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I am considering taking oral Hcg to lose 15 lbs quickly.I
would like to know whether you have tried it and how it
went for you. Please - no moralising and telling me about
other diets you have tried. I only want to hear from people
who have tried HCG either injections or oral suspension.
I have a friend who is a nutritionist and did the HCG diet
w/the supplements. She ate nearly nothing. It's like 600
calories a day but said she didn't feel hungry because of
the supplements. She lost at least 15 pounds very quickly.
However, she gained the weight back immediately and said she
has some health risks as a result and no longer swears by
it. I lost the same amount of weight she did with running 3
miles a day. I started off walking and gradually built up to
jogging. I like food too much to eat so little and I am
breast feeding so I couldn't do it--oh, and I am also vegan
which they don't recommend. It looked really tempting seeing
my friend loose so much weight quickly. So, in a sense it
did work in the short term although with health
consequences. Also, it isn't cheap.
I have just completed 30 days on the hCG diet, using the oral drops. I have
lost 16.8 lbs. I have seldom been hungry, and never felt weak- which I was
concerned about, as I have a fairly physically demanding job. It's been great to
loose an average of half a pound, as opposed to the half a pound a week that I
had managed for the last 4 months! I did consult my dr before I started; she
said ''you're healthy, give it a try, all you have to loose is excess weight!'' I'm
glad I did it, and I'm planning to do it again in January to get the last excess
15 lbs. off - then I'll be at my ideal weight of 155!
A colleague of mine used HGC to lose 22 pounds in about 3
weeks. She has put the bulk (no pun intended) of it back
on, but she wanted to fit into a cute little dress for her
To my surprise I've recently found that I've dropped from a size 10 to a size 8
without doing anything different as far as eating or exercise. I've been
extremely stressed and depressed for the past two years because I vehemently
hate living in California. I want to get back home east but have been unable to
land a job there despite many applications...so more stress and sadness. Can
stress and depression itself lead to weight loss?
wanna go home
Yes, stress and depression can lead to weight loss. Unintentional changes in
eating habits or weight loss or gain is one of the symptoms of depression.
There are also 8 others (one needs to have 5 of them, together, for a period of
time to be considered depressed), so I am not saying you are necessarily
clinically depressed. But given your situation and feelings, have you considered
getting some professional support or therapy?
Absolutely, depression and stress can contribute to weight loss. Often you
see weight gain as a symptom of depression, but weight loss is also a
Stress and depression can make you eat less, leading to
weight loss. But if you are really eating the same amount,
and losing weight, you should see your doctor. Unexplained weight
loss -- and by unexplained, I mean unexplained by a change in diet
and/or exercise -- can be a sign of a serious problem. Please
see your doctor.
Yesat least in some people, stress and depression can
definitely affect metabolism. I dropped about seven pounds
when I was very homesick, and closer to 15 pounds after a
bad case of unrequited love. My doctor said that this was
normal, if painful, and that my normal weight would return,
which it did.
In the meantime, I'm concerned that you are still so
homesick after two years. If the depression prevents your
getting out and making new friends and doing other things
that would help you to feel at home here, then you're
trapped in a loop. Do think about therapy if you haven't
already. Good luck; homesickness and depression are no fun,
but they're unlikely to go away unless you take action.
Yes, absolutely depression and stress can cause weight
loss -- in fact it's one of the symptoms of depression.
Just in case, though, I would have it checked out by a
doctor, because other health conditions can cause weight
If the problem is only not living where you love to live,
hopefully this will resolve soon. But if you are living
with such stress and misery in the mean time, it could be
very helpful to talk to a professional about it. I am a
therapist, specializing in depression, and I find that
therapy helps most people find relief for this kind of
suffering, sometimes even before life circumstances can
Stress and depression definitely can lead to weight loss.
When you keep feelings in and don't have regular healthy
release, they build up in your nervous system, and can cause
lack of clarity, loss if interest, excess anger, etc. There
are healthy ways to release stress and sadness... I teach a
class on getting connected as a parent that addresses this
very thing. There is a very simple way that you can get
support from friends - a listening tool that actually helps
you offload stress, think more clearly, have more calm and
joy in your life. Reaching out was the first step, and
creating a listening partnership that offers true emotional
support could be the next.
Good luck to you.
This is the original poster - I was wrong about dropping to Size 8, it's actually
more like between size 4 & 6; some size 4s fit me, some size 6s. And the scale
confirms that I'm down to what I weighed in college.
You may want to get your thyroid checked. I dropped 15 pounds somewhat
suddenly and discovered I had hyperthyroidism. Another side effect is also
depression. It's a simple blood test. I'd be happy to talk to you about it if you
Good luck getting back east!
So sorry to hear of your 'homesickness' - I moved from NY in
'05, and it took me about 3-4 yrs before I started to feel
like I was beginning to ease into life on the Left Coast. I
still miss the eastern seaboard, but it's better now. Sadly,
the stress/depression/homesickness had the polar OPPOSITE
effect on me (lol); get a check up, and rule out anything
serious, and if you want, call me, I'll do my best Brooklyn
accent for ya'...
(still!) a NY State of Mind
Just in case, it might be a good idea to see your doctor.
I lost a bunch of weight after my son was born -- while eating my usual amount
and not exercising much at all. I felt pretty depressed also.
Turns out I had diabetes. Diabetes can cause weight loss because so much of
the sugar stays in your bloodstream. If you feel tired or thirsty, or need to use
the bathroom a lot, these are also symptoms.
As a plus, my mood problems cleared up when I started proper treatment!
Yes, absolutely, stress and depression can lead to weight
loss. But beware anti depressant meds. I lost weight due to
depression. After taking meds I then gained 3x the weight I
lost I'm more depressed now and am dealing with medical
conditions related to weight gain such as high blood
pressure, diabetes. I regret starting meds.
I'm middle-aged, and after a lifetime of high metabolism everything
changed. Now I have the belly fat all the reports warn about. I am
not overweight overall; it's all concentrated.
Would love to hear what's worked for others -- is there any way to
target just that area?
Like Santa's bowlful of jelly but no ho-ho-ho from me!
What you need is to shake up your current fitness routine. You can't target
one area but you can build muscle that will burn fat all over your body.
I highly recommend the classes at Phoenix gym in Berkeley:
They have bootcamp classes in the morning and personal training. The trainers
are excellent and the best part is that the classes are still small so you get
lots of persona attention. You'll get stronger and fitter and that belly flab
will disappear (or at least get smaller).
This would be a great way to start the new year.
flabby no more
Stop eating wheat. It is the cause of the fat belly. Just think that the
wheat is bloating you up and your body is not able to process the toxins out.
Food producers don't really tell us what's in our food and it is up to us to
pay attention. To our Bodies. If it feels bad it is bad! Try different
experiments with different types of diets- raw, alkaline, wheat-free,
dairy-free, etc. (get more info on those) There is lots of alternatives now
days. Or stick to fruit and vegetables. The less processed the better. See
what your body is telling you. It may take a couple days to get the wheat
out. But it will feel good. And that is good!
What's in my food?!
I would like to lose 25 pounds in anticipation of an event next
June. I have already talked with my doctor, who ran thyroid and
other tests, which were normal. It's simply a matter of exercising
more and eating fewer calories. I am HIGHLY motivated by recording
information and seeing the resulting progress in graph form. Can
anyone recommend an online site where I can enter calorie counts,
exercise, and weight--and see my information presented visually?
--8 Months to a Healthy Weight
fatsecret.com - it helped me lose about 35 pounds in about 6 months.
The website sparkpeople.com is free and has charts and graphs for
tracking your weight loss. It also has meal plans, exercise plans,
blogs, recipes, etc.. It is a great resource.
Also trying to lose
I LOVE this website: www.myfitnesspal.com. I used it to lose 35
lb. and it does have graphs. Have fun!
I really like myfooddiary.com - it has great graphs for weight,
measurements, body fat percentage. Only catch is that it costs $9
-trying to lose weight too
Try the site www.fitday.com
Hi - try www.fitday.com, it's free. It tracks your foods,
exercises, weight loss and goals. Good luck!
I've been using nutridiary.com, and have been pretty happy with it.
I use the free version, which has nutrient info on lots of different
foods, lets you add your own foods, and lets you construct ''meals''
of food combinations you eat regularly (saves time in entering). It
displays various kinds of progress (calorie distribution, weight
lost, etc.) with graphs under the ''reports'' tab. They also offer
a paid version with a lot more foods listed, but I generally use
calorieking.com (free) if I need more information on a food not
listed at nutridiary.
lost 10 pounds so far!
Yes yes! onlinefitnesslog.com sounds like exactly what you need.
Little lines with different colors for weight, body fat, exercise
output, etc. Have fun, good luck!
--losing that baby fat
I just wanted to suggest checking out the bodybugg. I worked with a
trainer who recommended it for those seeking weight loss, and though
I didn't use it, a good friend did. There are fees, but the graphs
and reminders that you need to do 'one 15 minute walk before bed' if
you plan to meet the calories burned goal, were very helpful for my
friend. The website is www.bodybugg.com.
I was in your same situation a few months ago--I had those last
15-20 pounds of baby weight that I was hoping to lose before an
event. I came across the 3-Hour Diet (www.3hourdiet.com) and it
worked like a charm for me. It is a relatively easy diet--there are
not really any restrictions on what you can eat, so I never felt
deprived of anything. And it taught me a lot of good eating
habits--habits that I still use in my day-to-day life even though
I'm no longer doing the diet (I lost most all of the weight I wanted
to). The site utilizes a lot of visuals--you can post before and
after pictures, and there are graphs for total body weight and then
each separate body measurement. You can join chat groups, which
really helped to keep me motivated. You can also type in your
dietary preferences, and the site will generate daily menus for you,
along with shopping lists to make all of the recipes. I highly
recommend this diet/website.
I'll love to hear from those who have successfully (or not so
much) lost some weight on some of those very commercial methods.
I have 2 months and 10 lbs to loose for my sister's wedding this
December. I have a dress and I'm just not willing to buy a new
expensive dress for one night.
Please not lecturing... I'm a very busy mom of two toddlers,
maybe I can walk for 30 3 or 4x a week, I'm on an overall healthy
diet, I RARELY eat out , I know myself what in the food I need to
change. I will star to do this waking running, but PLEASE tell me
about that magic green tea, other herbal methods, weight watcher,
slim fast o the like.
Thanks for your input
mommy with the big thighs
I lost a lot of weight a couple of years ago (and have kept most
of it off) using a book called ''The Diet Cure''. My problem was a
sweets addiction though it doesn't sound like an issue for you.
The book might be helpful and keep you mindful of your eating.
Good luck to you! I hope you make your goal and look stunning
for the wedding.
The mother of a friend of mine once said that the only way for
women to lose weight is to go to bed hungry. I was never fond
of that idea but it does seem true that women need to eat much
less (as well as exercise) in order to lose weight. I've
managed to lose a fair bit by taking smaller portions at lunch
and especially dinner, and never going back for seconds. I also
try to remind myself not to eat my 9 year old's leftovers even
if tossing them is abhorrent to me. I do eat enough at dinner
to not be hungry in the night because it affects my sleep. If I
am hungry before bed, I'll eat a handful of almonds or some non-
sugary yogurt. If your body is too starving then all you'll
want to do is eat and that defeats the purpose. However,
exercise is key.
hungry but not starving
If it's just 10 pounds - don't worry, buy one of those minimizer
things that go from breast to knees and call it a day.
Be glad it's only 10 pounds
Try cutting out ALL sugar in your diet - even to the level of
ketchup. It's not as hard as it sounds, once you've gotten
through a few days, you tend to lose the sweet tooth urge. You
can drop 5 pounds quickly b/c eating sugar tends to make you
bloated with extra water. No sugar means you also drop all those
desserts etc. I also have cut out cow dairy (allergies) and that
really helped as well. I still eat plenty, including high fat
food (hummus, avocados), I'm not hungry. It's hard to organize
sometimes but do-able. If you can do it, cutting out all refined
wheat (or as much as you can) really does the trick as well.
The South Beach diet is a great way to lose weight/eat healthy
without ''dieting''. It's also based o the no sugar concept, but
explains it much better than I am.
I find that my vanity took over once I did lose the weight, so
I'm more motivated to stay thin. I am finally able to leave food
on my plate. In fact, eating only half of your entree out is a
great trick as well.
You can realistically lose 10 pounds in 2 and 1/2 months and in healthy ways as it's
only a pound a week. I did Weight Watchers in the past, and have had clients who
use Weight Watchers for dieting help and hypnosis to keep them motivated and on
track in reaching their goals and feeling great about themselves. A number of years
ago I lost about 80 pounds, however, I've kept the weight off, by using hypnosis,
self-hypnosis and exercising daily, usually walking and yoga.
Another plus in your favor is that in addition to walking several times a week, you
have toddlers who keep you on the go. Have fun and take advantage of their
energy, maybe by taking walks or pushing them in their stroller, go to the park and
play with them on the apparatus, or dance, jump, gallop with them. Everyone will
have lots of fun and you'll burn lots of calories too. Since you are highly motivated
to lose weight, you would be a great candidate for hypnosis. If this seems like
something you might like to try, let me know.
Hope this is not a ''lecture'' but look, you can do this. It's
fast but not impossible, 5 pounds per month or a little over 1
per week. I lost 30 pounds on my best efforts at a rate of 1/2
to 1 lb/week, after an initial more rapid loss.
I'd say, put a calendar of the two months ON THE WALL. PLAN
your meals, write them up there, follow them. Keep to small
portions, you know that. Use that 30 min 3-4 X a week to push
yourself at a high heart rate, put those 30-mins up on that
calendar too and do them when you're supposed to. You have to
signal to yourself that it's a new program. Keep the dress in
mind. You may drop 5 right off the bat. Keep hydrated. Use all
the tricks, vegs & water first, stop before you're full, plan
in little sweets or whatever your weakness is. The main thing
is make yourself a written plan and stick to it.
My personal favorite mind game is knowing I can do one small
(150-200 calorie) late morning meal, then ONE MAIN MEAL late
afternoon and be satisfied. I keep my coffees with cream and
sugar in because I'd feel deprived without them. I plan what I
will eat if my stomach is growling late night, OR if I'm strong
I just say to myself ''That's the sound of this body sculpting
itself down,'' and go to sleep. You can do it!
