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We are looking for preschools for our daughter, and are wondering
parents' thoughts on whether sending your child to Montessori for just
2-3 years is worth the cost over other play-based daycares. We can't
afford to do a Montessori school for her whole education--do the two
years make a difference?
Thanks for your thoughts!
Interested in Montessori
In a word: no. At least, that's my opinion. I'm sure you'll receive many enthusiastic
endorsements of Montessori preschools from satisfied parents, but my son's play-based
preschool was overwhelmingly wonderful and completely perfect for us, at a fraction of
the price. After spending two years ''playing'' (which was really complex learning) at
preschool, he is now excelling in a demanding, ''academic'' kindergarten--and that's
despite being a young five-year-old boy. I think the Montessori brand name appeals to
anxious parents who want to start the academic rat race at age 3. I say save your
money, and let your child play while s/he's young.
Happy With Our Choice
What a great question, and one that many parents are probably asking themselves! My two
children are currently enrolled in a Montessori program here in Berkeley (American
International Montessori), and I also work in parent outreach with LePort Schools, a
group of Montessori schools in Orange County.
My answer is, yes, it's totally worth it to enroll in Montessori for 2-3 years -
especially if two key conditions are in place:
1) Your child can stay for the whole 3-year Montessori primary cycle (from age three
through age 6, including what is traditionally the Kindergarten year.)
2) You enroll at a school that is serious about Montessori. It's important to know that
Montessori isn't trademarked and there's a wide variation between Montessori schools:
some schools faithfully implement an authentic Montessori program, while some may bring
in Montessori materials and activities, without necessarily implementing a fully
consistent, carefully prepared Montessori classroom environment. If you think
Montessori is right for your child, and you want him to get the most out of his 2-3
year experience, then I think it's important to invest the time to find a school that
does Montessori well.
There's a lot more to be said about both points! Here's a link to a blog post I've
written to answer this question more fully, including some information on what your
child can expect to get out of three years of Montessori, and a list of four factors
that I've found to be pretty telling for identifying authentic Montessori programs:
I know this is a bit late but I wanted to chime in on Montessori preschool. We started our
daughter in a lovely play based preschool that we and she loved. When she turned 4 (and had
been at her current school for 2.5 years) we moved her to a Montessori preschool, in prep
for kindergarten. It was a very tough decision. She loved her school and her friends, but
she yearned for more structured learning. She wanted to play ''school'' at home, and she
would sit down and do ''homework'' after seeing our friends middle school kids at the table
after family dinners. I talked with some parents of kids who had gone on to kindergarten
and some said that given the current expectations for kids in Kindergarten, sitting still
and paying attention was an issue and a tough transition in the beginning for some. We are
not keeping her in Montessori for K, however what she is taking away from the experience is
a few tools to help her learn, and some skills at understanding when it is time to work and
when it is time to play and best yet, how to make new friends! When kids leave preschool it
seems that it is a bit like throwing petals to the wind. Everyone takes time to pick
preschool and schools and they are not always decisions based on location. If my daughter
had stayed at her preschool she would not have had one person moving on to K with her. Now
she has 3 kids she will know at her new school. So, there are a couple of things here- but
in summary pick the place your kid will be happy at the age they are now and you can always
Depending on the school, I definitely think that a Montessori preschool can be well worth
the money. I have two teenage children, one who is a senior at Berkeley High School and the
other a sophomore at the College Preparatory School. They both went to Berkeley Montessori
school, which is now called The Berkeley School, although it's still heavily influenced by
Montessori practices and I can't imagine a better preschool education for our children. The
teachers there are loving, nurturing, lots of fun and truly inspirational.
My children are not perfect, by any means, but they do have a natural curiosity and love of
learning, not just to do well on tests, or get an A in class, but because they're genuinely
interested and find learning fun and exciting. I get comments confirming this from their
high school teachers when report cards come out and I really believe that their enthusiasm
for learning started to take shape in their early education, where they were given the
freedom to explore, experiment and figure out things for themselves at their own pace in a
collaborative way with the loving guidance of an exceptional group of teachers.
I can't speak for all Montessori preschools, but I will always be grateful and couldn't be
happier with the The Berkeley School and the early education it provided for our children.
Good luck in your search, you may want to visit a number of different schools and see what
speaks to you and your family, but definitely check out the The Berkeley School.
As dad of two happy, creative Montessori kids, I am a firm believer in the approach. I'm
also mystified by a common mischaracterization of Montessori- as the antithesis of a
creative play inspiring environment. I hear this from parents who are generally intelligent
and well meaning, but who typically have not taken the time or had the opportunity to look
closely at a well run Montessori school. If they had, they would have seen kids happily
engaged in pretend play at recess, and also building their learning, problem solving and
social skill pathways in carefully prepared classroom environments. These classrooms offer
what, to a 3-6 year old, must seem like an endless array of choices- within which they are
allowed to learn/play (within generous time frames) at whatever they want for as long as
they want- either alone or with other kids.
Montessori marketing (are you listening, school owners/executives/directors?) shares the
blame for the misguided anti-play dogma through their casual use- without adequate
explanation- of the term 'work period'. The term 'work' has natural negative connotations
when associated with school environments and younger children. It conjures up images of
autocracy and excessive 'follow my lead only' structure that many of us suffered through as
children ourselves. In Montessori speak, the word 'work' was likely selected out of respect
for the importance of each child's time for learning. The 'work period' (insert better name,
please?) in fact offers a wide range of stimulating exercises that accomplish what I would
call 'skill building through play'.
In my children's case (a daughter with 2.5 years and a son with 1 year in Montessori), I'm
convinced that the combination of prepared environment learning and free-form recess play
has made them much more, not less, creative kids. This in addition to great advances-
largely through their own choice of daily learning activities- in essential social, problem
solving and language skills. Just this morning, they entertained me by building an 'animal
hospital' for their numerous stuffed 'friends', complete with an 'ambulance service' to
deliver them, utilizing living room chairs, couch cushions and pillows in ways I hadn't
imagined possible! They then trooped happily out the door and on their way to school- not
toward anything that constitutes 'work' in their minds- but toward new, exciting (and very
creative) learning adventures.
Best wishes for finding a great creative learning environment for your child.
- Dad of Two Playful Montessorians
I have a child who will be 2 1/2 when entering preschool.
I've visited play-based and Montessoris and I can't help but wonder ...
do kids at play-based preschools end up being more frenzied and in need of attention and
stimulation (with some good manners, but not as many as we'd like) whereas Montessori kids
leave preschool more calm and perhaps less social and overly prepared for kindergarten (and
with really good manners and a knack for cleaning up).
I've read a fair amount on previous posts, but would love to hear even more.
I may be over-thinking this, but I do see value in both types of schools and wonder if anyone
thinks (or has noticed) there REALLY IS a difference in the way kids turn out when they head to
Or, is it just that kids are mini adults w/their general personalities already formed and
they'll be how they are no matter what preschool they attend?
Thank you in advance.
Signed, Looking for more perspective
With your statement ''Or, is it just that kids are mini adults w/their
general personalities already formed and they'll be how they are no
matter what preschool they attend?'' I think you nailed it. When it
comes to preschool, I think all that matters is whether the child is
happy and whether the teachers are loving and nurturing. We've
experienced three preschools--one play-based, one Montessori, and one
Montessori-influenced. My two older children attended Montessori and I
have to say they do not know how to clean up! My eldest is not very
academic, despite his Montessori training, while my middle child is
slightly more inclined that way. My youngest, attending the
Montessori-influenced preschool, will probably be my most academic (but
she doesn't know how to clean up either). All three kids made friends at
their preschools, did lots of learning (even at the play-based one),
enjoyed going to school, and are growing into kind, happy children and
pre-teens (who are very messy). I recommend you choose a school where
the children seem happy and fits your needs in terms of location, hours,
Seasoned preschool mom
Montessori supporters claim that kids who attend Montessori schools are advanced
academically compared to other schools however I've talked with a few parents and
read some reviews which report that some parents have found their kids to be behind
when transferring to other schools or taking standardized tests. I'm guessing this is
greatly influenced by the individual child and the specific Montessori
program/school, but can anyone who has had Montessori experience (K and above) share
thoughts about this? Montessori philosophy has many qualities that appeal to me and
I am really less concerned with being ''advanced'' academically but would not want to
set my child up to get behind.
Former Montessori kid here (attended a very traditional Montessori ages 3 to 7). I think
there's actually a thread of truth to both observations--though as you say, a lot
depends on the individual child and school. I started public school in second grade and
was definitely behind in some things and far ahead in others. Everything reflected the
Montessori method, though. For instance, because we had learned cursive rather than
print and my public school didn't teach cursive till third grade, I spent most of second
grade getting ''poors'' in handwriting because I had no practice in printing. (But fast
forward to third grade, and I was a pro at cursive!) Similarly, I had much stronger
multiplication, logic, and number sense skills than my public school classmates, but no
real experience with things like formal long addition/subtraction, so there was a
learning curve there too. We never did get to some of the shapes I'd learned as a
six-year-old in ''regular'' school. It was a rough transition, though things worked out
in the end--I was caught up within a year or so where I was behind, and I retained the
strong language and creative thinking skills throughout my school years (and beyond). I
can't say whether those skills were innate or learned, but at a minimum, Montessori
certainly fostered them. And then there were the practical skills--to this day I still
carry scissors Montessori-style! It's definitely wise to think through how Montessori
may mesh with the school your child will attend afterwards, but don't let it discourage
you from choosing the method. From recent conversations with my mom, I do know that
choosing Montessori for us was one of the only educational decisions that my parents
never second-guessed or regretted in any way, which speaks volumes.
Excited that my son will be a Montessori kid, too!
We are sold on the value of a Montessori education, but naturally we also wondered
about this before our eldest started high school, since we had no experience in this
We now see that our child is overprepared academically in all subjects. We have heard
from other families. The MFS middle school graduates have all gone on to their first
choice of high schools.
Parent of an MFS MS graduate
My son goes to a Montessori school and our school requests that parents evaluate
their children prior to individual parent/teacher meetings. I have found in the
last two meetings that both teachers have repeated almost exactly what was written
by us. I am interested to hear what the process is for other Montessori schools. Do
the teachers guide you as parents, and do they recall dates and specific
activities? Do they rate your child amongst his/her peers? Do they have
suggestions on how your child might improve? Also, our school has issues with
bullying, and I would like it if the school would tell us what sorts of struggles
they are working on with the group as a whole -- does your school inform you of
these bigger overarching issues?
We don't have family here and I only can compare my kids to what else is going on
with his school, so I rely heavily on the guidance of the teachers and their
feedback to help me help my kids to grow and be prepared.
I have been looking at various Montessori preschool programs in the East Bay and
am planning to put my son on the waitlist for AIM in Berkeley. I know that
children can start in the infant community at AIM as young as 18 months, and was
wondering if anyone else has experience starting their child either at AIM or in
any other Montessori program at such a young age. Could that be too early an age
to start start him in Montessori?
I've also heard that Montessori works best when you also implement some
Montessori style elements at home. I have done a little bit of reading, but I
don't have any personal experience with Montessori. Are there some things I can
start doing at home now?
My son is now 6 and he started in IC at 18 months when Ernie Mahr was still the
director for PRINTS. For my son, the hardest part was being separated from us and
he cried for a whole month before setting into a good routine. But he gained
tremendously from being in a language immersion environment from such a young age.
It really helped him when he transitioned to CH. He also got potty trained quickly.
Fast forward to this year, my daughter started at AIM in Jan when she turned two. I
cannot say enough good things about the IC teachers at AIM. They are loving,
patient, experienced and work hard with each individual child to help them learn
good practical life habits. The office staff communicates well with parents to keep
them informed about their kids, as well as what's going on at school.
To prepare your child for a Montessori school, the key thing is to let him be as
independent as he can be at his age. Show him how to put on his shoes and pants.
