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Questions about Adoption
We are considering adoption of a second child. We are
deciding between David Radis and Adopt Help. Both are law
firms in SoCal. Would love to hear if anyone has worked with
either and their experiences.
We had a wonderful experience working with David Radis, and
successfully adopted an infant girl in 2008. He is
professional without being cold, sensitive without being
sentimental, and gives invaluable advice gained over some 30
years of practice. I would be happy to answer any questions
you have about him. P.
Re: First-time adoption - which agency? which attorney?
We had a wonderful experience with the adoption lawyer,
David Radis, based in L.A. I can't say enough good things
about this man: his compassion, his professionalism, his
efficiency. We had him take care of both outreach and
paperwork, and were parents of a beautiful newborn girl
within 9 months of having met him. Birthmothers are as fond
of him as are adoptive parents who have worked with him, and
his national reputation has a lot to do with the fact that
he can match prospective parents up so quickly with the
child they've been waiting for. In 2005, he was awarded the
Congressional Angels in Adoption award. His website (new and
improved) is: www.radis-adopt.com
We adopted our son 2 years ago and are ready to adopt again. We'd like
this to be a domestic, open, infant adoption. We used an agency last
time, and this time we'd like to work with an adoption lawyer who does
birthmother outreach. Ideally one who is both compassionate towards
birthmothers and responsive to the needs of adoptive parents (and ideally
Bay Area based).
We have 2 great children and used
Adopt International. We know both
birthmoms and have open adoptions. The staff are really great with the
birthmoms, and in the case of our first are still in contact and
supportive of her after 8 yrs. Our second search was taking a while so
we connected with John Chally in Portland Oregon. He also seems to be
great with both perspective parents and birth families. Our second
child was also thru Asopt Int'l, although we had signed up with John to
''cast a larger net''.
Good luck, Kids DO change your lilfe and it is all for the better
Hi,we have a very complicated adoption situation for our 4.5
year old. Does Anyone have a recommendation for an attorney
specialized and highly skilled in the adoption area?
thanks in advance
I can personally recommend Marc Gradstein as a good guy. I know
him through a run of the mill domestic adoption, but there were
some wrinkles to our situation he handled well. His wife is also
an adoption attorney and they practice together. She specializes
in contested adoptions. Her name is Jane Gorman. They are based
out of Burlingame.
I'm a laywer and an adoptive mom, so here is my opinion. My
adoption laywer,David Baum, in LA was fantastic. He knows
everyone in the adoption community and has been president of
the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys. His number is 818
501-8355. He'd be good to consult with even if you decide to
hire locally which if you are going to court is probably a good
idea. I can't say enough good things about his commitment,
ethics and legal sense.
Locally, I'd recommend Jane Gorman, in Half Moon Bay, who gave
me lots of good advice when I was trying to adopt and handles
contested adoptions. She's lawyer adoption lawyers refer to
when they run into a problem. Joan Hollanger in Berkeley, is
also an excellent attorney and I believe has participated in
cases which have made adoption law. I 'm not sure she is
practicing, but she might be good to consult with also. Diane
Michelson, in Walnut Creek may also be a good person to
consult. She seems very straightforward, and has a very good
reputation and she will let you know if she can help you. Good
luck and I'm sorry you are having problems with your adoption.
If your complicated adoption includes issues related to being
in a same sex relationship you might try Linda Scaparotti at
415-434-9600. She specializes in these types of adoptions.
Linda serves on my Board of Directors.
Check out Diane Michelsen. She is an adoption attorney who is also an LCSW. We used
her for attorney services for our adoption. Though that was 7 years ago, we would use
her again if we were in need of an adoption attorney. You can get further information
about her at her website at http://www.lodm.com/
I'm looking for a lawyer to help us adopt our foster children.
The following are provided free through the UC Berkeley Legal
Care program (the ''Arag Group''). Does anyone have experience
with any of them, good or bad?