Before my own wedding, for about 6-8 weeks, I didn't eat anything
white- no sugar, white bread, yogurt, etc..- or anything
processed or alcohol. Just good wholesome veggies, fruits,
grains. It just peeled off!
Oh my gosh...who hasn't done what you are suggesting? Or,
thought about it? This past year, I wanted to drop for my
husbands 25th high school reunion (had to look good for his
ex-girlfriends...right?) I used www.thedailyplate.com. There
wasn't any magic to it. I just put in my weight, how much I
wanted to lose, and then kept the on-line food diary. It tallied
for me my calories. Once I knew what I was eating, I was able to
easily get my intake to what my suggested calories in-line for my
weight loss goal. I lost the ten pounds in the ten weeks and
I've kept it off for the the past three months. I have another
ten I would like to lose...haven't stayed on the thdailyplate,
but plan to go back once I my urge to lose the remainder hits me...
Not easy to articulate this question, for which I would really
appreciate some supportive, concrete advise. We just took a
look at our Mother's Day photos, and I look like such a blob.
Apparently, my two pregnancies triggered my thyroid disease and
Hashimoto's thyroiditis, but the second pregnancy and diagnosis
were about five years apart, during which time I both failed to
lose my pregnancy weight and then put on a bit more. Now the
girls are in their early teens and I'm a silent daily wreck
over this issue. Tried Weight Watchers, lost twenty or so
pounds about five years ago, hit a four-month plateau, got on a
plane to Europe and in frustration, stopped counting points and
weighing food and the weight rushed on in a weekend or so.
Have been unable since that time to muster the internal
resources to reappoach this issue in a meaningful way. I am
always locked in my search, never moving into action: I'm
always looking for the book to read or the program to join, the
blog to believe in, the conversation to have - vbasically I'm
still waiting for the tipping point into the new life of
activity and empowerment, but nothing seems to penetrate the
fifty-years worth of habitual behavior and inertia that
charactize this issue for me. I came from a family of total
non-exercisers. I don't think I moved much as a kid and it's
been downhill since then. Strangely, I think I actually like
to exercise but I forget that during the day and suddenly it's
evening and another sedentary day has gone by. I'm a
consultant for a living so lots of time in planes trains and
automobiles, with long work days and lack of structure in my
schedule. We do not live near a gym and I can't figure out
when I'd get there anyway. My heart is breaking over this
issue but I just can't seem to find the language to talk myself
into changing, and what would that change be if I could find
it? Any help, resources, guidance, direction would be
Looking forward to learning how to be an ''After''
Get up early every morning and start walking. Do it before you do
anything else, then when the day is over, you've already
excercised. This is how I lost my baby weight. If I can do it, anyone
can. During this time I was already waking up at 5:30, commuting 1
hour to work each way,( teaching 2nd graders all day I might add) then
coming home at 5, and doing the rest of the typical family thing. I
found that 6 in the eve. or later was too late to work out. So I
started waking up at 4:30. After a quick breakfast I'd be out of the
house by 4:45, and I'd walk for an hour or less.Walk hard and fast and
up some hills if you can. Summer is here so it should be light most of
the time. If you can't walk outside for whatever reason, get a DVD
like ''tough tape'' or ''the bar method'' and work out in your living
room. Do it FIRST THING IN THE MORNING.If you excercise most days
then you can still eat normal, just not over the top. It's really hard
to lose weight by dieting alone, and if you move your body every day,
you don't really have to diet at all. If your excuse is you're not a
morning person, become a morning person.
Try Bikram yoga. Its the kind where they crank the heat up and you sweat
a ton and
lose a ton of water weight each session. I am like you and have a very
losing baby weight. My youngest was 5 and I was the same weight, maybe
than when he was 6 weeks old. Bikram yoga is the only way I have ever
been able to
lose weight as an adult. You can't eat before you go or you will feel
sick. So you go
hungry. Then its such an intense workout that you aren't really hungry
about 6 months l've lost about 15 pounds. Try the one in El Cerrito
www.elcerritoyoga.com its really friendly and low key. I found the one
(Funky door yoga) to be too much of a college scene. Anyway, it feels
finally shed a few
Take baby steps toward change just be consistent. Try to take a
30 minute walk a day and see where that leads. Try changing one
thing in your diet and substitute it with something else
healthier that you enjoy, e.g., drop corn chips and eat an apple
instead. I changed my diet and my body over a number of years.
Slow and steady change lasts. Stop beating yourself up and treat
yourself with love. You can do it.
I hear you sister! I am hoping that my new Wii Fit will be my
ticket back to my ''before'' photo... or somewhat close to it! I
can't say that the Wii Fit is the solution, since I have only had
it for two days, but it is a heck of a lot of fun, which is good.
Plus, my son loves to do it with me, which is motivating, even
if he is only a preschooler! Check out the video for it on
If I am not a blob, I am close to it!
I hear you. I gained nearly 70 pounds during my pregnancy and only after
years did I lose it. However, if you have a thyroid issue of any kind,
that' s probably
contributing to your weight issue more than you realize--even more than
or proper diet. There's a dr. in Marin--Dr. Richard Shames who
specializes in the
issue and even wrote a book, ''Thyroid Power''. So, forget about the
diet and exercise
books, start with that book or other books about thyroid conditions. My
has a throid problem and has been to Dr. Shames and he thinks Dr. S is
even if you can't go to Dr Shames, take care of your thyroid and the
I think will be easier to manage (again, once my husband started
thyroid, the rest wasn't perfect, but easier). Good luck and don't give
not YOU in the way you think it is! T.
Maybe you could try going a little easier on yourself. Even if
you never lose the weight, you could have one nice outfit and
buy some nice makeup so that you can feel good about yourself
(and look nice in a picture) the way you are now. If you start
with that, the lethargy might ease up a bit and maybe you'd
feel like going for a walk? Hope that helps...
There are so many factors that prevent people from being able
to stick to an exercise and weight loss plan. A huge factor
though, has to do with community. Are you in a supportive place
with people who are trying to accomplish the same goals?
I highly recommend you contact the owners of the Ice Chamber in
Albany www.icechamber.com about setting up an exercise program.
There are a lot of women (and men) there in the same boat as
you so you will be supported and motivated to change your life.
When you visit their website, look at the Before and After
page. Those are real women and men who have struggled with
their weight but found the solution that works for them at the
IC. I won't lie to you - this is not going to be easy and you
will have to work hard. But if you are really ready to make a
change, I know of no better way.
Been There Done That
Bravo for having the idea to put your question out!!!
I am happy to share an idea with you:
I know about people who where not at all into sports, sitting at
a desk most of the day and who lost weight without changing their
diet through bouncing on a high quality rebounder
(mini-trampoline). The trick is to get a high quality one because
the cheap ones are not fun and also you can hurt yourself with
cheap rebounders. The most fun ones are based on bungee bands
rather then on springs. There is a german company ''Bellicon'' who
builds them. With this kind of ''exercise'' (it's more fun then
exercise anyways) you don't need to force yourself to move. It's
so much fun that you try to find excused to do it rather than
excuses not to do it. It seems like nothing but is extremely
effective as you work with a higher G-Force (Gravity force) which
strenghtens the whole body. For instance you gain the same amount
of oxygen in 5 minutes of bouncing that you get from 2 miles of
jogging. Rebounding also stimulates the lymphatic flow and helps
the immune system to kick in, and on top of that it triggers the
body to produce Serotonin - also called the ''happy hormone'' which
give you the ''smilie'' on your face.
You find a lot of information (including a testimonial of an
amazing success story in weight loss) on www.EasyRebounding.com
All the best to you!!
Ok, so you hate the photos. I did too. Now take small steps to
change your habits. Here's what I did: (1) Set a goal to walk a
certain number of miles per week, and do it. Get a friend to
join you, if possible. Keep an Excel spreadsheet with the number
of miles you walked per day, and add them up at the end of each
week. Guilt is an amazing motivator. (2) Stop eating after
dinner. (3) Eat what you want, but exercise portion control.
2/3 of what you normally would eat. (4) Get an exercise ball
and do crunches every night while you watch the news. Start with
three sets of five. Then three sets of ten. Then 3x15. Then
3x25. I started this three years ago. I built up to four sets
of 75 crunches every night when I watch the news, and run/walk
15-25 miles per week. I am not perfect, but got down to a size
4-6 from a size 10-12. And I feel better.
Fifty and fit
I too kept gaining weight after giving birth for no apparent
reason.After gaining about 20 pounds my health worsened -
hypothyroidism, chronic fatigue, insomnia, etc. Since then I have
aggressively been trying everything to feel better and finally
something is working. Quit all forms of caffeine. Then quit
wheat. Then dairy. Then eggs, then corn, then soy - all the
highly allergenic foods. All of which cause cortisol to be
released (stress on the body) and causing your body to store fat.
Read the book ''The Cortisol Connection''. It is a great book, and
will give you a vitamin/herbal regime to follow to balance
hormones. Of course eat a healthy diet, exercise, reduce stress
etc... But most importantly. Quit those things and watch the
pounds slip away. Any questions? E-mail me, or call Dr. Jim Otis
a Kinesiologist in Oakland. He is awesome. Do what he says.
You can do it. Once you quit one thing it gives you the
confidence to quit the others. Just view it as an experiment. And
forgive yourself when you cheat. I cheat and still I am losing
weight. When you start to see results, do a liver cleanse - (from
Elephant Pharmacy in Berkeley.)
Good Luck. I feel your pain. I have been there, but in 2 1/2
years I have gotten rid of almost all of my health issues and
went from 152 lbs to 136 lbs!
Gosh, so much to say! You are being so hard on yourself. Be kind! I
will share my partner's story in response. She gained 80 pounds in
our first eight years together, and did not start out as uber-skinny.
It got so extreme that she was no longer able to walk around the block
with me, but had to ride a bike. She also did WW, and saw a
nutritionist for about 18 months to no avail. The nutritionist
referred her to great doc who suggested a full blood panel, which
pointed to diabetes--not there yet, but inevitable, which scared her.
She and her doc set baby goals, the first being to exercise for 200
minutes per week. She thought that was completely impossible, but
made it happen with yoga and bike riding. Her doc also gave her the
number for a therapist which she LOST THREE TIMES before finally
making the call. This took several months. It has now been 2.5
years. She has lost 50 pounds in that time. She is no longer headed
toward diabetes. We take walks together. She gardens. She gets her
bloodwork done every three months. She now does WW (for the past
eight months); she plateaued for 4 of those months, but stayed in
anyway. Be more gentle with yourself. See exercise not as going to
the gym, but doing things that are fun: gardening, walking, taking the
stairs when you go shopping. You sound sad about your thyroid issues.
Maybe some therapy, too? It is hard to motivate for change when you
are feeling sad. It also sounds as if you are conflicted about losing
weight. Maybe you don't know why you want to? Maybe it has become a
''should?'' As you go forward, consider what you are going toward.
You will know when it is time.
Take your time
I was in a situation somewhat similar to yours, though more
recently. I gained 45 lbs after my first pregnancy. I have
injured knees so can't do much exercise. But I eventually got
it all off in about a year and a half, by myself, no weight
watchers. what helped were (1) a daily walk, the faster the
better, and even better if you carry weights or put something
in a backpack to carry weights. If you are bored walking,
listen to books on tape. I did at least 3 miles a day, and this
did wonders. The key is consistency, do it every day. (2)
Eliminate breads. No bagels, those are the worst. Limit
yourself to one slice of whole wheat a day. Carbs are the
worst culprit for older women. (3) And one final tip that
worked for me after my second child: decide on a low
calorie but nutricious breakfast and lunch, and eat the same
breakfast and lunch every day. I came across a study that
said that those who ate the same meal every day for lunch
were able to lose more weight than those who had to
rummage around for something different every day. The
same meal makes it easier to stick to the diet. I had soup
and one slice of toast for lunch, and I found that just varying
the type of soup gave me enough variety. And finally (4), buy
a good digital scale and make a graph and plot your weight
every day. This did wonders for me! It was such a thrill to
see my weight go down,even a couple of ounces, and I
hated to lose that ground, I really got into competing with
myself. I also could tell from the chart the times that were
worst for gaining weight back - weekends & holidays, so it
helped me watch out extra then. After my second baby the
scale helped me get from 171 to 138 (my healthy weight, I'm
tall) in a matter of months. Good luck, I know you can do it!
Did it on my own.
I cringed while reading your entry because it could have been written by
three and a half years past the birth of my child, and like you, I lost
it all at Weight
Watchers when my child was about 9 months old, and in a weekend, I think
I put it
all back on. And now, I've added another ten pounds. I'm so
disassociated from my
body that when I catch a glimpse of myself in a window, I literally
don't believe it.
I'm not writing to offer you anything other than understanding. I, too,
frustrated and tired of waiting for some epiphany/moment/anything to
start back on
the road to feeling better about myself.
Perhaps a companion would help (I've always been fairly thin and fit, so
accustomed to dieting). If you'd like a partner/voice/email friend to
journey to the ''after'', please ask the moderator for my email. I'd
love to feel better
about myself, too. Every month that passes that I don't do something
Want to give it a try? I'd love the support. Thanks and good luck.
You're over-intellectualizing this. Either you do it or you don't.
Either you start exercising, or you need to stop feeling bad about
your weight. I think we could use some slack in our society when it
comes to mom's bodies. You have two kids, you work full-time. You
probably have a lot of stress in your life. What else is your body
supposed to look like?
But since you want to be an ''after'' photo, this is how it gets done.
You find a workout program, you get up and go to it 4 or 5 days a week
and you don't let excuses get in the way. Period. No buts. The skinny
women you see around town don't use excuses, or have complicated
rationalizations. If you want to be one of them, you have to adopt the
You are asking for the wake-up call, right? All I want you to
do is watch one DVD. Would you be able to do that, please? You
can order it from www.ravediet.com. Target, Amazon and
Blockbuster carry it too. Just came out January 2008 with the
latest information. It is called ''Healing cancer from the
inside out,'' but don't be misled, this path has been shown to
reverse all kinds of chronic health conditions from diabetes to
multiple sclerosis. This is a documentary divided into two 1
hour parts. The second part is the most crucial part, so I
suggest you watch that first! With that knowledge you can
digest part 1.
This is going to be bigger than Michael Moore. This is going to
be bigger than ''The Secret.'' This documentary will evaporate
the need for socialized healthcare if enough people will
implement the knowledge. Please watch this DVD. It definitely
evokes change! For a $3 rental fee or $17.95 to own it and your
regular grocery budget without having to join a fitness studio,
you will be on your path to ultimate health.
