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May 2003
My 21 month old is very oral - everything in the mouth - and
began biting his nails around one year of age. The nail biting
has increased in frequency since his first birthday and now his
nails are down to the quick. As soon as we say, ''not in your
mouth'' he will immediately take his fingers out of his mouth to
slip them back in a few minutes later. He'll even try to bite my
nails! Is there a non-toxic yucky tasking gel we can put on his
fingers to dissuade the biting? Will this go away on it's own?
Any advice is appreciated!
Jennifer
My daughter started biting her nails around the same age as
yours but it seemed to taper off at age 3. She liked nail
polished nails, so I used to tell her letting her nails grow
would make them stronger & longer as well as easier to wear
polish. I tried not to get too uptight about it and felt better
when the directors of her day care said it was common for kids
her age to bite their nails and it doesn't necessarily mean
they're stressed about something. You can still
emphasize ''strong and healthy'' nails for picking a guitar, or
whatever.
anon
I have not had your problem, but recently I had a problem with my daughter
whining. There were several things that helped my daughter whine less and
they might work for you. One was telling her I'd wink at her when I heard her
whine. She got this non-verbal communication from me that I knew what she
was doing, but won't respond until she spoke to me in a different tone. I also
hugged and kissed her sometimes when she was whining and increased the
amount of affection I was giving her in general. Distractions like playdoh and
stories and so forth also worked. I also often pointed
when it was special time for the two of us to choose something
for the two of us to do. I got these ideas for Jane Nelsen's Positive Disicipline.
It's one of the most valuable books I've ever read. Good luck. Our children go
through so many rapid changes with their development that can lead to nail
biting or whining and the like.
Karen
Oct 2009
Hello Out There, Just in the last couple of months my bright and cheerful 2 year old
has started biting her nails. Our family has been going through a rather long relocation/
transition period, which has put extra strain on her dad and I and our
relations. We strive to just keep her environment regular and steady with our daily
rituals and to keep our relationship struggles private, although sometimes the energy
leaks out. I don't know if these things have created a situation where she might need
to relieve stress by nail biting or if this in the range of normal behavior? At any rate, I
am concerned about her well being and I don't want this to turn into a life long habit.
How do I tend to this in the most responsible manner possible? Any other parents of
young nail biters out there? Thanks!!
Michelle
Funny timing on your question. Our 3-year-old was biting her nails consistently and it
was bothering me and we bought something called 'Bite Free' which looks like clear
nail polish. It worked pretty quickly and my daughter stopped biting her nails. She is
now 11 and we just came across this lightly-used bottle this weekend and my
daughter said ''Oh, I remember that stuff! It tasted so terrible--I'm glad you used that
on me because I like my nails now'' I was about to recycle it since we don't need
anymore. If you want to take it, just email me and you can pick it up. I'm in Rockridge.
Good luck!
Christine
My daughter bit her nails at that age, too-- although I can't
think of any particular stress we were under. My pediatrician
told us it is very common and not to worry about it. She stopped
on her own at some point around age 3 or 3.5. We never mentioned
it to her or fretted over it-- in fact, I was taken by surprise
when I realized I had to start clipping her nails again.
-Now she's ready for her pedi
Hi,
This is my story of nail-biting, which I hope can at least
provide some perspective.
I started biting my nails as a small child too, and wasn't able
to quit until I was around 20, despite being interested in
having long, glamorous nails as an older child and teenager.
I did not bite my nails out of stress, and I think most people
do not. I mainly bit them when I was inactive - i.e. watching
television, in school, or reading books. I tried many, many
solutions - painting them, putting nasty-tasting stuff on them,
etc. My parents tried talking me out of it and at least a
couple of times bribing me. Never worked, despite the fact
that I would have loved to quit.
The only solution that ever worked for me was to put a rubber
band on my wrist and snap it enough to produce a little pain
whenever I found myself nibbling. It took care of the problem
in days. Obviously your kid is much too little for this kind
of solution. I virtually never bite my nails now except when
I'm in situations of enforced stillness - mainly on airplanes
and in movie theaters. I'm generally a fidgety, active person
and I still have a tendency to pick at things.
I'm not sure there's a thing you can do for your kid at this
stage, and I wouldn't be quick to attribute the nail-biting to
stress. It's the common widsom, but I don't think it's
correct. And once you eliminate worries about your kid being
stressed, nail-biting is a pretty small problem. As a bonus, I
have a pretty darn good immune system at this point in my life
(despite parenting two little kids who go to
daycare/preschool.) I'm sure I got constant exposure to MANY
more things than some of my peers!
