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Need online weightloss site--with GRAPHS

Nov 2008

I would like to lose 25 pounds in anticipation of an event next June. I have already talked with my doctor, who ran thyroid and other tests, which were normal. It's simply a matter of exercising more and eating fewer calories. I am HIGHLY motivated by recording information and seeing the resulting progress in graph form. Can anyone recommend an online site where I can enter calorie counts, exercise, and weight--and see my information presented visually? --8 Months to a Healthy Weight


fatsecret.com - it helped me lose about 35 pounds in about 6 months. good luck! Judy
The website sparkpeople.com is free and has charts and graphs for tracking your weight loss. It also has meal plans, exercise plans, blogs, recipes, etc.. It is a great resource. Also trying to lose
I LOVE this website: www.myfitnesspal.com. I used it to lose 35 lb. and it does have graphs. Have fun! myfitnesspal fan
I really like myfooddiary.com - it has great graphs for weight, measurements, body fat percentage. Only catch is that it costs $9 per month. -trying to lose weight too
Try the site www.fitday.com it's free!
Hi - try www.fitday.com, it's free. It tracks your foods, exercises, weight loss and goals. Good luck! Crystal
I've been using nutridiary.com, and have been pretty happy with it. I use the free version, which has nutrient info on lots of different foods, lets you add your own foods, and lets you construct ''meals'' of food combinations you eat regularly (saves time in entering). It displays various kinds of progress (calorie distribution, weight lost, etc.) with graphs under the ''reports'' tab. They also offer a paid version with a lot more foods listed, but I generally use calorieking.com (free) if I need more information on a food not listed at nutridiary. lost 10 pounds so far!
Yes yes! onlinefitnesslog.com sounds like exactly what you need. Little lines with different colors for weight, body fat, exercise output, etc. Have fun, good luck! --losing that baby fat
I just wanted to suggest checking out the bodybugg. I worked with a trainer who recommended it for those seeking weight loss, and though I didn't use it, a good friend did. There are fees, but the graphs and reminders that you need to do 'one 15 minute walk before bed' if you plan to meet the calories burned goal, were very helpful for my friend. The website is www.bodybugg.com. Mary
I was in your same situation a few months ago--I had those last 15-20 pounds of baby weight that I was hoping to lose before an event. I came across the 3-Hour Diet (www.3hourdiet.com) and it worked like a charm for me. It is a relatively easy diet--there are not really any restrictions on what you can eat, so I never felt deprived of anything. And it taught me a lot of good eating habits--habits that I still use in my day-to-day life even though I'm no longer doing the diet (I lost most all of the weight I wanted to). The site utilizes a lot of visuals--you can post before and after pictures, and there are graphs for total body weight and then each separate body measurement. You can join chat groups, which really helped to keep me motivated. You can also type in your dietary preferences, and the site will generate daily menus for you, along with shopping lists to make all of the recipes. I highly recommend this diet/website. Good luck! Kerry

I have 10 pounds to lose in 2 months ...

Sept 2008

Hi everyone! I'll love to hear from those who have successfully (or not so much) lost some weight on some of those very commercial methods. I have 2 months and 10 lbs to loose for my sister's wedding this December. I have a dress and I'm just not willing to buy a new expensive dress for one night. Please not lecturing... I'm a very busy mom of two toddlers, maybe I can walk for 30 3 or 4x a week, I'm on an overall healthy diet, I RARELY eat out , I know myself what in the food I need to change. I will star to do this waking running, but PLEASE tell me about that magic green tea, other herbal methods, weight watcher, slim fast o the like. Thanks for your input mommy with the big thighs


I lost a lot of weight a couple of years ago (and have kept most of it off) using a book called ''The Diet Cure''. My problem was a sweets addiction though it doesn't sound like an issue for you. The book might be helpful and keep you mindful of your eating. Good luck to you! I hope you make your goal and look stunning for the wedding. - anon
The mother of a friend of mine once said that the only way for women to lose weight is to go to bed hungry. I was never fond of that idea but it does seem true that women need to eat much less (as well as exercise) in order to lose weight. I've managed to lose a fair bit by taking smaller portions at lunch and especially dinner, and never going back for seconds. I also try to remind myself not to eat my 9 year old's leftovers even if tossing them is abhorrent to me. I do eat enough at dinner to not be hungry in the night because it affects my sleep. If I am hungry before bed, I'll eat a handful of almonds or some non- sugary yogurt. If your body is too starving then all you'll want to do is eat and that defeats the purpose. However, exercise is key. hungry but not starving
If it's just 10 pounds - don't worry, buy one of those minimizer things that go from breast to knees and call it a day. Be glad it's only 10 pounds
Try cutting out ALL sugar in your diet - even to the level of ketchup. It's not as hard as it sounds, once you've gotten through a few days, you tend to lose the sweet tooth urge. You can drop 5 pounds quickly b/c eating sugar tends to make you bloated with extra water. No sugar means you also drop all those desserts etc. I also have cut out cow dairy (allergies) and that really helped as well. I still eat plenty, including high fat food (hummus, avocados), I'm not hungry. It's hard to organize sometimes but do-able. If you can do it, cutting out all refined wheat (or as much as you can) really does the trick as well.

The South Beach diet is a great way to lose weight/eat healthy without ''dieting''. It's also based o the no sugar concept, but explains it much better than I am.

I find that my vanity took over once I did lose the weight, so I'm more motivated to stay thin. I am finally able to leave food on my plate. In fact, eating only half of your entree out is a great trick as well. anon


Hi, You can realistically lose 10 pounds in 2 and 1/2 months and in healthy ways as it's only a pound a week. I did Weight Watchers in the past, and have had clients who use Weight Watchers for dieting help and hypnosis to keep them motivated and on track in reaching their goals and feeling great about themselves. A number of years ago I lost about 80 pounds, however, I've kept the weight off, by using hypnosis, self-hypnosis and exercising daily, usually walking and yoga.

Another plus in your favor is that in addition to walking several times a week, you have toddlers who keep you on the go. Have fun and take advantage of their energy, maybe by taking walks or pushing them in their stroller, go to the park and play with them on the apparatus, or dance, jump, gallop with them. Everyone will have lots of fun and you'll burn lots of calories too. Since you are highly motivated to lose weight, you would be a great candidate for hypnosis. If this seems like something you might like to try, let me know. Catherine


Hope this is not a ''lecture'' but look, you can do this. It's fast but not impossible, 5 pounds per month or a little over 1 per week. I lost 30 pounds on my best efforts at a rate of 1/2 to 1 lb/week, after an initial more rapid loss.

I'd say, put a calendar of the two months ON THE WALL. PLAN your meals, write them up there, follow them. Keep to small portions, you know that. Use that 30 min 3-4 X a week to push yourself at a high heart rate, put those 30-mins up on that calendar too and do them when you're supposed to. You have to signal to yourself that it's a new program. Keep the dress in mind. You may drop 5 right off the bat. Keep hydrated. Use all the tricks, vegs & water first, stop before you're full, plan in little sweets or whatever your weakness is. The main thing is make yourself a written plan and stick to it.

My personal favorite mind game is knowing I can do one small (150-200 calorie) late morning meal, then ONE MAIN MEAL late afternoon and be satisfied. I keep my coffees with cream and sugar in because I'd feel deprived without them. I plan what I will eat if my stomach is growling late night, OR if I'm strong I just say to myself ''That's the sound of this body sculpting itself down,'' and go to sleep. You can do it! Good Luck!