Turned me around
Dear ''before'' photo
I have been struggling with my weight for a while, having never
lost it after 1st pregnancy and gaining even more during the
second one. I also never really believed that healthy eating
could change my body. However, we hired a professional
nutritionist chef who cooked meals for us and was sort of ''food
police''. She would grocery shop and will make sure that we always
have a salad before a meal, make snacks for us to eat during the
day, pre-cook some meals so we can eat them when she is not
around etc.I was suprised that I never went hungry after eating
what she cooked. It was tasty and filling, and I would be
satisfied with a much smaller portion compared to what I usually
would eat. Her meals would include all groups of foods, she would
make deserts that are actually good for you etc. She stays within
our grocery budget too. After 2 montth I shed pounds, lost 4
sizes, and became smaller that I was before my first pregnancy! I
feel energetic, I sleep better, I am stronger, and I started to
crave the right foods like vegs, and fruit and whole grains. I
can actually cook healthy for my family now. The nutritionist is
originally from Canada and she is looking to move her practice
here. She charges half of her usual fee in order to expand her
client base here. It is $50 per hour and she comes twice a week
and prepares meals for 3 days ahead. Her name is Katya Zakher
and her e-mail is email@example.com. tel: 510 809 6853.
I would highly recommend her.
You are not alone, so many people can relate to how you feel.
Photos are so telling. I can look at a photo of myself from
any period in my life and I can tell whether or not I was happy
or not during that time. Our inner state is reflected in
everything about us not just our weight but the glow of our
skin, our smile, the way we carry ourselves.
I can say that from my own personal experience of going up and
down the scale and using food to comfort myself for many years,
that in the end losing weight permanently and living a healthy
lifestyle has nothing to do with how many times a week you make
it to the gym or what diet you are on. Very few people can
sustain the kind of routine we are lead to believe is necessary
to lose weight, which is why people give up and gain more
Of course simple science of calories in calories out will
explain why you aren't losing weight, that is a no brainer, the
real question is what leads you to not eat healthily and
consciously in the first place, and why don't you feel that you
are important enough to take care of yourself by carving out
some time to move every day. We all have busy days and busy
lives but just look at how many things you do for other people
each day, how much time you spend on the computer or in front
of the tv each day, of course you could work in a 30 minute
walk. The truth is that somewhere inside you feel that you
don't deserve that time. Nothing will change until you really
believe that you deserve to take care of yourself and you make
taking care of yourself a priority.
Your body is a reflection of what you think about yourself and
your state of happiness. For me, when I am happy, grateful,
and taking care of myself (including no negative self talk), I
naturally lose weight and look better overall because I am not
indulging in emotional eating or beating myself up and I want
to get outside and walk or run (I can't stand the gym anymore,
I work my muscles at home with dumb bells).
Start small, change one thing at a time and tell yourself over
and over every day that you deserve to take care of yourself.
Hmm, you have a lot of reasons why you cannot do what you say
you want to do. You remind me of me! Lots of desire, very
little will. Are you willing to re-prioritize your life a
little bit? There is almost always a way to find the time for
an exercise routine, if you make it a top priority - as
important as, say, doing the grocery shopping or seeing a
therapist or meeting clients. Can you spend some money? I find
that because I have very little will power to do things for
myself, that being accountable to someone else really helps.
Can you hire a personal trainer, who can come to your house 4 -
5 times a week, early morning or evening, or meet you at a gym
at lunch time? As brutal as a 5am work out sounds, maybe
that's what you need to do, if even for a little while until
you get on track? It sounds like you make your own
schedule... instead of fitting in wall-to-wall meetings, can
you block out a longer lunch, go work out with your trainer,
and eat a light lunch afterward? (I find I want to eat lighter
after I've exercized.) You could also work out a diet program
with the trainer, and report to him/her each time how you are
doing. I also find that I respond well to the competetive
aspect of doing group exercise (lazy when alone, do my best in
front of a crowd), but not sure if you could make it to classes
somewhere. There are places now, like The Bar Method or Daily
Method, that have facilities in different cities, and the
routines are all very similar. You could sign up in the
different cities you find yourself in often, and schedule a
class into your trips. (But you MUST go to them! Btw, I found
that the Bar Method really jump started me into getting back
into shape - 3 times a week and I saw a big difference after
3 - 4 weeks. Enough to make me keep up other exercize, cuz the
Bar M is too pricey for me to keep up.) Just a few ideas...
Good luck - eventually you will make this happen. Remember: the
1st few months are the hardest!
You are in serious need of caring for and investing in yourself and
telling the other people in your life they need to grow up and take
care of themselves! You sound so drained and running on empty! I
suggest that you find a good internist or endocrinologist and get a
complete physical exam and endocrine work up. Tell her/him everything
you posted here. It sounds like your hypothyroidism is not being
managed at all -- hypothyroidism can cause all your symptoms: out of
control weight, lethargy, depression. You may have depression and
other issues anyway, but endocrine problems makes everything that much
worse. Finding a therapist and/or psychiatrist for an evaluation of
the depression would be an excellent idea. Have you tried talking
with anyone about some of these issues? Maybe a good life coach (or
down to earth therapist) could help you figure out how to get control
over your day to day life, help you concretely with time management
issues that seem to overwhelm you. Once some of these physical and
depression issues begin to get under control I suggest joining a good
gym or the YMCA and investing in a trainer for a few initial sessions,
to learn how to use your body and how to exercise and incorporate it
into your daily life -- start small and once you begin to feel better
and differently your life will change for the better.
Best of luck to you.
There's no ''outside'' solution, the motivation and courage to
change must come from within. (And from your post, it seems like
a good bit of it is already there!) First things first, get thee
to an endocrinologist and get your thyroid stuff checked out
again. Once you're sure your thyroid levels are properly
regulated--and you may be one of those that need to get blood
tests every three months--you'll be able to work from there with
diet and exercise. It really is just a matter of the number of
calories in and out. I am not a fan of counting calories consumed
in food of calories burned in exercise. Just eat healthy, whole
foods like fruits, veggies, whole grains, lean meats and seafood.
Don't ban chocolate, coffee, or alcohol, but moderate those
things, for sure. Know your own limits and set up personal,
common sense boundaries for yourself. I can have chips and ice
cream in the house for occasional nibbling, but I know if I bring
a bag of cookies in, they'll be gone within a day or two. So, I
only buy cookies once a month or so. If you don't have unhealthy
foods in the house, you can't eat them. It sounds like you're on
the road a lot with your job, so you'll have to be even more
resourceful. Eating out a lot isn't good for you, so you may have
to make a trip to a local market, or pack healthy snacks and
meals to bring along with you. Try to plan your meals and snacks
as much as possible and stick to that schedule. Eat regularly,
because if you skip a meal or snack, you'll be likely to overeat
at the next mealtime. As for exercise, you just have to make it
part of your life. Wake up and go for a walk in the morning, or
take your spouse, a friend, or one of your kids with you for an
evening walk. We have such beautiful, inspiring outdoor
opportunities here--Tilden, Wildcat canyon, the Berkeley Marina,
Point Isabel and Pinole, Lafayette Resevoir, Inspiration point,
not to mention many wonderful day-trip places like Point Reyes,
Muir Woods, and SF. Approach getting fit by wanting to be a
healthy, happy person all-around, and not by what you look like.
Don't count pounds lost, just get new clothes as the old ones
become too big to wear. If you're really lost, consider
consulting a nutritionist for a food plan and a personal trainer
for an exercise plan. Try to exercise with a buddy. And be easy
on yourself! Get out of your head and stop thinking about all of
it and get to the farmer's market and a nice walk!
good luck, you can do it
Not that I have all the answers or anything, but I saw this great
series on TLC a few months ago called ''I can make you thin!'' It
was like 5 or 6 one hour episodes. Lots of great practical
advice. It's helped me so far. You could probably find info on
the TLC website.
My thyroid problems were diagnosed over 10 years ago as my youngest
turned two -- and I thought that was a long time! We have a lot in
common, but in the last half year I've lost 35 pounds and I'm halfway
to my goal. I needed a cold-turkey approach and a fresh start with
specific guidelines from my doctor. Strategies that have worked for
me: I told my family what I was doing and the reasons my doctor gave
me. I asked for support in specific ways (try new foods with me,
don't be offended if I turn down a treat, be supportive of my exercise
program, etc). I added lots of fiber and bulk to my diet. I eat
whole grains almost exclusively, including some high fiber/low carb
products. I prepare more vegetables for each meal, often two
(non-starchy) vegetable dishes and a green salad for dinner, instead
of just one vegetable or a salad. (To make things easier, I started
using some frozen vegetables, whereas before I always aimed for fresh
and local.) My doctor offered advice on what diet strategies would
work best for me. I really needed an education about portion sizes!
I allow myself treats several times a week -- moderate sizes and
relatively healthy, but alway something that I like. If I'm really
and truly hungry and it's not mealtime, I have a healthy and
satisfying snack to avoid nibbling. I don't eat meat, and getting
moderate amounts of ''healthy'' fats from nuts, good oils, and avocado
helps me stay satisfied longer after a meal than if I skip the fats.
Exercise is now a significant commitment, and I found out how
inadequate my previous exercise program had been. I've always liked
physical activity, but didn't always find the time -- I've had to
re-prioritize my use of free time. I aim for 30-45 minutes 5 days a
week, increasing the intensity as I get into better shape. My
schedule is flexible, and if I exercise early, I'm more likely to fit
it into the day. I exercise at home or walk, and I found friends to
walk with. I often travel, and I've found I like walking (outdoors,
in a mall, or in an airport terminal) better than most hotel fitness
rooms. Two websites I recommend are the Mayo Clinic's Weight Loss
Center (/www.mayoclinic.com/health/weight-loss/WT99999P) and
nutritiondata.com. My advice would be: make slow but steady changes
with exercise but a more drastic fresh start with diet, and just do
it. Today. Good luck, keep at it, and save up some money for new
From 2X to a size 14, and counting
for me, two things have helped me lose weight and get back into
shape. One, going to Europe for a few weeks where EVERYONE walks
or bikes eveywhere dropped a chunk of my baby fat; that was
inspiring. You have to walk to get anywhere and voila, weight
starts dropping. Admittedly, I have not walked as much back in
the States but maybe you can find ways to walk more? park in the
far reaches of the parking lot, stop a couple blocks short adn
walk the rest. even the little bits will help, if you can make
it a habit. Ah, that's the burden - making a new habit. which
leads me to my second success - triathlons. wait don't run (or
swim or bike) away. For me, training for a triathlon is so much
easier to do because each day is a NEW workout. I'm not running
the same loop daily from my front door. I get to do different
activities daily. AND before you worry about your shape,
triathons are full of Athenas! Yes, shapely women who are
astonished to find themselves racing. poke around
www.beginnertriathlete.com - especially in the Athena/clydesdale
and weightloss forums. There is a ''see jane tri'' in aug (or
sept?) in pleasanton JUST for women. You have plenty of time to
follow a couch-to-tri training plan and finish the race. From
the couch training plans start with 1 minute walk/1 minute run
exercises and build slowly. The tri community is supportive,
losing some weight and having fun
I had a lot of success with a personal trainer. They can cost as
little as 25 or 30 dollars an hour. I went one hour a week. You
can find a good one at the gym, but they can show you exercises
to do on your own without equipment. It sounds like you might
even have the money to hire a trainer to come to your house. They
bring equipment for you to use. Even having them come to your
house can be very affordable.
A trainer can motivate and guide you. I told my first trainer (I
have had two) that I just had no motivation and she pointed out
that maybe I did, but just didn't really know what to do. With
her support I got into great shape and started training for
Having someone to be accountable to really helped me. They can be
gentle and supportive but at the same time they don't tolerate
excuses (and I see some excuse-making in your post).
Be sure they are certified by one of the national agencies. good
ones are familiar with common health issues and I'm sure most
have had experience with Thyroid issues. Also, I see my trainer
at the gym working with very fit and very overweight people, so
don't think you will be ''too out of shape'' to hire a trainer.
Give it a try. It really can work.
Well, I think you know the answer. Losing weight is hard, losing
weight in middle age is harder, losing weight in middle age without
exercise is pretty much impossible.
While it sounds as if your sedentary lifestyle and weight may be
putting you at risk for some serious physical problem (diabetes and
heart disease), what concerns me most in your post is your description
of your mental state.
I understand. I was where you are, having grown up sedentary,
overweight and asthmatic. I yearned to be different but could not see
how to ''get there from here.'' The first step is to make a decision.
A real decision. Once you make a real, heartfelt decision that you
are going to take care of yourself, all of the other things (I can't
because I travel, no time, no gym) will melt away. Understand that
they are excuses and that if you are committed, you can find time to
exercise in any lifestyle (this comes from an extremely busy
professional single mom).
Second, commit to a little at a time. Instead of ''I am going to
change my lifestyle and lose 40 pounds'', try ''I promise to myself
that I will exercise for 30 minutes 4 days this week.'' One key for
beginning exercisers is to make dates for it, whether it is meeting a
friend for a walk or setting up personal training sessions.
Third, be a Buddhist. Understand that your success will come in how
your workout will help your mental state right now today, without an
attachment to how quickly you are getting to some goal or how well you
are doing compared to others around you. I think this is really
important since it sounds as f your negative feelings are really
affecting your life. Trust me, the benefits of taking time to take
care of yourself each day will outweigh the cost of the time taken
away from your family, job, etc.
And lastly, understand that you are ''in recovery'' from being a
sedentary person. The desire to make excuses, to blow off your
workouts will alway come around again and you may give in
occasionally. That's ok, just do better tomorrow and the slips will
be no big deal.
One more thing: if you do commit there will come a time when exercise
no longer feels like a chore but is something you look forward to. It
may take a long time, but I promise it will happen.
I so hear you, sister. I am watching myself expand since having
two kids around the age of 40 (I'm around the age of 40, they
around the age of toddlers). I need to lose about 40 - 50 pounds.