Let him feed himself instead of feeding him. Then once he starts school, you can
observe the work materials he has in the classroom and have similar things at home.
See you at AIM!
Mom with two Montessori kids
My daughter started at what is now Montessori Learning Center in El Cerrito when
she was about 21 months old and stayed until she was 5.5 years old. Here is what we
followed at home:
1. Putting one ''job'' such as a puzzle, blocks, a doll and its accessories, into
one container, that is, one activity per container. Then, she could play with any
activity, but had to put it away *by herself* before taking out another one. This
worked totally great, she is now 12 years old and has never had a messy room.
2. You don't always have to share, but you must be respectful in asking or
declining to share and you must keep in mind while you are playing that someone is
waiting for a turn.
3. Start letting her get dressed, brush, hair, button buttons, zip zippers, tie
shoes as soon as they express interest. If it is not perfect, no problem, don't do
lifeskills for the child as soon as they are close enough to doing it themselves.
I've heard that different Montessori schools have different interpretations of the
philosophy, but these above were the main things I remember that the school did
that we also did at home.
Montessori can work well as early as 18 months, or even earlier. AIM's toddler
community is a wonderful program: the classrooms are small, the teachers very
caring and well trained, and the school's parent community is really nice and
supportive. They help with potty training, too, and always have lots of good ideas
on Montessori-based parenting. And, as a bonus, your child will also learn Japanese
We chose AIM for our family after visiting many Montessori schools in the area, and
I am choosy, as I work for a group of Montessori schools in Orange County. At the
OC schools, we offer Montessori programs starting as young as 3 months, and it's
amazing what a difference a high-quality, educational program can make even for
children this young. So I'd say, go for it (but make sure you get on the waitlist
right away - a friend of mine was interested in AIM, but didn't waitlist
immediately, and her child didn't get in as the school was full...)
On your questions for doing Montessori things at home, I'd suggest a couple of
resources you might find helpful:
- How We Montessori blog. Very helpful blog/newsletter, esp. for doing Montessori
in the home. The author applies Montessori at home, while her children attend a
Montessori school, so it's more practical than most. Her youngest is a toddler, and
the older one is four, so the activities she writes about should be perfect for
- Montessori Madness, by Trevor Eissler. More a primer on Montessori in general
than a hands-on at home guide, but getting the principles will help you achieve
- The Facebook page of the school I work at, LePort Schools. I post links to
interesting educational topic there daily, with lots of links to cool Montessori
stuff from around the web: www.Facebook.com/LePortSchools
- The resources sections of the LePort Schools web site, with links to helpful
books & articles about Montessori:http://www.leportschools.com/infants/resources/
specifically for infants/toddlers, and
http://www.leportschools.com/media-events/resources-links/ for general Montessori
FInally, I'd suggest bringing any of your questions straight to the AIM staff. They
are so passionate about Montessori, and always willing to answer questions. Plus,
once you join the school, you'll get lots of information at the regular parent
education events, held about every 6 weeks throughout the school year.
Heike - Montessori Mom
My daughter started at 17 months at AIM in Berkeley and she turned three a few
months ago and is in their Children's House program. I would have preferred that
she be home with me or my wife longer to be honest, but we both had to go back to
work after taking leaves before that to stay with her. She cried on the first day
but rarely after that, and was generally trying to drag us out the door each
morning to go to school. She'd ask for school on weekends. She was potty trained
before 2 and became fluent in Japanese and Mandarin unbelievably quickly. This is
the time to teach languages Cb wait til six and it's already too late! Her mom
speaks to her in Spanish and now she easily switches between her four languages!
The teachers and director, Ernie Mahr, are very good about helping parents know
what to do at home to encourage their child's independence, but there are also many
good books out there about this. Nothing beats Montessori for a child-centered,
nurturing environment, at 18 months or any other age. And AIM is the best
Montessori program I have found in the Bay Area.
We started our son at AIM at 18 months. He went from being at home with a nanny
full time, to being there until 330 pm. We also are not Chinese or Japanese so
there was a complete language immersion as well. Given all of these facts our son
is flourishing!!! He is now 26 months and He is potty trained, he listens to us
and is much more self sufficient. He is also understanding basic mandarin and
Japanese. We were skeptical in the beginning but turns out to be the best thing we
could have done for him.
Happy AIM parent
Putting our children in Montessori school at 18 months was the best decision
we ever made. We are convinced their Montessori education has helped us avoid
many of the behavioral / sleep / eating issues our friends are going through
with their children. Our 2 year old just used the potty, washed her hands,
and cleaned up some water on the floor without any prompting from us. We
often get complements at restaurants on how well behaved our children are.
When the children walk into a store, they instinctively put their hands behind
their backs and stroll around until we let them know it is okay to touch! We
cannot take credit for their good behavior, though, because we have only done
exactly what AIM told us to do. AIM is an exceptional school. The facilities
aren't exactly posh, but the money is on the field. The AIM staff is the best
in the business. The teachers take their jobs very seriously, have angelic
patience, and are frankly just good people. Even if AIM had no facilities and
the teachers had to work with the children in an empty field, they would still
offer the best developmental education in the East Bay (in my humble opinion).
Early on, AIM provided specific suggestions on how to Montessori-ize our
house, and we did. We went to Cost Plus World Market and bought a bunch of
cocktail utensils and small juice glasses for meals. We got small furniture
from IKEA, including a table and chairs and a toy shelf, which we use to
rotate out toys. We favor Melissa & Doug wooden toys and puzzles which can be
put away in an orderly manner. We do not keep toys in the children's bedroom,
which we think is why they go to sleep so easily. The children's beds are
layered with sheets and absorbent pads which make middle-of-the-night sheet
changes easy (you rip off the top sheet and pad and a dry layer is waiting
underneath). We were given a toy cleaning set that includes a small broom and
mop. Through clothing swaps/sales at AIM and other places, so we were able to
build up a small collection of cotton training pants. Our bathrooms mimic the
potty setup at AIM, including the trash cans, the hampers, and the Baby Bjorn
potties. We have individual toddler-sized cubbies in the hallway for hanging
jackets, hats, and putting away bags and shoes. It was a small investment,
but completely worth it. The children respond well to the familiar objects
We're looking into montessori schools in and around Berkeley.
We recently toured a montessori school and were impressed by how
self-directed and cooperative the students seemed. We also
noticed that there were many more girls than boys at the school.
We have a 3 year old boy who is currently in a play-based
preschool. His current teachers consider him high energy,
bright and social. He likes being outdoors, moving around, and
dramatic play. Recently, he's been getting really into ''boy''
play - superheroes vs. villians and the idea of bad guys/good
We're wondering how he might fit into a montessori environment.
Would a high energy boy thrive? Might it be too stifling? Or
would the structure be helpful? What other factors should we be
We're particularly interested in hearing from parents of high
energy boys who have had good and bad experiences at montessori.
We'd also love to hear recommendations for other preschools for
this type of boy.
Thanks in advance.
I have a high-energy boy who goes to the
Model School, a montessory-based
school in South Berkeley, and loves it. He asks to go to school on weekends.
The teachers GET that he is physcially unable to sit still and must run
instead of walk. The teachers teach my son ways to harness his energy and
focus more. It's a big preschool with an excellent teacher/student ratios.
There is a big yard and lots of outside time. There is music every week and a
lot of art. My son is also learning to write and can read a few words already.
He is kindergarten ready.
happy model school parent
We tried Montessori in San Francisco with our twin boys when they were 3. One
was extremely compliant (a ''pleaser''), and the other was high energy,
spirited and very creative. I thought the child-directed yet structured
approach in Montessori would be helpful for the spirited guy (while also
playing to the strengths of my other sweetie), but it was a disaster. I don't
know if this would be the case for any high energy child, but we pulled him
out after 3 months of many problems. Despite the unstructured time where he
could choose what ''work'' to do, he felt suffocated by all the rules and
''structure'' around this unstructured time.
We hired a specialist to evaluate him (discretely) in the classroom to suggest
what type of environment would be best for him, and I was told a small,
play-based environment, where dramatic play and outdoor time was paramount.
This ended up being spot on, and although we did get a diagnosis for some
sensory integration issues and ADHD 3 years later, it was the right thing for
us to move him.
I'm happy to talk with you further if you have specific questions.
Our high-energy/spirited and imaginative 4-year-old has been going to
Star Montessori School in Alameda (Cottage Campus) since he was two. Although
we were worried about the structure and emphasis on independent/quiet focus,
we've been happy to see how much he's grown and thrived under such warm and
kind teachers. The preschool has been around for almost 30 years, and we
appreciate the cozy feeling at their Cottage Campus and the diversity of
families and staff. Check them out... www.risingstarschool.org
- A teacher and mama
I highly recommend looking at
The Berkeley School's Early Childhood
Center (formerly Berkeley Montessori School). It is a Montessori
inspired preschool which also includes elements of Reggio Emilia. All
three of my high energy sons have thrived in this environment which seems
to have a wonderful balance of indoor and outdoor play and keeping
children engaged both in independent and collaborative play/work. All
three of them also transitioned very well to this setting after having
been at play-based preschools.
I am excited about the new Urban Montessori Charter School opening
in Oakland. I've read through a lot of the materials but still
have some questions.
I researched the Montessori method when looking for a preschool,
but decided that a play-based/Reggio Emilia school was better for
my child. So I'm familiar with the pros and cons of Montessori in
comparison to other types of preschools, but I can't find much
information about the pros and cons of Montessori on the
elementary level, as compared to traditional public schools.
I have other, more specific curriculum questions that I will ask
at the information sessions, and I know that a lot varies school
to school. I'm just looking for some anecdotes from adults who
attended Montessori elementary schools or send their children
there to get a general idea of how it compares to public
education. Were you happy? Did you learn? Was it an overall good
experience? How did you adjust to mainstream education? Would you
My 3 daughters have all attended Montessori Family School in
Berkeley. My daughters have thrived in this learning environment. The
environment has prepared them very well in every aspect of learning.
MY 2 oldest daughters have transitioned to Berkeley public schools
and they have continued to thrive. I can't speak for all Montessori
schools but I can say that Montessori Family School has been
brilliant for my children
A couple of things:
My nieces both attended Montessori elementary school and now the
older one is at a Montessori high school (in Canada). They have both
done extremely well in this environment and in fact the older one has
just skipped a grade in high school. They are very different
personalities, so I think it speaks well to their school that they
have both flourished there. The older one is much more outgoing as a
person and I don't think Montessori school has made her shyer. The
younger one is shyer by nature and school has not changed this in one
direction or another.
As for a child not learning to read until they're nine and
self-directed learners falling behind and this putting them at a
disadvantage, this is a misconception that the public at large really
needs to learn about. My god-daugher was entirely self-directed as a
learner until she went to high school. She and many like her who
were home schooled in the ''unschooling'' approach didn't learn to
read until she was ten and then she taught herself to read. Within a
couple of years she was reading college level material. To this day
she is an avid reader who devours books.
This kind of education maintains a child's intrinsic motivation for
learning and it fosters a deep sense of responsibility within the
child. When my god-daughter started high school there were certain
areas that she needed to catch up academically. She did it all with
grace (and learned those things in far shorter time than kids
typically slog through them in school). She was a straight A student
and her mom never once asked her to do her homework because it was
her choice to be in school! Albeit she was pretty bored at school,
but she wanted to try it out. What this kind of education teaches you
is how to go after what you want and how to be a learner (so the
academic stuff doesn't take long once you want to learn it) rather
than someone who simply does what they're told. It takes a certain
kind of commitment and faith in your child's natural drive to learn
(just think of how much they've learned since being born...how to
talk, how to walk, jump, run, somersault...if we sent them to school
for these things it would really screw that process up!)
If you want to know more about this I suggest reading books by the
late great educator John Holt and by two time New York State teacher
of the year John Taylor Gatto who wrote Dumbing us Down: The Hidden
Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling.