I know this doesn't offer any solutions, but I hope it helps.
Former nail biter
My son started biting his nails when he was 3 1/2, out of the blue. I think it comes
with the territory of being more aware of the world around you, being scared or
nervous, etc. He had just started a new gymnastics class... He stopped doing it
around 4, and started again this fall, when he started preschool. I think this is a
phase...no worries.
a Berkeley mom of 3
Oct 2003
My 25 month old daughter is biting her nails. I haven't had to
trim them for awhile! I was surpised that something like this
should show up at such a young age. Any suggestions?
Kate
Sometimes nailbiting is a form of pica, the eating of non-food items. Pica can
result from a mineral imbalance, most usually iron or calcium.
Nori
My 3 1/2 yr. old used to nail bite at about that age. The
directors at her day care advised me it was just a
developmental stage and common for kids that age to nail bite.
It didn't mean she was necessarily stressed about something.
Since she liked to wear nail polish, I used to tell her to let
her nails grow a bit and then we could polish them. For a boy,
you might talk about being able to play a guitar or something.
My daughter grew out of it naturally after a year or so.
anon
Feb 2009
My 3.5 yr. old daughter bites her nails. I regret that I may not
have been attentive enough to her nails when she was very small,
and she developed the habit out of necessity! So what do I do
now? My husband also has this habit, although I do ask him to
stop. I know that women I know who have this habit suffer from
it and are frequently embarrassed by their hands. I would like
to avoid this for my daughter if possible.
Sarah
Try Mavala Stop - a paint-on formula that's recommended for nail
biters and thumb suckers.
It has a REALLY nasty bitter chemical taste that stopped our
8-year-old thumb sucker in his tracks after just one application.
PB
Purchase MAVALA STOP on Amazon.com. It has no scent and works
like magic. It killed my son's relentless habit of thumb
sucking and my nephew's habit of nail biting in less than a
week. We'd place it on when they were sleeping and never knew
what happened but have no more habits. Follow through and she
will stop for life!
been there
Our daughter started peeling off her finger nail tips at about
that age, and I was concerned about it until I read the
book ''Your Three Year Old'' by the Gesell Institute, where it
stated that at about 3.5, many kids will start some kind of
repeating behavior on their body such as biting nails or
twisting hair, which they will outgrow. And our daughter was 4
in October and no longer plays with her nails. So, it's
probably just a behavior normal for the age that she will
outgrow.
Mom of 2
May 2008
My recently turned 4 year old daughter started biting her nails to the quick just
before her 4th birthday. Her father, grandparents, and I are desperately trying to
figure out what we can do or say to get her to stop biting her nails. We are also
concerned about what's triggering the nail biting. Anxiety, fear, boredom? When I
ask her why she does it, she either does not answer or she says ''. . .because I like
to''. Any suggestions? We tried hot sauce once, but she actually liked the taste of
it. We have tried bribery, such as promising a special treat if she can abstain.
Someone suggested gloves, but I have not been able to find gloves in her size. Any
comments or suggestions would be appreciated. Thank you.
Concerned Mom
Both my children are extremely oral. They both bit there nails
starting at age 3. It
took each of them a year to stop.I had to constantly remind them
to keep their
fingers out of their mouth whenever I saw them do it. I also
provided them
with''chewy toys'' which they could chew on instead. I got these
from ''The Therapy
Shoppe'' online. They look like the letter P and have no latex in
them. After, a year
each one was able to stop. Actually, I am amazed since both my
husband and I bite
are nails and I know how difficult it is to stop. When she says
she likes it. She does!
You have to be consistent and positive. Tell her you know she can
do it! Also, try to
figure out when she does it. In front of the TV? During quiet
time? While reading a
book? Make sure she has her ''chewy toy'' during these times!
Keep at it!
May 2000
My nearly 4 year old has taken to biting her nails. Any successful
strategies & remedies that stop this habit?
Thanks!
Rebecca
Is your child under some sort of stress? Is he favoring some fingers and
not others? Homeopathy and Jin Shin Jyutsu may be helpful in sorting out
underlying and helping any underlying issues contributing to this habit.
I began nail biting around that age and, in retrospect, think additional
stress from a new sibling and another eye operations were factors.
My daughter started biting her nails in kindergarten. We talked about how
peopel sometimes do certain things when they are nervous and how they can
develop into habits. What really worked was making special manicure dates
("you're soaking in it!") and allowing her to have a special activity (she
loves tickle fights) for days when I cut her nails. She knows if she has
no nails to be cut, then no tickle fight. We also made up other finger
movements to do when she felt like biting her nails. I occasionally see her
fingers in her mouth, and gently remind her that there are germs under her
nails, but they are no longer bitten to the quick.
