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I have a problem that I need help on. I have 2 boys, 5 and 7, and
they seem to fight constantly. They fight over everything but
everything but I think what underlies it all is that the 5 year old
wants more of the 7 year old's attention and will do anything to get
it--including hitting, kicking, and teasing. The older one likes
more alone time and to get rid of his brother will pinch or push
him and then cry when the little one retaliates with a kick or hit.
It seems that the fighting is nonstop. They are in different daycare
programs so they only see each other at night and weekends.
How do other parents handle sibling bickering? (July 1999)
The book Holding Time by Martha Welch addresses this issue (and the
whole territory of teaching your child trust and expressing-feelings
skills) with some elegance. Highly recommended.
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