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Our soon-to-be 19 year old son is finishing community college in another town, living in a rental company house with 5 other boys. He is not doing well academically but has learned to navigate being on his own and surviving ok. He has some friends and a life. He is stressing out about not having a definite career path. Or some direction. He loves cell phones and games. He has taken basics this year in college. He was a preemie and has some educational/vision problems. Who can I refer him to for testing in late May when he is home again? He went to career dept. on campus recently and took tests telling him to become a paralegal or florist. Neither are good for him...he has no idea about flowers/gardening and is not detail oriented to become a paralegal. Any suggestions for assisting him? Son needs a path
I realize it's your son who is stressing, maybe more than you, but I would encourage him to keep taking his general education requirements and not stress too much about his career yet. Going to school, working a part-time job, and growing up are important growth steps also.
''A career'' is such a monolithic idea, it can seem very esoteric. In reality, most jobs are not well-known, like police officer or fire fighter. I work as a writer for nonprofits, assisting the fundraising departments--a job that my journalism teacher had never heard of when I asked her for ideas of non-journalism writing careers. Your son can look at local job listings and read the descriptions to learn more about what people do in their careers. Encourage him to attend job fairs on campus an elsewhere and chat with the people at the tables. Have him ask people what they do for a living. Internships and volunteering are great ways to test drive jobs.
Most 19-year-olds don't know what they want to do for a living yet. Ironically, I did--I'd always wanted to be a writer. And everyone discouraged me! We all have different paths to our adult jobs. time and patience
My young adult started sophomore year in college and is having a difficult time choosing a major, torn between English courses that she enjoys and the feeling that she should major in the far more rigorous sciences because she would really get to know a subject in depth. While I'm happy to have her pursue either direction, I think she could use some guidance as she seems increasingly upset about her indecision. Her university doesn't provide much in the way of advising and I wonder if there are other resources that she should consider. Or should I just let her deal with it? Wondering the best way to be supportive.
But here's the lowdown - and it is key. If your daughter loves her English courses and does *great* in them, and doesn't love science and doesn't do nearly as well, consider the hard cold fact that *every* major corporation asks any prospective employee what his / her GPA was as an undergrad and automatically eliminate anyone under 3.5GPA for the interesting jobs.
Yes, 3.5GPA is usually the cutoff - and people 30 years out of college have faced this question in their job hunt in recent years, so it doesn't go away.
So if she is considering a science degree cynically, but is not a tip-top student in the field, but is a great student in English or psych or history or polisci or econ or anthropology, and she does not intend to go on to a Ph.D. in research and instead is thinking of working for Google or HP or GM or a startup, consider the GPA and the passion.
Because when all is said and done, it's the passion and the skill (as measured in the objective of a GPA) that employers consider.
Finally, if she wants to go on to a Ph.D. in English or anthropology or history or economics, or maybe to law or business school (realize most humanities, law and business are pretty flexible about your undergraduate major), a tip-top GPA and GRE gets her into the best graduate schools.
So the most important thing is to *love* your field, build your mentorships with professors, do internships (I was in DC last month on Capital Hill and met some great Congressional interns) and *excel*. University is *not* just training for your next job - it is intended as an apprenticeship for depth in a field and instill teach flexibility in an ever-changing global economy. Good Luck
I would have a frank conversation with her. There's no need to spend time or money on college/life counselors/coaches, etc. If you are wealthy and willing to support her indefinitely, I would encourage her to major in English. Tell her you will finance her happiness. Otherwise, I would encourage her to major in science and start preparing for graduate school. Tell her you want her to be able to afford rent and groceries and maybe an occasional night on the town. Lots of classes in English won't make that happen. A career in science probably will. Former Liberal Arts Pauper
Really? Here are the cold hard facts of my corporate life at a Johnson & Johnson company. J&J is MAJOR - #33 on the Fortune 500 list - and never do we consider grades in hiring. We have a young staff. We hire people straight out of college, as well as people in their 30s and beyond, and we don't ask about grades. I checked with other departments to see if hiring policies vary and managers laughed at the question. We hire people whose skills and personalities fit our corporate culture and can do an excellent job. Period. And we test people to see if they'll be able to do the job. We're a high-tech company, serving millions of parents around the world. We hire marketers, product managers, engineers, editors, salespeople, and many other types. The proof is in the pudding -- grades tell you nothing. Same goes for where you got your degree(s). We've discovered that going to Harvard doesn't mean you're brilliant or that we want to work with you. We end up hiring people with all sorts of college backgrounds. As one manager in another department put it when I asked her for a reality check, ''grades are only important for getting into college.'' I've worked for three other huge corporations as well, and never were grades mentioned. Come on people, this is the real world. Good grades do not equal success in adult life. I'm sure there *are* companies that require a certain gradepoint average. But as bureaucratic and stodgy as J&J can be (the company is 100+ years old), it does not have any such policy. And would you really want to work for one that did? Lighten up and stop worrying about what your kids major in. Enjoy your children and encourage them to pursue their passions. College is only the beginning of a long, long journey. I've been out of college for decades and only now do I see what I *should* have majored in! Yes, youth is wasted on the young. And there's nothing we can do about it. -- A contented corporate drone
sign me as: former English and language major doing nicely without $$ from Mom and Dad
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