I had preeclampsia with both kids and the bp never went down for
the last one on its own so I have to regulate it with meds. I had
my thyroid checked and all of it is normal and my weight gain has
mostly happened after the birth of my last child. My doc tells me
if I lose the weight and get on an exercise routine, I won't need
the meds. I am stressed with working full time and dealing with
the kids and ready to kill all the people saying ''you need to
take care of you.'' When? I have a treadmill at home. I belong to
a gym and I work 50 hours a week in addition to coming home with
the kids. When they are in bed, I usually have to work and then I
just go to sleep. I'm at my wits end but really not happy with
the way my body is falling apart. It's too soon! I don't want to
get old before my time! I don't think there's any trick or
secret. It's all about deciding to do it and that's where I have
a problem. I do wish I were rich enough to have a personal chef
and trainer around me 24/7 to kick my butt and make me eat right.
I also wonder why I can't see eating right (and I know what I
SHOULD be doing) as something that is good for me and something I
want to do. I'm actually working on scheduling in some workouts
and getting back to WW. My doc and therapist tell me it's me that
needs to change my mindset and I think that's true. But please,
tell me WHEN I'm supposed to exercise? GAH!
pining to be an ''after'' too
I totally understand your post, as am basically in the same
position myself - baby weight never taken off, tendency to
prefer being sedentary etc. However, although I have not yet
taken my own advice, I believe quite firmly that there isn't
a ''blog to believe, conversation to join'' or whatever. The will
has to come from inside you, and the problem most probably is
that you have some unhappiness in you that you can't currently
solve (or don't want to solve), which limits your energy and
ability to be more empowered about your life. You may want to
try therapy to look at deeper issues of unhappiness and
depression, or find some kind of wellness coach who will work
you on changing your habits - if you want to start at the
outside and work in. But sitting around waiting for something
to ''click'' isn't going to work. I hesitate to guess, but you
may want to look harder at your career and your marriage, as
likely places where the sadness and hopelessness begins.
- Know the feeling
My heart goes out to you! My weight has gone up and down since I was 14
old, and I could have written your exact post on multiple occasions. I
inertia. I have lost 25 pounds or more on Weight Watchers 3 times and I
know what it is that inspired me each time to start. It is so hard to
get going. My
advice is two-fold: 1) stop looking for motivation, inspiration, or
something to ''tip''
you into weight loss mode. JUST START. I know this sounds silly, but
yourself to ANY weight loss plan (I do think Weight Watchers is great),
and just do it
- no questions asked - for a few days or a week. For me, just taking a
small step in
the right direction fuels my motivation to do more. 2) Exercise in the
often as you can. I can't stress this enough. I owe my weight loss and
maintenance to exercise. I do at least 30 hard minutes (e.g. running,
machine) 6 days a week. I know that is too much to imagine now, but
start with 2 or
3 days a week. Buy a machine YOU LIKE for home. Decide to walk fast or
bike. For me, getting to a gym just takes too much time. But exercise
what. Also, I have found a book I really like about changing the way
you think about
weight loss. It is called the Beck Diet Solution by Judith (?) Beck.
addressing what one should or shouldn't do to lose weight, it addresses
mentally to get started and to stick to a weight loss plan. Good luck!
You can do it!
Start with a registered dietician. With a healthier,
lower-calorie diet, you won't need to go to a gym if you can walk
to more errands, use stairs instead of elevators, etc.
As a busy consultant myself, I know it is impossible to find
low-calorie restaurant meals when portion sizes in restaurants
are all designed for lumberjacks. Instead, I have miso soup mix
to eat on the run. I like cut-up vegetables with hummus dip to
nibble on between meals. Vegetarian chili is healthy and filling
and can be made in advance in large batches. Stay away from
calorie-laden drinks such as Frappucino, Pepsi, Vitamin Water,
etc., in favor of water or tea.
I was told that when I briefly left my plate at a potluck party
at work last week, people sitting nearby examined the contents of
my plate to see what I ate to stay so thin. Vegetables!
A lot of research about weight loss has come out in the last
few years that is very helpful. Read: Mindless Eating which
talks about environmental cues that influence what and how much
we eat, You On A Diet, which gives an overview of the
physiological aspects of weight gain, and Volumetrics which
gives great recipes. The most useful ideas in these books are:
1. We tend to eat the same weight of food every day, so if you
eat less rich food (fewer calories per ounce), you can feel
full on fewer calories.
2. Muscle burns more calories than fat throughout the day, so a
weight training routine that builds muscle will help you lose
more weight than intensive cardio (although cardio is still
important for heart health).
3. You only have to eat about 100 fewer calories per day than
your body needs to lose weight. This is the ''mindless
margin'': those few bites you take while cooking dinner, the
after dinner snack, finishing your plate even though you are
4. You MUST get enough sleep (8 hrs/per night) or you will be
5. You MUST find stress relief methods that don't involve
eating (this one is the hardest for me).
I lost about 40 pounds by following the volumetrics cookbook
and doing moderate excercise over the course of 8 months, but
now I have gained 15 back. The thing is that I KNOW exactly
why the weight came back - it is emotional eating to reduce
stress. It is comforting to know that I could take more weight
off if I focused on it again. Even though I am ''overweight'' by
BMI, I still feel a lot healthier than I used to because of the
excercise, which I have continued to do.
The other really important thing is to lower your standards.
The BMI standards of weight are not the be-all end-all for
ideal weight. In fact, being in the slightly overweight range
of BMI may be healthier long term than being in the ideal
wieght range, depending on your body type and other factors.
We have had kids, we work hard, our tummies don't have to be
flat, and its ok if our thighs rub together. If you can get to
a point where you are feeling healthier, where you have some
muscle tone and you can breathe easier and sleep better, than
that is good enough. I am now 5'8'' and 175 pounds, which by
American standards is fat. But I am finally starting to accept
myself instead of berate myself for it.
You can do it !!!
Not before and not yet after . . .
You got many good responses to your post, but I wanted to share
one more idea. It took me about 12 years to finally lose my
pregnancy weight. What got me back into exercising was training
for a 3-day walk-a-thon to raise money for breast cancer
research. (A friend had been diagnosed and this spurred a few of
her friends to do this together.) I started by walking only a few
blocks to walking up to 20 miles right before the event. I don't
necessarily recommend doing a 3 day walk (it tore up my knee and
that took four years to heal), but the training was great. It was
a sensible, medically based training model, and I made it fun for
myself by mapping out the routes I'd taken on my training walks
(most were on the weekends). I even highlighted the map so by the
end I could see how many miles I'd walked. I walked in the
Berkeley hills (check out all of the paths and steps) and by the
bay. Some walks were with my friends but most were by myself, and
I found that blissful. Now I walk for an hour and a half early on
Sat. and Sunday mornings, sometimes with a friend but most often
alone. I still find it peaceful. During the week I just try to
walk as much as I can during my work day. Park far from the
grocery store entrance, etc...
Good luck--you'll find what works for you.
a devoted walker
I have been gaining more weight (well I never lost all the
weight I gained after my youngest child was born 10 years ago)
and I am not really eating more than I used to. I exercize
about 4 times a week, although I don't seem to sweat when I do
so. Now that I am about 27 pounds over my pre-pregnancy
weight, and the weight seems to be going up, does anyone have
any advise or knowledge about how metabolism works or how the
body responds to exercize now that I have hit 50 and am post
Thanks for any thoughts on this.
I can verify that weight is much easier to put on and much more
difficult to take off the older we get!
Weight Watchers always works for me, even though I have a thyroid
disorder which is only partially treatable. And recently my
acupuncturist suggested that I try out not eating wheat, as that
can hold water for some people. It's a pain in the neck to avoid
wheat, as it's in more things than you'd think, but I'm feeling
much less bloated since I began a couple of months ago.
Have you had your thyroid checked? Low thyroid can cause weight
gain because it lowers the metabolism. It's a simple blood test
to have all of your thyroid hormones checked. If you ahve low
thyroid you can take various forms of thyroid hormone (forever).
It's very very common in women, esp. after childbirth.
The other thing to look at is what you are eating? Are you
eating sugar? Wheat? starchy foods'' Sugar will pack the pounds
on like nothing else! Bread? Pasta? White flour?...as good as
sugar. If you want to lose weight you have to eat less calories.
Try writing down everything you eat for a few days. Be totally
honest. You might be surprised that you're eating a lot more
then you think. Take it a step further and figure out how many
calories you're eating...You can also figure out how many
calories a day your body needs for your activity level adn to
lose weight. ...whatever you are eating, if you cut 500
calories per day out of your diet you will lose about a pound a
week (I thnk that's right...3500 cal/#). And drink lots of
water. But mostly, cut the sugar.
WHat are you doing for exercise? Weight bearing
exercises...exercises that build muscle will burn the most fat.
There are many websites that can help you. It might also be
helpful to have a consultation or two with a nutritionist or
personal trainer/weight loss coach.
Since you didn't say anything about what you eat or how you
exercise I''m only asking questions here, not making any
If you'd like to talk further, please e-mail me. I'm a personal
trainer/weight loss coach, massage therapist, have
hypothyroidism, am a sugar addict off of sugar, and have lost
weight successfully. Good luck. Been there...
If you are 27 pounds over your goal weight, you are consuming 270
more calories every day than you are burning. My gym recommends
that women keep their percent body fat below 20%.
Just by replacing 270 chocolate calories every day with a
cucumber-carrot salad, your weight will gradually drop to your
goal weight. If you eliminate a Frappuccino every day, you could
actually lose too much weight.
If you're over 50, you are probably losing muscle mass, too, so
add some push-ups, crunches, and lunges to your daily routine to
maintain joint health and to prevent your weight from migrating
to places where you don't want it.
And, don't forget the fiber for your aging digestive system. The
fiber will make you feel fuller on fewer calories, too.
Aerobic exercise is good for your health, but if you watch the
numbers on the treadmill, you'll see that it takes a long, long
time on a treadmill (with or without sweating) to burn 3600
calories (the equivalent of 1 pound of fat).
No excuses, just veggies
Last year through exercise and good nutrition I lost about 15#
(needed to lose 20). I was doing really well.
In April I started putting back on abunch of weight (got sick,
mom passed away, other stressful events)..I'm an emotional eater
and a major sugar addict. AFter 2 months I'd gained 7# back.
Now I''m back on track...back to exercising regularly, no sugar,
white flour, dairy, etc. I know a lot about nutrition (in fact
in my work I council people on how to lose weight and eat
better). As far as food and exercise I know I'm doing the right
things. I have a physically active job (I don't sit at a
computer all day) and try to eat about 15-1700 calories per day.
I take supplements, etc. etc.
Here's what may be an important factor. I'm 54, going thru
menapause...I've felt like a period is coming for about 2 weeks
now. I didn't get one for 10 months and then got one last
month...now it feels like i'm on a regular cycle again. My belly
aches, I get crampy, irritable, my face is breaking out.
So, given that this holding on the the weight could easily be a
hormonal thing....any suggestions? Any herbs, supplements, etc.
Thanks to any of you menapausal moms or nutritionists out there
who can help.
bloated and annoyed!!
i was just reading something about this in a mothering.com thread
one poster reported that once menopause sets in it is harder to
lose weight, because the body is holding on to stored fat as a
source of estrogen. she was paraphrasing christiane northrup MD.,
maybe from her book (she has several) called ''the wisdom of
here's the bookstore part of her website:
signed: not there yet, but ?close.
My husband has lost 15% of his weight in two months. He was thin to begin with.
He weighs 30 pounds less than me. I am no longer attracted to his slight frame. He
appears very unhealthy in my eyes and my family agrees. He has given me no valid
reason for his weight loss, but it may be viral. I have no idea. He is not sick and
does not do drugs at all. He runs twice per week. He has lost some motion is his
left shoulder. He also has some bruising near his spine. My question is could he
actualy like looking so gaunt? He is wearing tight t shirts and jeans that accentuate
his skinny arms! Is this fashionable in some circles? Is this something straight,
married men do? How can I be married to someone who looks likes a 43 year old
man in the body of a 14 year old? What can I do to convince him to gain more
Size 10 married to Size XS
Please use whatever tools are at your command to insist that your
husband see a doctor. He may be suffering from an eating disorder or
some other serious, perhaps even life-threatening illness. He may be in
denial or scared to find out what is going on (this happened to a
friend--it turned out he had developed adult-onset diabetes). You can
tell him that if the doctor says nothing is wrong you won't bother him
anymore. You can tell him that if he loves you he will do this one
thing for you, even if he doesn't want to do it for himself. Tell him
you will go with him and hold his hand. This is not nagging, this is
taking care of the one you love. Good luck to you both.
forget his size or attractiveness... does he have cancer?
Seriously. Unless he's stopped eating, that much weight loss is an
enormous red flag for a life threatening situation.
Call the Dr, now!
It's always the men who lose weight without trying!!!
If your husband lost 15% of his body weight by doing nothing in
particular looks unhealthy, etc. I'd have him see a Dr.
Does he have an eating disorder? Has he had on in the past that could be
lurking back? I'd have him get a blood test and a thorough checkup by
his MD. Good luck anon
Firstly, yes, I think you're right to be worried... that amount of
weight loss in that short a time can't be healthy. But good heavens, do
the two of you communicate? Do you even live in the same house, or
town? I'd have to believe there'd be considerable evidence of
*something* to explain the weight loss; I'm as worried that there's
something far more serious going on than the tip-of-the-iceberg question
of whether or not he could think it looks good.
How much does your husband weigh? Is he underweight by the BMI (Body
You can find this in books. If he is not underweight, are you overweight
by the BMI?
Sounds like he keeps fit. I don't know if he is too skinny without first
knowing his weight, height and age. Maybe you yourself are overweight
and you just don't feel good next to him? I don't know.
anonymous member of BPN
He should see a doctor right away. It could be anything. Running can
also make you lose weight, but his weight loss seems more extreme and
with those other symptoms...really go to the Dr.
Better that then have ''us'' diagnose.
Please insist that your husband see a doctor ASAP for a complete health
screening. Sudden and unexplained weight loss is one of the warning
signs of cancer they always tell you to look out for. If my husband had
lost that much weight so quickly I would be very concerned to rule out
organic causes. The bruising and loss of mobility make me concerned
also. Whether or not he enjoys being that thin seems beside the point
if he has a serious illness. Running twice a week is not at all an
excessive amount to exercise.
I'd say get him to a doctor asap, and if you haven't already spoken to
him about it, ask him! It could be a medical condition (viral, or some
other disease, including cancer). And if he doesn't feel well, don't
criticize him. Maybe you'll be more empathetic. And if he's already
skinny and losing weight intentionally, there may be some
If I were you, I'd express some concern first of all. Put your
''appearance'' concerns on the back burner for now.
