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Insomnia relief

Sept 2004

I have had insomnia issues through much of my life (as do many of my family members) and recently this problem has been exacerbated by the stresses of a move, new job, big life changes--stress. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to alleviate this? I get good exercise, do not partake of caffeine, and, when sleepless, get up and do something until I am tired again. I also keep pretty regular hours. I am afraid to take sleeping pills because I am very sensitive to drugs and cannot afford to wake up groggy. But if anyone can suggest a mild sleeping pill or possibly a gentle homeopathic sleeping aid, I'd be interested to hear about it. Thanks! Tired


I suffered severe insomnia due to a thyroid disorder (have you had your's checked?), and my wife suffered too, due to post menopause. We both take antidepressants. She takes a low dose of Trazodone, and I take Sinequan. These medicines correct brain chemistry to allow natural sleep to happen, and we wake up refreshed. I wasn't keen on taking a med for sleeping, but I realized a good night's sleep was too important to miss out on. I too am sensitive to meds, but after many tries, I found one that worked for me. Before Sinequan, I tried Ambien and Xanax, and I felt more knocked out, and groggy the next day, not to mention the addicting nature of those meds. Also, have you had a sleep study for sleep apnea? Good luck. Anon
I have had the same problem for years. I usually drink a very strong , yet small cup of chamomile tea before bed(if I drink a whole cup i wake up in the middle of the night to pee)...on bad nights i take a tablet or half tablet of Melatonin (the timed release kind). Melatonin works wonders but I worry about taking it daily...check it out...:-0 been there
I have chronic insomnia and have tried everything you mention. I'm currently taking trazodone, 1/2 the lowest recommended dose, and it's helping. (Trazodone is an antidepressant, and the dose for insomnia is a small fraction of the dosage for depression.) I do feel a bit buzzed during the day, I admit, but also less tired. I don't sleep soundly with such a low dose, but, when I wake up, I fall back asleep easily. Good luck. Wish there were better solutions!
Try Valerian Root tincture (available in Whole Foods, etc). It works quite well. Take it about an hour before bedtime. Also, believe it or not, I count backwards, starting with odd numbers such as 147. It can help, too. Good luck. kim
I have also suffered from insomnia all my adult life and it seems to run in my family. This year (with the pressing needs of 2 little ones at home) I commited myself to really trying to find some solutions because it had become such a quality of life issue. You already mentioned some good things that you do and there are a couple of other issues to consider. If you haven't already, then I'd recommend reading some insomnia books where I got some good points.

One issue that I learned (from my reading) is that you have to accurately assess how much sleep you really need and only try to sleep for that long. If you regularly need 7 hours of sleep but are in bed from 10-6 over time your sleep will become disrupted/disjointed and will deteriorate seriously... this has been tested.

Another helpful tip is to keep a sleep journal for a few months keeping track of your sleep as well as any issues that you think might be effecting it such as stress at work, sporadic exercise, diet, etc. In doing this I discovered that my insomnia was partly caused by monthly hormonal cycles.

For a mild sleeping pill, try melatonin. Both my mom and I have recently tried and found it works well. My doctor said it was fine to use and it has been tested in double-blind studies in Germany and found to be safe. I take a low dosage (.5 mg) when I'm really have problems and at least at that level it feels pretty natural and is very helpful. Good luck. roxanne


Try Hyland's Calms Forte (it is a homeopathic remedy), available at Whole Foods (and I'm sure at other health food stores as well). It certainly isn't as powerful as a sleeping pill, but it often takes the edge off sleeplessness and helps me to relax when I'm having trouble sleeping. an occasional insomniac
Standford Hospital's sleep clinic has a cognitive behavior insomnia treatment program which I found faily helpful and many people found extremely helpful. Its a 9 week program and at least it was a relief to be among insomniacs. Good Luck anon
It is nice to know that you are willing to try natural methods. But it is difficult to say that a handful of Homeopathic medicine will help you without actually taking your case. It would be wise if you approach a professional Homeopath who would be able to take your whole case and then prescribe you the right constitutional medicine. You will be surprised that it will not only help you in your insomnia but also in the overall health. You can contact me as a Homeopath. Hope I might be able to help you in sleeping well!!! You can either give me a call at 510.684.4248 or e-mail me at anamikastoller@yahoo.com. Anamika

