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I am wondering if there are any single mom's out there that are birth Doulas? My daughter is 6. I have her 50% of the time and am wondering if it is possible to be a single parent and be a birth Doula. I would love any advice or support around this potential career choice. Also, I would welcome any info anyone might have on Doula training classes in the East Bay or San Francisco. Thanks
In speaking with other doulas I know that if postponing the trip is recommended, the doula still comes over to your house and checks your temperature on a regular basis to make sure there is no infection. I am pretty sure our doula gave us such negligent advice and did not check in as she should have because it was night and she had no other care for her child. As a result, my daughter's start in life was unduly traumatic (5 spinal taps!!) and could have easily been avoided. I am still traumatized and cannot talk about that week without crying.
I would never recommend a doula that does not have a back up plan for care for her own kid(s) (I actually hesitate to recommend one at all after my experience). If you have a strong network of support, then go for it. But please, always second guess yourself when you are feeling stressed about having to leave your kid to attend a birth! You could be making suggestions that can have significant impact on the family you are responsible for. Lise
Hello, I am interested in becoming a postpartum doula. I have completed almost all the prerequisites necessary before doing the DONA workshop/training. I have a few questions, though, and wondered if anyone out there might be able to help me, on- or off-list.
Mostly I'm wondering how important being DONA-certified is. I would like to work pro-bono, with women who couldn't otherwise afford a doula, and finance this work by also working for people who can pay well. I would probably only doula part-time (as I'm also a book editor and would like to continue doing that as well). If it's possible, I'd like to start trying to get work soon rather than waiting until next year (which is the soonest there's a DONA postpartum workshop in the Bay Area, according to the DONA website). As long as I'm clear about my experience/ qualifications, is it ethical to advertise my services on Craigslist or BPN?
I have experience as a postpartum doula with friends and their newborns; I have two decades of experience with children, including newborns; and I have a 5-year-old son that I breastfed for 3 years, during which time I read many books on the subject. Mostly, I'm a big believer in this work being potentially the difference between a positive postpartum experience and a negative one--and I'm excited about providing the support to new mamas that I did not myself have.
Thank you for your time
I just wanted to give you some unsolicited advice for once you do start helping other women (hope that's ok). First, please don't put down anyone for having pain meds or going through a c- section because there are many reasons why these things are used and your job is to be helping. If you don't believe in these things or are even biased against them, make it very clear from the outset so that you save people from emotional trauma during the first few weeks of recovering. Second, try to make it clear beforehand what your job will be - if you're preparing meals, make a plan for what meals you could make beforehand so that you'll be ready to buy the ingredients and cook everything without being constantly supervised or interrupting people trying to sleep. Third, try to make it easier for the parents, not just for yourself. Don't make the baby sleep all day to make it easier for you, only to leave the parents with a wakeful baby at night (although I realize this will naturally be the baby's rhythm at first). Try to plan what you'll need to clean around the house beforehand, and think of ways to make things easier (for ex., how to arrange baby items). Fourth, if the limits of your breastfeeding assistance is to schedule an appointment with a lactation consultant, don't market yourself as an expert in breastfeeding.
I don't mean anything personally against you in this message, I just don't want anyone else to have as bad an experience as we did. It sounds so far that you're a genuinely decent person, so I wish you luck in your very noble endeavor. Anon
I am interested in becoming a postpartum doula, but would like to talk to someone who has done it to find out if I would be good at it and enjoy it. I would like to know what the training is like and if there is work to be had. Please email me with your information so I can call when it's convenient for you. Thank you! Elizabeth
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