Billi
2001
I just found out from our daycare provider that our son, who is nearly four,
is biting his nails. I am concerned that this is a sign of some stress he is
experiencing, but am not sure how to proceed. Has anyone ever had this issue
come up with their child? If so, what did you do?
Thanks.
My 5-year old daughter has been biting her nails since she was about three, but
over the last year the habit seems to have gotten worse. During that time,
there haven't been any major changes in our life or routine, and according to
her kindergarten teacher, she's happy, alert and involved with classmates at
school, which is big on nurturing and encouraging rather than academics. My
daughter bites her nails even when she's relaxing at home, watching TV, and of
course, when she's in a situation in which she feels unsure or anxious, one hand
or the other is always in her mouth. Sometimes she bites until a finger bleeds.
She has told me repeatedly that she wants to stop -- among other reasons,
because I've told her she can't have nail polish until she does. I know that
reminding her or nagging is not helpful. Is anything?
My daughter, now 4, has developed the bad habit of biting her nails.
Sometimes she bites so much of the nail off that her finger tips hurt. There have
been no new developments in the house -birth, death, etc., and she seems to be
well adjusted. She is a thumb sucker and I encourage her to suck her thumb if
she feels that she needs/wants to. ANy suggestions on what to do or not to do ??
Both my 10 year old son and I habitually peel our nails. Although my
habit has lessened over the years, my son's habit got so bad that he
started to get infections on his fingers from tearing the skin around
his nails. We have been able to control his habit using two methods.
First, we have made one of his favorite activities (in his case
electronic "media time", i.e., use of the VCR, non-homework related
computer use, and gameboy time) conditional on his nail condition.
Second, we give him small toys, like malleable erasers, wikki stix
(sp?) and flexible interlocking shapes, to play with when he would
otherwise peel his nails. For our son, it was very important to
provide an alternative, non-destructive way of directing his need to
fidget. When we just forbade him from peeling his nails without
giving him another outlet, he just switched over to picking at his
cuticles, lips, shoes and clothes. We have found good "fidgets" at
the Therapy Shoppe on the internet, although any small, malleable
items seem to work for our son. Good luck!
Nov 2005
I'm looking for advice on how to help my five year old daughter
stop biting her nails. She has been biting her nails for about 2
years. I had hoped she would outgrow this habit so did not say
much other than occasionally telling her that it was a bad habit
as it did not look good and exposed her to lots of germs.
However, I've noticed that she now seems to be biting her nails
even shorter. She does have the stress of starting kindergarten
and new part-time childcare. However, she seems to love both.
Having two type A parents, she is a bit Type A. Any ideas? Does
the yukky tasting nail polish work? Would painting her nails
pretty colors regularly work? (I hate to encourage that at such a
young age but she would love it.) Are there any other
relaxation, distraction type techniques that work? I've checked
past posts and their were surprisingly few on this topic and I
would like to hear more. Thanks.
mom of nailbiter
My daughter is now 11 and has stopped, again, to bite her nails.
As far as I'm concerned, I couldn't stop until I was 13. My
daughter sucked her thumb until she was 5 and stopped upon
entering kindergarten. She started bitting her nails afterwards.
Having been there myself, I knew no threat, nore rewards would
work until it came from her. She stopped for a while around 9,
after a manucure, I had just told her that the bitting would
damage the nail polish. I've always reassured her that I knew
she would stop one day and that I was there to provide support if
she needed it. Then one day I read about the vibration of stones
and how some have specific healing powers. I told her I had read
that onyx is a ''separation'' stone and can help break bad habbits,
I asked her if she wanted me to buy her and onyx bracelet. She
loved the idea and hasn't removed the bracelet since, nore has
she bitten her nails again. When she feels she might start again
I immediatly propose to give her my full manucure treatment.
It's worked pretty well so far.
anonymous
I've bitten my nails since I was a child. I have stopped several
times, for maximum stretches of about a year, but always start up
again later eventually.
My parents tried lots of techniques to make me stop. They used
the gross nail polish, but since kids eat so much with their
hands anyway, pretty soon everything tasted like the nail polish
and I didn't mind it anymore. They offered me rewards when I
didn't bite my nails for a while, and that worked but I started
pulling out hair instead. I think it's important to realize that,
for many, nailbiting is at least as much tactile as it is oral.
