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Baby Won't Sleep in the Crib
My 5 month old is a great night sleeper, sleeping 11 hours straight in his crib without any crying at all but naps are a totally different story. We try to lay him down 3 times a day for naps when he is first showing signs of being tired but to no avail he cries for a whole hour before we go in and pick him up. We have been doing this for about 2 weeks now with no improvement and he always ends up either falling asleep in our arms or in the stroller when we go for a walk. Why might he be so opposed to day time sleeping in his crib but not nighttime? Any suggestions greatly appreciated. Dana
This may sound high-maintenance, but in the month or so since we started doing it, it's gone from being an hour-long process (at least sometimes) to about 10 minutes, max... the end result being that she's getting more good naptime, and we're both much less stressed out by the whole process. - Not Crying It Out
My 5 month old is improving night sleep (puts herself to sleep, weaning from 3 nursings per night) but we can not get her to nap in her crib (which is in our bedroom) during the day! She cries as soon as she is put down. She easily falls asleep if we walk her, but wakes up if she is put down. I have read multiple books (no cry sleep solution, Healthy sleep habits, happy child, Sleepeasy solution). Right now we are doing the cry it out as recommended by Sleepeasy solution--we are on day 3 without any improvment. I haven't let her cry more than a little over an hour. I know from getting our baby to take the bottle that she can cry many, many hours. It is one thing when there is no choice but the bottle for her and I am at work. But, when there is the option of stopping the crying by having her nap in her stroller or baby carrier while we walk her it is hard to not cave in.
How long can I let her cry when trying to get her to nap? I currently spend 3-4 hours per day walking her to get her to sleep--something I will not be able to do when back at work full time. Please no responses about how crying it out is cruel--we have really tried everything else. anon
Like you, I tried absolutely everything (including letting him cry for over an hour for 5 consecutive days with no success), read all the books you mentioned, and even paid 2 different ''sleeep consultants''. Finally, after I was literally on the verge of suicide because of his failure to sleep (and resulting monster-like behavior from being chronically overtired), I put him in a daycare that we could hardly afford. There he finally learned to follow the pack and nap on his own.
Sadly, he still doesn't do this at home, as i mentioned in my intro paragraph. On weekends/holidays, i put him in his crib, he cries for 15-20 minutes, then i go back in and he falls asleep quickly in my arms. Nothing else works for us.
If daycare is not an option for you, hopefully some of the other wonderful parents on BPN will have some better advice that both of us can follow! I basically just wanted to let you know that you're not alone and I wish you the best of luck. And if you need to commiserate, feel free to email me at eldee121 at yahoo.com. another tired mama
Our daughter was used to napping in her swing, but at the age of 5 or 6 month we had to wean her off it, because it stopped working. We went through a LOT of screaming, which was very hard on us, but now I feel very good about what we have done, because she learned how to nap independently. She is 15 months old now, and occasionally she'd refuse to nap, too, but we don't cave in, and that's the trick to it.
Also, maybe your daughter is transitioning from three naps to two naps, and it makes it harder for her to fall asleep. Olga
So our four month old is sleeping in bed with us and waking a lot to nurse. We've been trying to get her into the crib which is like a sidecar right next to the bed but just no dice. She'll sleep for a while but wakes. She likes the crib- plays and coos, but won't sleep. Then when she lies on our bed she conks out. I worry about blankets etc. but I'm wondering if the crib is so totally un-cozy. Any other thoughts? Am opposed to sleep training. deb
First let me say that our 5-month-old son doesn't have a problem sleeping in his crib at night. And, he takes naps in our arms, in his stroller, in his carseat...just about anywhere except his crib. In fact, whenever we try to place him in his crib after he has been asleep for a few minutes, he immediately wakes and the crying begins. We have tried the Ferber method, but give up after 30 to 45 minutes. It's not practical to let him sleep in our arms every time, even though WE like it. And, we can't take him for a ride all the time, either. Any suggestions? Mike
My wonderful 3 month old son has a problem napping in his crib. At night he sleeps very well in a cradle beside our bed. During the day he loves to sleep a lot, but can't seem to stay asleep in the crib. He can sleep in the carseat (his favorite), the stroller, someone's arms, in the middle of a loud restaurant (all of these are exceptions to the rule- generally we are at home for his longest daytime nap), but he can't take a nap of more than 20 minutes in the crib. If he is groggy when I put him down he will generally wake up and need to be soothed several times. If he manages to fall asleep in there he will be awake no more than 20 minutes later and will not go back to sleep. The room is somewhat dark, although not completely. Something about the crib environment seems to both make him sleep lightly and get very excited and animated when he wakes, so that he gets very hyper instead of going back to sleep. I have been trying to teach him to sleep in the crib, but he just gets grumpier and grumpier throughout the day as he gets more and more tired without a good nap. Finally in the last couple weeks I have relented and let him nap in his carseat (which I put in the crib, just to try and give him the idea), where he sleeps for 2-3 hours for his longest nap with no fussing at all. The problem with this is that 1. his head is getting flat in the back and 2. he will outgrow the seat soon, and then what will I do? Do I need to be doing a naptime routine at this age? Usually after he has been awake for 1-2 hours he starts looking tired and I just put him down, give him his pacifier and rub his forehead until he closes his eyes. He is still sleeping so much that I pretty much do it on as as needed basis rather than scheduling it (I used the Baby Whisperer quite a bit). I think I am reading his signs right, but something about his crib does not equal sleep to my little guy. I have thought of making the room darker or adding white noise, but he sleeps great in his room in his carseat-so I think that it is not necessarily the conditions of the room. I took the mobile down and put it back up with no discernable effect. I am now at a loss and soon he will be super flat headed and too big for his carseat. Any advice would be much appreciated. Rebecca
It sounds to me like your little one wants a smaller, more snuggly sleeping space (arms, carseat, cradle). The crib is wide-open pastures to a little person. Can't the baby sleep in the cradle, bassinet or carseat? I know there are health issues (head flattening) with the carseat, but our pediatrician told us to just roll up a towel and place it beside our son's head in the carseat, alternating sides now and then, so he was forced to change head positions
Another thing is that once your baby learns to roll over and gets more mobile, he will want more space and will hate being restrained in the carseat. Our son slept in his seat till he was nearly six months. I was just starting to wonder how to build a toddler-sized carseat when, lo and behold, he started getting fussy in the carseat and switched to the crib without any drama at all. We also put the carseat into the crib -- I don't know if it helped but at least he gets used to the space, right? Good luck! Catherine
This time, she was much more accepting, but tended to flip around a lot. Once I found her on her stomach, still swaddled!! I eventually tried using a sleep positioner in the crib, and that works great. I think it makes her feel more secure (like in the smaller bassinet), and I don't worry about her flipping over and smothering. Hope this helps! anon
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