Please take your husband to the doctor ASAP. If he has not been trying
to lose weight and if he does not have an eating disorder then something
more serious is likely going on. I do not want ot be an alarmist, but
as the parent of a leukemia survior, weight loss and bruising were some
of the tell-tale symptoms that got us in to see the doctor. A 15%
reduction in weight in such a short amount of time is more alarming than
having a 43 yr old spouse in a 14 yr olds body. Please press him to
seek medical advice. A simple blood test could provide you with many
concerned reader & mom to cancer survivor
I don't want to unneccesarily worry you but here are a few things to
think about. Please remember that there are many many possible reasons
for your husbands situation and the ones I mention are just a few, and
probably not very likely.
You don't mention if your husband intentionally lost the weight, or it
just happened. Drastic unexplained, unintentional weight loss is a
classic sign of cancer. The bruising and shoulder pain are also cause
for concern if they have no other explanation like he fell and injured
himself. Is he a smoker?
Shoulder pain can be caused by a lung tumor pressing on a nerve and the
pain then radiates to the shoulder (get a chest x-ray maybe).
Unexplained easy bruising can be due to a low platelet count which needs
an explanation (get a CBC, complete blood count). Leukemias and
lymphomas often cause a low platelet count (thrombocytopenia).
Other reasons are emotional or mental problems, food alergies, food
phobias, viral diseases and of course extramarital affairs. Or maybe he
just thinks he looks hot that way. Get some good looking women to dis
him a few times about being too skinny and that should cure him. In any
case, sounds like he needs to see a dr. to rule out serious problems if
in fact the weight loss was unintentional.
Last year I lost a lot of weight with healthy diet and
exercise. I've kept my goal weight for about 6 months now, and
I'd like to lose 10 more pounds. This would not make me ultra
skinny, but pretty trim. However, I am finding it very hard to
get these last pounds off. I've amped up the exercise, water
intake, healthy diet....the scale is not moving. Any advice?
wish I could get the numbers to budge
Hi! I read your post about ''losing the 10 last pounds''. Have you given
a thought to the idea that maybe you don't have 10 more pounds to lose?
It seems that you are eating properly and exercising routinely, which is
the best way to allow your body to get down (or up) to its healthy
weight. Why would you want to get skinnier than your natural balance? I
would add that eating less while exercising more would be unhealthy as
you seem to have reached your natural weight. I would encourage you to
work on the image you have of your body, rather than on your body
itself... Good luck!
Although it might not help loosing the weight, you might look and feel
more svelt with weight training. I've alwasy found that lifting weights
does more for my looks and sense of self than anything else. You didn't
mention weight lifting explictly, so thought I'd throw that in.
Hi, you don't mention your form of exercise, but if you really want to
be trimmer, try weight training. Despite most women's fears, it will not
bulk you up. The numbers on the scale may not go down the full 10 lbs,
but a weight trained bod is definitely trimmer. Muscle burns more
calories at rest than fat, so your metabolism will increase and you
won't have to drop more calories.
Congratulations on your weight loss. Ten pounds is my 'magic
number too!. I started Bikram yoga at the beginning of January and
found that going 3 or 4 times a week is bringing my weight right down.
The first 4 came off in 2 weeks. I think it's working because I eat a
very light breakfast of fruit and a few bites of yogurt, trot off to
class. After class, I only want liquids, coconut water, more juice,
water w/ a tiny bit of sea salt. I eat a good size dinner around 5pm.
Bedtime is around 10pm. Sleeping during the hours of 10p - 3am, studies
have revealed, crucial to hormone balance in women who want to reduce
weight. Good Luck. Funky Door Yoga Studio is a Bikram studio. There
is also a Bikram studio in Oakland.
Sweaty and Happy!
Even though you eat a healthy diet you may be eating too many calories
(easy to do).
Try writing down all your food for a few days and count the calories
(you can find out calories/portions on boxes, packages, on line, in a
3500 calories = one pound. So, whatever your daily calorie intake
is...if you are maintaining your weight, that's how many calories you
need to maintain your weight.
If you eat 500 less calories per day than your typical, you will lose a
pound in one week (500 kcal x 7 days per week = one pound/3500
Been in your shoes. Upped the exercise, but not till I lowered my
calorie intake did the pounds come off.
I measured my portions too cause I found that eyeballing my portions was
So, for example, 1/4 cup of dry oatmeal was 150 calories.
1/4 cup dry looks like not much oatmeal, so I'd add more...
But actually 1/4 cup dry was plenty of oatmeal cooked.
I could go on, but you probably get the idea.
maintaining...would like to lose more too.
Make water your only beverage. Beverage calories often get overlooked
but they count! And hey, maybe you look a lot better at the weight
you're at. As we age, we actually look better with a few extra lbs.!
I didn't see your original post so I don't know how long ago you gave
birth. But, if you are physically ready to return to a vigorous workout,
I know of no better way to get in shape than the
Ice Chamber in Albany.
I signed up for bootcamp in June with the goals of losing a few pounds
and jump-starting my own workout. Instead, I quit the Y, stayed at the
Ice Chamber, lost around 10 pounds so far, built loads of muscle, and
The Ice Chamber is not your ordinary gym - and they don't get ordinary
results. At the risk of sounding like an infomercial - you will not
believe how effective their approach to fitness is. But don't take my
word for it - check out these BEFORE and AFTER photos of Ice Chamber
members (including me) http://www.icechamber.com/beforeandafter
They just added a 9:30 a.m. bootcamp class. Beginning March 5, you can
work out, and still have time to get other things done before you have
to high tail it back to your nanny, best bud, daycare, mother-in-law, or
whoever else watches your kiddo while you take care of yourself.
If that time doesn't work for you, there are daily morning classes and
Try it. After all, what have you got to lose (besides those last 10
Truly fit for the first time
I have recently lost some weight. I started at 5'8'' and 150lbs
(on the medium end of a healthy weight) and over the course of 3
months I am down to 125 lbs (still a healthy weight). I dieted
and excercised. People keep saying to me ''WOW!! You have lost
SOOO much weight!'' and ''You look SO much better now!''. This is
kind of hurting my feelings, because I wasn't overweight in the
first place . Also, I really don't know how to respond. I feel
like saying ''Thanks'' is kind of awkward.. I wish someone would
just say ''Great job on the weight loss, that takes discipline'' or
''You look great'' or something.. Since most comments seem to be
in the surprised/slightly insulting category-- How should I
respond? Also, am I being too touchy? Thanks!
-Just wanting to feel comfortable in my own skin
Great Job!!! Dieting and exercise are hard to keep up. Since I don't know you I
can't say ''Wow....you lost weight, you look great'' but I bet you feel great so I
think you might do best for yourself by concentrating on that when people say
It's just the way people react. We are all impressed when someone loses noticable
weight, and maybe jealous too.
I would try to lighten up...and keep up the great work personal trainer and weight
Congratulations on losing 25 pounds in 3 months--that's quite a significant
achievement, and something that people are definitely going to notice. It sounds
like the people around you are very impressed and are trying to give you positive
feedback, even if sometimes it comes out the wrong way. Just smile and say ''thank
you.'' Obviously you wanted to lose weight, because no-one loses that much weight
that fast by accident, so you should take pride in what you have achieved and not
be dismayed that people are commenting on it. Listen for the intended compliment
and respond to that!
wish I had your problem
I have also recently lost weight; 30 pounds over 4 months. And yes, I get those
''My God have you lost a ton of weight!'' comments as well. It's a little
different for me in that I was pretty chunky to begin with. I personally try to
take the comments for how they are meant - as compliments. Also consider the
person's intentions when they say it. Would they really say, ''Gee looks like
you've lost a little bit of weight- why did you put so much work into something
you didn't need''? It wouldn't be very nice either.
- try to blow it off and enjoy !
First, let me congratulate you! It sounds like you worked on it. That said, you
DID diet and begin exercising - wasn't this so that you could lose weight? I
think people are just complimenting you and you're taking the way they are saying
it wrong. It IS weird to say WOW YOU'VE LOST SO MUCH WEIGHT, but it happens all
the time. (Maybe you did look heavy to those people before and now you're super
thin and they can't help but exclaim?) I'd just say, Yeah I did, thanks. and call
it a day.
Since you asked, I think you are being a little touchy. You may not have been
medically overweight before but you said that you did diet, not just exercise to
lose TWENTY-FIVE pounds so you must have felt that it would be good for you to
lose that weight. Of course people are going to notice and in our society a lot of
people do think you look better. From what you said, nobody is making remarks
like, ''Gee I'm glad you got around to losing all that fat!'' I would just change
the subject from your looks to how great you feel. ''Thanks, it's kind of
embarassing because I keep getting these compliments and all I wanted to do was
start working out regularly.''
Why did you decide - or how did you happen - to lose weight? Perhaps you could
respond with an affirmation of that. For example, if you lost weight because you
enjoy exercise, you could respond with, ''Thank you, I've really been enjoying
Or if you did it to improve your health, you might say, ''Thank you, I'm feeling
healthier,'' etc. Hard as it may be, I'd try not to take those rude comments to
heart, because they really truly reflect more on the speaker than on you anon
You'd think more people would know how hard it is to lose weight, but they don't.
They assume it was easy for you. Unless they've successfully lost weight and kept
it off, they are clueless. I used to be one of those people who would blurt out,
''Gosh you lost a LOT of weight.'' Now that I've done it myself, I am more likely
to keep my mouth shut, or if I overhear a comment like that, I chime in with, ''It
takes a lot of hard work and discipline to lose weight. Good for you.''
After I lost weight, I'd cringe when people commented - the worst was when they
implied that I was now too slim (like you, I'm smack in my healthy weight range).
I wanted validation, so I started giving it to myself. When people commented that
I'd lost weight, I'd say, ''It was a lot of work to change my eating habits and
exercise every day, but I'm glad I overhauled my lifestyle.'' It's annoying, but
people have short attention spans; pretty soon they'll forget that you ever looked
any different than you do now and the comments will stop completely Heather
Saying thanks is appropriate. Then you can back it up by saying it took lots of
discipline and hard work to achieve your goal.
You wouldn't have taken on the excercise and dieting if you were happy with the
way you looked. You have had a drastic loss of weight, 25 lbs is a lot! I think it
would be shocking to me if any of my friends dropped that much weight in that
short amount of time. I would probably say the same things, especially if I hadn't
seen them in the progress. Just the other day, I saw a girl who works in my
doctor's office who lost 150 lbs! I was so in awe, I told her. She lost the
amount of a whole person. It is not meant to be insulting, it is a compliment. I
think some people are just amazed and wishing they could do it themselves. I have
recently lost some weight (not 25 lbs, which is amazing!!!!) in the last few
months by lots of exercise, discipline and dieting, I LOVE to hear how much better
I look now, because I know I do. I am more comfortable in my clothes, in social
gatherings, and everywhere I go. I was not by all means fat before, but I wasn't
what I used to be and people remember that. It is a compliment. Be happy and glow!
Way to go!
still have 15 more to go.
I am 40 lbs overweight and just hate it and I really try to control my eating but
i can't right now. i say comments like the ones you mentioned to people who have
lost weight because 1) I am soooo jealous because I want to lose weight again too,
2) in my family, being overweight is really considered ugly and so I am trying to
get over the ''thin is pretty'' attitude that i grew up with, but it is still
there. I think I am over it for everyone else but me. (My mother wanted me to
lose weight for my wedding so bad...she would say things like ''don't you want to
be a beautiful bride?'') Please just regard the comments as coming from the other
peoples's attitudes about themselves and what society tells them and just let it
go. The fact that you are happy with youself at different healthy weights is what
I could have written your email! I grew up a ''skinny'' kid - tall and skinny.
Kids called me lanky. I always tried to gain weight. I ate everything, but
When I had my baby, I gained weight for the 1st time ever. I was busy being a mom,
nursing, staying at home. I gained 50 pounds. During this time, I felt sluggish
and low-energy. After my daughter started school, I started running, which I enjoy
because it is time to myself in my thoughts outside in the fresh air. I eat, but I
don't eat much meat or bread because it makes me feel bloated. I eat a lot of
green veggies, whole grain tortillas, tofu, cheese, soups, and yogurt. After 6
months of running, I lost 30lbs, dropped to 120 from 150, felt GREAT, healthy and
My coworkers started monitoring my lunches, commenting on my appearance, telling
me they were worried about me. I got annoyed, and sort of offended that people
were looking at my body and developing opinions, thinking I was not taking care of
myself. We have folks at my work who are very large, and they bring in McDonalds
lunches and eat at their desk, and nobody says anything. This seems ironic.
Eventually, I had to tell a few of my coworkers to back off. The monitoring of my
meals was offensive and intrusive. This was 3 years ago. Today I am still 120
pounds, the same proportions I have been my whole life, and I feel great. I have
4 marathons, climbed several peaks in Europe, I'm fit and healthy. This is me.
Feel secure with who you are. In this day in age, the media sends a message to
our daughters that "skinny" is beautiful. I agree that this is not OK. I
appreciate that we have been trained to look for signs of "skinny obsession," but
I also believe we should never make people feel bad for their body size. We all
come in all shapes and sizes, and this means big OR little. You might be little.
If you are naturally little but healthy, as in eating when you are hungry until
you are full, exercising because it makes you happy and it feels good, and you are
content with your body and your mind, then tell people - thanks, I'm OK, please
stop asking. You should never worry about what others think of your size Skinny
mother of a healthy daughter
Yeah, you're being too touchy. People are commenting b/c they think it's a
compliment. I've been on all sides of this, having grown up bony and wondered why
people were always commenting about my weight, and post-baby have had much excess
weight and began to understand why people comment on it-I started noticing other
people who lost weight because I wanted to. It's a compliment, say thanks, smile,
don't worry about it. 25 pounds is a lot to lose, it's noticeable. People
generally won't say anything if you put on 25 pounds, becasue that would be
People assume that if you've been working hard on it that you are happy that they
are noticing. Great job on the weight loss, by the way. I wish I could say I lost
25 pounds, but I'm just barely cracking about 17. And it didn't bother me at ALL
when people started noticing. I was more embarassed when I had gained all the
weight, and I know that was obviuos too. They're just being nice by only noticing
when it comes off!