This is an anecdote about Montessori: I have a friend who was
educated at a private Montessori school in Texas, K-12, I believe.
Her husband went through public school. While my friend loved her
Montessori school, her husband points out that both of their
educational paths got them to the same place, which was UT Law
School. They are both successful attorneys now. So I guess what
this points to is that children can get an excellent education in a
Montessori school and children can get an excellent education in a
public school (though BTW, charter schools are technically public).
Also, my kids went to a Montessori preschool and while I loved their
school, it wasn't the Montessori aspect that I loved--it was the
quality of teaching. To me, that's most important. You can have
good teachers in traditional public schools and bad ones in
Montessori, and of course, the opposite is true as well.
In answer to the question about Montessori vs. Public Elementary -- my
experience of Montessori is that when it is good, it is very good, and
when it is bad, it is horrible. In public school, at least one has the
state standards to get through, and other classes that are marching
along in parallel, so you have some sort of minimum threshold for what
is covered. One shouldn't assume that kids in Montessori are working at
a higher level in elementary school. A lot depends on the teacher's
ability to monitor each child's progress and pace and challenge each
child appropriately. It's up to the teacher to move each individual
child along, and to know intuitively what is right for them next; when
this is working, it's magical, and when it's not, the whole system falls
apart. Teachers can be as idiosyncratic as they want -- at the time, all
of Monday morning's work period was spent fixing mistakes on homework --
and there is no correction built into the system. The head teacher in my
child's class, who has since left, preferred to have the kids to do math
for long periods once or twice a week -- he didn't believe that it was
better to do it for shorter periods every day -- so many weeks went by
when my child barely did any math at all. We're still catching up from
In my observation, Montessori kids sometimes go into elementary school
with a huge advantage because their preschool experience is academic,
but by third grade or so that advantage is often spent, and public
school kids are actually working for higher level. My second child would
probably have had a great experience in Montessori for elementary but I
just couldn't deal with the stress it creates on the parent to notice
whether the teacher is covering the appropriate grade-level curriculum.
Montessori is self-directed, but it doesn't mean children learn whatever
they want. There is a framework, a curriculum they follow. It may not
look like traditional ones, but there is one. You're free to chose w/in
Most of us go through public schools. And I think if you think back to
your own schooling, you'll remember a class full of shy kids, outgoing
kids, and kids in between. I don't think Montessori children as a whole
are shyer than public school kids.
From my reading, ages 7+ (elementary school years) are the years that
kids naturally want to work with groups so there are lots of group
projects and such.
Can anyone explain the differences between play-based, emergent
curriculum, and Montessori preschools? It seems that the daily
schedules for most schools are quite similar - involving group/circle
time, outdoor play, and free play time to explore materials. I'd also
be interested to hear how others have decided which type of preschool
is the best fit for their child. Thanks!
I'm the mom of a child in Montessori preschool, and also work for a
Montessori school down in Orange County. I just wrote a lot of content
for the web site of the school I work with - we describe in detail what
the Montessori approach is all about, and you can read about it here:
We also just put a video on YouTube, which shows a Montessori classroom
in action, and provides a good 10-minute overview of how Montessori works
in practice. You can watch it here:
Let me start by saying that Montessori is very different from play-based
preschool. In fact, it is an entire approach to early childhood
education. Fundamentally, Montessori believes that the child should be in
charge of his learning, not the adult - and that the best way to make
that happen is to combine a carefully prepared environment with a teacher
whose main role is to observe the child and to introduce him to the right
educational material at the right time. Dr. Montessori believed that the
most important years in life are the early ones, birth to age six: she
wrote "that is the time when a man's intelligence itself, his greatest
implement, is being formed" - and pointed out that young children before
age 6 have a very passing window of opportunity to learn many skills
early, playfully, skills that are much harder to learn later in a child's
With that as the background, here are some of the key differences between
authentic Montessori schools and a typical play-based program:
- Multi-age, family-like grouping. In a true Montessori program, 3-6
year-olds are together in one class, and each child stays with the same
teacher for a 3-year cycle. The younger ones benefit from observing the
older children; the older children act as mentors. The teacher really
gets to know each child. And children can develop at their own pace: the
classroom will have materials appropriate for 3-year olds and for 7-year
- A deliberate selection of Montessori activities, and not the typical
lego-blocks-barbie-trucks toys you have at home anyway. Over decades of
experimentation, Dr. Montessori identified an assortment of learning
materials, which share a few key characteristics: Children love to engage
with them over and over again; by working with them, children learn
certain skills - such as careful observation, hand strength, the ability
to distinguish musical tones, the shapes of the letters, counting; the
materials build sequentially, enabling children to progress from one to
the next as their abilities evolve; they are self-correcting, so children
can work independently of adults and learn to problem-solve on their own.
- A long, unstructured, child-led "work period" - as against the
typical adult-led schedule of 30 minutes of this, followed by 30 minutes
of that (e.g., circle time, crafts, snack, outside time, story time etc.)
In a good Montessori school, children have 2-3 hours each morning and
afternoon to pursue what interest them - and the adults respect and
encourage this child-led exploration. Thus, children develop real
interests - and learn to expand their attention span through chosen,
We chose Montessori for our children, because the many benefits of this
approach. Kids just learn so much: They improve their gross and fine
motor skills. They extend their attention span (my now 4-year-old
daughter couldn't focus for more than 5 min at age 2 1/2 - now she works
on one project for several hours.) They learn ''Grace and Courtesy''
skills, such as asking for help kindly, using please/thank you, helping
friends, not snatching toys away. They become very independent - the
schools teach them how to button clothes, how to set and clean a table,
how to prepare foods (my daughter loves that ability to do things ''all
by myself.'') They also learn a lot of academics - many 4-year-olds in
Montessori begin to read (all learn their letter sounds) and do math,
joyfully (my daughter has learned to count to 20 and write the numbers to
20, she just started on adding numbers.)
The key challenge if you want a Montessori school will be to find a good
one. I'd suggest you start by looking for a school associated with or
that employs AMI-certified teachers (they go to a challenging, 1-year,
on-site program which goes much beyond the typical preschool teacher
credentials.) I visited a dozen schools in our area before choosing
American International Montessori in South Berkeley; you may want to
check them out if you are ok with having a Mandarin or Japanese immersion
My understanding is that the term ''playbased'' was created in response
to the Montessori term ''work''. There is really no playbased philosophy.
I think the Montessori philosophy is best and most comprehensive. Not
only does it teach so many useful things using the hand and movement for
deep learning but also good habits that will last, like picking up after
yourself, empathy for others, and how to find each child's interests and
skills. Eventually they internalize the lessons and challenge themselves.
There are beautiful premath materials (called sensorial) that are like
colorful fun puzzles for the children. Overall the ''works'' are play,
and it's great that they learn to do for themselves. We are in our third
year and it's been great for my child. She loves it so much we are
rethinking our plans for elementary... the kids are so sharp at this age
and they readily take in the info. I've watched developmentally
challenged children be positively influenced intellectually and socially
too. Really can't say enough. If it's done right it's a joy. I love to
see kids learn to think and be outside of their gender roles, something
that doesn't happen often in most free play situations. In my
observations, the kids even at reputed play based schools were wild
and/or bored. Lots of luck!
I have read the previous comments about Montessori schools. It is a
pity that the person asking about two types of preschools was only
informed about the Montessori type but nobody wrote about preschools
with a play based approach.
As an early childhood educator, first of all I have to say that there
are several different models in early childhood education, all of which
have pros and cons. While a child may be very happy in a model, s/he
may not reach his/her full potential in another one. Therefore, you
should take into consideration your child's personality, interests and
your parenting style before making a decision. I strongly believe that
there is no single great model but the most important thing is that
children should be given their right to play in a good preschool. The
things that have been praised in the previous comments about Montessori
schools are supposed to be covered in a ''quality'' preschool, no
matter its approach is. Supporting impulse control, increasing
attention span, teaching children ''grace and courtesy'', developing
literacy and math skills; that is supporting the whole development of a
child in brief should be what a ''quality'' preschool is aiming for.
Before making such a decision, I suggest one should find out whether
there is a warm and loving atmosphere, which helps the child's
emotional development, whether there is a good curriculum, which
provides children with the opportunity to explore and learn while
having fun and a good parent involvement, which will ensure that the
school and family are on the same road to support the child.
Personally, I believe play is a child's work so I'd love to see my
child using his imagination and being creative instead of using
structured materials in a single way demonstrated by the teacher or
learning academics, as he is going to learn counting or other cognitive
skills easily through play in anyway.
Finally, I'd like to add that having a Montessori certificate is not''
going much beyond a typical preschool teacher'' but becoming
specialized in one of the many early childhood curriculum approaches.
Love of children, a good level of human development knowledge as well
as a creative and innovative mind are essential skills for preschool
teachers, even for the Montessori school teachers...
We are starting to seriously consider preschools for our 22
month old and were wondering about montessori schools.
I have taken a tour of a montessori preschool and am very
impressed, but my concern is if this type of preschool is good
for children who are headed for public school, vs. a private
montessori k-12 school?
I spoke with a fellow parent who's child attended a montessori
preschool and is now (at 7) attending a public school.
Apparently the child is having a hard time adjusting to group
activities and as a team player.
My question is, has any other family experienced this, or is
this solely based on the child's individual personality?
Any advise from parents who's children have attended a
montessori preschool and are now attending a public school would
My son did. He had problems with the social aspect in public school, at first.
However, he is a shy person to begin with. I'm pretty sure that my other child
who is very outgoing naturally would not have problems if she had gone to
Montessori. I think Montessori has some great benefits. So there is not a
My children attended Cedar Creek Montessori School (which we highly recommend)
in North Berkeley and are now thriving in an Oakland public school. Montessori
in no way ''stunts'' social skills or ''team-player'' abilities; the problem
may lie with that individual child.
I think that the degree to which a Montessori school can foster
team playing depends entirely on the particular Montessori school.
My two children attended 3 different Montessori schools. One child
transferred to Montessori Family School after attending a
play-based preschool and progressive private school. MFS had the
nicest, most accepting children you could ever hope to meet. The
teachers were very adept at facilitating team playing and the kids
were great at working out disagreements, much better than at the
progressive school my child had attended previously. The academics
in my child's particular elementary classroom however were not
always strong. The other child attended two Montessori schools
which had excellent academics. However, the teachers really did not
know how to cultivate friendships among the kids or to cultivate a
certain quality of heart. It took my child eighteen months to
''catch up'' to the other kids in her new school socially. My child
is outgoing and always had friends, but it took that long in my
opinion for her to shift from a more individualistic to a more
team-based mode of playing. I also think that a focus on academics
in preschool can make kids stressed and that renders them, in a
very subtle way, more anxious and less flexible when they play with
others. I also notice that my child who went to a play-based
preschool is more inventive. That may of course just be who that
child was destined to be. Even within a Montessori school, each
classroom is its own fiefdom. You really have to sit in on a
particular classroom and see how it feels to you, and watch the
kids on the playground and see how they treat each other.
Montessori Family School, 7075 Cutting Blvd., El Cerrito is a place
where the students are surrounded by an environment that promotes
the need for team playing. This training is started in the
preschool years and continued throughout all grades in the school.
I have a child in the lower elementary classroom (grade one) and I
was skeptical about him being in a multi-grade classroom with
students who are in second and third grades. But it is the best
experience ever. There are about seven students of each grade level
in the class and they really work together as a team. The third
graders are paired with the first graders as buddies and are able
to mentor and share with the younger students in ways that only a
peer can do. And the younger students soon realize that this is a
position they would like to hold when they reach third grade. The
first graders also feel a sense of security knowing that an older
student is ''looking out for them'' and is there to help. The
school is having an open house on January 29 and I would recommend
that you give them a call at 510-236-8802 to learn more. The school
is great and I hope to keep my child there through all eight
A very pleased parent
I'm strongly considering sending my 3-year old son to a
Montessori preschool. When I began the preschool search, I was
pretty set on a play-based program, but I've recently changed
my mind. The whole selection process has been so stressful,
and I know I will feel so much wiser once my son has started.