Time to do something about my insomnia

Feb 2004

So the baby is sleeping great, but I've decided it's finally time to do something about the fact that I'm not. I've been an insomniac since I was about 8 years old and I want to know about serious solutions. Please-- no folk remedies, I've tried 'em all. I'm interested in taking things up a notch. I've heard about sleep centers that diagnose problems, but I'm also curious to hear about other things. Medications? A little gentle brain surgery? Bring on the big guns! Thanks for your help. sleepy


Boy, do I remember that stage--seemed my body just wasn't able to relax after the months of having to wake because of the baby. My sympathies to you. For me, it was a stage that did not last that long-- maybe at most a month, month and a half. Though I know going through it is torture. Since I was still nursing, i tried the over-the-counter homeopathic remedies. For me, the Hyland Brand, Insomnia formula worked best, same brand, Calms Forte, second best. If you're still nursing, check with your doctor about what's okay to take. You might also check out a book called, The Promise of Sleep. It's a huge, comprehensive book on just about everything related to sleep. Lot's of information and very readable. Good luck and Sweet Dreams. Carolyn
I've had trouble with insomnia during three periods in my life, and it's been really hard. I really sympathize. There are probably books on the subject. Since you have had the problem for so long, perhaps a sleep clinic would be good. But, in terms of medication, I've recently had great luck with paxil. Apparently, one of the side effects is that it makes you drowsy in the evening. Also, if (like me) you believe that stress or anxiety over other issues may contribute to the insomnia, paxil reportedly is helpful on that front as well. (As I understand it, paxil is generally prescribed for anxiety or depression. In my case, I was not having anxiety attacks per se, but just feeling generally overwhelmed by a number of issues that were simultaneously demanding my attention.) I also have been prescribed an antedepressant (I think trazadone) to use on the evenings that I find myself having trouble falling asleep. I understand that it is not addictive, as other sleep medications may be, but again has the side-effect of causing drowsiness. While trazadone has worked well for me, I try not to use it too often, because it does leave me feeling drowsy the following morning. Finally, if you have Kaiser, I think that it offers classes by a sleep specialist on dealing with insomnia, and those classes offer a lot of practical real world help (not simply meditation techniques). Good luck to you! Anon
Oh, boy, do I know what you are going through all too well! I am also an insomiac and have been for many years. At times, though, I have had excellent sleep patterns, but they never last too long. After having two kids 17 months apart in the last! three years, I am completely unable to sleep on my own without any drugs. What I do now is take a normal dose of Benedryl (or generic brand of the same thing) every night before bedtime, and it works like magic for me. If you don't function well the next day and feel really groggy, then it may not work for you. I don't have that problem so it's working for me. My doctor also was quite delighted at the fact that I can actually take Benedryl and still have a clear head in the morning. She much prefers that I take that instead of sleeping pills. You might want to talk to your doctor and see if you can try taking antihistamine to go to sleep. Sleeping Again
To the insomniac: Unlike you, I have not suffered from insomnia all my life, just postpartum, and until recently, it was hell!! I was terrified. I also tried many ''folk remedies'' as well as turning to sleeping pills. I also went to a sleep center for an initial consultation, and felt very dismissed, though many do indeed have in-depth studies done on them there. It's part of Summit. If you have been suffering from this for decades, HELL YES, it's worth getting a serious analysis done. You'll have to start with your regular doctor, who can then refer you. If you want more of my story and how it was ''solved,'' feel free to email me directly. allison
I have found a great solution to my insomnia problem. There's a drug called Remeron, an atypical antidepressant originally developed as an anti-histamine. At high doses (45mg) it works as an anti-depressant, but at very, very low doses (3.5mg) taken at night before bedtime, it is a huge help with sleep. I take this tiny amount nightly (1/4 of a pill) and sleep like a baby after many years of horrible sleep. It has been truly amazing. If you do decide to look into it, you will find out that moderate or high doses can cause weight gain in some people. I almost refused to try it for fear that I would inflate, but have had no problem whatsoever. My appetite and weight have remained normal, and I've been taking the drug for going on two years. If you are ready for sleep and want a non-addictive, non- addling drug to help you get there, give it a try (you'll need to visit a shrink or GP for the prescription). Good luck! Rested, former insomniac

