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For many, many months now, I've been excited about my one and
only starting preschool. She'll be 2 years + 5 months old when
she starts in June (3 full days a week). I have no doubts about
the school we've chosen for her and the care she will receive
But now that I've actually submitted the application and
deposit, I'm having all sorts of anxiety and fears!! Any advice
from you parents out there about how to deal with this? I'm
fretting over things like will the teacher comfort her when she
cries? What if she doesn't eat her lunch? Will she go hungry
all day? Who's going to watch her on the playground?
Please, no suggestions about delaying preschool (currently she
watches a lot of videos all day with her grandparents). I just
need advice about how to deal with my neurosis and what would
help *ME* adjust!
From my experience with my now 3 1/2 year daughter, you
couldn't have picked a better age to start your child in
preschool. Right at 2 1/2 my daughter went through a huge
developmental leap that required her to interact independantly
with other kids and adults. I am a stay at home Mom and I
never would have guessed how much being away with others would
be critical at that age. As for your concerns about her eating
or playground supervision, I found that my daughter is much
more self sufficient in a preschool situation than she ever
is/was at home. She eats, naps, plays safely, plays nicely
etc. far more than when I am there to watch her. Your best
reassurance will come when your daughter LOVES her new school -
There may be an ajustment period when she cries when she is
left, etc. but I don't know any kids that ultimately didn't
love playing with other kids in a structured environment. It
will be a wonderful alternative to grandma's for her.
Congratulations for finding a school that you have so much
confidence in and giving your daughter this opportunity.
I could have written your post! Our son, 2 yrs and 5 mos, is
starting preschool next week for 2 half-days a week. I am
feeling very anxious as well. Is it possible for your daughter
to start with half-days (you mentioned that she's with her
grandparents during the day now-- could they continue to babysit
in the afternoons?)? I guess I am preparing myself by accepting
the fact that there will be an adjustment period (up to 2
months, maybe?) and that I will probably leave him there in
tears every morning for awhile. Ugh, it sounds horrible. And
then also, I think of the babies and 1-year-olds and 2-year-olds
that spend hours away from their parents and actually love their
daycares, preschools and teachers. That's what I'm hoping for.
I can't wait the read the other responses to your post!
After lots of work to attend open houses, think about what would
be best for my child, what to apply to, applications, hoping
that we would have at least some options, I ended up feeling
quite ambivalent, not necessarily anxious about my daughter
going to preschool. For me, I decided, it was 2 things. First,
a feeling of being a little bit sad that my child is growing up,
into this next phase... some sadness for her babyhood. She is
currently in childcare 4 days a week so it wasn't separation
from me, just an end of a phase of life.... Secondly, a bit of a
let down, that after all that work, I wasn't totally thrilled
with the options. Maybe these same things are leading to your
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