So I'd love to tap the wisdom of parents with preschool
graduates out there-- any regrets about choosing a Montessori
preschool program for you child?
Stressed about preschool
I have no regrets about send my eldest son to a Montessori for preschool except
for the cost. His brother is in 1st year preschool and we'll send him there next
year as well.
I really like the curriculum and the manipulatives. ''Mama, here's a picture of my
quatrefoil...'' One reason why we didn't continue with Montessori is the cost. It
was cheaper to send him to the local catholic school and for the religion classes.
Another consideration is if you like or dislike the small school size. As you get
to upper grades, there are fewer and fewer students (usually 6-8).
I will tell you this, at the local catholic school, our current class size is 36!!!
Public school is 20, maybe 25 students per class. I'm revisiting my options for
Our child attends a Montessori pre-school (Nia House Learning Center in
Berkeley) and we love it! She really enjoys school, is happy to go in the morning,
and has many great stories at the end of the day. She's learned to be quite
responsible and is so proud of what she can do. It's been amazing to watch this
all emerge. Absolutely no regrets here.
pleased with montessori
My regret about Montessori does not have to do with the program but that I lose
my daughter 5 (half) days a week. I was always reluctant to do it but now that
it's done I regret it a little. Although she seems content to be at school every day
she is chronically tired and our days are consumed with school -- little time for
other activities with mom (and I am by far her best teacher, best influence). Next
year I am considering something different that will take us back to 3-4 days a
week, a better schedule for us all.
too much school
I have two kids; one attended a Montessori preschool (Growing
Light in Kensington) and the other attended a play based
preschool. We went with Montessori because we didn't get in
to any other schools. I was a bit skeptical of the Montessori
method initially (doing ''work'' and ''jobs'' was a bit of a turn
off -LOL) but it turned out to be a wonderful experience. My
Montessori daughter was far better equipped for Kindergarten
than my play based preschool kid. That isn't to say the play
based experience was a bad one - both of my kids had a great
time in preschool and learned a lot but, if we could do it
over again, we would have placed both in Montessori.
Good luck with your decision.
Please see my post above about Montessori Family School.
Not only are we regret-free, but we have found the
Montessori method to be a fabulous educational approach. It
will give your little one a great foundation before he moves
on to elementary school. Plus, because MFS goes through
middle school, you have the option to stay on beyond the
No regrets here about sending my child to a Montessori
School. However, not all Montessori schools are alike.
Don't assume that if it is ''Montessori'' that it will meet
your expectations. My kids go to Montessori Family School
(MFS). This school has everything and more of what I
expect in a school for my children. I couldn't be happier
with the teachers and the program. My two children are
thriving. We originally had thought we would put our kids
in the preschool program and then apply for public school
at K. When the time came, our child was doing so well and
was so happy that we didn't want to end this experience.
I can't say enough great things about all the preschool
teachers and Kindergarten teachers. They are phenomenal
and love their students to no end. We are just as pleased
with the elementary school teachers. Our boys are now in
the lower Elementary classrooms (1st year and 3rd year)
and love to go to school and learn everyday. The best
thing I love about this program is the collaborative
learning environment and the mixed age classrooms. They
now offer a middle school program through 8th grade.
Dear Understandably Stressed-Out,
Searching for a pre-school is incredibly time consuming and stressful. I also
did a lot of research and came to the conclusion that Montessori was a good
choice for our child and fit with our personal beliefs about child development.
After our first meeting with the teachers at Montessori Family School (MFS), I
felt this school was our first choice, and fortunately we were accepted.
Please read the post above (Kind of Pre-school?) for more information. I
won't repeat it here. I do not have any regrets about choosing a Montessori
program or Montessori Family School. I didn't see the point of play-based
schools because they seemed like daycare. If I wanted a play-based program
for my pre-school child, I would have had a nanny share and saved the
money. I feel that Montessori is worth every penny for the multitude of
reasons mentioned in the other posting.
What I suggest is that you take into consideration your research, intuition and
your child's body language while visiting schools. There's an open house for
the Montessori Family School Early Education Campus at 1850 Scenic Ave in
Berkeley on Saturday, February 27th at 10:30 am. You can tour the
classrooms and meet the teachers--well worth the visit if you haven't already
observed the school.
Happy MFS Parent
As a parent and a teacher, I wanted to add a little perspective. It's preschool.
long as you feel that he is safe and reasonably happy there, then it probably - in
the grand scheme of things - doesn't matter much what kind of preschool he
goes to. It might make more sense to consider what is convenient to get to and
within your budget. In order to be ready for an academic kindergarten, he needs
to have practice being with groups of kids, following rules, sharing, putting
supplies back, sitting still and paying attention, and being away from his
parents. Just about any preschool will provide that level of socialization. The
exposure to books, the alphabet, colors, etc. is probably happening at home,
and will more than likely happen in any preschool as well. Choose a place that is
safe, convenient, affordable, and pleasant, then RELAX!
HELP! I am having an internal struggle between
traditional and montessori schools. My twins will turn 3
in late October. Right now they go to ''school'' one day a
week for three hours. Their teachers are sweet, their
faces light up when they see my boys, they read stories
and sing and my boys enter with glee. It is like an
extension of a mother's love! Many traditional preschools
tend to have teachers like these, but lack a bit of
structure. When I visit Montessori schools, I love that
the kids seem so busy and capable. I love that manners
and self disciple are taught. But everyone--kids and
teachers-- seem so serious. Of course, I've only seen
parts of the day, but I feel little kids should have a
certain amount of ''joy'' in their day. Do you have any
thoughts--pros/cons---from personal experiecne you'd like
to share? Thanks so much!
I have one child that ''graduated'' from a play based program
and another mid-way through. We too looked at both
Montessori as well as play based. Initially I was worried
about the idea of kids leading the curriculum as is done
with some play based programs, but after visiting schools
and reading many comments on bpn I was won over. We've had
an amazing experience with our kids loving learning and
feeling free to explore different ideas and activities. In
addition, it's taught our children that learning is about
exploring their world in a way that they choose with
teachers helping them navigate it. Montessori felt very
structured to me and at least for us, overly stiff for our
parenting style. That being said, I have friends who've
enjoyed it, and at the end of the day I think kids in both
styles of programs do just fine. It's more of a question
of which community are you most comfortable being part of
as a parent. Seems like a very stressful decision, but now
that we're well into our preschool years I feel that for
us, and most of our friends, all our kids are doing just
fine in a wide variety of schools. Your preschool will be
a community for your child so I think the most important
question is which school creates a community that you most
want to join.
Our daughter attends a wonderful Montessori preschool (Nia House Learning
Center in Berkeley). She really loves it and has a lot of fun every day. At the end
of the day she has great stories about her friends, playing outside, cooking,
gardening, and the Montessori activities. Her teachers are amazing -- smart,
caring, fun, creative, patient -- incredibly talented! There is structure, but that
structure has allowed our daughter's confidence to emerge and her social skills
to bloom. Of course, every school is different and each child unique, but our
family absolutely loves Nia House.
You describe so much of what we felt. Check out The
Berkeley School (formerly Berkeley Montessori School).
Both of our children attend preschool at the Early
Childhood Center. Many Montessori principles used, but
incorporates other pedagogy too. Most importantly, a VERY
joyful, loving environment.
The Best of Both Worlds
We have had our child in a montessori preschool for over 2
years and have been very happy with the decision. She
thrives from the independence the school has taught her,
from hour or so a day of structured learning, and from the
tools in the classroom which have helped her gain strong
language and math skills. She also thrives from the
individualized attention and the firm but kind discipline.
But from a very young age, she was the kind of kid who
could focus for quite some time on one activity. She
didn't have a ton of energy that needed to be expended
outdoors all the time. She enjoyed books, games, learning,
etc. I have seen some children in her school who are
constantly geting reprimanded because they can't stay in
line in the hallways, or they always want to touch things
or get down and dirty outdoors or be more physical with
other kids. Those are the types of kids I think would be
better off in a play-based preschool, at least in the very
beginning years. Montessori allows a child to thrive and
is in my humble opinion the best option for preschools out
there. But for a certain type of child, I can see how it
would be a challenge, and who wants to put their kid
through such a big challenge that early in life? I have a
second baby, and I am going to wait and see what
personality comes out before deciding on a school.
happy montessori parent
I cannot praise the Montessori method or our school,
Montessori Family School, enough for the happy years and
learning foundation that it has given our children. We are
in our 5th year there, with one child at the elementary
school and one in the preschool. The teachers are
incredible, loving, fun and extremely tuned to the needs and
interests of each child. Our kids truly enjoy and take
pride in the (self-directed) learning they do/did in the
preschool. The program includes practical life, cooking
projects, music & movement classes and ample time for free
play outside each day which all together ensures a lot of
fun in the daily mix. MFS cultivates an amazingly happy
and confident bunch of kids. There is a preschool open
house on February 27th at 10:30 am - I highly encourage you
to check it out.
best decision we've made so far
Dear Understandably Confused,
Searching for a pre-school is incredibly time consuming. I also did a lot of
research and came to the conclusion that Montessori was a good choice for
our child and fit with our personal beliefs about child development. After our
first meeting with the teachers at Montessori Family School (MFS), I felt this
school was our first choice and fortunately we were accepted.
It sounds like you have seen how a Montessori classroom operates. There is
a certain "hum" that happens when a classroom full of young children is deep
in concentration. There is a respect for routine with minimal interruption
during the work period. Children interact in small groups and also work
individually, by choice, moving from one beautiful, hands-on material to
another. Play and work are synonymous for children. In Montessori, the
children "work" at an individual pace and teachers are able to accommodate a
variety of learning styles. It appears that Montessori gets the gears going
from day one.
One aspect of Montessori that stands out is the early development of
independence. Young children are way more capable than we realize. With
the parenting coaching we received as needed from the teachers at MFS, I
knew we were off to a good start. I can't tell you how eye-opening this
emotional/social focus has been. I have seen our first child blossom in this
environment and our second will begin pre-school in a few months.
MFS is an extraordinary school that continues up through elementary and
middle school. The teachers are excellent and the community great. At MFS I
see an important balance of strong academics and the social/emotional
education that I think will prepare our children for interesting challenges of
the 21st century.
I feel the differences between Montessori and Traditional education become
even more apparent in kindergarten and above. The biggest difference I see
is that Montessori learning is more vertical or deeper while Traditional
education is more lateral. There are other differences too, such as time
management skills built into Montessori, while in Traditional, the schedule is
pre-determined. Montessori learning feels more natural and kinder and
again seems to prepare children well for the rest of their lives without being
either too structured and unstructured.
Please feel free to contact me with questions. There's an open house on
Saturday, February 27th at the Early Education Campus at 1850 Scenic
Avenue in Berkeley at 10:30 am. Come tour the classrooms and see what you
Happy MFS Parent
My kids have attendended Montessori Family School (MFS)
from their first year of preschool. They are now in first
and third grade (1st year and 3rd year in The Lower
Elementary classrooms). I have to admit that when I was
researching preschools I was concerned that ''Montessori''
might not give my kids enough ''love'' if they fell down and
hurt themselves or if they were just sad and having a bad
day. I'm not even sure where I had heard that and became
concerned with it. It is completely contrary to how MFS
interacts with their students. During my initial
observation of the classrooms I got to witness a child
crying on the playground because they scraped their knee.
It was amazing to watch all the teachers spot it right
away and without using words to know who would address the
child(maybe it was the closest one) sweep her up and start
cuddling them. Over the years I have seen the teachers
hold the children, hug them, cuddle them. They do this
when a child is sad, or even when a child comes up to the
teacher and just wants their contact for no special
reason. It is my observation that the kids at MFS are
confident and completely happy children.