I think you are, in your own words, being ''too touchy.'' 125 pounds for a 5 foot
8 person is pretty thin. And a 25 pound loss of weight on someone who wasn't fat
in the first place is dramatic. You lost weight, now people are noticing and it
You are not comfortable in your own skin, obviously. Why did you lose the weight
in the first place? Health reasons? Looks? You have to do some inner work to work
out your self-image issues. In the meantime, just say thank you to pople who
comment on your weight loss. Whether they are complimenting you or not, it lets
them know that you think you look good
My husband has been trying to lose weight for years but can't
seem to do it. Like many people in the Bay Area, he lives a busy
working parent life. He's usually good about exercising
regularly, and he's tried to be more mindful about what he eats,
but as soon as he gets a little too busy, it seems his good
habits go out the window. We hired a personal trainer for him for
a few months. It taught him a lot about how he exercises, but he
still didn't lose any weight. He got on the scale today and found
out he's gained another 10 pounds, and he got really depressed
about it. I feel terrible for him.
I'm one of those people who can eat donuts every day without
gaining a pound, and I'm at a loss for how to help him. I know
lots of people struggle with this problem, and some of them
succeed in losing the weight and keeping it off. For him, I think
it's less about exercise, and more about changing his eating
habits. How do you do it? And particularly, how do you fit this
change of life style into an already overcrowded schedule?
Five years ago after years of swinging back and forth between being
about thirty-five pounds overweight and getting close to my ''goal
weight'' I finally got down there and kept off the excess weight for
four years. Here were the factors that made the difference after years
1) something inside me made the choice I finally really decided, without
planning or forethought, that I had to change this fact of my life. I
think that my Dad's quadruple bypass surgery had a lot to do with the
shift, but also my age -- I was 45 at the time and felt very
I think that no weight-loss effort will succeed unless this #1 hurdle is
cleared. You have to REALLY want it YOURSELF.
2) I exercised EVERY DAY. And I mean EVERY. My husband complained that
I was becoming obsessive, but so be it. I needed the every-day regimen
because if I, for instance, instituted a three-day-a-week plan, every
day would turn out to be the day I ''didn't have time.'' Make the time.
Otherwise it won't happen. It has to be the top priority for self-time.
If there's no self time in your husband's day, he has to make some.
3) Write down every morsel that goes into your mouth as long as you are
on the weight-losing part of the plan. It's tedious, you'll feel
foolish, but that's partially the point.
4) Make many choices a day. ''I'd love to take one of those cookies,
but I won't do that right now.'' ''I'd like to go out for lunch instead
of eating my yogurt, but I'll do that another day.'' ''I'd like some
brie, but a carrot with dip will tide me over for right now. I can go
for the brie another day.'' You can have ice cream. Just not now,
5) Weigh in frequently. I know people say not to, but I do it
consistently every day. I know that my weight can fluctuate with fluid,
etc., but ultimately the scale doesn't lie. Make a graph and mark your
weight each week to see patterns.
Your husband can do it if he really wants to. Make it easier by keeping
lots of healthy food he likes on hand and getting rid of the fattening
binge stuff. Good luck to both of you!
happier and stronger
First, you fit in little things: packing a healthy snack for work,
taking the stairs, parking far away at the store, taking walks with the
kids instead of watching tv, walking treadmill during tv time, etc.
Second, you don't try to pack health into ''an already overcrowded
schedule.'' You decide it's more important to be here for your kids and
grandkids and to enjoy health into later years, and you cut back on the
scheduling. It may mean fewer dinners out or no vacation because of less
income. It may mean disappointed people who were relying on your husband
to help with committees, volunteer work, etc. He will be happier after
losing the weight.
One of the major causes of fat storage is stress Anon
My husband and I both struggle with minor weight problems. We both
gained about 40 lbs during each of my pregnancies and then had to work
at losing the weight post-partum. What we've found has worked for us is
Weight Watchers. Neither of us have ever attended more than a few
meetings. I have a meeting at lunch at my office so I went to the first
few to get all the necessary materials. After that, we simply wrote
down what we ate every meal and tallied it all up using their points
system. After a few weeks, we even stop writing and simply use our
judgment. We started this again about a month ago now that my baby is
almost 9 months old and my husband has lost 15 lbs and I've lost 10 lbs.
I think the system really works and I've heard of many other success
stories first hand. My husband jogs a few times a week, but outside of
working, running around and not getting great sleep because the baby
still wakes up at night, I don't exercise at all.
My husband and I each lost 30 pounds through Weight Watchers several
years ago. I'm now back on the program to shed my pregnancy weight and
have lost 25 of the 35 pounds I'm aiming for. The program is all about
slow weight loss and changing eating habits. Men tend to lose weight
really fast once they get going, so this might provide your husband with
the structure he needs. I am very sympathetic with his plight, since I
think my metabolism is much like his. WW has been tremendously helpful
for me. He can go to in-person meetings (a little cheesy but
surprisingly helpful) or do the program on- line if time and/or the idea
of meetings are a problem. I think meetings are more effective anon
I understand how difficult this is. My s/o and I have entirely different
metabolisms. Mine is very slow, his fast. He has high LDL,cholesterol,
BP, mine are fine. I love to exercise, he hates to. What's deceptive
about him is that he's very thin and could eat whatever he wants. But if
that was his only measure he would be eating junk food all the time.
Since I'm primarily responsible for buying and cooking food I help him
with his health and assure that we both have healthy things in the house
that suit both of our different bodies. We don't eat junk food and don't
keep it in the house -- even though he would and could eat gobs of it
and I would (if I ate it) gain gross amounts of weight -- not because
of our weight but because we both share a goal to eat healthy food.
''I'm one of those people who can eat donuts every day without gaining a
pound, and I'm at a loss for how to help him.''
You may think your lucky, but I don't necessarily see it that way. I
consider myself really lucky to have such a slow slow slow metabolism
b/c from a very young age I developed really really healthy habits.
Healthy eating habits today assure fewer health problems in the future
(not just today). It's not all about weight, that's only one part of
your health profile. I look and feel years younger than I am and am
convinced its due in part to my long standing healthy diet.
You probably used the donut anecdote as an example, but taking it at
face value, I think you could help him by not having that stuff around,
or not suggesting to go out for donuts (if you do).
You could help the most by developing your own healthy eating habits for
one, and as well you can both together build a diet of fresh foods that
are nourishing and invigorating. Finally, perhaps talk to a nutritionist
who can review your diet and help you establish what healthy looks like
for your family.
Does your husband drink caffeine or alcohol? If so, ask him to give 'em
up for 2 weeks and see if that changes his metabolism. He can always go
back to them but has to give his kidneys a break. When you start to lose
weight, your body goes into panic mode and starts saving everything and
adding water. Plateaus will occur through his quest, especially at the
beginning. If he gives up the external drugs he also feels calmer and
less hungry and better within his skin. Good luck dieternomore
I can recommend a program that I am in that I have lost 54 pounds on so
far. It takes a commitment and takes you having to finally put your
self and your health first. It's called HMR and is a medically
supervised program. You have to make a 13 week commitment to weight
loss and an 18 month commitment to maintaining your loss. They do have
programs for people who can not commit to that time. When it comes to
your health you need to put yourself first as a priority so that your
family will benefit. :)
If you are not ready to make that commitment I can suggest a great book
that might help as well called ''Thin for Life'' by Ann M. Fletcher.
It's a great book with a lot of helpful insights to getting on track.
Good luck! Loosing weight is the easy part it's keeping it off that is
the challenge. :) Jennifer
My experience (losing 25 pounds over 5 months) is that losing weight
takes a lot of self discipline and being totally anal.
Really the only way to lose weight is to burn more calories than you
take in. Exercising increases your calories burned and watching what
you eat manages your caloric intake. I got a book that lists calories
of foods and tracked my daily calories in a notebook. I set a target
daily intake of calories and stuck to it.
By doing this you really learn a lot about where calories come from and
what to cut out or cut down. It's very educational.
Some of the ''tricks'' I learned are:
- sugar is a huge source of calories, avoid it. If you're cooking
something at home, use half or less of the sugar.
- don't use mayonaise on sandwiches. If you're worried about a dry
sandwich, use extra lettuce or tomato.
- speaking of sandwiches, use bread where it is 80-90 calories/slice.
Most breads out there are 110 calories or more per slice.
- don't use salad dressing on salads. Flavored vinegar works good.
- if you're making a stew, cut the amount of meat in half and add more
vegetables. It'll still be hearty, healtier and fewer calories.
- if you're having some juice, water it down a little (say 25- 50%).
Still tastes fine, and you fill up faster on less calories.
Okay, so many of these are tiny, but they all add up. Look at the bread
example. You could save 30 calories/slice. At two slices day for say 5
days a week, that's 300 calories a week.
Over a year, that's over 15,000 calories, or the equivalent of about 7
or 8 days worth of food. Now that's some weight loss
I had 40# to lose after the birth of my 3rd child. I knew what to do,
but I just couldn't seem to do it. I tried for 3 years on my own. I
know it sounds old school, but I finally, in desperation, joined Weight
Watchers in February and am 23# lighter with not a ton of effort on my
part. It has been so much easier than I thought it would be. Wish him
luck for me a little bit lighter
Weight Watchers is a fabulous program. I've lost 30 pounds since
September. Your husband can attend meetings or use the on-line program.
The weight loss is relatively slow (up to 2 pounds per week), but men
tend to lose faster. It is all about lifestyle change, making smart
food choices, moderating portion sizes. It is hard work, but very
doable and worth it anon
If your husband (or anyone) is trying to lose weight, he really should get in touch with
Courtney Zaleski. While she spends time teaching people the usual fitness and diet
information, where she really shines is in helping us change our bad habits. Trust me, I am
a man who knows about weight troubles, and she really helped me turn things around.
You can reach her at 510-919-9952. I believe that she charges
$75 an hour to come to the home and $15 for a 15 minute phone check-in. It really kept me
on target knowing I was going to have to report at night what I had done Anon
I'm just wondering if anyone out there has taken the drug Meridia for weight loss,
and if so, how did it work? Were there any side effects? How long did you stay on it?
I am considering Meridia, a drug that decreases the seratonin levels that affect
appetite. The main side effect is higher blood pressure.
I work out endlessly and have a very healthy diet but just haven't been able to loose
the weight from the 3 babies. I have about40 pounds to loose, and I jsut feel if I
could get some help with appetite control, I would be able to get back to my regular
weight and maintian from there.
Any advice about Meridia?
I took Meridia for about nine months approximately six years ago. At
first, it was absolutely fantastic -- along with exercise, I lost about
35 lbs in five months. I decided to stop taking Meridia after my
blood-pressure got a bit too high. And, as I was warned, the weight
creeped back on in about six months -- despite still exercising and
being conscious of my food choices. I understand that taking weight-
loss medications is a personal choice, one that I am still tempted to
do. But, really, the only way to get that baby weight off and keep it
off is a good healthy diet and lots of cardio and weight training. I
suggest spending money (most insurances don't cover Meridia) on a
nutritionist and/or personal trainer -- it's a much slower process, but
ultimately the healthiest way to go.
I have not tried drugs for weight loss, but I work with women everyday
who struggle with their weight and are winning. It is a slow process,
but one well worth attempting without drugs.
Exhaust all other avenues first.
Weigh the price of the perscription, and the cost to your health against
the price of a gym membership, a nutrition counselor, and a personal
trainer. Any one of these alternatives or all three can help more and do
not have the side effects that you mentioned.
I worked in the health field for the last twenty years; I do not claim
to be an expert, but I do own my own fitness club.
But I remember some very bad weight loss drugs, very bad side effects
and results that did not last.
After having 3 kids in 6 years, I'm 100 lbs overweight. I'm very motivated to be
healthy again, but also very addicted to food. I use it to stay awake (chocolate,
sugar, caffeine...), and to reward myself for being such a good mom, and I eat the
wrong things because I'm always in a rush and want quick satisfaction. I've used
Weight Watchers in the past, but right now am not motivated to go to the meetings
(kids in tow--ugh), when no one will miss me if I don't show up.
I'm very tempted to call my primary care doctor and ask for help...but what should I
ask for? I'd like to find a nutritionist or hospital-run program where they expect
you to go every week...for weigh-ins, consultation, etc., at least at the beginning.
Does such a program exist? If so, would insurance cover it (BX HMO)? (I'm willing to
pay for something that works, but insurance coverage would be nice...) Any advice
for this exhausted, fat mommy?
I too am a food addict and though I don't have more than 20# to
lose, I've gained and lost that 20# many times over the years. I
eat really healthy food, exercise regularly....but I overeat and
in addition to really healthy food I (did) eat plenty of sugar
and white flour.
I recently found an on line seminar called The Fast Track Kick
Sugar Program (www.fasttrackkicksugar.com)
It's a 10 week siminar where you hear live weekly phone lectures
given by various nutritionists. I can't go into too much detail
here cause it would be over the 2300 word max but I can tell you
due to this program, I've now been off of sugar since January
5th and I feel SOOOOO great. I've lost 11 # so far with about
another 10 to go.
The important thing is how healthy I feel. Some minor health
issues have cleared up (including achey joints, to the woman who
wrote about arthritis at 42).The amazing thing is that generally
I do not crave sugar. I find now that fresh fruit or small
amounts of dried fruit(no sugar added) fills that need for
something sweet. You can get in touch with Connie Bennett, the
woman who puts on this seminarat the website, or you can e-mail
her at firstname.lastname@example.org
I also was recently told about''Food Addicts Anonymous''.
FAA is a 12 step program and is more strict and structured than
Overeaters Anonymous. In FAA you have to commit to 3 meetings a
week (I'm told),follow a food plan and check in with a sponsor
I hope this is helpful to you. Please e-mail me if you want to
talk more about the kick sugar program. Good luck. If I can do
it ANYONE can do it.