Before my own wedding, for about 6-8 weeks, I didn't eat anything white- no sugar, white bread, yogurt, etc..- or anything processed or alcohol. Just good wholesome veggies, fruits, grains. It just peeled off! Good luck. kelley
Oh my gosh...who hasn't done what you are suggesting? Or, thought about it? This past year, I wanted to drop for my husbands 25th high school reunion (had to look good for his ex-girlfriends...right?) I used www.thedailyplate.com. There wasn't any magic to it. I just put in my weight, how much I wanted to lose, and then kept the on-line food diary. It tallied for me my calories. Once I knew what I was eating, I was able to easily get my intake to what my suggested calories in-line for my weight loss goal. I lost the ten pounds in the ten weeks and I've kept it off for the the past three months. I have another ten I would like to lose...haven't stayed on the thdailyplate, but plan to go back once I my urge to lose the remainder hits me... anon

Gaining weight though not eating more

Jan 2008

I have been gaining more weight (well I never lost all the weight I gained after my youngest child was born 10 years ago) and I am not really eating more than I used to. I exercize about 4 times a week, although I don't seem to sweat when I do so. Now that I am about 27 pounds over my pre-pregnancy weight, and the weight seems to be going up, does anyone have any advise or knowledge about how metabolism works or how the body responds to exercize now that I have hit 50 and am post menopausal? Thanks for any thoughts on this. anon


I can verify that weight is much easier to put on and much more difficult to take off the older we get!

Weight Watchers always works for me, even though I have a thyroid disorder which is only partially treatable. And recently my acupuncturist suggested that I try out not eating wheat, as that can hold water for some people. It's a pain in the neck to avoid wheat, as it's in more things than you'd think, but I'm feeling much less bloated since I began a couple of months ago. Cece


Have you had your thyroid checked? Low thyroid can cause weight gain because it lowers the metabolism. It's a simple blood test to have all of your thyroid hormones checked. If you ahve low thyroid you can take various forms of thyroid hormone (forever). It's very very common in women, esp. after childbirth.

The other thing to look at is what you are eating? Are you eating sugar? Wheat? starchy foods'' Sugar will pack the pounds on like nothing else! Bread? Pasta? White flour?...as good as sugar. If you want to lose weight you have to eat less calories. Try writing down everything you eat for a few days. Be totally honest. You might be surprised that you're eating a lot more then you think. Take it a step further and figure out how many calories you're eating...You can also figure out how many calories a day your body needs for your activity level adn to lose weight. ...whatever you are eating, if you cut 500 calories per day out of your diet you will lose about a pound a week (I thnk that's right...3500 cal/#). And drink lots of water. But mostly, cut the sugar.

WHat are you doing for exercise? Weight bearing exercises...exercises that build muscle will burn the most fat. There are many websites that can help you. It might also be helpful to have a consultation or two with a nutritionist or personal trainer/weight loss coach. Since you didn't say anything about what you eat or how you exercise I''m only asking questions here, not making any assumptions.

If you'd like to talk further, please e-mail me. I'm a personal trainer/weight loss coach, massage therapist, have hypothyroidism, am a sugar addict off of sugar, and have lost weight successfully. Good luck. Been there... June


If you are 27 pounds over your goal weight, you are consuming 270 more calories every day than you are burning. My gym recommends that women keep their percent body fat below 20%.

Just by replacing 270 chocolate calories every day with a cucumber-carrot salad, your weight will gradually drop to your goal weight. If you eliminate a Frappuccino every day, you could actually lose too much weight.

If you're over 50, you are probably losing muscle mass, too, so add some push-ups, crunches, and lunges to your daily routine to maintain joint health and to prevent your weight from migrating to places where you don't want it.

And, don't forget the fiber for your aging digestive system. The fiber will make you feel fuller on fewer calories, too.

Aerobic exercise is good for your health, but if you watch the numbers on the treadmill, you'll see that it takes a long, long time on a treadmill (with or without sweating) to burn 3600 calories (the equivalent of 1 pound of fat).

No excuses, just veggies


Help....my weight is STUCK!!!

July 2007

Last year through exercise and good nutrition I lost about 15# (needed to lose 20). I was doing really well. In April I started putting back on abunch of weight (got sick, mom passed away, other stressful events)..I'm an emotional eater and a major sugar addict. AFter 2 months I'd gained 7# back. Now I''m back on track...back to exercising regularly, no sugar, white flour, dairy, etc. I know a lot about nutrition (in fact in my work I council people on how to lose weight and eat better). As far as food and exercise I know I'm doing the right things. I have a physically active job (I don't sit at a computer all day) and try to eat about 15-1700 calories per day. I take supplements, etc. etc.

Here's what may be an important factor. I'm 54, going thru menapause...I've felt like a period is coming for about 2 weeks now. I didn't get one for 10 months and then got one last month...now it feels like i'm on a regular cycle again. My belly aches, I get crampy, irritable, my face is breaking out. So, given that this holding on the the weight could easily be a hormonal thing....any suggestions? Any herbs, supplements, etc. Thanks to any of you menapausal moms or nutritionists out there who can help. bloated and annoyed!!


i was just reading something about this in a mothering.com thread ''Premenopause/Menopause Tribe'': http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=360255

one poster reported that once menopause sets in it is harder to lose weight, because the body is holding on to stored fat as a source of estrogen. she was paraphrasing christiane northrup MD., maybe from her book (she has several) called ''the wisdom of menopause.''

here's the bookstore part of her website: http://www.drnorthrup.com/bookstore/index.php signed: not there yet, but ?close.


Husband's drastic weight loss

March 2007

My husband has lost 15% of his weight in two months. He was thin to begin with. He weighs 30 pounds less than me. I am no longer attracted to his slight frame. He appears very unhealthy in my eyes and my family agrees. He has given me no valid reason for his weight loss, but it may be viral. I have no idea. He is not sick and he does not do drugs at all. He runs twice per week. He has lost some motion is his left shoulder. He also has some bruising near his spine. My question is could he actualy like looking so gaunt? He is wearing tight t shirts and jeans that accentuate his skinny arms! Is this fashionable in some circles? Is this something straight, married men do? How can I be married to someone who looks likes a 43 year old man in the body of a 14 year old? What can I do to convince him to gain more weight? Size 10 married to Size XS


Please use whatever tools are at your command to insist that your husband see a doctor. He may be suffering from an eating disorder or some other serious, perhaps even life-threatening illness. He may be in denial or scared to find out what is going on (this happened to a friend--it turned out he had developed adult-onset diabetes). You can tell him that if the doctor says nothing is wrong you won't bother him anymore. You can tell him that if he loves you he will do this one thing for you, even if he doesn't want to do it for himself. Tell him you will go with him and hold his hand. This is not nagging, this is taking care of the one you love. Good luck to you both.
forget his size or attractiveness... does he have cancer? Seriously. Unless he's stopped eating, that much weight loss is an enormous red flag for a life threatening situation. Call the Dr, now!
It's always the men who lose weight without trying!!! If your husband lost 15% of his body weight by doing nothing in particular looks unhealthy, etc. I'd have him see a Dr. immediately. Does he have an eating disorder? Has he had on in the past that could be lurking back? I'd have him get a blood test and a thorough checkup by his MD. Good luck anon
Firstly, yes, I think you're right to be worried... that amount of weight loss in that short a time can't be healthy. But good heavens, do the two of you communicate? Do you even live in the same house, or town? I'd have to believe there'd be considerable evidence of *something* to explain the weight loss; I'm as worried that there's something far more serious going on than the tip-of-the-iceberg question of whether or not he could think it looks good. Concerned Citizen
How much does your husband weigh? Is he underweight by the BMI (Body Mass Index)? You can find this in books. If he is not underweight, are you overweight by the BMI? Sounds like he keeps fit. I don't know if he is too skinny without first knowing his weight, height and age. Maybe you yourself are overweight and you just don't feel good next to him? I don't know. anonymous member of BPN
He should see a doctor right away. It could be anything. Running can also make you lose weight, but his weight loss seems more extreme and with those other symptoms...really go to the Dr. Better that then have ''us'' diagnose. anon
Please insist that your husband see a doctor ASAP for a complete health screening. Sudden and unexplained weight loss is one of the warning signs of cancer they always tell you to look out for. If my husband had lost that much weight so quickly I would be very concerned to rule out organic causes. The bruising and loss of mobility make me concerned also. Whether or not he enjoys being that thin seems beside the point if he has a serious illness. Running twice a week is not at all an excessive amount to exercise. alarmed
I'd say get him to a doctor asap, and if you haven't already spoken to him about it, ask him! It could be a medical condition (viral, or some other disease, including cancer). And if he doesn't feel well, don't criticize him. Maybe you'll be more empathetic. And if he's already skinny and losing weight intentionally, there may be some emotional/psychological issues. If I were you, I'd express some concern first of all. Put your ''appearance'' concerns on the back burner for now.
Please take your husband to the doctor ASAP. If he has not been trying to lose weight and if he does not have an eating disorder then something more serious is likely going on. I do not want ot be an alarmist, but as the parent of a leukemia survior, weight loss and bruising were some of the tell-tale symptoms that got us in to see the doctor. A 15% reduction in weight in such a short amount of time is more alarming than having a 43 yr old spouse in a 14 yr olds body. Please press him to seek medical advice. A simple blood test could provide you with many answers. concerned reader & mom to cancer survivor
I don't want to unneccesarily worry you but here are a few things to think about. Please remember that there are many many possible reasons for your husbands situation and the ones I mention are just a few, and probably not very likely.