You mentioned in your post that you ''...loved that the
kids seem so busy and capable....love that manners and
self disciple are taught. But everyone--kids and teachers-
- seem so serious...''
I think what you are observing is intense satisfaction in
the work that the kids are doing. The work and their
independence make them happy and proud to be doing it. A
child can't be giggling and interacting with their peers
all day long if they are working independently. That's no
to say that they aren't enjoying what they are doing.
It is quite amazing what my children have experienced at
MFS. I wouldn't trade it in for anything.
My 4 year old son is currently in a traditional school. He has
problems at school in the last several weeks. He does relatively
fine at home. Basically he doesnít listen well at school; the
biggest issue is he doesn't want to take a nap at school, and
cannot keep quiet and stay in his cot. The teacher literally
said, when he didn't want to listen, they didn't know what to do
Since the problem is not going to get solved there, we decided to
move him to another school which doesn't require nap time for 4
year olds. It has been very stressful to get calls from the
school almost every day; and hear all the negative comments from
an afternoon teacher every day when I pick him up.
My son is a bounce-around boy, active, a typical kinesthetic
learner, not afraid of authority. For a kid like him, do you
think that a more structured environment will be better for him?
There're openings in a Montessori school near where we live.
Are Montessori schools more structured? Are they a better fit for a
boy like my son?
I can relate to your issues. Our son has been to many Montessori schools due to
moves, so we have a lot of experience on Montessori now. Ultimately we have come to
the conclusion that Montessori was not a good fit for him. Some of the other reviews
state that there is structure, but we found that the lack of structure was what our
took ill-advantage of. It would be interesting to hear what you mean when you say
''not afraid of authority''. Feel free to email me to discuss it more in depth.
I'll tell you about my experiences with my sons and
Montessori. Both my sons started Montessori schools at age 2
and for both, it was transformational. The schools they went
to focused on providing a clear, well-articulated structure,
setting limits with children, making expectations (and
consequences) clear, and setting the bar consistently very
high. This means my children know what is and is not
acceptable behavior, know when it's time to play and when it is
time for quiet, know that if they are horsing around during
quiet time or clean up, they will be ''invited'' to sit down
until they are ready. They cannot go onto a new activity until
they have completed and cleaned up the last one. It is not
acceptable to be disruptive.
I used to find this environment restrictive, until I realized
how much happier the children (and parents) are when we are
clear, loving and fair about setting our own boundaries, and
learn how to set ''natural consequences'' for our actions. I
think Montessori has been the best thing in the world for MY
I am sure you will get a thousand replies telling you the same
thing - the law requires a rest period for children in
preschool and daycare, it doesn't matter which one you pick. I
am in a similar situation - my daughter turns five next week
and has not needed a nap for over a year. This year I am so
fed up with the stress that naptime causes that I started
picking her up at lunch time. Fortunately I work at home so I
can make that work, at least temporarily. I try not to think
about how much money I am wasting (they are still making me pay
for a full time spot, regardless of when I pick her up), and I
just count the months till kindergarten starts.
In the same boat
I think a lot of the answer depends on the school. Montessori
works really well for most children with all different
temperaments, but all Montessori schools are different. If you
already know that the Montessori school you are looking at
doesn't require nap time, the second thing I would find out is if
they allow the children to move independently from the indoor
classroom to the outdoor classroom. If they are allowed to go
outside when they want, then I think it would be a very good fit
for your son. Alternately, if your son would be happy with the
ability to move freely from ''job'' to ''job'' within the indoor
classroom then I would also think Montessori would be a good fit.
I also think a lot depends on the particular school you are
looking at-some are stricter than others. I know that refusal to
nap or sit during snack/lunch at my son's school will cause the
administration to ask you to remove the child from the
afternoon/lunch program, but I don't think they are all that way.
A happy Montessori mom
I think the main problem is the attitudes of the teachers at
your son's school. You should not be hearing negative comments
every day. I would hope that the teachers would have experience
working with all kinds of kids, and if not, that they would
work with you to figure out the best way to help your son.
Maybe you should ask them for solutions, rather than
complaints. I went through this with my daughter, who your son
sounds a lot like. Her former teacher did not have the
experience or ability to work with her, and she had nothing but
negative comments all the time. This made my daughter's
behavior worse. She's in a more structured preschool now, which
is not Montessori, but we almost did enroll her in one. The
Montessori schools that I visited seemed to be good places for
kids with high energy and various learning styles. In my
opinion, the teachers make all the difference in the world.
What influenced me most when looking for a preschool were
recommendations from other folks who have children like mine
and the ways that school directors and teachers would react to
my honesty about my daughter's learning style and behaviors. If
you'd like to email me personally, I would be glad to share my
experiences and the names of some of the great schools I've
Your son sounds like a marvelous boy who needs an environment more suited to his
personality. My advice is that Montessori is not the best idea. My daughter
a Montessori school and it's perfect for her, but the approach is exceptionally
structured, and while the learning activities are child-driven, the day and the
environment are very boundaried. If you've never visited one, you should check it
out -- Montessori classrooms are very quiet and the children very focused. There
a great sense of independence instilled in the kids, they are in charge of their
experience, and that's great, but in order for this to happen, it depends on
following the rules (and there are lots of them). I would suggest you look into a
Waldorf program, which might allow your son the freedom he needs.
My daughter was very similar - bouncy and full of energy. Montessori was great for
because she got to move around alot. They have a set number of ''works'' they have
accomplish. This introduces them to the concept of choice and engages them with a
bit of responsibility as well as being able to move around the room. My daughter's
teacher was particulary astute - she purposefully had her fetching things from
the room in order to deal with all the energy. Naps - they took them, with the
either reading or playing music. Don't know if all Montessori schools were this way
but this was Montessori Family School in Berkeley. Good luck.
It is hard to sort out whether or not Montessori would be good
for your son without knowing a little more about your
orientation to the development of your son's inner discipline.
The business about naps for 4 year olds can be solved in any
school where naps are not required for a 4 year old. But the
overall question of how your son would do in a Montessori
school, even without naps, is a broader question.
Can your son listen to instructions in general? Does your
family expect him to listen when an adult or another child
addresses him? Montessori schools want children to be able to
listen to direction and watch an adult or another child show
how to work with a piece of material as a starting point for
gaining ground in many areas that lead to more self reliance
and sense of capability, and true capability on the part of the
child. When the child can exercise enough control over his or
her impulses to stop, listen, and watch for guidance, many
wonderful things start to become possible for the child.
If your child is accustomed to being able to kind of ''run
wild'', so to speak,and your parenting style is happy with
this, then Montessori is probably not a good fit for either you
or your child.
If, on the other hand, you want your child to be able to gain
enough self control to begin establishing his skills in many
areas, including community living, then Montessori may be just
the thing for your family. You will be able and happy to
support what the school is trying to do for your son, and the
school will be happy supporting your parenting efforts.
In our enrollment process at my school we deliberately give
families a chance to think about this sort of thing before
enrolling, to make sure there is a good fit before we commit a
space and the parent commits for a school year.
Having said all that, I believe that there may be some children
who would need the absolutely most experienced and patient of
Montessori teachers to be integrated into a Montessori
classroom. The activity level of these children is so very
high, and impulse control so low that it is a really big
struggle for the teachers and for the child and the parents
just to get to that level where the child can begin to exercize
enough self control to not be a constant disruption in the
classroom environment where children are used to respecting one
another's space, materials, and feelings. Perhaps this scenario
is not at all applicable to your child, but I thought I should
throw in this consideration as well, if you are thinking about
Montessori for your son.
I wish you well in considering preschool options for your son.
And because I love Montessori education so much for what it
does for children, I hope it turns out to be a good fit for
Mimi at Garden Gate
Hi. After 6 months in Japan, we brought our 2 year old back
last week to start at the Montessori school we had chosen for
him... and I hate it. In his little Japanese school they
learned so much. They started the day in a little circle
calling attendance and singing songs, they went on nature
walks, the teacher read books to the group, sometimes they
would all play with big lego blocks... but all very group
Our son LOVED it. He had so much fun every day seeing how other
kids did the same thing he was doing. He learned so many words
and songs. Now we go to the Montessori and they literally
require nothing of the children. There is no group time AT
ALL. There is no structure at all, except when snack, outdoor
play, and lunch is. The teacher will read a book to individual
children if they ask, but no group singing or reading. Just to
note, he is a sharp little cookie... picked up Japanese on top
of his Spanish and English. He is wide awake and very open to
First of all, what is the difference between daycare and
montessori at this age? I am struggling to see it. Second,
are there more structured methods of schooling at this age?
It sounds like you and your son found a really good match for yourselves
Japanese preschool - and you have found less of a good one in your new
don't think the difference here is between daycare and preschool,
however, but just
between one program and another. If you are that unhappy, ask friends,
check old BPN
listings, and most importantly, go visit a few schools. Even Montessori
widely in how structured or unstructured they are. Further, I'm willing
to bet that you
would find some play-based preschool or day care programs that feel warm
A preschool teacher
Hi. I don't know much at all about Montessori pre-school
programs, but I KNOW that my 2 year old would not do well
without the kind of structure that her daycare provides. Even
though there are some bad ones out there, don't give on on
daycare centers. Not all of them are free for alls. Our
daughter is in a family (private home) day care center (12 kid
capacity) and loves it. They are on a tight schedule filled
with group activities throughout the day. They do two daily
circle times that include music, stories, puppet shows,learning
time, structured play, and also go for walks to the park, etc.
She's learning a lot and has great manners/social skills. We
did a lot of shopping around, but eventually found what we were
looking for. This particular daycare is entirely Spanish
speaking and in SF.
Structure a must for us.
I can't speak on behalf of Montessori schools, but I can say that
not all preschools are like that the one you describe.
My children went to Rainbow School in Rockridge, where they have
daily circle time, regular storytelling of all kinds - group,
interactive, by request, naptime. There is weekly group music
time and a separate movement time. They also go on nature walks
and the older children take weekly walks to the library. And as
weather and parent interest call for it, field trips.
Lots of group activities as well as time and space for individual
At least two of the teachers are bilingual. Rainbow is very good
at giving the children a well-rounded, happy, experience.
So, it sounds like you need to start shopping around a bit, now
that you know what you don't want and what you do want.
I'm sure you can find it.
Mom of Two
There are many kinds of Montessori schools. It depends on the
owner/teachers as to what aspects of the philosophy are
stressed. Basically, Maria Montessori prescribes an
environment which is arranged for the child to explore; this
implies individuality will be desired and fostered; a child can
push ahead and not be held back by a group that is still
dealing with concepts, taught diadactically, that are already
understood. However the method also emphasizes sharing in the
adventure of learning; in the school my child attended, she
often was gratified by being able to share her skills with
others who were still learning them. They had sharing time
daily, and joined together to participate in cultural learning
and celebrations. I can imagine that in just coming from Japan
and the type of school your child was in, the experience of
being in a Montessori school such as you describe, which sounds
very lopsided, to say the least, you must be perplexed. My
advice is that you search out other schools, other Montessori,
maybe Waldorf schools, ''play based'' preschools, or daycares and
compare them. My experience is that there is a vast difference
in them. I have a daycare in my home, and I try to bring the
best parts of Montessori and the Waldorf method into my
program. I am familiar with these philosophies of education,
but I believe most daycares are not going to impress you, as
the licensing process really focuses on safety, not what you do
all day. They want you to be a ''home'' not necessarily
a ''school.'' Choose a school or home where your child feels
nurtured. You may have to spend some time looking, but it
sounds like you want to. Good luck!
I don't know what Montessori preschool you are in but it sounds
COMPLETELY un-montessori to me. Montessori schools can vary in
how they are run but they all are generally very structured and
require a lot from the kids. If you are not happy, I would look
around at some different pre-schools.