Jaime Alcabes; Regis Amann; Michael Amthor; David Biasotti;
Thomas Bishop; Albert Boasberg; Robert Borris Jr.; Jb Brainerd;
Brooke Brigham; Cliff Capdevielle; Brian Chase; Hermin Dowe;
Martin Elmer; Timothy Fricker; Tasos Geron; C. Gibson;
Wendy Gibson; Merle Harding; Samuel Joens; Albert Kun;
Anthony Lowenstein; Norman Macleod; James Mccarthy; Kay Mears;
Frannie Mok-Wang; John Noonan; Frank Offen; Ora Prochovnick;
Veronica Panella; Dean Shotwell; John Stringer; David Tomcik;
Also, has anyone had good experience with an attorney not on
this list for adoption/De Facto Parenthood status?
Thanks for any insights you can provide - you can email me off-
line or to the network-
I've known Ora Prochovnik over email... she is extremely sharp
and takes her job very seriously. I'd recommend her without
reservation--and I've seen several couples do just that, with
regard to adoption.
One of my friends at work is going to have a baby, and she wants her
partner to adopt the baby so that they can legally be co-mothers. She
asked me if we had used a lawyer, and I told her no.
Any advice or recommendation? I would really appreciate it.
I know many good attorneys who do adoptions for gay/lesbian
families. Two in the East Bay are Eva Herzer
and Emily Doscow in Oakland. Feel free to contact
me if you'd like more names.
Ora Prochovnick is a great lesbian lawyer for gay families. She
did our partnership papers and our adoption. She has been doing
this for years, has done many adoptions and has a wonderful
sense of how important this type of issue is.
Her number is 415-241-1317. She does East Bay adoptions, even
though her office is in the West Bay.
We're using Linda Scaparotti in San Francisco for our domestic-
partner adoption. She did our wills and trusts, too, and knows
her stuff. The whole process -- attorney's fees and Alameda
County adoption fee -- is about $1700. Feel free to have your
friends email me if they have questions about the process.
Linda Scaparotti, (415) 434-9600, linda at scaplaw.com
Berkeley's own Nolo Press publishes an excellent book that
instructs people on how to do their own second parent adoptions,
which is the type of adoption that you describe in your post.
The book is also good about explaining what types of adoptions
are not of the do-it-yourself variety. The couple you describe
can probably do the adoption themselves -- and save quite a
bundle in the process. One of the authors of the book, Emily
Doskow, was recommended by a previous response to this post. I
work for Nolo Press and helped to edit the book, and I think it
performs a valuable service for lesbian and gay couples who want
to legalize the relationship that the second parent has with the
child. You can order the book from Nolo at www.nolo.com.
We are adoptive parents considering a 2nd adoption, but are looking to
someone other than whom we originally used to help us match with a
birthmother. We used Adoption Connection for our homestudy before and
they are wonderful and would use them again for a homestudy. At the same
time, I would appreciate hearing from folks who used Adoption Connection
actually finding your birthmother/child. There is one post on the
website that is
a little over a year old now, so I was hoping to hear from someone who
more recent experience. Also, we used Diane Michelsen as our attorney
and had a good experience. Has anyone out there used her to find you a
I have three adopted siblings and the last two were arranged
through Diane--14 and 10 years ago. From what I have gathered
from my mother, Diane was very available and was very quick to
provide our profile to birth parents.
We matched fairly quickly with several birth parents and it took
maybe a month or two (?) for my brother to join our family. He
was born in Indiana and my sister, who came a few years later,
was born in Maryland.
Grateful for my siblings
Congratulations on your adoption and beginning the process to
adopt a 2nd child. That is great. I wanted to response to
your question about Diane Michelson. I am a Marriage and
Family Therapist in Lafayette who works in the field of
adoption. Many of my clients have used Diane's services and
have been very happy about the support they received. Also,
during the holidays, I had an opportunity to attend
an ''Adoption Party'' which Diane does a few times a year. The
party was wonderful, so many beautiful and happy families. It
was my feeling from observing Diane with the parents and
children that she does her work not for the money but for the
love of family building.
Good luck on your journey and if I could be of any assistance,
please let me know.