You don't mention if your husband intentionally lost the weight, or it just happened. Drastic unexplained, unintentional weight loss is a classic sign of cancer. The bruising and shoulder pain are also cause for concern if they have no other explanation like he fell and injured himself. Is he a smoker? Shoulder pain can be caused by a lung tumor pressing on a nerve and the pain then radiates to the shoulder (get a chest x-ray maybe). Unexplained easy bruising can be due to a low platelet count which needs an explanation (get a CBC, complete blood count). Leukemias and lymphomas often cause a low platelet count (thrombocytopenia).

Other reasons are emotional or mental problems, food alergies, food phobias, viral diseases and of course extramarital affairs. Or maybe he just thinks he looks hot that way. Get some good looking women to dis him a few times about being too skinny and that should cure him. In any case, sounds like he needs to see a dr. to rule out serious problems if in fact the weight loss was unintentional. sean


Losing the Last 10 Pounds

Jan 2007

Last year I lost a lot of weight with healthy diet and exercise. I've kept my goal weight for about 6 months now, and I'd like to lose 10 more pounds. This would not make me ultra skinny, but pretty trim. However, I am finding it very hard to get these last pounds off. I've amped up the exercise, water intake, healthy diet....the scale is not moving. Any advice? wish I could get the numbers to budge


Hi! I read your post about ''losing the 10 last pounds''. Have you given a thought to the idea that maybe you don't have 10 more pounds to lose? It seems that you are eating properly and exercising routinely, which is the best way to allow your body to get down (or up) to its healthy weight. Why would you want to get skinnier than your natural balance? I would add that eating less while exercising more would be unhealthy as you seem to have reached your natural weight. I would encourage you to work on the image you have of your body, rather than on your body itself... Good luck! anon
Although it might not help loosing the weight, you might look and feel more svelt with weight training. I've alwasy found that lifting weights does more for my looks and sense of self than anything else. You didn't mention weight lifting explictly, so thought I'd throw that in. Merrilee
Hi, you don't mention your form of exercise, but if you really want to be trimmer, try weight training. Despite most women's fears, it will not bulk you up. The numbers on the scale may not go down the full 10 lbs, but a weight trained bod is definitely trimmer. Muscle burns more calories at rest than fat, so your metabolism will increase and you won't have to drop more calories. Good luck. anon
Congratulations on your weight loss. Ten pounds is my 'magic number too!. I started Bikram yoga at the beginning of January and found that going 3 or 4 times a week is bringing my weight right down. The first 4 came off in 2 weeks. I think it's working because I eat a very light breakfast of fruit and a few bites of yogurt, trot off to class. After class, I only want liquids, coconut water, more juice, water w/ a tiny bit of sea salt. I eat a good size dinner around 5pm. Bedtime is around 10pm. Sleeping during the hours of 10p - 3am, studies have revealed, crucial to hormone balance in women who want to reduce weight. Good Luck. Funky Door Yoga Studio is a Bikram studio. There is also a Bikram studio in Oakland. Sweaty and Happy!
Even though you eat a healthy diet you may be eating too many calories (easy to do). Try writing down all your food for a few days and count the calories (you can find out calories/portions on boxes, packages, on line, in a calorie book). 3500 calories = one pound. So, whatever your daily calorie intake is...if you are maintaining your weight, that's how many calories you need to maintain your weight. If you eat 500 less calories per day than your typical, you will lose a pound in one week (500 kcal x 7 days per week = one pound/3500 calories).

Been in your shoes. Upped the exercise, but not till I lowered my calorie intake did the pounds come off. I measured my portions too cause I found that eyeballing my portions was not accurate. So, for example, 1/4 cup of dry oatmeal was 150 calories. 1/4 cup dry looks like not much oatmeal, so I'd add more... But actually 1/4 cup dry was plenty of oatmeal cooked. I could go on, but you probably get the idea. Good luck. maintaining...would like to lose more too.


Make water your only beverage. Beverage calories often get overlooked but they count! And hey, maybe you look a lot better at the weight you're at. As we age, we actually look better with a few extra lbs.!
I didn't see your original post so I don't know how long ago you gave birth. But, if you are physically ready to return to a vigorous workout, I know of no better way to get in shape than the Ice Chamber in Albany. I signed up for bootcamp in June with the goals of losing a few pounds and jump-starting my own workout. Instead, I quit the Y, stayed at the Ice Chamber, lost around 10 pounds so far, built loads of muscle, and feel amazing!

The Ice Chamber is not your ordinary gym - and they don't get ordinary results. At the risk of sounding like an infomercial - you will not believe how effective their approach to fitness is. But don't take my word for it - check out these BEFORE and AFTER photos of Ice Chamber members (including me) http://www.icechamber.com/beforeandafter

They just added a 9:30 a.m. bootcamp class. Beginning March 5, you can work out, and still have time to get other things done before you have to high tail it back to your nanny, best bud, daycare, mother-in-law, or whoever else watches your kiddo while you take care of yourself. If that time doesn't work for you, there are daily morning classes and evening classes: http://www.icechamber.com/schedule.html

Try it. After all, what have you got to lose (besides those last 10 pounds). http://www.icechamber.com/contact.html 510-558-0807 Truly fit for the first time


People commenting about my weight loss

Nov 2006

Hello, I have recently lost some weight. I started at 5'8'' and 150lbs (on the medium end of a healthy weight) and over the course of 3 months I am down to 125 lbs (still a healthy weight). I dieted and excercised. People keep saying to me ''WOW!! You have lost SOOO much weight!'' and ''You look SO much better now!''. This is kind of hurting my feelings, because I wasn't overweight in the first place . Also, I really don't know how to respond. I feel like saying ''Thanks'' is kind of awkward.. I wish someone would just say ''Great job on the weight loss, that takes discipline'' or ''You look great'' or something.. Since most comments seem to be in the surprised/slightly insulting category-- How should I respond? Also, am I being too touchy? Thanks! -Just wanting to feel comfortable in my own skin Anonymous