I had my child at one Montessori for a year that I did not like
for a variety of reasons. We moved him to another the following
year and they are great.
I think your problem is that a Montessori style school (and all
its emphasis on individual work) is not right for your child.
Look for a play-based toddler or preschool program that
emphasizes social and emotional development. There your son
will learn to play with other children, get involved in group
activities, and thrive.
Hmmm, sounds like you weren't fully informed about Montessori
school before you signed up for it. Don't worry, they do learn a
lot, but there is very little emphasis on the group as such,
even though there is a lot of emphasis on being polite and
respectful and stuff like that. There are definitely preschools
with a more structured, group emphasis day. If you're sure you
don't like Montessori, check out one of those rather than day
care. Day care is usually going to be completely unstructured
but without any instructional philosophy. Just to reiterate,
they do ''expect'' and ''get'' work out of the children in
Montessori. Read up and you might change your mind. Or just
Montessori is an approach or philosophy of education. There
are Montessori daycares and preschools and then there other
preschools that follow other approaches. I really like the
Montessori philosophy, but I found that it wasn't really a fit
for either of my children. But it is a good fit for some.
I highly recommend finding a preschool or daycare that is
certified by the National Association for the Education of
Young Children. In order to be certified, a center must meet
standards established by this professional organization, which
include staffing, training, space, materials, curriculum
delivery. These standards have been developed in association
with other educational professional associations--Internation
Reading Association, etc. I have never seen a ''bad'' center
with this certification. Now, there may still be less than
ideal teachers. . .You can look up certified centers at
www.naeyc.org This rating is separate from the state's rating
which focuses on health and safety. But most important, find a
place that is a good fit for your family and your child. What
is great for one may not be for another.
Looked at LOTS of preschools
I am enrolling my son in a play-based preschool in the fall, at 2 years
school has a fairly high ratio (24 children to 3 teachers), and when I
school I noticed that many of the children play for periods of time
supervision/guidance. I think this will be fine for my child, since he
is very active
and independent. But he is also quite bright and loves problem-solving
new things (at 21 months he knows around 700 words, knows all the
heart and can count to 10), so I am thinking he would also thrive in a
environment. A Montessori is not really an option for this fall for
many reasons -
financially, I doubt there are openings now, and because I think he
still needs some
'running around' time.
So, I am thinking of keeping him in the play-based for one year, then
switching to a
Montessori when he is 3, for the two years before he goes to
Kindergarden at 5
years old. Any comments on if this is a good idea - i.e. the transition
based to Montessori, two preschools in three years, changing friends
etc. Also, any comments on the benefits of play-based vs. Montessori,
differences, are greatly appreciated!
Each Montessori school is different from the other. You should
check them out while their work time (the time they use the
montessori ''works'') is happening. But remember, that this is
usually for just a very small portion of each day. The rest of
the day is usually made up of run around play time outdoors and
play time indoors, some opening and closing circle times, and
perhaps some tea time fort the extended day kids (for families
who work full time days). IF you are even considering switching
in September '07, you should be contacting preschools now to see
when they take applications and when they give tours. Openings
for a mid-preschool age kid may be plentiful, but are more
likely to be limited. It probably depends on who leaves the
school between now and when you want a spot
I'd be careful about putting a two-year-old boy in a play-based
preschool. From my
experience, it can be overwhelming for a child that age, esp. a boy.
waiting till he's three and then putting him where he'll stay for the
putting him in a smaller, more structured setting till he's a bit older
(ie, a daycare
with older kids and some sort of program that will challenge him).
I think it's totally fine to switch from play-based to
Montessori, which is exactly what we did. However, I don't
think it's necessary if you are happy with the play-based school
(we were not so happy with ours). While at the play-based
school my son learned all of his letters and numbers, so
obviously they are learning while they play. Conversely, at his
Montessori school (Cedar Creek), which we love, the kids have
lots and lots of time to play. But they learn also. So change
schools if you must, but if your child is happy at his play-
based school and you like the teachers, then don't disrupt his
world if you don't have to! Montessori is great, but so are
lots of other kinds of schools
Hi-I am wondering whether I could get some advice from parents
who have experience with both play-based preschools and
Montessori schools. My son will be 2 1/2 next fall, and I am
having a hard time deciding between the two types of school
philosophies. The Montessori schools seem to teach kids great
practical skills but seem somewhat stiff and the kids don't
look like they are having all that much fun, but the play-based
schools don't seem to teach as much about the practical world
and the hands-on stuff that I find to be useful, yet the kids
seem to be free to be just that--kids. Any advice would be
greatly appreciated. I have very minimal experience with
observing either type of preschool, so my above critique is
based on what little I know. Thanks!
- confused parent
My wife and I had our son in a playbased preschool (Kiddie
Kampus) for 7 months before transferring him to a Montessori
based preschool when my wife began working fulltime. The free
structure of an emerging curriculum, where the director drew
from each kid's interest to create projects and learning
situations, was in sharp contrast with the more set curriculum
of the Montessori school. For our son, the switch was
traumatic, and it had more to do with what he was used--working
in groups with other children on a common project, learning to
interact and play together, growing their own vegetable garden,
going--than with the montessori setting. After three weeks at
the new Montessori school we decided that, for us, it was more
important to continue encouraging our young 4 year old to learn
with/from others his age than to! lead him on a road that
fosters a more isolated, independent approach to learning.
While the people who taught him at the Montessori school were
beautifully loving, they still had a learning approach to
implement and it was a little too rigid for a child used to
learning from the real world around him. I am also a high
school teacher and while I am usually impressed with students
who are highly independent when it comes to learning, I have
also noticed that the more successful students are usually
those who can work with their peers and who are sensitive to
others--they're happier, less stressed, and have a brighter,
less dog-eat-dog way of looking at the world. I think a
playbased learning style provides children the support they
need to engage with the world at their own rate(not every child
is developmentally ready at the same time) and by doing
activities that matter and are compelling to them. &n! bsp;
Visit both settings before you decide for your child. See how
your child engages with other children and with the setting.
If you can, visit Kiddie Kampus and meet the director Suellen--
with 35 years of teaching experience (she is also a cellist)
she brings a wealth of activities and perspectives to the
children she works with. I wish you the best of luck in your
search for your little one.
I am debating between montessori preschool (pretty strict
montessori) and play base for my almost 3 years old son. I see
both good and bad in both philosophies. At the montessori
school, I see how my son could be learning sense of
responsiblity and be advanced in academic part by the time he
goes to kindergarden. He will also enjoy the calmness of it. He
will enjoy mastering many projects. On the other hand, he will
miss the introduction to new art projects (because at
montessori, they can do art if they want to but it is not
encourage like play base school), simple music and dancing, and
being just a kid and have fun. I have been thinking this
through over and over. I know that it all comes down to what
would fit his personality and temerpaments. I also know that
there is no ''perfect'' preschool. But it is such a difficult
decision to make. So, I wonder if I can hear other parents'
input on this subject.
First, I suppose, not all Montessori or playbased preschools are
alike, but at my daughter's full-day Montessori there is plenty
of free time, especially outside time. The ''work'' time is only
from about 9-11 am, which includes circle time. My daughter
attended a playbased preschool for a few weeks last summer while
her Montessori was on vacation, and she became bored by mid-day
with the lack of structure and the chaos of toys all over the
place. Also, at this and another playbased preschool I know of,
the group art and music projects are teacher-directed and do not
let the children be as creative as are the student-choice
projects at her Montessori. I think the Montessori experience
of learning organization and choice skills, while still having
fun, has been valuable and will help her in kindergarten and in
Mom of a 5 year old
My son just started in a primary Montessori program a few months
ago (he just turned 3 in Feb). I too faced some of the same
concerns when we were looking at different type of schools.
Although many parents and Montessori school teachers may say any
child can foster in this environment, I do agree with you that
it depends on a child's temperament- maybe not in the long term
as I do see that children will eventually adapt (not always in a
positive manner!) but more like the ease of the initial
I am not sure how old your child is but one positive aspect of
Montessori is the mixed age group. My son is the youngest and in
the short time he has been there, we have seen tremendous
changes in his independence and ''willingness'' to do things on
his own (practical life skills). However, he has always had a
strong will so I think the environment with the older kids just
encouraged him a bit more. I think it also depends on the
school and class room environment-I found that although my son's
school seems more like an ''institution'' than a home based pre-
school, his teachers have been tremendously nurturing and
supportive of his needs as a 3 year old to play, or be in a
group setting, etc. My son loves art and music so he naturally
gravitate to the circle time participation and
other ''enrichment'' activities in the classroom on his own. On
the other hand, he is also very social so working independently
has been a bit of a challenge for him but it is also his young
age. He receives a lot support to get redirected to work on his
own and apparently once he gets the introduction to the ''work''
he becomes very engaged and enjoys it. Also, before he started
he was already pretty interested in numbers, ABC's etc so even
and since starting the program, he seems to be a bit more
directed about learning sounds, counting, etc but personally
that might just be him. On the other hand, all of
Montessori ''work'' is sequential so I am also certain that some
of the things he is exposed to are also attributing to the
heightened awareness without going over board.
I think my son gets plenty of kid ''play'' time at home but it was
a bit of a change for us to see him do ''work'' (as they call it)
seeing that he LOVED playing all day long at home with his nanny
share prior to starting school. I think it is children's nature
to want to follow a group at a young age, but eventually I think
they do grow out of that and ''some'' prefer to make their own
choices...our opinion is that that is how the world works and we
feel that the Montessori environment really fosters that.
I would suggest you speak about your concerns with the teachers
and director about your concerns to a get their opinion play
based vs. the independent work. I think it is more important to
base your decision on the support and nurturing your child will
be receiving (as well as yourself as a parent!) in his classroom-
regardless if it is Montessori or play-based.
Please email me directly if you have any other questions
Both my kids went to a fairly strict Montessori School (Nia
House Learning Center in Berkeley). The structured environment,
child/developmental based teaching philosphy, and emphasis on
self-discipline and responsibility is something that I still see
the influence of in my kids - years later. I think one of the
things that I most appreciate about Montessori is that there is
no distinction between work and play - so learning is joyful and
fun. By the way, Montessori schools do ''teach'' music and most
Montessori schools do have opportunities for the kids to do
some ''free'' art. Interestingly enough, both my Montessori kids
are very creative and are artistically talented (music, theatre,
and visual arts) so to the extent that the arts wasn't stressed
in their preschool years it doesn't seem to have stifled their
creativity at all. And, of course academically, Montessori
really prepares kids - no matter what their developmental
level. For some kids, its working on pre-literacy and pre-math
skills (tracing for small muscle development, pouring water for
sense of volume, etc.)for other kids - its understanding
multiplication theory and reading by kindergarten/first grade
(many Montessori schools encourage 5 year olds staying with the
program). That type of awareness and response to a child's
particular developmental stage is another great thing about
I think, particularly given your dilemma, it's better to choose
between particular schools than between school philosophies.
When we were ''shopping'' for preschools, I visited two Montessori
schools. One of them I liked, but it had no actual openings --
we would have had to sign up for a waiting list. The other I
simply was not impressed with at all. I also visited a play-
based school and liked it very much. So I brought my son to
visit it also, he seemed comfortable there, and so we enrolled
If you have two specific schools in mind, one that is Montessori
and the other play-based, and you like them both about equally
overall, bring your son for trial visits at each. See which one
HE likes better! Or choose on the basis of which offers a more
convenient schedule or location for you, or which one costs
less. Remember that if you make a choice and then later feel
that it was a mistake, it is not THAT hard to switch schools!