Relaxation tapes for insomnia

Feb 2004

Ever since my son was born almost three years ago I've had sleep issues -- anxiety, I think, about not being about to fall back to sleep, being exhausted the next day, etc (my son is a very early riser, and most days I'm up around 5:30 am). It takes me about an hour or more to get back to sleep when I'm awakened at night. Now that I'm expecting another baby I'm getting really worried. My son goes to preschool now so I can catch up on missed sleep during the day, but with a new baby I won't have this luxury. I tried to learn self-hypnosis for sleep a couple of years ago, but it didn't help enough. Now I'm wondering if anyone has a suggestion for some kind of relaxation tape I could listen to in the middle of the night, which would help me learn to fall back to sleep more easily. Perhaps something that I listen to a few times and then hopefully internalize. I'm just dreading how tired I'm going to be if I can't return to sleep easily after those every-three-hours nighttime feedings...Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! Already Tired


I can relate to your sleep anxiety, as I have suffered terrible insomnia post-partum. My son's over a year old, and my sleep has improved a lot, but there is always anxiety, and some nights are really rough. Some years down the road, we'd like to have another baby, but my biggest fear is around the sleep, so I can imagine your worry. As for relaxation music/ sounds, I burned a couple of cd's from my acupuncturist. They are basically Chinese music with some mellowing elements (but not too new-agey). I won't say they are a panacea, but they have been really soothing. I use one of them all the time to help my son fall asleep. Let me know if you'd like more info on them or want to burn them! allison
I also had the same problem - I could fall asleep but could not stay asleep. Here are the things that really helped me:

1. Thinking about the last dream that I had. Or even a dream that I had a few days before. It put my mind back into that sleep state.

2. Counting backwards from 100 in 3's.

The anxiety about not sleeping really added to the insomnia. If you can find a way to give up on stressing on that issue, I'm sure it will help.

There is a very good web page called Talk About Sleep. They have many books and CDs on insomnia and relation tapes and I can often find information there that is different than the standards. ( A very std thing that helped me also was to get the clock out of the room or turn it around so you can't see it.) Hope this helps. Been There


Any certified clinical hypnotherapist can make tapes that are specifically for you. I recommend Dr. Francis Dreher. He is excellent. He is in Kensington at Colusa Circle. 528 3738. Sydney

Husband has insomnia

July 2002

My husband has recurring problems with insomnia. It goes away and then returns with no predictable pattern. Work stress doesn't always bring it on, and exercise doesn't seem to help stave it off. Sometimes he'll be really tired, will go to sleep for 20 minutes at bedtime, then wake up unable to go back to sleep for several hours. He has tried Ambien (an MD's prescription) which usually--but not always--helps him sleep but he feels groggy in the morning. Do any of you have experience with alternative medicine and sleep? Any other techniques? We have 3 kids and it's hard to keep the house quiet so he can sleep in the afternoons when he hasn't slept all night... Thanks for your advice!


I have no experience with alternative medicine and sleep myself, but I know that Homeopathic medicine can help a great deal with that. There is a Homeopathic educational center in Berkeley, on Blake street, that can surely help you more than I can (they have books and some remedies). Reut
Your husband may be interested to read a new book called LIGHTS OUT by TS Wiley. Therein, Ms. Wiley gives some helpful understandings of our sleep cycle and ways to get back on track. I personally find 5-HTP (5 hydroxy tryptophan, a metabolite of L-tryptophan) works really well. Also, taking a warm Epsom salts bath relaxes my body. Finally, acupuncture and other body work can rebalance the body to ''get with the program'' to sleep when it's time. If your husband's pattern is easily disrupted by stress, some helpful herbal formulae are available. They are tailored to address the ''stressed and wired'' or ''stressed and tired'' types. Avoiding stimulants and sedatives and getting moderate exercise (not too late in the day) can also help recover a lost sleep pattern. Sleep disturbances can disrupt 10 hormones, so it's primary to find a solution soon. Nori