Great Job!!! Dieting and exercise are hard to keep up. Since I don't know you I can't say ''Wow....you lost weight, you look great'' but I bet you feel great so I think you might do best for yourself by concentrating on that when people say ''wow....etc''. It's just the way people react. We are all impressed when someone loses noticable weight, and maybe jealous too. I would try to lighten up...and keep up the great work personal trainer and weight management coach
Congratulations on losing 25 pounds in 3 months--that's quite a significant achievement, and something that people are definitely going to notice. It sounds like the people around you are very impressed and are trying to give you positive feedback, even if sometimes it comes out the wrong way. Just smile and say ''thank you.'' Obviously you wanted to lose weight, because no-one loses that much weight that fast by accident, so you should take pride in what you have achieved and not be dismayed that people are commenting on it. Listen for the intended compliment and respond to that! wish I had your problem
I have also recently lost weight; 30 pounds over 4 months. And yes, I get those ''My God have you lost a ton of weight!'' comments as well. It's a little different for me in that I was pretty chunky to begin with. I personally try to take the comments for how they are meant - as compliments. Also consider the person's intentions when they say it. Would they really say, ''Gee looks like you've lost a little bit of weight- why did you put so much work into something you didn't need''? It wouldn't be very nice either. - try to blow it off and enjoy !
First, let me congratulate you! It sounds like you worked on it. That said, you DID diet and begin exercising - wasn't this so that you could lose weight? I think people are just complimenting you and you're taking the way they are saying it wrong. It IS weird to say WOW YOU'VE LOST SO MUCH WEIGHT, but it happens all the time. (Maybe you did look heavy to those people before and now you're super thin and they can't help but exclaim?) I'd just say, Yeah I did, thanks. and call it a day. -Lucky you.
Since you asked, I think you are being a little touchy. You may not have been medically overweight before but you said that you did diet, not just exercise to lose TWENTY-FIVE pounds so you must have felt that it would be good for you to lose that weight. Of course people are going to notice and in our society a lot of people do think you look better. From what you said, nobody is making remarks like, ''Gee I'm glad you got around to losing all that fat!'' I would just change the subject from your looks to how great you feel. ''Thanks, it's kind of embarassing because I keep getting these compliments and all I wanted to do was start working out regularly.'' anon
Why did you decide - or how did you happen - to lose weight? Perhaps you could respond with an affirmation of that. For example, if you lost weight because you enjoy exercise, you could respond with, ''Thank you, I've really been enjoying running more.'' Or if you did it to improve your health, you might say, ''Thank you, I'm feeling healthier,'' etc. Hard as it may be, I'd try not to take those rude comments to heart, because they really truly reflect more on the speaker than on you anon
You'd think more people would know how hard it is to lose weight, but they don't. They assume it was easy for you. Unless they've successfully lost weight and kept it off, they are clueless. I used to be one of those people who would blurt out, ''Gosh you lost a LOT of weight.'' Now that I've done it myself, I am more likely to keep my mouth shut, or if I overhear a comment like that, I chime in with, ''It takes a lot of hard work and discipline to lose weight. Good for you.'' After I lost weight, I'd cringe when people commented - the worst was when they implied that I was now too slim (like you, I'm smack in my healthy weight range). I wanted validation, so I started giving it to myself. When people commented that I'd lost weight, I'd say, ''It was a lot of work to change my eating habits and exercise every day, but I'm glad I overhauled my lifestyle.'' It's annoying, but people have short attention spans; pretty soon they'll forget that you ever looked any different than you do now and the comments will stop completely Heather
Saying thanks is appropriate. Then you can back it up by saying it took lots of discipline and hard work to achieve your goal. You wouldn't have taken on the excercise and dieting if you were happy with the way you looked. You have had a drastic loss of weight, 25 lbs is a lot! I think it would be shocking to me if any of my friends dropped that much weight in that short amount of time. I would probably say the same things, especially if I hadn't seen them in the progress. Just the other day, I saw a girl who works in my doctor's office who lost 150 lbs! I was so in awe, I told her. She lost the amount of a whole person. It is not meant to be insulting, it is a compliment. I think some people are just amazed and wishing they could do it themselves. I have recently lost some weight (not 25 lbs, which is amazing!!!!) in the last few months by lots of exercise, discipline and dieting, I LOVE to hear how much better I look now, because I know I do. I am more comfortable in my clothes, in social gatherings, and everywhere I go. I was not by all means fat before, but I wasn't what I used to be and people remember that. It is a compliment. Be happy and glow! Way to go! still have 15 more to go.
I am 40 lbs overweight and just hate it and I really try to control my eating but i can't right now. i say comments like the ones you mentioned to people who have lost weight because 1) I am soooo jealous because I want to lose weight again too, and 2) in my family, being overweight is really considered ugly and so I am trying to get over the ''thin is pretty'' attitude that i grew up with, but it is still there. I think I am over it for everyone else but me. (My mother wanted me to lose weight for my wedding so bad...she would say things like ''don't you want to be a beautiful bride?'') Please just regard the comments as coming from the other peoples's attitudes about themselves and what society tells them and just let it go. The fact that you are happy with youself at different healthy weights is what matters! Anon
I could have written your email! I grew up a ''skinny'' kid - tall and skinny. Kids called me lanky. I always tried to gain weight. I ate everything, but remained 'lanky.' When I had my baby, I gained weight for the 1st time ever. I was busy being a mom, nursing, staying at home. I gained 50 pounds. During this time, I felt sluggish and low-energy. After my daughter started school, I started running, which I enjoy because it is time to myself in my thoughts outside in the fresh air. I eat, but I don't eat much meat or bread because it makes me feel bloated. I eat a lot of green veggies, whole grain tortillas, tofu, cheese, soups, and yogurt. After 6 months of running, I lost 30lbs, dropped to 120 from 150, felt GREAT, healthy and energetic. My coworkers started monitoring my lunches, commenting on my appearance, telling me they were worried about me. I got annoyed, and sort of offended that people were looking at my body and developing opinions, thinking I was not taking care of myself. We have folks at my work who are very large, and they bring in McDonalds lunches and eat at their desk, and nobody says anything. This seems ironic. Eventually, I had to tell a few of my coworkers to back off. The monitoring of my meals was offensive and intrusive. This was 3 years ago. Today I am still 120 pounds, the same proportions I have been my whole life, and I feel great. I have run 4 marathons, climbed several peaks in Europe, I'm fit and healthy. This is me. Feel secure with who you are. In this day in age, the media sends a message to our daughters that "skinny" is beautiful. I agree that this is not OK. I appreciate that we have been trained to look for signs of "skinny obsession," but I also believe we should never make people feel bad for their body size. We all come in all shapes and sizes, and this means big OR little. You might be little. If you are naturally little but healthy, as in eating when you are hungry until you are full, exercising because it makes you happy and it feels good, and you are content with your body and your mind, then tell people - thanks, I'm OK, please stop asking. You should never worry about what others think of your size Skinny mother of a healthy daughter
Yeah, you're being too touchy. People are commenting b/c they think it's a compliment. I've been on all sides of this, having grown up bony and wondered why people were always commenting about my weight, and post-baby have had much excess weight and began to understand why people comment on it-I started noticing other people who lost weight because I wanted to. It's a compliment, say thanks, smile, don't worry about it. 25 pounds is a lot to lose, it's noticeable. People generally won't say anything if you put on 25 pounds, becasue that would be hurtful. People assume that if you've been working hard on it that you are happy that they are noticing. Great job on the weight loss, by the way. I wish I could say I lost 25 pounds, but I'm just barely cracking about 17. And it didn't bother me at ALL when people started noticing. I was more embarassed when I had gained all the weight, and I know that was obviuos too. They're just being nice by only noticing when it comes off!
I think you are, in your own words, being ''too touchy.'' 125 pounds for a 5 foot 8 person is pretty thin. And a 25 pound loss of weight on someone who wasn't fat in the first place is dramatic. You lost weight, now people are noticing and it bothers you? You are not comfortable in your own skin, obviously. Why did you lose the weight in the first place? Health reasons? Looks? You have to do some inner work to work out your self-image issues. In the meantime, just say thank you to pople who comment on your weight loss. Whether they are complimenting you or not, it lets them know that you think you look good

Husband wants to lose 40 pounds

June 2006

My husband has been trying to lose weight for years but can't seem to do it. Like many people in the Bay Area, he lives a busy working parent life. He's usually good about exercising regularly, and he's tried to be more mindful about what he eats, but as soon as he gets a little too busy, it seems his good habits go out the window. We hired a personal trainer for him for a few months. It taught him a lot about how he exercises, but he still didn't lose any weight. He got on the scale today and found out he's gained another 10 pounds, and he got really depressed about it. I feel terrible for him.

