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From an Iranian teenager

I am a 16 year old Iranian who lives in the Unites States. I came out of Iran when I was 7, yet I have maintained my beautiful culture within me. I have not lost touch with myself and do not answer with yes instead of Baleh, or "I don't know" when an older Iranian asks me something. It drives me nuts when I see Iranian kids my age who do not want to speak Persian and do not show any indication that they are Iranian. I see that all the time when Iranian kids try to act silly by talking in English when their parents speak Persian to them, I can't stand it. Persian is one of the oldest languages in the world, and Iran is one of the most historical nations of all time. I guess what I am trying to say is, and if I have got a little off track I apologize, is that Iranians should stay Iranian no matter where they are, and their kids should be thought to speak Persian or any other Iranian language such as Azari, Luri, Kuridsh, or any other minority languages of Iran. When I first read the article by the woman about the skin color of her child, I sort of became upset. I myself have very light skin with brown hair and hazel eyes. I look like a typical American guy and my country-mates can not distinguish my nationality. When I tell people I am from Iran ( especially Americans) they sometimes are shocked. But the truth is I don't really care.
I have seen Iranians who look very darker than me, and I have seen Iranians who look like they are Swedish. It is in this country, where everything seems to revolve around skin color and racism.
Iranians should not get sucked into all this crazy frenzy about how dark someone is or how light someone is because ALL IRANIANS, NO MATTER WHAT THEIR SKIN COLOR, ARE ONE. We are all country-mates, no matter our color or ethnicity.
We come from a country that is of Aryan origin but has mixed through the centuries.
We have different skin colors in our country because genetics and location. For example, if you are from Bandar Abbass, in southern Iran, you are most likely going to be darker than someone from Orumiyeh, in northern Iran. I have even seen it in families where one brother is brown and the other brother is light. There are Iranians who look Oriental, Khodadad Azizi for instance.
So the lady who was concerned about her child's curiousness in her color should simply tell her that she is Iranian, Aryan, and has brown skin color not because she is "white" or "black" or anything like that, but because all people have different skin colors everywhere you go, and even in Europe, there are Italians, Spaniards, Greeks, and even Romanians who are darker than some Iranians.
Iran is too great a country to be put a "color" barrier upon. We are all one, and all united. God bless Iran and its people.

2 (an Iranian young woman raised in America, and faced "first-generation" cultural hardships

It seems that most of the parents have pretty young children, and are much more well-equipped than the generation that raised me and my friends. They are also not in shell-shock from the revolution due to the passage of time.


I was glad to see your page for raising bi-cultural children. I am probably one of the very earliest of half-Iranian half-American born. My dad came here in 1947 from Iran, met and married my mom and I was born in 1951. My mom was first generation Croatian/Slovakian. I can tell you in retrospect it wasn't easy. I feel that if my dad took the time to teach me his language and his culture it would have been so much easier for me to answer the question 'Who am I' or to say with certainty, 'I am half-Persian'. It makes me sad still to know I am half-Persian but never to feel it. I think learning Farsi would have made me feel more complete.


From an Iranian college student

Dear members of Madar Pedar, first I want to give you my warm appreciation and respect for putting together an organization such as this, for it shows your concern about preserving our beautiful heritage.

I want to reply to two of the discussions, 1) Religion 2)Culture.

I'm 17 years old, living in USA. I was born in Tehran/Iran, but came here at age 4. So it's fair to say I've been exposed to American culture a great deal. But to tell you the truth, I'm shocked to hear some of these comments on this site, "implying" the shame and unwillingness of some Iranian parents to teach our culture to the next generation.

I've been to Iran only twice after leaving, but that was enough for me to see the liveliness and happiness of Iranians, which is amazingly unique to people who have seen many cultures like myself; the rich aryan and persian history we have, but it seems the youth's knowledge of history is only that there was a revolution some time led by an "evil" man, because that's all you parents teach them! The strong will of our nation; what other nation IN HISTORY has stood for what they believe in the way we did and still do? And our truly beautiful country in terms of nature and architecture which is unique among the scenic world. So is this what you parents are ashamed of teaching your children that you are thinking about other alternatives such as the "iranian-american" child or purely the american child in some cases? If your children show resistance, they have all right to do so since the American Meida has portrayed such a negative image of Iran, but it is your responsibility as Iranian parents to teach your kids what Iran really stands for, and that they are Iranians wherever in the world they are.

About Religion, religion is not to be forced upon anyone through parents or governemnt or any institution. Religion has to be supported by faith and most importantly SCIENCE. In other words, when you look around the world, you see the reflection of the Creator in his creation, just the same way you see the reflection of a writer in his books and the reflection of a artist in his painting. When you see a book, do you need to VISUALLY and PHYSICALLY see the author to be convinced that someone wrote this book? Or would you be convinced by the great amount of information, knowledge, research, and effort that has gone into the writing of this book? Just the same way, true faith is that you don't visually see the Creator, but when you see this wondrous, scientifically organized creation, you know that someone must have created it.

Islam is a part of our culture, no doubt about it. If you don't believe in Islam, you should atleast be fair enough to teach your children about an important aspect of their culture. But Islam truly is a beautiful religion and you should let your children's impression of Islam be from you or someone who knows, rather than the nasty American media.

Islam is not a nationality, as say some religously-uneduacted Iranians who associate Islam with "Arabs" And certainly the current regime in Iran does not portray the true Islam. Politics is a game of crime, corruption, and mostly "self-interest" These are exactly what Islam speaks against.

As an Iranian-pious Muslim-((& Nationalist)) I truly hope that the young generation will draw from our beautiful culture, religion, language, and overall our rich heritage, while working towards a more open-minded way of thinking and looking at the world, and I BEG the parents to teach their children WHO they are.

TO ALL THE YOUNG PEOPLE OUT THERE; come on Guys -&Girls- we are Iranians, we have our own prestigous heritage, we don't need to submit ourselves to the trends and the people of American media and culture!! Let's go back and build Iran with our hands, hearts, minds.:)

-Smile & Celebrate & Appreciate.

From an Iranian visitor in Emirates





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salam man ham as khanevadeham dooram, narahat nabash hamvatan faghat saai kon esm iran va esm khanevadehat ra zendeh negah dari ghorbanat .

madar:cheraghe roshane afkare man.

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