It's Only Preschool
It has been a long time since my children were in preschool (one is now
in high school, the other in college). I am an elementary school teacher,
and when my children were ready for preschool I found the least
''academic'', most play-based school I could find for them. My rationale
was that the work of childhood is play; children have so few years of
their lives to be children and to learn the skills that are acquired through
play before they are expected to do the work that adults choose for
them. I chose a school where they could dig in the sand all day if they
chose (learning important information about measuring and volume, as
well as eye-hand coordination, task completion, etc. Or they could listen
to stories (reading readiness), or cook (following directions,
sequencing), or play dress-up (cooperation, imagination). The most
important part of the school I chose was that the children were free to
follow their own lead; nothing was required of them other than to sit
down for lunch. They could play inside or outside, go to circle time or
not, particiipate in art projects when they wanted, etc. What my children
learned from this, and what all the children learned, was to explore their
own interests, discover their passions, make choices and have their
choices honored and respected by adults, play cooperatively or
independently, and most of all, be kids! They got wet, dirty, and messy.
They had lots of fun. They made good friends, learned to share, to solve
problems, to be caring and respectful. They, and all of their preschool
friends, were high achieving students once they got to school, and I've
always thought it had a lot to do with the fact that no one was pushing
them to do academic tasks before they were either developmentally
ready or interested. They entered school reading, ready for the serious
business of learning. I did not even look at Montessori schools at the
time; my thought (based on a very little reading) was that they were
more task and skill oriented, and less social ineraction and play oriented
than I was interested in. Kids have the rest of their lives to acquire skills
and complete tasks. Once my kids got into school it was full speed
ahead to sit still, do work, produce, please the teachers--you get the
picture--and it hasn't ended yet. I'm so glad they had the chance to be
kids for the first years of their lives.
In the Montessori school in Berkeley where I taught art was central, as was singing
and music. I am sure there are many ''play-based'' schools that integrate concepts/
materials inspired by Montessori. Why not look for all the things you value in one
school? The most important thing is to visit classrooms, and find one that feels like
a good fit for your kid and you. That means philosophy, comaraderie, and proximity
(parents get stressed out with too much driving... don't go for the ''perfect'' school if
it will be a strain on you. Go for a good one that is on your circuit).
Dear Confused Mom,
I have participated in Sequoia Nursery School, a play-based
preschool in Oakland, with both of my children. I can't
compare Montessori and play-based, because my only experience
is in a play-based school, but I can tell you that I have
never regreted my decision to go with a play-based program. In
fact I am grateful daily for the choice I made. Not only was
my second grader well prepared emotionally, socially and
academically when he began kindergarten, but he still looks
back fondly on his years of ''play'' at preschool. You can find
numerous studies and articles that describe the importance of
self-directed play. This is the one time in their academic
experience when they have free choice, opportunity for self
expression, and encouragement to use their imagination and
creativity. They are building the foundation and skills needed
for reading, writing, math, etc, but they do it through play,
which is developmentally appropriate and rewarding for this age
group. It won't be long before their entire day is structured
for them, so why not give them the space and time they need
a play-based fan
Hello, I am the owner, director and teacher of a little in-home
Montessori school in Walnut Creek. I read your question
about ''play based'' versus Montessori education with interest
because of having met many people recently who have been trying
to compare Montesssori with ''play based'' preschools. I would
like to take this opportunity to respond to your questions from
my own perspective as an early childhood educator of about 30
years who chose to enter the field of Montessori after working
in more conventional kinds of programs for several years.
Only recently did the term ''play based'' become a popular
term to be used by preschools where most learning is supposed
to be accomplished through play. It seems that non-Montessori
schools have begun to differentiate themselves both from
Montessori and from sturctured academic preschool programs
through this terminology. But I am concerned that this
differentiation is contributing to some ironic misconceptions
about Montessori education as being some things that it is not
and not being some things that it is.
By contrasting Montessori with ''play based'' education, one
would get the impression that Montessori, itself, is not play
based. Surprisingly, if truth be known, the Montessori method
of education is, in itself, 100% play based. There is
absolutely no differentiation between the play that a child
does to pour water from one pitcher to another, improvise music
with tone bells, or paint a water color, and the play that a
child does to learn how to make words from letters or carry out
multiplication on a bead board. It is just that in Montessori
schools we call this the work of the child. It is all the
child's self chosen work to develop through interaction with
the environment,the hands-on, natural way of learning that is
the hallmark of early childhood.
The child's work of becoming a social human being also
develops naturally through the children's spontaneous
interactions with one another within this environment. Children
work both alone and with other children depending upon their
own wishes at a given moment, so when they enter into an
interaction with another child, they feel in control of the
situation because they have chosen it. An emphasis is placed on
learning how to work respectfully together, to work out
problems together, and how to be a kind and thoughtful member
of the little community.
In preschools that identify themselves as ''play based'', the
orientation is that children need to play and socialize their
way through preschool with the traditional preschool materials
such as blocks,puzzles,dolls, etc.and that they are learning
through these experiences. But then there is a differentiation
between this happy and self chosen play and what is considered
to be the more serious academic and academic preparedness work
that begins closer to the kindergarten year, with at first,
perhaps a smattering of structured ''academic work'' at pre-
determined group times, and later pehaps more academic work at
sit down group times that are very different from the child's
other ''play based'' times. In contrast, the Montessori
conception of play as the child's spontaneous, natural form of
working toward self development permeates all of the
opportunities offered, including the academic work. This
represents an underlying difference from popular ideas about
what makes children happy and fulfilled and how young children
learn best. In Montessori schools all learning blends together
as the child's playful response to a rich and inviting
People sometimes enter a Montessori school and do not
understand why it is so quiet, or why the children seem so
serious while they are ''working.'' It is the child's
concentration on a chosen task that tells us that she or he has
found something truly satsifying to the child. Yet many people
still hold the idea that if children are not running about,
creating chaos, and being loudly gregarious, they are
not ''being kids''. In Montessori schools ''being a kid'' means
finding what you need to develop into a whole and fulfilled
individual within a community of other people. This is not just
a preparation for the next step in life, but a means to
wholeness. Montessori children are centered, happy, confident
little people who have learned how to contribute meaningfully
to their community as well as to follow their individual and
unique impetus toward learning and expression.
You mention that your child would miss out on art work in a
Montessori school because it is there but not encouraged. But
It is the environment that is carefully designed to encourage
the child and respond to his needs. This is what gives the
child a chance to be more self determining and self
discovering. Art work in a good Montessori school is in many
places throughout the school. It is in the ''Sensorial'' area
where children find beautiful,inviting materials through which
to refine their senses and appreciation regarding texture,
color, shape,and sound, and even refining their discrimination
of taste and smell. It is in the water color work set up on a
beautiful tray with a good brush and good paints and a little
jar of water. It is in the many other art materials set out
for children to explore and use with both respect and self
In a good Montessori school, this little water
color ''work'', like all other ''work'' is a delightful, child
oriented temptation sitting on a shelf, waiting for an eager
little artist to choose it, carry it to a table, use with it
joy and respect, and then restore to it's original cleanliness
and order, and return to the shelf. It is not an adult
supervised ''art time'' experience or a station where children
can perhaps volunteer to go for a limited time under the
watchful supervision of an adult. And, as with all learning
materials, the art materials are an ever evolving part of the
prepared environment. The teacher is a guide who watches to
see what her individual students are ready for, prepares these
inviting tasks, presents how to handle them to the children,
and then observes to see how the children use them, varying
them as needed, and providing suggestions and guidance, but
never forcing, because the child's inner motivation for
learning is the strongest and most effective pathway to a
child's further development.
Some people worry about there being less fantasy play in the
Montessori school. Fantasy play is less emphasized in half day
programs than in ''play based'' preschools, because children have
so much fantasy play in their home environments, and we feel
that school is an opportunity to develop in ways that may not
be so available at home. However full day programs where
children are not going home for the afternoon have lots of
fantasy and open ended activities in the afternoon portion of
their programs, and even most morning programs have
opportunities for fantasy play built into some aspects of the
Are children able to be ''just children'' in a Montessori
environment? You bet they are, but we see children as young
people trying to evolve toward their full human potential. Yes
there is a structure to the environment,which serves as a
framework that gives the child the opportunity to function
independently. This independence brings the child the ability
to act more freely to learn, develop, and discover his/her
interests and creativity than would be otherwise possible.
I realize that this is a really long post, but Montessori
is a complex way of working with children with a deep and broad
philosophical base designed to meet the real needs of
children. To the casual observer it may appear to be something
it is not, and to not be something that it is. I thank you for
the opportunity to try to clarify some common misconceptions
about this really fabulous and holistic way of approaching the
education of our young people.
I had no real idea what Montessori was like when I signed my then 3 year old
daughter up for a Montessori preschool. I had heard it was ''child-centered'' and our
child loved learning, and so it sounded good. Well for us it turned out to be terrible
and when we pulled her out after 3 months our normally outgoing, curious, social,
and imaginative child had become withdrawn, stopped participating in activitites,
and didn't learn a thing. She was completely uninterested in the ''jobs'' and did not
make any friends (she usually makes new friends very easily). The ''jobs'' were
''child-centered'' in that she could choose which one she wanted to do and do it for
as long as she wanted, but they were not in any way imaginative or interesting to
her. They are designed to be ''self-correcting'' like a puzzle, which means that you
have to figure out the right way to do it, but there is no opportunity to use your
Here are my main criticisms of Montessori for preschool:
1. It does not teach kids the main thing they need to learn at this age which is how
to play with others and get along socially. Every activity was either individual ''jobs'',
whole group instruction, or completely unorganized play outside. There was no
opportunity to get to know other kids and learn how to play with them. (Just
because kids are all climbing on the same structure or going down the slide doesn't
mean they are actually playing together.)
2. It does not encourage or even really allow for kids to use their imaginations,
which is a real shame to deny this for 3-5 year olds.
3. It sets up a false dichotomy (to me) between ''work'' and ''play''. Especially at this
age, learning should be fun.
I think Montessori is probably a great method for a certain small percentage of
children. It is both mystifying and dismaying to me that it is so prevalent among
educated middle class families to the point that it seems to be the only option
available in certain areas (such as Alameda). Why are such parents so concerned
about the academic achievement of their preschoolers? Do kids really need to know
how to read before they start kindergarten? (BTW, a few months after we put her in
a play-based daycare our daughter was back to her delightful self, and now she is
really enjoying and doing well in kindergarten.)
--obviously not a Montessori fan
I would suggest to you picking a Montessori school that is more
moderate, not a strict Montessori. Montessori's seem to each
be a bit different in terms of where they fall on the spectrum
of how extrememly they adhere to the Montessori way. My son
goes to one (Oakland Montessori), and it is a great mixture of
philosophies. It definately has the Montessori feel, where the
energy in the classroom is calm, organized, with no plastic
toys, and they work on the traditional Montessori jobs during a
large part of the day. But they also have enrichment
activities like art, music and gymnastics each once a week.
The techers are great about weaving into circle time songs,
multi-cultural,holiday, and other themed activities. They also
have alot of free play time outside where they can run around
and have fun. Plus the teachers are very warm and nurturing,
which you don't find at some more strict Montessori's. I feel
that this type of enviroment weaves in all the plus's of each
type of pre-school approach. Good luck.
I am considering a Montessori preschool for my daughter and am
hearing from parents of former or current Montessori kids or others
knowledge. I really like much of the philosophy but wonder if the
order and cleanliness is actually an overemphasis which could lead to
later on. Has there been any research in this area? Any advice
Signed, Mom with enough obsessive tendencies for the whole family.