I'm one of those people who can eat donuts every day without gaining a pound, and I'm at a loss for how to help him. I know lots of people struggle with this problem, and some of them succeed in losing the weight and keeping it off. For him, I think it's less about exercise, and more about changing his eating habits. How do you do it? And particularly, how do you fit this change of life style into an already overcrowded schedule? anon


Five years ago after years of swinging back and forth between being about thirty-five pounds overweight and getting close to my ''goal weight'' I finally got down there and kept off the excess weight for four years. Here were the factors that made the difference after years of struggle:

1) something inside me made the choice I finally really decided, without planning or forethought, that I had to change this fact of my life. I think that my Dad's quadruple bypass surgery had a lot to do with the shift, but also my age -- I was 45 at the time and felt very middle-aged. I think that no weight-loss effort will succeed unless this #1 hurdle is cleared. You have to REALLY want it YOURSELF.

2) I exercised EVERY DAY. And I mean EVERY. My husband complained that I was becoming obsessive, but so be it. I needed the every-day regimen because if I, for instance, instituted a three-day-a-week plan, every day would turn out to be the day I ''didn't have time.'' Make the time. Otherwise it won't happen. It has to be the top priority for self-time. If there's no self time in your husband's day, he has to make some.

3) Write down every morsel that goes into your mouth as long as you are on the weight-losing part of the plan. It's tedious, you'll feel foolish, but that's partially the point. Brutal honesty.

4) Make many choices a day. ''I'd love to take one of those cookies, but I won't do that right now.'' ''I'd like to go out for lunch instead of eating my yogurt, but I'll do that another day.'' ''I'd like some brie, but a carrot with dip will tide me over for right now. I can go for the brie another day.'' You can have ice cream. Just not now, later.

5) Weigh in frequently. I know people say not to, but I do it consistently every day. I know that my weight can fluctuate with fluid, etc., but ultimately the scale doesn't lie. Make a graph and mark your weight each week to see patterns.

Your husband can do it if he really wants to. Make it easier by keeping lots of healthy food he likes on hand and getting rid of the fattening binge stuff. Good luck to both of you! happier and stronger


First, you fit in little things: packing a healthy snack for work, taking the stairs, parking far away at the store, taking walks with the kids instead of watching tv, walking treadmill during tv time, etc.

Second, you don't try to pack health into ''an already overcrowded schedule.'' You decide it's more important to be here for your kids and grandkids and to enjoy health into later years, and you cut back on the scheduling. It may mean fewer dinners out or no vacation because of less income. It may mean disappointed people who were relying on your husband to help with committees, volunteer work, etc. He will be happier after losing the weight. One of the major causes of fat storage is stress Anon


My husband and I both struggle with minor weight problems. We both gained about 40 lbs during each of my pregnancies and then had to work at losing the weight post-partum. What we've found has worked for us is Weight Watchers. Neither of us have ever attended more than a few meetings. I have a meeting at lunch at my office so I went to the first few to get all the necessary materials. After that, we simply wrote down what we ate every meal and tallied it all up using their points system. After a few weeks, we even stop writing and simply use our judgment. We started this again about a month ago now that my baby is almost 9 months old and my husband has lost 15 lbs and I've lost 10 lbs. I think the system really works and I've heard of many other success stories first hand. My husband jogs a few times a week, but outside of working, running around and not getting great sleep because the baby still wakes up at night, I don't exercise at all. Good luck! Kelly
My husband and I each lost 30 pounds through Weight Watchers several years ago. I'm now back on the program to shed my pregnancy weight and have lost 25 of the 35 pounds I'm aiming for. The program is all about slow weight loss and changing eating habits. Men tend to lose weight really fast once they get going, so this might provide your husband with the structure he needs. I am very sympathetic with his plight, since I think my metabolism is much like his. WW has been tremendously helpful for me. He can go to in-person meetings (a little cheesy but surprisingly helpful) or do the program on- line if time and/or the idea of meetings are a problem. I think meetings are more effective anon
I understand how difficult this is. My s/o and I have entirely different metabolisms. Mine is very slow, his fast. He has high LDL,cholesterol, BP, mine are fine. I love to exercise, he hates to. What's deceptive about him is that he's very thin and could eat whatever he wants. But if that was his only measure he would be eating junk food all the time.

Since I'm primarily responsible for buying and cooking food I help him with his health and assure that we both have healthy things in the house that suit both of our different bodies. We don't eat junk food and don't keep it in the house -- even though he would and could eat gobs of it and I would (if I ate it) gain gross amounts of weight -- not because of our weight but because we both share a goal to eat healthy food.

''I'm one of those people who can eat donuts every day without gaining a pound, and I'm at a loss for how to help him.''

You may think your lucky, but I don't necessarily see it that way. I consider myself really lucky to have such a slow slow slow metabolism b/c from a very young age I developed really really healthy habits. Healthy eating habits today assure fewer health problems in the future (not just today). It's not all about weight, that's only one part of your health profile. I look and feel years younger than I am and am convinced its due in part to my long standing healthy diet.

You probably used the donut anecdote as an example, but taking it at face value, I think you could help him by not having that stuff around, or not suggesting to go out for donuts (if you do). You could help the most by developing your own healthy eating habits for one, and as well you can both together build a diet of fresh foods that are nourishing and invigorating. Finally, perhaps talk to a nutritionist who can review your diet and help you establish what healthy looks like for your family. anon


Does your husband drink caffeine or alcohol? If so, ask him to give 'em up for 2 weeks and see if that changes his metabolism. He can always go back to them but has to give his kidneys a break. When you start to lose weight, your body goes into panic mode and starts saving everything and adding water. Plateaus will occur through his quest, especially at the beginning. If he gives up the external drugs he also feels calmer and less hungry and better within his skin. Good luck dieternomore
I can recommend a program that I am in that I have lost 54 pounds on so far. It takes a commitment and takes you having to finally put your self and your health first. It's called HMR and is a medically supervised program. You have to make a 13 week commitment to weight loss and an 18 month commitment to maintaining your loss. They do have programs for people who can not commit to that time. When it comes to your health you need to put yourself first as a priority so that your family will benefit. :)

http://www.hmrprogram.com/

If you are not ready to make that commitment I can suggest a great book that might help as well called ''Thin for Life'' by Ann M. Fletcher. It's a great book with a lot of helpful insights to getting on track.

Good luck! Loosing weight is the easy part it's keeping it off that is the challenge. :) Jennifer


My experience (losing 25 pounds over 5 months) is that losing weight takes a lot of self discipline and being totally anal.

Really the only way to lose weight is to burn more calories than you take in. Exercising increases your calories burned and watching what you eat manages your caloric intake. I got a book that lists calories of foods and tracked my daily calories in a notebook. I set a target daily intake of calories and stuck to it.