We used Diane Michelsen 5 yrs ago for the adoption of our son,
for both outreach services (i.e. finding a baby)as well as
handling all the legal aspects of the adoption. We have
recommended her to several people because (at least at that
time) she had a very extensive outreach program and because she
knows the law. When things got difficult with our adoption, she
was very much there for us and worked hard to resolve the
I'd appreciate any recommendations for adoption attorneys. I am
getting married and my future husband wants to adopt my little
girl. Her biological father is fine with this so I need a
lawyer primarily to process the paperwork.
I have been exposed to several adoption lawyers recently. The
best attorney (direct, pleasant, effiecient,intelligent and
reasonably priced) was Heather Stone 415-274-1605. I would
highly recommend her.
We had a wonderful experience with Shelley Tarnoff in Oakland
(510-549-4747). She specializes in adoption and is knowledgeable
and sensitive. And we found her to be very reasonably priced as
well. I'd recommend her highly.
We used Lawrence Siegel, JD as an adoptiong atty.
A++. Thorough, thoughtful, available, reasonable (price),
and loves his work. Plus, he's an adoptive parent himself.
He's in Marin, but that wasn't a problem even though we live
in the East Bay. Call him at 415-925-6788.
California has a ''stepparent adoption'' procedure that is quite
straightforward. My husband's ex-wife died three years ago. A
year later, I did a stepparent adoption of their 13 year old
daughter by using the Nolo Press book. We had no attorney,
found the forms easy to fill out and the submissions office
(Contra Costa County--we're in El Sobrante) office quite helpful
on the few details that posed any problem. Our adoptions was
successful and simple to do--much easier than a full-on adoption.
I am the Director of an association of Plaintiff attorneys and
would suggest giving Amalia Attruia-Hartwell a call- she does
family law 415-771-0136. If she doesn't work out for you send
me an email and I'll give you some names of other people who do
this type of law. Good luck!
I recommend Diane Michelsen. Go to www.lodm.com. We used her for attorney
services for our adoption and liked her a lot. She is in Lafayette.
We have used Larry Siegel to terminate our son's birthfather's
rights. It was a simple, technical paperwork type of work but he
was on time, nice, responsive. He was recommended to me by
Adoption Connection. I don't have his number but it should be
easy to find
California Law requires that a couple be married for 1 year
before a step-parent adoption can proceed. Nolo Press publishes
a book called ''How to Adopt Your Stepchild in California'' which
would be an excellent place to get started once you are ready.
We adopted a newborn domestically 10 months ago and had a relatively
trouble-free adoption (not often the case). We used Adoption Connection in
San Francisco for our homestudy and were extremely happy with them and with
our caseworker. We used Diane Michelsen in Lafayette as our adoption attorney
and were also very happy with her. She had come very highly recommended -
while we used her only for attorney services, she also does the entire
adoption if you want that type of service. We
did a lot of research before choosing our "team". It can be a daunting
process, and certainly expensive.
We can highly recommend Atty's Nancy Hurwitz or Marc and Bonnie
Gradstein, both should be in the yellow pages. They have produced great
results and have been thorough and professional. For biracial kids, PACT in
SF is terrific. - Jon
Questions about IVF, Donor Eggs/Sperm
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I am one half of a queer female couple and am looking for a
lawyer recommendation. I need to have a parental
termination of rights contract for after the baby's born,
and do the partner adoption process.
Any recs of solid family lawyers would be great. Thanks!
I heartily recommend Deborah Wald. She's got tons of experience in this area, is
a lesbian mom, and has really be at the forefront of these legal conversations in
California. http://www.waldlaw.net/ We used her services 6 years ago and were
really happy working with her.
I would highly recommend Emily Doskow in the East Bay.
She handled our step parent adoption and was warm,
friendly and informed. She works on a sliding scale. She
works primarily with the LBGT community.
http://www.emilydoskow.com/. Good luck.
Looking for recommendations for legal services with regard to
negligence in an IVF donor egg treatment. Any suggestions and/or
help would be most welcome.
Shelley Tarnoff (510-482-2226) was our attorney when we adopted
a baby four years ago. From what I understand, she also does
infertility-related legal work. We loved her. I recommend you
give her a call to see if she can help you.
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