I was 70 pounds overweight last year and have lost 54 in a
year.I too was severely addicted to sweets especially
chocolate. I actually cut refined sugar and chocolate
conpletely out of my diet and was amazed at how nicely I lost
weight. I ate so much sugar that I think I cut my caloric
intake in half by doing this. I repaced the junky sugary items
with fruit and now I just crave fruit! Add an hours worth of
walking, it does not have to be done at once. 15 minutes here
and there throughout the day works just fine. Good luck I hope
that you can also conquer your food addiction. You would be
surprised at how well this works :)
My husband want to lose more than 30 pounds. I was about to
recommend e-diet (or another online program), but there may be on
this great network people with experience with effective programs
for men, who would like to share their experience with us. He
has tried many ''book-diets'' and has regain everything, he thinks
that a support group might help, or a dieting buddy to ''share the
pain''. Any tip will help! Thanks
really well for me. I started about six months before the
big ''low carb''
craze kicked in a few years ago, and I've been low-carb for about three
years now. I
dropped 40 lbs (205 - 165) and eventually put about 10 lbs back on over
may not be the best solution for your family (depending on food
preferences) but I'm
pretty happy eating lots of protein and salads -- plus there are lots of
there to help satisfy cravings (esp. low carb chocolate at Trader Joe's
and various ice
cream brands). I confess I still miss good microbrew instead of Miller
Lite, and chips,
and popcorn, and homefries, and.... aw, cripes, don't get me started.
But it's worth it
in the long run.
That's great that your husband cares enough about himself to
want to lose weight, good for him! However, if he is truly
serious about losing weight then he really ought to consider
weight training AND modifying his diet. This summer I lost
approximately 30 pounds myself, but it was a combination of
things that helped me lose the weight and keep it off. Diet
alone will not keep the weight off. Would you both be able to
afford a personal trainer at your local gym? My husband and I
both went together. He went to gain weight and I to lose it.
We have both been very successful in our endeavor and we now go
to the gym regularly about 4 times a week. It is a big change,
but we are very committed to our routine now. I used to snack,
watch tv, have dinner and then snack some more. Now it's a
light snack, go to the gym for about 1 1/2 and then eat dinner.
Working with the personal trainer I realized that I could
endure the taste of brown rice, that it was okay to say no to
sugar and it's been months since I've been to a fast food
place. I can still eat some of my favorite things but I do so
in moderation so I don't really miss it. Weight training itself
is fun and the personal trainer will help you develop a routine
that you can still follow and modify once you're finished with
I couldn't believe how much weight I lost and the jeans I could
fit into. I've had to buy all new pants. I am sooooo happy!!! I
had lost weight after my first baby and I knew I looked great,
but I just couldn't see the results. I was doing cardio 4 times
a week then, but I just wasn't tone, so I couldn't really see
the weight I lost. Then I had my second son and I never was
able to get the weight off and with school and work, there was
Weight training has been great. I can actually see tone in my
body. My arms and legs are tighter as well as my tummy. I don't
have to lift heavy either. It's great... You should definitely
check out a personal trainer.
Jioning a support group for dieting is a great idea. It's one of
the reasons why weight watchers is so successful.
But since your husband regains weight after dieting, that shows
that he has not made the crucial lifestyle changes that are
necessary to achieve permanent weight loss. So in this respect,
it does not matter which diet he chooses, they will all fail in
the end if he does not change his nutritional and exercise habits.
The key to being lean-for-life is eating a nutrient rich diet in
the proper amount for one's individual needs—caloric balance—and
Your husband should focus on eating generous amounts of
vitamin-rich fruits and vegetables, whole-grain breads and
cereals; and lean protein-rich foods such as meats, fish, and
When you diet without exercise, about half the weight lost is
actually from protein that your body has ''cannibalized'' from its
muscles. Over time, lean muscle loss will lower basal
metabolism, which makes weight loss all that much harder, and
weight gain after dieting practically inevitable. To be
healthier, you want to improve your lean mass ratio, or the
percentage of lean mass to fat that you carry. Dieting without
exercise does not efficiently inprove lean mass ratio.
This is just one of the reasons why succesful weight loss
REQUIRES exercise. Studies show that the optimal amount of
exercise for fat loss to be about 200 minutes per week. To
maximize fat loss, aerobic exercise should comprise about 70% his
weekly program, and strength training about 30%.
It takes about 20 minutes of sustained cardiovascular exercise to
start burning a substantial amount of fat as fuel—before that
it's mostly carbohydrates. I'd recommend 40 minutes of sustained
aerobics 5 times per week, with 20 minutes of strength training
three times a week. This will quickly burn fat and build muscle
mass which is the FASTEST way to improve lean mass ratio.
I highly recommend Weight Watchers. It is very realistic and
the only weight loss program where you actually KEEP the weight
off! Everything has a certain number of points and you have a
maximum # of pts per day and then an extra 35 or so for the
week. The points are based on calories, fiber and fat. The more
fiber, the lower the points. So you don't deprive yourself of
anything. You can ''save'' your points and have a piece of
chocolate cake. If you ''mess up'' and eat a donut, oh well, you
count it in your points and then you eat less (or only salad)
that day or another day. I have NEVER been able to stick to a
diet, but I was able to do weight watchers very easily. If you
are going to a restaurant, you can usually look up their
dishes' nutrition facts online and determine how many points
each one is. You don't have to go to meetings, but supposedly
people do better when they do. I have lost 12 pounds in the
last 2 or so months, a steady 2 pounds a week.
--Can't diet either
I highly recommend Weight Watchers, a program he can do by attending
by participating on-line. At meetings he'll have face-to-face support,
women than men attend meetings. Through the on-line system he will
certainly find a
group of like-minded men who are facing the same weight loss challenges.
Watchers is a relatively slow process (1-2 pounds per week is success),
but men seem
to lose faster than women. And in the long run the weight is more likely
to stay off
because WW is based on lifestyle changes and not simply restricting or
intake for a few weeks/months.
My husband lost about 55lbs. after our daughter turned one
(she's 5 now). He gained some back when I was pregnant with our
son, but not all and is now focused on losing that weight. What
really made the difference for him: 1) He just made the final,
absolute choice for himself (I couldn't do it for him) that he
didn't want to be that heavy and had to make some changes. 2)He
had a friend who was also losing weight - they met once a week
for a ''weigh-in'' and basically to give each other a hard time
about how much the other did or didn't lose. I have to say their
banter amazed me - I know of no women who could joke around
about how fat their bellys are etc... and not feel awful later -
''being supportive'' for my husband was totally a different
process/mind-set than I could have ever provided, so I'm glad he
found that support. And 3) he found the exercise he likes to do
(biking) and I agreed to support him - meaning watching the kids
while he took rides - sometimes it pissed me off (just because I
don't have 50lbs. to lose I'd still like to exercise) but I held
on to the big picture and I'd say about 85-90% of time I came
through - took the kids in the am,or for a chunk on weekends so
he could ride. (When he started out he was too heavy to ride
comfortably - so he'd walk through the Berkeley Hills with our
daughter in a backpack). He also accepted the advice that every
bit of exercise counts. So a 10 minute work-out is better than
no work-out. In the past he just wouldn't ride at all if he
couldn't do a full hour ride. This last time, he really
understood that once you have kids you have to take what you can
get, and that often that 10 minute ride will get you excited for
a ride the next day that is longer, or even keep up your stamina
for a better ride the next week. There were a lot of short
rides, but a lot of long ones too and the weight really started
to come off. As he got more into the exercise he felt better and
then started to pay attention to his diet. He is a terrible
dieter (who isn't?) so he focused on the exercise - which is fun
and makes you feel good - and the food kind of fell into place.
Hope his story helps - good luck!
Go hubby go!
I would highly recommend Weight Watchers, either meetings or
their on-line version. If you have Kaiser, you may get a big
discount off your joining and meeting fees. It's a
straightforward program that teaches you how to deal with food
in a healthy and long-term way. I think they, appropriately,
focus on changing habits (both diet and exercise).
lost 30+ through WW
A repy to a post recently made reference to a ''nice little
dietary supplement called Stackers'', to aid weightloss. I
tried finding it on drugs.com and no luck. What is the
pharmaceutical name of this supplement?
Regarding the inquiry about Stackers - I was curious too, so I
did an advanced googl search - dietary supplement stackers -
took me to a useful website, here's the link
I'd be interested to hear more about this product from others
who've tried it.
There are so many realistic sounding scams out there. The weight
loss industry is a huge money maker. The FTC has info on how to
spot a diet pill scam, as well as an entertaining fake website on
a new miracle pill, made out of eggplant. Check it out.
There is not a lot of success with weight loss. Those who do
have success try, try and try again, much like it takes smokers
many times to quit. Also exercise and recording what you are
eating are the simplest yet some of the only tools that have been
proven to work for weight loss. I like the book Strong Women's
Journal by Miriam Nelson as a way to record and review diet and
exercise habits to continually work toward making small permanent
I can't exactly remember this discussion, but I believe someone
asked about the safety/effectiveness of stackers. I recently
came accross a consumer reports article on this drug (January
2004, pg 23, ''Ephedra-free But is it safe?'') In case anyone is
still interested, they said that stackers are based on bitter
orange (synephrine) instead of ephedra. Quote: ''There are
little if any data showing that they work, and there's no
convincing evidence that they're safe, even for healthy
I am 46, have a small frame and for the past several months
have been trying without success to lose 4-5 lbs. I realize
that this might seem trite to those who are more challenged
with weight, but I am struggling with this. I have a healthy
diet that does not include wheat, gluten, cow dairy and
generally eat organic veggies, eggs, some chicken and fish
and other low carb unprocessed foods. I do indulge in
chocolate. I exercise 3X a week including about 20 minutes
on the treadmill at a challenging speed/ grade, and about
20 minutes of weight training each time. I know that I might
have more muscle (tho I absolutely don't see these
muscles!) and that affects weight but I am measuring
myself by how I fit into things, the flab on the back of my
arms and my increasingly heavy legs , both of which are
significantly less when I am a few lbs lighter.
My thyroid is fine. I probably am not eating enough protein. I
would welcome any ideas for how I might lose these few lbs
or inches . I'm a single mom working full time, so these
ideas would hopefully fit into my life. THANKS!
Hi - I think 20 minutes of cardio 3x a week is not enough for
weight reduction, just weight maintenance. If you can't increase
the lenght of your workout, I suggest that at least once a week
you do 40 minutes of cardio rather than 20 cardio / 20 weights.
One day do 30 cardio / 10 weights. Then the 20/20 the third day.
Also, try for two weeks to write down everything you eat
(EVERYTHING), including the time you eat it. It may be small
snacks adding up, particularly those late in the evening.
I need to lose 10!
I think you are doing good for your health. I love chocolate,
too! This may not work for everyone but if you haven't considered
it, I suggest trying this approach. When I was 46 I was 35 pounds
overweight, which I had been for 20 years. Today, at 48, I weigh
112 lbs, which is just right for a 5' 2 frame. The turning point
was when I started reading the food labels and realized, by the
serving size, I had been eating for two or more people. I then
cut back to one serving at each meal. I had already been eating
healthier foods, but now just eating less of it. I also started
to eat less rice, bread, and pasta. I love this stuff, but ate no
more than one serving per meal, and try to limit to only once a
I didn't stop there. I started adding good fats to my diet. I
ate more nuts, especially almonds and walnuts. But, I watch how
much of those I eat, too. My breakfast usually consist of a cup
of orange juice mixed with half-cup yogurt, and 10 almonds. For
variation, I have an apple with peanut butter. For some lunches,
I throw almond pieces or pine nuts in my salads. (Yesterday I had
an open sandwich consisting of one thin rye bread slice, topped
with sardines, baby spinach and shredded cheese, and baked for 5
min till the cheese melt. It was something spontaneous, but I was
in the mood!) I use only olive oil in my dressings and cooking.
I developed a craving for avocados, so I'd pick up a bag of
avocados at Trader's Joe and have one avocado for lunch, spread
on a piece of rye toast.
I love fish and meat, too, and eat small portions whenever I feel
the urge. If I feel hungry between meals, I munch on few nuts.
For me, when I need to lose few pounds or maintain my weight, the
bottom line is to eat fewer calories and listen to your body.
Once you do it, it becomes a way of life. I think our perception
on what is the right amount to eat is out of whack. Until I
started looking at food labels, I had no idea I was eating too
much. At the time, I expected to lose about 20 pounds. I had
heard that the last 10 pounds would be difficult. But, to my
surprise, losing the last of the extra weight was much easier
than I thought. I didn't even bother to count calories. I just
stayed with the serving size information on the labels and
listened to my body when enough is enough. That goes for
chocolate, too! The weight will come off slowly, but surely.
First of all, an important thing to know about losing weight: people
with a lot
of weight to lose lose it much more quickly and easily. The last 5-10
are the MOST DIFFICULT to lose. You can lose them, but it can take a
time, and diligence. One thing is, change your routine. Your body
accustomed to doing the same thing over and over, so you reach a
because your body isn't challenged any more. If you're just doing the
do something else, the stair or the bike, then switch again. Also, the
exercise that you say you are getting is pretty much maintenance
will keep you healthy, but it will also keep you at the weight you are
at. You will
either have to restrict your diet more (which I don't really recommend)
exercise more (especially the aerobic), or both.
Finally, the *weight* is (especially at your size) probably not the
best thing to
focus on. What you really want to concern yourself with is ''lean body
That is, replacing fat with muscle. Muscle weighs more than fat does,
can lose fat, drop in size and actually weigh *more!*
You might want to look into Callanetics. I love it, and man, it really
(at least, for me and other people I know who have stuck with it). You
her books and videos at Amazon.com. Just type ''Callanetics'' into the
I was in your same situation and went on the South Beach diet.
I lost 7 pounds in two weeks, and through maintenance kept it
off (and took off 3 more pounds) over the past 8 monts. You can
get all the info on line at a modest price.
www.southbeach.com. Highly recommend it!
I am in my early 50s. Last Thanksgiving both my sisters showed
up looking much slimmer. One had combined weightwatchers and
Curves, and had lost at least 15 pounds over several months.
The other had just decided to skip the treats offered at work
and to stop eating at meals before she was more than full. I
was inspired by them and by a friend who said losing weight let
her stop her blood pressure medication. I was 20+ pounds above
my pre-pregnancy weight. I decided to try sister #2s method. I
ate far fewer of the treats offered at work, I took smaller
portions with me for lunch (rather than trying to finish all the
family leftovers) and also took smaller helpings at other
meals. I waited before taking a second helping, and often found
I didn't really want it. I also increased my exercise from
about 4 days a week (15 min stretches, 20 min walking or other
weight-bearing/cardio) to 6-7 days and an extra 5-10 min/day. I
began losing weight gradually and in 6 months lost 20 pounds.
Now I'm trying to figure out how to maintain (I don't want to
lose more)and not regain. Just how many of those treats at work
can I indulge in?
