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I am totally and completely addicted to the internet. I quit a job to be a writer and have gotten little to nothing done in 2 years because I cannot stop surfing the web. When I have had jobs, I have had problems because I cannot stop myself from using the internet. I have no idea what to do about it b/c it isn't like an alchoholic in that you can stop drinking. Computers are everywhere and necessary. Any treatment suggestions would be great. anon
We are having a problem with Internet addiction. I find myself frustrated with my husband because I see him get on the computer so frequently. He often wants to just ''check his email'' or browse the web. Once the kids are down, he goes to the computer. I recognize that I too feel the pull to check my mail or 'quickly look something up', it is so convenient after all. My husband says it's no different from reading the paper or watching TV, but I just hate the idea that we're becoming 'screen people' and I also don't like modeling that for the children. Have others dealt with this? Part of me wants to move the computer to the office (it's now in the kitchen which makes it very accessible), but then when the kids are on it (which is actually very rarely but I think will likely increase as they grow) I won't be able to see what they're doing as easily. Thanks for any tips on this. anon
Finally my mom said something when she was visiting that I was always ''checking email'' and it hit me - I WAS always checking email and often surfing for no reason in particular. I started to take steps immediately once I realized what I was doing. Now I check email or get online during certain times of the day and I try to set a limit as to how long I will be on. I turn off the computer when I am done so I'm not tempted to pop over to see if anything new has happened. I do not turn on the computer after dinner and limit what I do online over the weekend (i.e. computer stays off on Sundays for example).
Setting myself these ''strict rules'' has really worked, especially turning the computer off when I am finished. Now I spend much less time online and have become more efficient when I am online. I now know that I wasted a lot of time and I'm happy to be doing other things! Good luck! Former Addict
My husband (in his late 30s) seems to be depressed when he is away from his on-line game. I don't know if his situation is severe enough to be called an addiction but he has transformed into a very different person. He doesn't seem comfortable in real life social gathering anymore. If I somehow get him to meet with friends and/or family, he seems out of place. In addition to his social skills slowly deteriorating, his personal appearance is also being neglected. I can hardly get him to shave or get a hair cut. Am I dealing with this alone? If this is an addiction, how do I help him face his problem? Is there help out there? anon
And I also want to tell you that you are not alone. My husband plays computer games every day. It can sometimes be for an hour or up to 4 hours or more. On some weekend nights, he likes to stay up late drinking beer and playing. Occassionally it becomes drinking, smoking pot, & playing until very late. I wonder if he is addicted too. I think he has turned to it when he's been down, but also just enjoys it. Is it addiction? Where does one draw lines? He's happy and he will put it away if I ask him to do it. He drinks a couple of beers every night when he plays, but I don't know if something should be done about it or not. So, it was re-assuring to read your letter and I look forward to the responses from others as well. I have some thinking I need to do about this too. Good luck. Anon also
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