It's not so much an anxiety-related habit for me as just
something to do with an idle hand while reading or working.
Nowadays, the best way to keep myself from biting is with
activities that REQUIRE me to use both hands at once, like knitting.
As a nailbiter, I'm sure I'm biased, but really, how awful a
habit is it? If you insist that your daughter wash her hands
regularly, it's not likely to be a real health hazard. Painting
her nails prettily might help, but flaking polish is a huge
invitation to bite. If you're worried that the biting is a
symptom of stress, I'd recommend that you deal with the root
cause; if it's just a concern of looks, bitten nails really
aren't a big deal. I'm a well-dressed, neatly-groomed
professional, and, while I often wish I had longer, prettier
nails, I've never felt embarrassed by or looked down upon because
of the stubs.
Nailbiter
Feb 2001
My 5-year old daughter has been biting her nails since she was about three, but
over the last year the habit seems to have gotten worse. During that time,
there haven't been any major changes in our life or routine, and according to
her kindergarten teacher, she's happy, alert and involved with classmates at
school, which is big on nurturing and encouraging rather than academics. My
daughter bites her nails even when she's relaxing at home, watching TV, and of
course, when she's in a situation in which she feels unsure or anxious, one hand
or the other is always in her mouth. Sometimes she bites until a finger bleeds.
She has told me repeatedly that she wants to stop -- among other reasons,
because I've told her she can't have nail polish until she does. I know that
reminding her or nagging is not helpful. Is anything?
Lorraine
Both my 10 year old son and I habitually peel our nails. Although my
habit has lessened over the years, my son's habit got so bad that he
started to get infections on his fingers from tearing the skin around
his nails. We have been able to control his habit using two methods.
First, we have made one of his favorite activities (in his case
electronic "media time", i.e., use of the VCR, non-homework related
computer use, and gameboy time) conditional on his nail condition.
Second, we give him small toys, like malleable erasers, wikki stix
(sp?) and flexible interlocking shapes, to play with when he would
otherwise peel his nails. For our son, it was very important to
provide an alternative, non-destructive way of directing his need to
fidget. When we just forbade him from peeling his nails without
giving him another outlet, he just switched over to picking at his
cuticles, lips, shoes and clothes. We have found good "fidgets" at
the Therapy Shoppe on the internet, although any small, malleable
items seem to work for our son. Good luck!
July 2001
Our 8 year old daughter has a serious nail biting habit. This includes
both fingernails and toenails. She has bitten her nails as long as I can
recall, and most are about one-half their otherwise normal length. What to do? How does one
break a habit of this sort? I recall biting my nails as a kid and one day, in about ninth grade,
thinking, gee, this doesn't look so great, and never doing it again. There are no serious stresses
in her life, fortunately. I don't know whether to let this go or do something about it, and have
no idea what that something would be. No one else in the family shares this habit. Thanks for
any words of wisdom.
I was a terrible nail biter as a child, all the way through high school. I don't
know why I did it, but suddenly I just stopped. I had tried using one of those
"stop biting" nail polishes, but the bad taste was only a deterrent until I got
used to it. One thing that worked for me sometimes was to paint my nails a
color (though once it got chipped I would usually bite them all off again).
Thinking back, I wonder if it wasn't a perfectionism thing, because even now
when my nails get uneven I have an almost uncontrollable urge to bite them
all down to the same length. Perhaps, if money is not too much of an issue, you
could take your daughter in for manicures on a regular basis...maybe if they
start looking better and are well-kept, she'll lose the urge to bite them.
On the other hand, some people are just biters, and maybe focusing a lot of
attention on it will only serve to add stress and encourage the biting. I suppose
if it doesn't bother her and you can live with it, you might just want to wait
until she comes naturally to the decision to stop biting.
Heather
I was a nail biter. It finally dawned on my that I bit them when I realized my
nails needed trimming. This was usually during down time...riding in the car,
sitting in class daydreaming, reading etc. and I did not have the implements I
needed to trim them....those were at home, in my bedroom or bathroom. So my
solution was to put nail clippers in my purse, or in my desk, or in my car so they
were there when I needed them. Most of the time now, I do not bite my nails.
But sometimes, they just are too long, and gotta go.
Jan 2009
I am a 37 yo nail biter making a resolution to stop. Everything that I have tried have failed, including therapy, creams, etc. Any ideas?
S.
Hi,
I was a major nail-biter from the time I was old enough to
remember until I was in my 20's. I tried everything to stop
and nothing helped. I'm talking nails bitten down to the quick
and skin picked at all the time. I then learned a very simple
method that worked amazingly well for me.