I have had three kids in Montessori and do not feel that the
philosophy would lead to OCD issues (I suppose that it might if
the child was predisposed to OCD to begin with, but my kids
were not and there do not seem to be any problems.) My oldest
child is a naturally messy kid (but mentally organized) and she
seems to have followed her natural tendency, but with the
ability to manage her time and projects that she learned from
her Montessori education. She's been out of Montessori for
about 3-4 years now and is functioning very independently
without any OCD isues. My second was always physically
organized, and Montessori doesn't seem to have made her
obsessive about it. She shares a bedroom with the messy older
one and while she does clean up after her sister on occasion,
it's more due to not being able to see the floor rat! her than an
OCD perspective. From what I observed from my children, it
seems that the Montessori orderliness taught them the ''process''
of getting something done which is something their peers
struggle with. The Montessori ''cleanliness'' did teach them to
clean up after themselves. while they do not always remember,
all I have to give is a gentle reminder and it's done without
much fuss. We found the Montessori philosophy to match our
parenting philosophy (except we're not very neat ourselves) and
it's worked very well for all of us.
My almost 4-year old daughter is currently attending a
developmental preschool. We are hoping to send her to a
Catholic school once she enters Kindergarten. Should we keep
her in the program she is currently attending or would a
Montessori environment prepare her more for the challenges of
Kindergarten? Any feedback would be wonderful! Thanks...
The best way to prepare your child for kindergarten is to make
sure that he/she is socially and emotionally prepared. The
biggest challenges they'll face are getting along with a new
group of kids, and the challenges of having more autonomy in
problem solving and issues with other kids. My son went to a
developmental preschool and was more than prepared for
kindergarten. I think most kindergarten teachers expect your
kids to be an 'open slate' academically, and my son was just as
prepared academically for kindergarten as his classmates,
including those who went to 'academic' or Montessori
preschools. If you and your child are happy with his current
preschool, why move him?
What exactly does Montessori mean? I have seen "montessori" in various
places as I've driven by for
many years now, never quite knowing what was actually behind those
classroom walls. Now that I
finally have a baby of my own and am beginning to look into his
I'm starting to research
home schooling. I am curious what Montessori means, does it mean a
philosophy of teaching, etc.? Irene
In a nutshell, Montessori is a method of teaching that is based on
the developmental, behavioral tendencies of children. I am a Montessori
teacher now in my sixth year of teaching at Berkeley Montessori School,
as this subject is near and dear to my heart, I'm compelled to give a
longer explination of what a "developmental approach" really means, and
what it looks like in action.
Dr. Maria Montessori, at the turn of the 20th Century, did
something remarkable: she observed children. She worked with children
declared mentally deficient, and ineducable, and by observing them
carefully, and providing learning experiences geared toward the individual
child's needs, she discovered successful ways to teach. She applied these
techniques and made further observations in her first "school" in Rome,
working with normal, but very poor preschool-aged children. Thus began
Montessori's lifelong persuit of understanding the development of children,
and her creation of a developmental approach to education.
Maria Montessori defined the goal of education as the development
of a complete human being, a person oriented to his environment, and
adapted to his time, place and culture. Montessori observed that children
are driven to explore, repeat and work toward mastery of new skills. In
lectures and writings she identifies these behaviors, as well as
orientation, order, imagination, manipulation, precision, and
as innate in children. Children are driven to learn. The goal then is
obviously to create an environment where the needs of the child at each
stage of development dictate the form, content and pace of his education.
(Contrast this with the current pressures upon children and teachers in
traditional schools to allow state mandated aptitude test scores to drive
the form, content and pace of a child's education).
The Montessori preschool-kindergarten classroom is prepared with
concrete, hands-on materials, organized in areas designed to appeal to the
children's developmental interests. Montessori math and language
are wonderful, and there are also works based on practical life activities,
exercises in grace and courtesy, exploration of the senses, geography, and
even animals and plants to care for. These materials are presented to the
children and then left on the shelf for the children to work with as their
Multi-age classrooms are an important aspect of a Montessori
education. The children are not grouped by the same age, but rather by
developmental plane, usually in three-year age spans. The younger
are inspired by the older ones, and the older ones take pride in helping
the younger ones. It is a playful atmosphere in which children are free to
choose what to work on, and free to repeat the same activity as much as
they like. The children oscillate between periods of intense concentration
on work, discussion with others, having a snack, observing what others
doing, and receiving lessons from one of the two full-time teachers.
The works themselves are of profound interest to the child, because
they provide opportunity for the child to discuss, experiment, organize and
master things in his everyday environment. The playful atmosphere is a
catalyst for ample learning because it is child-driven. Montessori stressed
that a child's interaction with the environment is most productive in terms
of the individual's development when it is self-chosen and founded upon
I suggest you do some research if you are shopping for a Montessori
school. Anyone can hang a sign that says Montessori School, so check to
if the school is certified by AMS or AMI. And visit the school so you can
see a classroom in action.
Most Montessori Schools are preschool/kindergartens, but others,
like Berkeley Montessori School, have elementary and middle schools as
well. I teach a first, second and third grade class (age 6-9). Please email
me if you are interested in more information about Montessori for the
I want to add a word to the recent informative post by a teacher from
Berkeley Montessori School. There are two Montessori schools in
with programs extending through at least 5th or 6th grade: Berkeley
Montessori School and Montessori Family School (I wrote about my
with MFS preschool recently.) Both are staffed by certified Montessori
teachers. Berkeley Montessori began a middle school (7-8) program
four years ago. Montessori Family School runs through 6th grade, I
Middle school has not been traditional Montessori territory but friends
attend seem reasonably happy with it. Kurt Chamberlin, the director of
Berkeley Montessori, is a very impressive individual who seems to have
head screwed on straight.
I have found that the Montessori schools vary dramatically and whether they
are good for your child really depends on the personality of the child and
the school. When I first looked at a Montessori in San Francisco, I found
it very rigid. I was uncomfortable there and my then 2 year old son seemed
out of place when we went to check it out. He needed more flexibility and
fewer rules. He had a strong sense of self esteem and was very social.
The next time I looked into Montessori, it was at a different location and
for a different child. This time it was a wonderful fit. Due to numerous
changes when my second son was 2 (we moved, lost our regular care giver,
changed jobs), he had lost some self esteem and was not very social. The
Montessori he now attends, has more flexibility, is wide open and has
encouraged his learning and exploration. In the last year he has blossomed,
regained his self confidence and lost most of his shyness.
So even though the Montessoris follow the same philosophy--how that
philosophy is implemented will depend a lot on the director and the
teachers. The surroundings vary too and make a big difference. In all
Montessoris, everything has a place in which it belongs and the child is
expected to return his or her "work" to the appropriate space. In SF the
room was divided by child high space dividers into small and relatively dark
work areas. The director became annoyed when my 2 year old--there just for a
visit--picked something out and moved it from one area to another. In the
Montessori we are now in (in Marin), the room is large--brightly lit--and
everything is placed along the walls. It is a more welcoming feeling and
gives the children a whole room to explore and move around.
So you need to check out the specific school and if possible talk to other
parents whose children are there. Good luck.
I was a Montessori kid myself and have my 3 year old in a Montessori
school (Cedar Creek Montessori), and I think the Montessori method is
wonderful. However, any school can call itself Montessori and have nothing
to do with the Montessori method. I've been looking at Montessori schools
on the Peninsula because we are moving there this summer and there are a
lot of terrible ones! But I was very impressed with the Discovery
Children's House (650-856-1760) Montessori school, which is in Palo Alto
(and also in San Carlos); I also liked Montessori Community School in
Redwood City. In general, AMS certified schools seem to be better.
What I like about Montessori--they teach children to respect other people,
they teach children to be self-motivated (the child is the one who picks
what he/she will work on) and disciplined, they have an environment that
is interesting to kids and helps them learn about the world in a concrete
way, and they want to reach out to the community to interact positively
and promote respect and peace. I also like that they have mixed ages,
where older kids can act as teachers and mentors for the younger ones.
What I look for are teachers and directors of schools that treat the
children (and each other) in a respectful way--a Montessori teacher
doesn't raise her/his voice, but uses positive disciplining measures. I
also look for a warm environment where the children are engaged but having
fun, where the teachers obviously care a lot for the kids.
Yes, these schools are expensive, but child development research has shown
that the biggest differences in a child's education come in the first 6
years of life. Better to spend that money now when it can so positively
impact the way the child will learn for the rest of their lives.
There is a good web site, http://www.montessoriconnections.com/, for
finding Montessori schools.
The Montessori method is not for every child, but I think it is worth
visiting a good Montessori school and observing the kids and how much they
enjoy the work they are doing, and also seeing how your child interacts
with the environment. Then you can see if it is right for you.
Yes, yes, yes on Montessori, but you have to check out the individual program.
There are different approaches within the method, some being more "rigid" than
others. One advantage to Montessori is that all the teachers are fully trained
in a two-year (?) program. My son was in a developmental (play=learning philosophy)
and didn't prosper. He needed more structure, which Montessori gave him. He likes
to know what's expected, and he loves to learn. And learn he did, all in a pleasant,
progressive way with lots of manipulatives. The kids are the center of things in
Montessori, and the teachers address the whole child, teaching manners, caring,
self-reliance (fixing their own simple snacks), math, clean-up, cooking, gardening,
science, and pre-reading. The kids go at their own paces and are never made to feel
they are "behind." The materials are specialized for teaching kids of the relevant
ages, and I liked the fact that they "extend" to keep teaching to kids once they have
the basic principle down. Also, kids teach and help other kids, thereby reinforcing
their learning. My son is gifted and was able to find challenges all the way thru his
time at Montessori. Despite all the learning, there is also a lot of creativity and
unstructured play-time. At first I was put off by the fact that the kids lined up to
go inside, had to work on small mats, etc. But then I realized my son really liked and
needed structure to his day.
My now 9-year-old has been in two Montessori settings -- preschool at
Applegarden in Montclair and Berkeley Montessori School in Berkeley
from K-4 presently. In brief, we are quite happy with the Montessori
curriculum. I would say there are 3 things to consider -- 1) each
Montessori environment translates the meaning a little differently,
and some quite differently. Visit more than one. Talke with the
head teachers carefully. 2) know ahead of time at what point you
will be transferring your child to tranditional curriculum (at this
point there aren't any Montessori high schools, so you have to face
it at some point or another). Since one of the definitions of
Montessori is to group 3 years at a time with a very specific agenda
that depends upon completing the 3-year cycle (avoid transferring
your child at grade 2, for instance), know ahead of time what your
alternatives are. Don't enter them into the Montessori environment
frivolously without intention of completing each cycle, if
possible. 3) Understand that the Montessori match curriculum is
TOTALLY DIFFERENT than traditional math, and have them present you
with why it is so -- this is the one very definite strength of the
Montessori belief system but it doesn't pan out until much later in
the learning process -- which is another reason for not entering
unless you intend to stay through at least 6th grade. -- Tamara
My daughter is attending the Montessori Family School in Kensington.
She is in a mixed age class (first grade third grade). She started
school elsewhere and transferred to the MFS in second grade. We've
been very, very happy with the school. The director, Jane Weschler,
is a strong, but supportive director, who also teaches part time at
What has made the school wonderful for my daughter is that the
teachers are really dedicated to being teachers. They are not just
there to pass the time until something else comes along. They teach
there because they want to. In addition, the mixed age group has
had benefits that I didn't anticipate. My daughter is an only child,
but at school she helps the younger children and plays games during
recess with the older children. There isn't so much age segregation
as there is in a school w/o mixed age groups.
As far as the Montessori philosophy goes, I have to admit that I am
not well read and I have found the emphasis on manipulatives peculiar.
But the results in terms of my daughter's learning have been very
impressive. She is doing well in an areas, has an interest in
learning, and is just picking up an amazing amount of information.
So I think the educational system is very rich. There also is an
emphasis on "integrated" learning, meaning that the children use
their language and math skills to study cultural (social and
historical) and science subjects. Also, the teachers discuss the
relationship of different cultural and science subjects to one
another. Through this system of education, my daughter has already
learned to approach her school work as an integrated system. It's
really nice to see a philosophy work in practice.
I would guess that different schools apply the Montessori philosophy
differently, so I'd ask the director of the school to discuss what the
Montessori philosophy is and how it is implemented in his/her school.
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