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Advice about School-aged Kids
My 8-year-old is obsessed with the Spice Girls! They seem
too sexy for a child this age but I haven't really checked into
them much. Does anybody know anything about the Spice Girls?
Spice girls - they are totally harmless. Don't be put off by their
over-the-top costumes - they are more cartoon than real. Their movie is
in video stores, it's silly but sweet. You could rent it and check them
out for yourself.
The Spice Girls invaded our home last year and my daughter (who is now
6) was very much into them, their music, their movie, etc. etc. We
decided they were harmless enough not to make a fuss about, although I
make it clear to her that I don't much like their clothes. The worst
thing about them is their "sexy" attire and the way the young girls like
to copy them. Two of them have now had babies, and my guess is we won't
be seeing a lot more of them. And, as with all these things, the
infatuation passes and moves on to something else - now my daughter is
imitating Britney Spears (sp?) and Lauryn Hill. Still sexy, but at
least the music is better.
Unless you want to ban all "modern culture" from your home, you may want
to think about taking as laid back an approach as you can manage, and
keep your sense of humor.
I don't think they're bad. My kids (now seven and nine) went through a
phase about a year ago where they loved them, too. They're actually
pretty innocuous. And the movie is very very silly. At first my husband
and I were horrified, but then we gave up, and some of their songs are
rather catchy (although I can't remember any anymore -- so maybe not
memorable.) I don't know -- I think if you make a big stink, your kids
won't understand why, and if you let them go ahead and listen to them
they will for a while, and then they won't, and a five year old will
probably not catch any double entre, anyway. Perhaps I am not concerned
enough, but it seemed to me that they
were not soooo bad. Although we know they are completely phoney, I think
my daughters also liked the fact that they are women, since most pop
singers are not, and that's not a bad thing. At the same time, my kids
also got interested in early Beatles music. This was infinitely more
palatable to their parents.
all my 5 kids (boys and girls) are into the spice girls, and have been
for quite a while. at first i had a knee-jerk reaction to them, but if
you can stand to listen to the lyrics--unavoidable at my house--the
words to their songs are mostly about self respect and friendship--some
of them have sexual overtones, but it's pretty tame considering what
else is out there. maybe i'm naive, but i think that they're pretty
About those Spice Girls. Last year it was Spice Girl Mania at my house.
My daughters, 8 & 10, were living and breathing Spice Girls. I intially
had mixed feelings about the overt sexuality combined with an
fascination with the girl power theme. I decided there was much worse
in the world (and soon learned that would be when I had to explain
presidential oral sex to my youngest). We even went to their concert at
Shorline (imagine chaperoning a field trip with 17,000 young girls!.).
Are they good role models. Probably not - from an adult point of view.
But viewed from the eyes of a young girl I could see how their "girl
power" theme was enticing and we all actually enjoyed the music and the
movie, while not a Hard Days Night, was entertaining! The worst
side-effect was how much allowance was spent of Spice Girl lollipops!
The good news for you is that I think the Spice Girls, as an active
musical group, are pretty much defunct. Posh and Ginger are now "Spice
Mothers." Only the merchandizing continues! My experience is that
these fads come and go and the less you object the quicker it goes. If
I thought it was something truly harmful I would probably be more
heavy-handed. Our Spice Girl CDs are now gathering dust and my girls
moved on to $20.00 yoyos (didn't these things used to cost $1.00?)
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