By doing this you really learn a lot about where calories come from and what to cut out or cut down. It's very educational. Some of the ''tricks'' I learned are:
- sugar is a huge source of calories, avoid it. If you're cooking something at home, use half or less of the sugar.
- don't use mayonaise on sandwiches. If you're worried about a dry sandwich, use extra lettuce or tomato.
- speaking of sandwiches, use bread where it is 80-90 calories/slice. Most breads out there are 110 calories or more per slice.
- don't use salad dressing on salads. Flavored vinegar works good.
- if you're making a stew, cut the amount of meat in half and add more vegetables. It'll still be hearty, healtier and fewer calories.
- if you're having some juice, water it down a little (say 25- 50%). Still tastes fine, and you fill up faster on less calories.

Okay, so many of these are tiny, but they all add up. Look at the bread example. You could save 30 calories/slice. At two slices day for say 5 days a week, that's 300 calories a week. Over a year, that's over 15,000 calories, or the equivalent of about 7 or 8 days worth of food. Now that's some weight loss


I had 40# to lose after the birth of my 3rd child. I knew what to do, but I just couldn't seem to do it. I tried for 3 years on my own. I know it sounds old school, but I finally, in desperation, joined Weight Watchers in February and am 23# lighter with not a ton of effort on my part. It has been so much easier than I thought it would be. Wish him luck for me a little bit lighter
Weight Watchers is a fabulous program. I've lost 30 pounds since September. Your husband can attend meetings or use the on-line program. The weight loss is relatively slow (up to 2 pounds per week), but men tend to lose faster. It is all about lifestyle change, making smart food choices, moderating portion sizes. It is hard work, but very doable and worth it anon
If your husband (or anyone) is trying to lose weight, he really should get in touch with Courtney Zaleski. While she spends time teaching people the usual fitness and diet information, where she really shines is in helping us change our bad habits. Trust me, I am a man who knows about weight troubles, and she really helped me turn things around. You can reach her at 510-919-9952. I believe that she charges $75 an hour to come to the home and $15 for a 15 minute phone check-in. It really kept me on target knowing I was going to have to report at night what I had done Anon

Meridia for weight loss?

March 2006

I'm just wondering if anyone out there has taken the drug Meridia for weight loss, and if so, how did it work? Were there any side effects? How long did you stay on it? I am considering Meridia, a drug that decreases the seratonin levels that affect appetite. The main side effect is higher blood pressure. I work out endlessly and have a very healthy diet but just haven't been able to loose the weight from the 3 babies. I have about40 pounds to loose, and I jsut feel if I could get some help with appetite control, I would be able to get back to my regular weight and maintian from there. Any advice about Meridia? very anon


I took Meridia for about nine months approximately six years ago. At first, it was absolutely fantastic -- along with exercise, I lost about 35 lbs in five months. I decided to stop taking Meridia after my blood-pressure got a bit too high. And, as I was warned, the weight creeped back on in about six months -- despite still exercising and being conscious of my food choices. I understand that taking weight- loss medications is a personal choice, one that I am still tempted to do. But, really, the only way to get that baby weight off and keep it off is a good healthy diet and lots of cardio and weight training. I suggest spending money (most insurances don't cover Meridia) on a nutritionist and/or personal trainer -- it's a much slower process, but ultimately the healthiest way to go. anon
I have not tried drugs for weight loss, but I work with women everyday who struggle with their weight and are winning. It is a slow process, but one well worth attempting without drugs. Exhaust all other avenues first. Weigh the price of the perscription, and the cost to your health against the price of a gym membership, a nutrition counselor, and a personal trainer. Any one of these alternatives or all three can help more and do not have the side effects that you mentioned. I worked in the health field for the last twenty years; I do not claim to be an expert, but I do own my own fitness club. But I remember some very bad weight loss drugs, very bad side effects and results that did not last. Curves Lady

100 lbs overweight - medical solution?

March 2006

After having 3 kids in 6 years, I'm 100 lbs overweight. I'm very motivated to be healthy again, but also very addicted to food. I use it to stay awake (chocolate, sugar, caffeine...), and to reward myself for being such a good mom, and I eat the wrong things because I'm always in a rush and want quick satisfaction. I've used Weight Watchers in the past, but right now am not motivated to go to the meetings (kids in tow--ugh), when no one will miss me if I don't show up.

I'm very tempted to call my primary care doctor and ask for help...but what should I ask for? I'd like to find a nutritionist or hospital-run program where they expect you to go every week...for weigh-ins, consultation, etc., at least at the beginning. Does such a program exist? If so, would insurance cover it (BX HMO)? (I'm willing to pay for something that works, but insurance coverage would be nice...) Any advice for this exhausted, fat mommy? Big Mama


I too am a food addict and though I don't have more than 20# to lose, I've gained and lost that 20# many times over the years. I eat really healthy food, exercise regularly....but I overeat and in addition to really healthy food I (did) eat plenty of sugar and white flour.

I recently found an on line seminar called The Fast Track Kick Sugar Program (www.fasttrackkicksugar.com) It's a 10 week siminar where you hear live weekly phone lectures given by various nutritionists. I can't go into too much detail here cause it would be over the 2300 word max but I can tell you due to this program, I've now been off of sugar since January 5th and I feel SOOOOO great. I've lost 11 # so far with about another 10 to go.

The important thing is how healthy I feel. Some minor health issues have cleared up (including achey joints, to the woman who wrote about arthritis at 42).The amazing thing is that generally I do not crave sugar. I find now that fresh fruit or small amounts of dried fruit(no sugar added) fills that need for something sweet. You can get in touch with Connie Bennett, the woman who puts on this seminarat the website, or you can e-mail her at connie@sugarshock.com

I also was recently told about''Food Addicts Anonymous''. FAA is a 12 step program and is more strict and structured than Overeaters Anonymous. In FAA you have to commit to 3 meetings a week (I'm told),follow a food plan and check in with a sponsor every day.

I hope this is helpful to you. Please e-mail me if you want to talk more about the kick sugar program. Good luck. If I can do it ANYONE can do it. J


I was 70 pounds overweight last year and have lost 54 in a year.I too was severely addicted to sweets especially chocolate. I actually cut refined sugar and chocolate conpletely out of my diet and was amazed at how nicely I lost weight. I ate so much sugar that I think I cut my caloric intake in half by doing this. I repaced the junky sugary items with fruit and now I just crave fruit! Add an hours worth of walking, it does not have to be done at once. 15 minutes here and there throughout the day works just fine. Good luck I hope that you can also conquer your food addiction. You would be surprised at how well this works :) Sherri

My husband wants to lose 30 pounds

Dec 2005

My husband want to lose more than 30 pounds. I was about to recommend e-diet (or another online program), but there may be on this great network people with experience with effective programs for men, who would like to share their experience with us. He has tried many ''book-diets'' and has regain everything, he thinks that a support group might help, or a dieting buddy to ''share the pain''. Any tip will help! Thanks wife


Atkins worked really well for me. I started about six months before the big ''low carb'' craze kicked in a few years ago, and I've been low-carb for about three years now. I dropped 40 lbs (205 - 165) and eventually put about 10 lbs back on over time. This may not be the best solution for your family (depending on food preferences) but I'm pretty happy eating lots of protein and salads -- plus there are lots of products out there to help satisfy cravings (esp. low carb chocolate at Trader Joe's and various ice cream brands). I confess I still miss good microbrew instead of Miller Lite, and chips, and popcorn, and homefries, and.... aw, cripes, don't get me started. But it's worth it in the long run. Jeff
That's great that your husband cares enough about himself to want to lose weight, good for him! However, if he is truly serious about losing weight then he really ought to consider weight training AND modifying his diet. This summer I lost approximately 30 pounds myself, but it was a combination of things that helped me lose the weight and keep it off. Diet alone will not keep the weight off. Would you both be able to afford a personal trainer at your local gym? My husband and I both went together. He went to gain weight and I to lose it. We have both been very successful in our endeavor and we now go to the gym regularly about 4 times a week. It is a big change, but we are very committed to our routine now. I used to snack, watch tv, have dinner and then snack some more. Now it's a light snack, go to the gym for about 1 1/2 and then eat dinner. Working with the personal trainer I realized that I could endure the taste of brown rice, that it was okay to say no to sugar and it's been months since I've been to a fast food place. I can still eat some of my favorite things but I do so in moderation so I don't really miss it. Weight training itself is fun and the personal trainer will help you develop a routine that you can still follow and modify once you're finished with them.

