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Family therapy for ADHD

Looking for a family therapist skilled with ADHD families, and short-term therapy (no time for weekly visits over many months) Heres the problems: Both of my children have ADHD, one on medication, one not. I have read extensively on managing our behavioral concerns and understanding what we should expect from our kids. My husband has not read anything, but supports medication and can tell a difference. Our problem is that when one child in particular makes goofy faces, wiggles around, looks away and other unconscious acts when being scolded etc. my husband gets very angry, lots of yelling etc about disrespect. He thinks he is not getting through, so he thinks that if he makes himself very scary it will make an impression once and for all, so he really goes to the max(no physical punishment), despite the fact that this only happens after the medicine wears off. He is a big man and very intense and energetic and I can hardly get him to really listen to what I say (not soulful listening, just that he automatically thinks everything will be negative or a criticism, when often I am making an offer to help out with a to-do or trying to show concern). The kids have garden variety ADHD issues- not defiant or combative, just handfuls in general. I, of course, am forced into the role of the softie, and blamed for the fact that his nuclear outbursts have not proven effective. The fact that the kids are not perfect despite my desperate reading is proof to him that the books on managing behavior useless pablum.

So anyway, he looks really scary, even to me, it doesn't work with the kids so it happens every week, and I think hubby has ADHD too (he agrees and other family members have it). Daddy is a high-achiever, so we don't need an adult ADHD specialist to help Daddy focus, etc, but with someone that can help a successful person (in part successful because of the ADHD-linked traits of energy, multitasking, and creativity) work on his response to our kids, and my response to his response. He got hit alot for disrespect as a child, and has had anger issues all his life, and still doesn't see the connection. I think therapy is the only way- I've read all the books. Mom in the middle

Is there a support group for parents of children with AD/HD in the Berkeley area? I need help with parenting skills for my 7 year old AD/HD son. This is new to me and I am a bit overwhelmed. I don't see this on the website. Thanks. Mom in need

I would be interested in knowing about parenting classes that offer support and techniques for dealing with children who have been diagnosed with ADHD. If anyone has attended such, could you please share your experience, both plus and minus? Many thanks!
Parent of recently diagnosed child

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