20 pounds lighter
To lose the last four or five pounds, you will need to do longer cardio
workouts of at
least 45 minutes each. Adding an extra workout per week will help
during the losing
Also, you may need to switch your workouts around. If you always do the
thing at the gym, you will cease to challenge your body, and it will go
''maintenance mode.'' Instead of always doing the treadmill, try the
trainer, or the stairmaster for 20 of the 45 minutes you are
exercising, for variation.
Spin classes are also great, because they keep you going for a full
Trying some different weight lifting exercises would not hurt. Lift
weights--no, you won't get bulky, but you will build muscle (which
You don't say how much chocolate you indulge in, but that is
an easily identifiable high calorie food that you might cut out
in order to lose weight. I would find a way to cut 200 calories
(but not more than 500) a day out of your daily intake and
add one day per week to your workout schedule. If you are
not at risk for injury, increase the intensity and duration of
the aerobic part of your exercise. Do 30-45 min. cardio and
15 min. strenght training 4X per week and reduce daily
intake by 200 calories. It really all comes down to calories
in vs. calories out. Stick to it for a month to 6 weeks, I bet
your extra weight will be gone. Then you can go back to 3x
per week exercise and a little chocolate now and then.
I've heard that the three bites rule is a good one: leave about
three bites of food on your plate at every meal. that way you're
not feeling totally starved. also, are you drinking enough water
during the day? when you are dehydrated, the signal to your
brain telling you that you are thirsty can mis-fire and tell you
you're hungry instead. does this make sense? you might eat a
little less. maybe you can increase your cardio sessions by 10
minutes - from 20 minutes to 30.... just a few little
suggestions that might work. if you can fit one more exercise
session into your routine, that would be great. it's hard, i
know, but worth it.
I too am small-framed (or used to be, anyway), and would love to
lose those extra few pounds. My conclusion is that we're older,
and the metabolism is different, so either you're content to
keep the extra few, or you have to be super-motivated to get rid
of them. That means GIVING UP CHOCOLATE (my problem too), and
EXERCISING. When you were younger maybe you could eat whatever
you wanted and give it up for a couple of weeks and bounce back
to your tiny body, but even those of us formerly taunted
as ''twiggy'' have to watch what we do now.
I may not be the one to give advice, since I'm pretty much in
the same boat, but I do have a couple of thoughts.
First of all, are those 4-5 pounds recent acquisitions, or have
you pretty much always weighed what you do now for your adult
life? At our age, it's quite common to gain a few extra
pounds. But if it's been your typical weight, you may be at
your personal ideal body weight (assuming it's not hugely
overweight. Check one of the BMI calculators online, such as
www.halls.md/body-mass-index). It's generally healthier to
stay at a consistent weight, even a couple of pounds
over ''ideal'', than to lose and (almost certainly ) regain
Can you increase the cardio part of your work-out to at least
30 minutes each time? I think the recommendation is to
exercise at moderate intensity 5 times a week for 60 minutes
(yeah, right!), but even an extra ten minutes, three times a
week, of really burning calories will increase you cardio time
Are you able to adjust your routines to do more stairs rather
than elevators, walking a few blocks to work from your car or
bus stop, parking in one spot and walking between places when
you do errands? Do your kids enjoy biking or swimming or other
active pursuits you can do on weekends as a family?
Good luck - and let us know if you try something that really
Just a few more pounds!
Because you are neither gaining or losing weight with your
current eating/fitness routine, this means that you are at
caloric balance. Calories in equals calories out. To lose more
weight you need to tip the scales a bit so that your calories
expended are slightly greater than calories consumed.
Since you have been strength training regularly for 20 minutes 3x
a week, I will assume that your body is not ''under muscled''. I
would suggest that you lenghthen the aerobic portion of your
workout to 40 minutes, and try if at all possible, to fit in one
more session a week. In order to most effectively burn fat as
fuel, you need to use up your available muscle glycogen, which
usually occurs after about 15 to 20 minutes of moderate intensity
aerobic exercise. Only then will your body go into the pantry
(stored fat) for additional supplies. This is particularly true
with women. We are genetically/hormonally designed to hoard our
Adjust your diet, and skim off 250 - 300 calories a day, to
create a slight inbalance on that end too. But be careful that
you don't go under 1200 calories a day. If you take away too many
calories, your body will attempt to ward off starvation by
lowering your metabolism. You want to make sure that this does
Be aware too that as we age, our metabolic rate lowers about 10%
per decade. So the amount that you ate in your twenties and
thirties is now too much. Many women notice a big change in their
bodies at around 40. And it is a little harder and slower to lose
weight when you are small framed because you have a smaller
metabolism and already eat a lot less than others to begin with.
FYI, I'm 5', 105lbs., and 47, and have had to cut back on total
calorie consumption just to stay even too.
Since you are small and not eating dairy, you need to take
calcium supplments daily to maintain bone mass. Calcium citrate
is more esily absorbed than calcium carbonate. I like the brand
Citricel(sp?) beacuse it also provides Vitamin D and other trace
elements like magnesium. Some studies have shown that high
calcium levels in the body helps with weight loss. If you're
eating chicken and fish regularly, you probably are not protein
deficient. Very few Americans actually are. That's a marketing myth.
And lastly, be patient. Slow weight loss is the healthiest and
most effective long term. Small women should aim for no more than
1 lb. per week. Fast weight loss is almost never permanent. And a
lot of times side effects have too many negative health consequences.
I have been a member of Weight Watchers for the last few years
with some success. However, recently, although I have
diligently followed the program by journaling, exercising
(including increase) and drinking water, as well as attending
meetings and getting a tremendous amount of support, I have been
slowly gaining weight in small increments. Needless to say, it
is very frustrating.
I will say that I have met my goal to be heart healthy, which
was my main motivation for joining.
I have asked for advice at meetings, but feel that working
directly with a nutritionist would be helpful as well. I would
like to find someone who is supportive of the WW program, as I
plan to continue with the program and want to continue to learn
life long habits.
Any recommendations would be appreciated.
I, too, had some success with Weight Watchers but never fully
achieved my goal. That last 5-10 pounds is really tricky. I
recently found a book at Whole Foods called the Fat Flush Plan.
I'm very impressed! It's a very healthy way of eating, beginning
with a two week liver detox. You won't be hungry on this diet! I
lost 6 pounds the first 10 days. You can learn more about it at
www.fatflush.com. Imagine eating well, losing weight and inches,
and gaining tons of energy while you break your carb & sugar
I still use the WW online journaling just to keep track, though
when I follow the Fat Flush Plan I am always within my point
Feel free to email me directly if you want to know more about
it. Good luck!
I am looking for inexpensive nutritional advice to help me lose
weight and I wondered about signing up for E-diets.com and
talking to their nutritionists. (I am not interested in their
menus, shopping lists etc. but I would like advice about how
many daily calories I should aim for in order to get slow,
steady weight loss without getting hungry.) Has anyone tried
their service or can anyone recommend a good alternative? E.g.
a nutritionist I could see for one session? I checked the
website about nutritionists but the recommendations were all for
people who do herbs, acupuncture etc. and I'm looking for plain-
vanilla basic advice.
I've done both Weight Watchers (several times over the years) and
eDiets and had more success with eDiets plus it was a fraction of
the cost of attending WW.
I lost and kept off 13 pounds on eDiets first then switched to WW
and lost 7 more.
I think the nutrition advice available through eDiets is the meal
plan itself and would encourage you to try it for a few months to
see if you have success using it.
Using the menu planning software, I spent 1-2 hours/week creating
a meal plan for the entire week, went shopping for the groceries,
and posted it on the fridge to remind me what I had previously
''chosen'' to eat.
Perhaps you are better than I am at planning what to eat once you
have general guidelines on how many servings of this or that you
should have and how many calories, etc. but I found that I needed
something much more specific to keep me on track.
I stopped doing eDiets because I got tired of doing all that
planning and am now stuck and haven't been able to lose the
last 20 (I haven't gained any back though so that's progress).
--Progress not perfection
Other recommendations received:
Nutritionist at the Y, health plan
Several years ago I was able to lose 25 pounds, just by sheer
will power. I have tried and tried to continue losing weight,
but now find that I am just unable to do so anymore. I can't
find the will anymore. I am looking for a counseling program or
some way I can succeed that really works. It's not Weight
Watchers or any other program like this. I've tried these kinds
of programs with no success. It's got to be some kind of
powerful counseling program. Might anyone know of such a
Have you read ''Curves'' by Gary Heavin? I got it at the Contra
Costa Library and have been following the plan. It is Atkins-
like. There are also gyms (such as in El Cerrito plaza). I feel
I can stick with it. (He promises you can go back to normal
eating eventually) I also had an instant morale booster due to
losing 5 pounds in a week. My rate has slowed, as described in
the book, but this is better than I've done on other diets.
Having struggled my entire life with obesity, I can say that
one of the things that I dislike the most about this particular
problem is that I have no privacy. Because my weight at any
given time is obvious, people feel that it is ok to discuss it.
I really dislike discussing my weight, whether I'm gaining or
losing, whether I'm obese or ''normal''.
I have just discovered a book called The Diet Cure, by Julia Ross.
She has recently come out with a book called The Mood Cure. She
theorizes that overeating is due to certain chemical imbalances in
the brain, and that we overeat certain foods in a vain attempt to
achieve a healthier balance. She recommends a whole host of
supplements. I have been taking several different amino acids
based on her program and have been very surprised at how my
appetite feels normal, I don't feel driven to overeat now. I have
yet to lose weight, but I am still hoping for that.
Does anyone know of a weight loss doctor in the east bay, that perscribes
Overweight and depressed!
This response may fall more into the category of advice
than recommendations, since I do not know of any doctors
who prescribe appetite supressants. But I had to write
back to you anyway, since I have been ''overweight and
depressed'' for much of my life. First on the topic of
appetite supressants -- they can mess you up more than
they help. When I was fifteen, my mother took me to a
weight-loss doctor and had him prescribe an appetite
supressant (Presate). It worked like a charm in terms
of getting weight off, but the drug made me into a
nervous wreck. My heart raced, my hands shook, and I
had dreams that could have qualified as hallucinations.
And while I did lose fifty pounds (in four months!),
most of the weight came back on immediately once I
stopped taking the drug. Of course there are many
different drugs out there, and there may be one that
doesn't make your life more complicated than it already
is. But we all know about the drugs that have been
taken off the market for their sometimes fatal side-effects.
And replacing your own mental will with drugs is something
that I believe will not work in the long run, since
losing weight and keeping it off is about changing your
life, ultimately without the help of drugs.
Just this past December, when I wasn't even consciously
thinking about weight loss, I happened to get hold of a
book called The 9 Truths about Weight Loss by Daniel S.
Kirschenbaum, a weight-loss and sports medicine doctor.
I don't think of it as a bible, and it isn't the most
eloquently written book, but it offered a plan for weight
loss that I felt I could try. You have to 1) write down
everything you eat 2) cut back on fats and sweets to
the least possible amount and 3) exercise every day.
It was the last requirement that made the difference
for me. His plan requires at least thirty minutes of
aerobic activity every day. I started following this
plan at the beginning of December and have lost twenty
pounds (and this was through the holiday season).
It's the exercise that gets you out of the depression
and helps you lose the weight even when you have trouble
adhering to a stringent diet (I usually eat between 1500
and 1800 calories a day). I joined the local Y and go
in almost every day (other days I jog, bike, or walk).
I like it because I can choose my aerobic machine, a
class, strength training, etc. You have to take an
hour or so a day for yourself, and this is hard for
parents. But I tell myself that in order to be a good
parent, I need to be a happy, healthy parent. So I
selfishly (!) take that time for my well-being.
Another method that works is Weight Watchers, but you
have to stick with the program, and it costs money.
I lost weight with them, but when I dropped out because
of cost, I found that I wasn't sufficiently self-motivated
to stay on track.
Even if you are very overweight, you can start with the
exercise plan I mentioned on a very low level -- short
walks for ten minutes or so, for instance. It will make
a difference on your scales and more importantly, in
your mood. Good luck and God Bless.
Formerly overweight and depressed
I'm afraid I don't have any doctors' names to give you,
but I know many people who have had short-term success
and long-term failure with drugs, not to mention the
side effects and problems.
The bottom line, in my experience, is that most of us
who have a problem with eating and weight aren't eating
only out of hunger, so suppressing the appetite doesn't
always eliminate the eating behavior. Weight lost on
diets, augmented with drugs or not, tends to return.
I have been struggling with food and weight for most
of my adult life. I've weighed everything between 140
and 295 pounds, I've been on the commercial diet programs,
fasting programs, etc.
I apologize if the following seems like unsolicited
advice, but I want to share the existence of an
alternative that has worked for me. For about a year
and a half now I've been going to a support group called
Overeaters Anonymous, and for the first time in my life
I've lost weight without feeling deprived all of the
time and without immediately gaining it back.
OA is a fellowship of people who have problems with food
who meet to share support. It is modeled on the 12 steps
of AA, which people use to help them handle life without
excess food. There are no fees for members, no weighing
in, no requirements to follow a particular diet. Every
person decides for themselves what way of eating they
need to follow. You can contact OA at 510-273-9292 or
the web site at oaeastbay.org
This may or may not seem like what you want right now,
but if you didn't know about it I just wanted to let you
know it exists. I used to feel very frustrated when
people gave me advice about eating right and exercising
and I felt that nobody understood me--''if I could just
do that, I wouldn't be in this situation!''
At OA I'm not alone. It's not a perfect program, but it's
given me more than any other way of addressing the problem.
I've lost 70 pounds, and more importantly, I'm living my
daily life free of the obsession with eating.
Anyway, I wish you the best of luck in feeling better,
whatever you pursue.
The real issue about weight loss is your metabolism,
how well does your body metabolise the food you eat.
All the drugs and exercise and diets in the world will
not help you if your metabolism is screwed up. There
are ways to jumpstart your metabolism so that your body
works with you instead of against you. I would first
check with your regular doctor and ask him/her to give
you a complete checkup (including all blood tests to
include thyroid) just to make sure nothing is wrong
physically. I say this only because I have a friend who
had a thyroid problem and a weight problem. Once her
medication was right, she began to lose weight and is
now comfortable with herself.
There are many reasons people are overweight and they
don't all center around diet and exercise or no
self-control. You need to find the reason before you
can really start successfully losing weight and that
requires starting with your regular doctor. Or ask for
a referral if you don't feel comfortable with the one
Make sure you don't have a physical problem before you
knock yourself for being overweight.
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