Can't sleep since child was born

May 2002

Ever since the birth of my baby 13 months ago, I've experienced very poor sleep - I have insomnia, hold my breath during periods of the night, and wake up often (my daughter is sleeping through the night so she is not the source of the problem). I am looking for recommendations for treatment from people who have had success treating similar sleep disorders and now can sleep deeply and restfully. I am open to acupuncture, homeopathy - etc. Any recommendations would be appreciated! sleepless in berkeley


I highly recommend yoga to help with sleeplessness. I too have had my sleep disrupted on and off for almost two years by a wonderful daughter with recurring sleep issues, but I always sleep really deeply after a good yoga class. -- Ilana
Dear sleepless Mom: I have had acute insomnia and now chronic sleep problems for the last 3 years, since my 3.5 years old was 4 months old. Over the years, after trying about 50 different approaches to deal with my sleep disorder, it has improved to a manageable level (about 5-6 hours of sleep a night). I was even able to get a second child, and survived it! I feel that there is not one cause to my insomnia, nor is there one solution to the problem...In addition to sleeping pills that help me fall asleep on most nights, I have tried (or am trying) meditation, stress management, massages, accupuncture, homeopathy, and therapy...they all have contributed to incremental improvements, but none have proved to be a magic bullet (including the sleeping pills who often don't help either!). There are lots of good ressources in the East bay, some of which I have tried...
I had this problem when my son was younger, too. It was terrible! He finally started sleeing through the night, but the slightest noise would wake me up and I'd stay up. After many weeks of exhaustion, I found a few things that helped. Perhaps the greatest help was to rearrange the house, so that our bedroom was closer to the baby's bedroom. The physical proximity did wonders to relieve a sort of low- level anxiety that contributed to my sleeplessness. Being closer meant I wasn't constantly on alert, straining to hear what was happening in his room. We did not go for family bed, because we found that none of us--especially the baby--slept well that way. However other parents might recommend that you try it, and you might as well see if it helps.

Some other things that helped me were vigorous but relaxing exercise during the day (in other words, exercise that isn't just pushing the stroller), acupuncture, yoga and breathing exercises targeted to help with sleep, and occasionally using Hyland's brand homeopathic sleep aids, Calms Forte or Insomnia. The main thing that helped, however, was time. When my son was was around 15-16 months old, I realized I was sleeping better. I hope this helps. Sweet dreams. Carolyn


I had trouble sleeping for months after my baby began sleeping through the night. I found accupuncture helped for a few days following treatment. After months of sleeplessness my doctor finally recommended a short round of Paxil at a low dose. I was still nursing and so hesitant, but finally tried it as we began the weaning process and my sleep was restored. I stopped after 3 months and remained able to sleep well. Good luck
I had insomnia for about 1.5 years after my son was born. I woke up at the slightest sound and woke up every two to three hours and would take up to two hours to get back to sleep. I used to sleep like a rock before the birth but since, my body and mind were deteriorating. My stubborness about not taking made me suffer longer than necessary, I believe. My husband, who teaches medicine, studied the literature on insomnia for a talk he was giving at his hospital for Residents and Staff Physicians. He informed me that my insomnia was very dangerous and that continuation of insomnia for years could permanently damage my body in many ways according to the literature. I went to one of his talks on insomnia which convinced me that I had to quickly take action. I fear becoming dependent on any or masking my physical ailments with . He suggested I take Benedryl which has very little side effects for most people. A more ''natural'' od I heard of was to take Valerian tablets. I've recently have been studying herbal remedies and most of the books out there have the same or overlapping suggestions for a particular ailment. My sister said Benedryl made her feel ''out of it'' the next day. My insomina was remedied after about two months of taking benedryl and wearing ear plugs. I now only wear earplugs to sleep and need no medications. The literature says to stay on the healthy sleep pattern for several months before tapering off. Your body needs to set the new pattern. If I had to do it over again, I'd try the ear plugs first, then add the herbal remedies if that didn't work. Lastly, I'd try the benedryl and other prescription . But don't take too long to make a plan about insomnia; apparently there are some women who after childbirth never resolve insomnia and their body/mind become chronically ill. Best wishes for regaining your health and spirit. SJ
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