reason.
i have tried to justify his behaviour using environmental forces (nature vs. nuture), but maybe this is him. i don't know if we should continue to ''walk on eggshells'' to prevent these episodes, or if he just has to learn the hard way that things don't always go his way.
i, too, don't know if i should be more concerned than i already am. i have read the spirited child book, and my son is definitely spirited in some of those categories (intense, perceptive, sensitive). but i wonder if there's anything else to it. i don't know how OCD ties in with this all. there's a fine between being focused and being obsessed.
i constantly tell my son that i love him, and sometimes he asks me if i do. i use positive reinforcement when i see good behaviour, but he seems to forget. i tell him if i am proud of him, and i tell him when i am not proud of his behaviour (in which case he says ''don't say that!''). it is very draining to have to deal with the bad times, but i am hopeful that we can find better ways.
i am looking forward to reading other responses to your post.
sincerely, a spirited kid's mother
I remember asking the preschool teacher if ours had tantrums there, and she looked puzzled, said no, he was totally cooperative and helpful. And then her face cleared and she explained that the ''good'' ones in public are often holding back and need to let their emotions and stress out at home.
He still does that a little, but he's a lot calmer now, at 11 1/2. So yours may grow out it too. Avi
You say, 'i tell him if i am proud of him, and i tell him when i am not proud of his behaviour (in which case he says ''don't say that!'').'
He doesn't want you to tell him that you're not proud of his behavior, because he isn't either. He doesn't want to act that way. Therefore, your job is to help him learn to control himself, not just eliminate behavior. He needs you to help him learn to modulate his responses. How? That's the challenge!
I'd talk with him about it. I'd give the phenomenon a name(disassembled?)and tell him that that's the way some kids react to disappointment and that he will learn to respond differently as he grows and you will help him.
Then after an incident I'd say, ''You really disassembled there. Did you feel it coming? What happened just before?''
Another time I'd help him think of other ways he could respond and suggest that next time he feels it coming, he could try one of them. You could even practice: ''I'm sorry, that's all the snack I brought,'' and he could say, ''I'm starving--I wish I had more,'' etc.
Then just reinforce any positive steps you see, even if at first it's only a delay in the reaction, or trying an alternate behavior.
Good luck with this -- it can work with many situations for many years. Barbara
We are waiting for an appointment in late June (the earliest available!!!) for an assessment and counseling and everything for our 6-year-old daughter, who shows signs of ever-worsening obsessive-compulsive disorder. Does anyone have any advice on what to do while we wait? Books, websites with helpful intervention ideas? She gets out of control if she can't do what she planned on (be the last person to use the bathroom, for example, or be told when it's exactly nine o'clock). She's big and strong and rages when this happens, and it's extremely difficult for everyone - especially her, because she doesn't want to act this way. Any advice will be appreciated!
It has become apparent to me that my 18 yr old son's OCD is more severe than I had suspected and that he needs more than the ''talk therapy'' he has been receiving. He is open to tackling this issue head on so I would like to know if anyone has any experience with intensive outpatient programs that provide therapies aimed at helping individuals manage &/or reduce their OCD symptoms. Any leads would be greatly appreciated.
Some ideas for intensive OCD treatment in the Bay Area:
- in Menlo Park, Pacific Anxiety Group
- in San Ramon, CBT & Mindfulness Center
If these centers aren't local for your son, something to consider is that solo CBT therapists may be able to meet on an intensive therapy basis as well (multiple CBT sessions per week, extended length exposure sessions each time, etc.)
Also, the OCD Foundation website is a great resource for information from the field's experts about OCD education, how to distinguish (and approach) obsessions vs. compulsions, how families can help, etc.
Most programs are self-pay, although some accept insurance. The ones that do accept insurance have quite long wait lists (about 2 months).
ERP works, but it is very specialized care, so be prepared to fight for authorizations and reimbursement, even if you have insurance. It is also probably the best treatment out there. OCD patient
I am looking for a good therapist with experience treating OCD, but who does not use an exclusively Cognitive Behavioral approach, but is open to a more psychodynamic approach. Any recommendations anyone can give would be very much appreciated. anonymous
I have a 12 year old daughter with OCD. I've tried medication and cognitive behavioral therapy for her and things are not getting better. I'm interested in people's experiences and resources. I'd like to find out if there are any parents or kids her age who are interested in getting together or talking about working with OCD.
As it is, he has really minimized the negative impact that OCD has on his life. The strategies that have helped the most are meditation and therapy with a psychologist who specializes in OCD. Meditation taught him how to observe his thoughts and not necessarily intervene - a critical skill when your thoughts are disruptive. It also gave him a mostly reliable way to calm down when he was afraid or over-aroused.
In therapy, EMDR has been particularly helpful, but there are other kinds of exposure therapies that a specialist in OCD would know about. He tried medication a couple of times, but found that it critically impacted him in other ways and did not necessarily resolve the OCD.
One book that was really useful for him - and for me as his partner - is The OCD Workbook by Hyman and Pedrick.
Good luck. Your daughter is struggling with a real challenge, but with your support and help, this does not have to determine her life. friend
My son has recently been diagnosed with OCD after years of being misdiagnosed. I would like some referrals of therapists who specialize in CBT in the East Bay who either take insurance and/or will take credit cards (from my experience with therapists, I feel as if this is a stretch). And, if anyone has experienced this, what has your experience been with treatment and medications. Concerned Mom
We're looking for recommendations for inpatient care for young teenager with OCD. Anyone with experience at Herrick Hospital or other places around the Bay Area? Thanks.
My ten-year-old daughter suffers from obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). She is adamantly opposed to being medicated and will not talk with a counselor.
I am searching for two things: (1) a homeopathic approach (I think I can convince her to try a ''natural'' approach if I can find something helpful); and (2) a support group.
The best support group would be specifically for her, with other kids. The next best support group would be for parents of OCD sufferers. I attended a support group that consisted of adult sufferers, and although it was an enormous help to be with people who understood the condition, I didn't really feel that I could get the kind of support I need as a parent.
So many of my friends and colleagues read this listserve that I cannot, out of respect for my daughter's privacy, include my name ... but if there is some way to hook up with other parents, I would be sooooo grateful. Parent of OCD Sufferer
I am looking for a good psychaiatrist in the Berkeley area that can help me deal with OCD. I am suffering from recuring obsessive thoughts that I cannot get away from and cause me a great deal of anxiety and interfere with my work and personal life. Also, I have been taking Prozac for more than 10 years now.
My teenage son shows signs of obsessive-compulsive behavior. At first, it wasn't so noticeable, but lately, he is becoming worse. For example, he is always late for school because he is obsessed with washing his hands and face. And he normally doesn't get enough sleep because he takes so long to prepare to go to sleep, like taking extra long showers and brushing teeth, etc. Does anyone know any reasonable, good therapist in the area who treats this sickness? Also, my son does not think anything is wrong with his behavior and gets angry when we try to talk to him about it. We would appreciate any advice given. Thanks a lot. anon
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