I couldn't believe how much weight I lost and the jeans I could fit into. I've had to buy all new pants. I am sooooo happy!!! I had lost weight after my first baby and I knew I looked great, but I just couldn't see the results. I was doing cardio 4 times a week then, but I just wasn't tone, so I couldn't really see the weight I lost. Then I had my second son and I never was able to get the weight off and with school and work, there was never time.

Weight training has been great. I can actually see tone in my body. My arms and legs are tighter as well as my tummy. I don't have to lift heavy either. It's great... You should definitely check out a personal trainer. mary


Jioning a support group for dieting is a great idea. It's one of the reasons why weight watchers is so successful.

But since your husband regains weight after dieting, that shows that he has not made the crucial lifestyle changes that are necessary to achieve permanent weight loss. So in this respect, it does not matter which diet he chooses, they will all fail in the end if he does not change his nutritional and exercise habits.

The key to being lean-for-life is eating a nutrient rich diet in the proper amount for one's individual needs—caloric balance—and regular exercise.

Your husband should focus on eating generous amounts of vitamin-rich fruits and vegetables, whole-grain breads and cereals; and lean protein-rich foods such as meats, fish, and legumes.

When you diet without exercise, about half the weight lost is actually from protein that your body has ''cannibalized'' from its muscles. Over time, lean muscle loss will lower basal metabolism, which makes weight loss all that much harder, and weight gain after dieting practically inevitable. To be healthier, you want to improve your lean mass ratio, or the percentage of lean mass to fat that you carry. Dieting without exercise does not efficiently inprove lean mass ratio.

This is just one of the reasons why succesful weight loss REQUIRES exercise. Studies show that the optimal amount of exercise for fat loss to be about 200 minutes per week. To maximize fat loss, aerobic exercise should comprise about 70% his weekly program, and strength training about 30%.

It takes about 20 minutes of sustained cardiovascular exercise to start burning a substantial amount of fat as fuel—before that it's mostly carbohydrates. I'd recommend 40 minutes of sustained aerobics 5 times per week, with 20 minutes of strength training three times a week. This will quickly burn fat and build muscle mass which is the FASTEST way to improve lean mass ratio. Helene


I highly recommend Weight Watchers. It is very realistic and the only weight loss program where you actually KEEP the weight off! Everything has a certain number of points and you have a maximum # of pts per day and then an extra 35 or so for the week. The points are based on calories, fiber and fat. The more fiber, the lower the points. So you don't deprive yourself of anything. You can ''save'' your points and have a piece of chocolate cake. If you ''mess up'' and eat a donut, oh well, you count it in your points and then you eat less (or only salad) that day or another day. I have NEVER been able to stick to a diet, but I was able to do weight watchers very easily. If you are going to a restaurant, you can usually look up their dishes' nutrition facts online and determine how many points each one is. You don't have to go to meetings, but supposedly people do better when they do. I have lost 12 pounds in the last 2 or so months, a steady 2 pounds a week. --Can't diet either
I highly recommend Weight Watchers, a program he can do by attending meetings or by participating on-line. At meetings he'll have face-to-face support, although more women than men attend meetings. Through the on-line system he will certainly find a group of like-minded men who are facing the same weight loss challenges. Weight Watchers is a relatively slow process (1-2 pounds per week is success), but men seem to lose faster than women. And in the long run the weight is more likely to stay off because WW is based on lifestyle changes and not simply restricting or limiting food intake for a few weeks/months. Liz O.
My husband lost about 55lbs. after our daughter turned one (she's 5 now). He gained some back when I was pregnant with our son, but not all and is now focused on losing that weight. What really made the difference for him: 1) He just made the final, absolute choice for himself (I couldn't do it for him) that he didn't want to be that heavy and had to make some changes. 2)He had a friend who was also losing weight - they met once a week for a ''weigh-in'' and basically to give each other a hard time about how much the other did or didn't lose. I have to say their banter amazed me - I know of no women who could joke around about how fat their bellys are etc... and not feel awful later - ''being supportive'' for my husband was totally a different process/mind-set than I could have ever provided, so I'm glad he found that support. And 3) he found the exercise he likes to do (biking) and I agreed to support him - meaning watching the kids while he took rides - sometimes it pissed me off (just because I don't have 50lbs. to lose I'd still like to exercise) but I held on to the big picture and I'd say about 85-90% of time I came through - took the kids in the am,or for a chunk on weekends so he could ride. (When he started out he was too heavy to ride comfortably - so he'd walk through the Berkeley Hills with our daughter in a backpack). He also accepted the advice that every bit of exercise counts. So a 10 minute work-out is better than no work-out. In the past he just wouldn't ride at all if he couldn't do a full hour ride. This last time, he really understood that once you have kids you have to take what you can get, and that often that 10 minute ride will get you excited for a ride the next day that is longer, or even keep up your stamina for a better ride the next week. There were a lot of short rides, but a lot of long ones too and the weight really started to come off. As he got more into the exercise he felt better and then started to pay attention to his diet. He is a terrible dieter (who isn't?) so he focused on the exercise - which is fun and makes you feel good - and the food kind of fell into place. Hope his story helps - good luck! Go hubby go!
I would highly recommend Weight Watchers, either meetings or their on-line version. If you have Kaiser, you may get a big discount off your joining and meeting fees. It's a straightforward program that teaches you how to deal with food in a healthy and long-term way. I think they, appropriately, focus on changing habits (both diet and exercise). lost 30+ through WW

Stackers for weight loss?

Jan 2005

A repy to a post recently made reference to a ''nice little dietary supplement called Stackers'', to aid weightloss. I tried finding it on drugs.com and no luck. What is the pharmaceutical name of this supplement? intrigued


Regarding the inquiry about Stackers - I was curious too, so I did an advanced googl search - dietary supplement stackers - took me to a useful website, here's the link http://consumerhealthdigest.com/top25.htm I'd be interested to hear more about this product from others who've tried it. anonymous
There are so many realistic sounding scams out there. The weight loss industry is a huge money maker. The FTC has info on how to spot a diet pill scam, as well as an entertaining fake website on a new miracle pill, made out of eggplant. Check it out. http://www.ftc.gov/bcp/conline/edcams/fitness/

There is not a lot of success with weight loss. Those who do have success try, try and try again, much like it takes smokers many times to quit. Also exercise and recording what you are eating are the simplest yet some of the only tools that have been proven to work for weight loss. I like the book Strong Women's Journal by Miriam Nelson as a way to record and review diet and exercise habits to continually work toward making small permanent changes. a dietitian


I can't exactly remember this discussion, but I believe someone asked about the safety/effectiveness of stackers. I recently came accross a consumer reports article on this drug (January 2004, pg 23, ''Ephedra-free But is it safe?'') In case anyone is still interested, they said that stackers are based on bitter orange (synephrine) instead of ephedra. Quote: ''There are little if any data showing that they work, and there's no convincing evidence that they're safe, even for healthy individuals.'' Alisa

Losing 4 or 5 pounds

June 2004

I am 46, have a small frame and for the past several months have been trying without success to lose 4-5 lbs. I realize that this might seem trite to those who are more challenged with weight, but I am struggling with this. I have a healthy diet that does not include wheat, gluten, cow dairy and generally eat organic veggies, eggs, some chicken and fish and other low carb unprocessed foods. I do indulge in chocolate. I exercise 3X a week including about 20 minutes on the treadmill at a challenging speed/ grade, and about 20 minutes of weight training each time. I know that I might have more muscle (tho I absolutely don't see these muscles!) and that affects weight but I am measuring myself by how I fit into things, the flab on the back of my arms and my increasingly heavy legs , both of which are significantly less when I am a few lbs lighter.