I put a rubber band on my wrist, and when I found myself biting
or picking, I snapped it. You have to snap it hard enough to
hurt at least a little. Within three or four days my nail
biting was cut down to almost nothing. Every so often I find
myself relapsing and then I put the rubber band back on for a
few days.
Hope this helps,
Former Biter
I have a problem with biting my nails sometimes and have for much
of my life.
What I have found to work for me is to go get manicures.
There is also a product that you can buy at the drug store. I
think it's called no bite or something like that. It is a clear
nail polish that has a bitter taste so when you stick your finger
in your mouth you will be reminded.
I sometimes fall back on my nail biting ways, but the manicures
are a very relaxing way for me to get my hands back in order. If
I really go off on a bad binge, which hasn't happened in a long
time, it may take going for a manicure every week for a few
weeks. You'll be amazed how quickly your hands start looking
good when they get through with you.
I'm a guy, and I love it.
That's my advice. Good luck.
former/sometime nailbiter
March 2003
I have been a nail biter my entire life. I have tried
EVERYTHING to stop - manicures, that ''bad tasting stuff'', even
acrylic nails - which I can successful bite as well. I am at my
wits end. I hate what my hands look like, I hate the pain I
cause myself and I hate what I am doing to my body. I am hoping
that somebody has a suggestion as to what to do now. Would
acupuncture help? I'm open to anything and hoping for some
recommendations.
Biting Away
This worked for me - but maybe you are not as vain as I am.
Let's see. It can't hurt, right? I was a serious nail biter
all my life - bloody cuticles, the whole deal. As a young adult
I was told by someone whom I really cared for that I would be a
pretty woman if it weren't for my hands. That did it. A
lifetime of pain and embarrassment ended. I have rewarded myself
with regular manicures, fancy hand creams, etc - and now people
compliment my hands. What a feeling. So, without ever having
seen you I say to you: You would be a really attractive person
if it weren't for your hands!
Good Luck - you can do it!
Adult Nail Biter wants to stop
I finally stopped biting my nails after 30+ years. In addition
to regular manicures to keep them looking good, I tried to
fixate on my nails in a positive way by rubbing lotion into them
on a regular basis. I would massage the base of each nail,
which I understood stimulates nail growth and was a good outlet
for my nervous energy. I chewed a lot of gum, too.
Been There
Maybe you should try seeing a therapist rather than trying to
solve the biting issue, if all of the other products didnt work
then maybe there is something else going on. Good Luck!
Good Luck
Hi,
I discovered that if I have about 1 mm of nail and it is filed
smoothly (no snangs to pull on), I can grow my nails for a while
(until I relaps and have to start again). Also, try to figure out
WHEN you bite. I usually bite my nails when I read or watch TV.
In that case, you can just wear cotton gloves or something else
to cover your nails. I am currently managing to bite only two
nails, and although it looks a little funny, it's better than
nothing.
Good luck,
Limor.
You may not be willing to try this, but for me smoking helped,
just don't go overboard with it. It replaces the hand/mouth
fetish and makes your fingers taste bad. Add a coat of nail
strengthener (or a manicure) to guard against breakage and give
yourself a week to see results. I don't chain smoke and now only
occassionally light up when sitting alone in traffic. Another
thing to try is painting... clear out a room and let your
imagination fly... if you use oil or latex you get the same bad
taste affect as well!
used to bite, then i smoked, now i paint
My two-cents on nail biting: I was also a terrible nail biter,
from the time I was a small child until my early twenties. What
I finally realized was that I just have trouble sitting still -
so I bit while in class, watching tv, movies, etc. My solution
was to keep my hands or mouth busy, by doodling, chewing gum,
munching on small candies, like m&m's or skittles. I am now at a
point that I become aware of having my hands near my face right
away, and can stop the behavior. I still have trouble sitting
still, and see the same tendency in my daughter.
Kristen
Nov 2005
I am another lifelong adult nailbiter who has had very limited
success in stopping for any length of time. The posts on this
topic from two-plus years ago are not helpful to me. Has anyone
had any success with hypnosis or some other alternative therapy?
Other ideas beyond the usual (manicures, distraction, positive
visualization, etc.)?
Still hoping for a cure
Nailbiting can be a symptom of pica, eating non-food items, usually
traced to a mineral deficiency. An evaluation of what minerals may be
lacking in your diet could help. Also, many people use nailbiting as a
means to reduce stress. If this is you, then stress reduction
techniques, nutritional support, and some adaptogenic herbs may help
you.
Nori Hudson
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