My thyroid is fine. I probably am not eating enough protein. I would welcome any ideas for how I might lose these few lbs or inches . I'm a single mom working full time, so these ideas would hopefully fit into my life. THANKS! Anon.


Hi - I think 20 minutes of cardio 3x a week is not enough for weight reduction, just weight maintenance. If you can't increase the lenght of your workout, I suggest that at least once a week you do 40 minutes of cardio rather than 20 cardio / 20 weights. One day do 30 cardio / 10 weights. Then the 20/20 the third day. Also, try for two weeks to write down everything you eat (EVERYTHING), including the time you eat it. It may be small snacks adding up, particularly those late in the evening. Good luck. I need to lose 10!
I think you are doing good for your health. I love chocolate, too! This may not work for everyone but if you haven't considered it, I suggest trying this approach. When I was 46 I was 35 pounds overweight, which I had been for 20 years. Today, at 48, I weigh 112 lbs, which is just right for a 5' 2 frame. The turning point was when I started reading the food labels and realized, by the serving size, I had been eating for two or more people. I then cut back to one serving at each meal. I had already been eating healthier foods, but now just eating less of it. I also started to eat less rice, bread, and pasta. I love this stuff, but ate no more than one serving per meal, and try to limit to only once a week.

I didn't stop there. I started adding good fats to my diet. I ate more nuts, especially almonds and walnuts. But, I watch how much of those I eat, too. My breakfast usually consist of a cup of orange juice mixed with half-cup yogurt, and 10 almonds. For variation, I have an apple with peanut butter. For some lunches, I throw almond pieces or pine nuts in my salads. (Yesterday I had an open sandwich consisting of one thin rye bread slice, topped with sardines, baby spinach and shredded cheese, and baked for 5 min till the cheese melt. It was something spontaneous, but I was in the mood!) I use only olive oil in my dressings and cooking. I developed a craving for avocados, so I'd pick up a bag of avocados at Trader's Joe and have one avocado for lunch, spread on a piece of rye toast.

I love fish and meat, too, and eat small portions whenever I feel the urge. If I feel hungry between meals, I munch on few nuts. For me, when I need to lose few pounds or maintain my weight, the bottom line is to eat fewer calories and listen to your body. Once you do it, it becomes a way of life. I think our perception on what is the right amount to eat is out of whack. Until I started looking at food labels, I had no idea I was eating too much. At the time, I expected to lose about 20 pounds. I had heard that the last 10 pounds would be difficult. But, to my surprise, losing the last of the extra weight was much easier than I thought. I didn't even bother to count calories. I just stayed with the serving size information on the labels and listened to my body when enough is enough. That goes for chocolate, too! The weight will come off slowly, but surely. Amy


First of all, an important thing to know about losing weight: people with a lot of weight to lose lose it much more quickly and easily. The last 5-10 pounds are the MOST DIFFICULT to lose. You can lose them, but it can take a loooong time, and diligence. One thing is, change your routine. Your body becomes accustomed to doing the same thing over and over, so you reach a plateau because your body isn't challenged any more. If you're just doing the treadmill, do something else, the stair or the bike, then switch again. Also, the amount of exercise that you say you are getting is pretty much maintenance exercise. It will keep you healthy, but it will also keep you at the weight you are at. You will either have to restrict your diet more (which I don't really recommend) or exercise more (especially the aerobic), or both.

Finally, the *weight* is (especially at your size) probably not the best thing to focus on. What you really want to concern yourself with is ''lean body mass.'' That is, replacing fat with muscle. Muscle weighs more than fat does, so you can lose fat, drop in size and actually weigh *more!* You might want to look into Callanetics. I love it, and man, it really does work! (at least, for me and other people I know who have stuck with it). You can find her books and videos at Amazon.com. Just type ''Callanetics'' into the search engine. anon


I was in your same situation and went on the South Beach diet. I lost 7 pounds in two weeks, and through maintenance kept it off (and took off 3 more pounds) over the past 8 monts. You can get all the info on line at a modest price. www.southbeach.com. Highly recommend it! anon
I am in my early 50s. Last Thanksgiving both my sisters showed up looking much slimmer. One had combined weightwatchers and Curves, and had lost at least 15 pounds over several months. The other had just decided to skip the treats offered at work and to stop eating at meals before she was more than full. I was inspired by them and by a friend who said losing weight let her stop her blood pressure medication. I was 20+ pounds above my pre-pregnancy weight. I decided to try sister #2s method. I ate far fewer of the treats offered at work, I took smaller portions with me for lunch (rather than trying to finish all the family leftovers) and also took smaller helpings at other meals. I waited before taking a second helping, and often found I didn't really want it. I also increased my exercise from about 4 days a week (15 min stretches, 20 min walking or other weight-bearing/cardio) to 6-7 days and an extra 5-10 min/day. I began losing weight gradually and in 6 months lost 20 pounds. Now I'm trying to figure out how to maintain (I don't want to lose more)and not regain. Just how many of those treats at work can I indulge in? 20 pounds lighter
To lose the last four or five pounds, you will need to do longer cardio workouts of at least 45 minutes each. Adding an extra workout per week will help during the losing phase.

Also, you may need to switch your workouts around. If you always do the same thing at the gym, you will cease to challenge your body, and it will go into ''maintenance mode.'' Instead of always doing the treadmill, try the pre-cor elliptical trainer, or the stairmaster for 20 of the 45 minutes you are exercising, for variation.

Spin classes are also great, because they keep you going for a full 45-50 minutes. Trying some different weight lifting exercises would not hurt. Lift some heavier weights--no, you won't get bulky, but you will build muscle (which burns fat). Good luck, Elizabeth


You don't say how much chocolate you indulge in, but that is an easily identifiable high calorie food that you might cut out in order to lose weight. I would find a way to cut 200 calories (but not more than 500) a day out of your daily intake and add one day per week to your workout schedule. If you are not at risk for injury, increase the intensity and duration of the aerobic part of your exercise. Do 30-45 min. cardio and 15 min. strenght training 4X per week and reduce daily intake by 200 calories. It really all comes down to calories in vs. calories out. Stick to it for a month to 6 weeks, I bet your extra weight will be gone. Then you can go back to 3x per week exercise and a little chocolate now and then. Good luck
I've heard that the three bites rule is a good one: leave about three bites of food on your plate at every meal. that way you're not feeling totally starved. also, are you drinking enough water during the day? when you are dehydrated, the signal to your brain telling you that you are thirsty can mis-fire and tell you you're hungry instead. does this make sense? you might eat a little less. maybe you can increase your cardio sessions by 10 minutes - from 20 minutes to 30.... just a few little suggestions that might work. if you can fit one more exercise session into your routine, that would be great. it's hard, i know, but worth it. Jen
I too am small-framed (or used to be, anyway), and would love to lose those extra few pounds. My conclusion is that we're older, and the metabolism is different, so either you're content to keep the extra few, or you have to be super-motivated to get rid of them. That means GIVING UP CHOCOLATE (my problem too), and EXERCISING. When you were younger maybe you could eat whatever you wanted and give it up for a couple of weeks and bounce back to your tiny body, but even those of us formerly taunted as ''twiggy'' have to watch what we do now. anon
I may not be the one to give advice, since I'm pretty much in the same boat, but I do have a couple of thoughts. First of all, are those 4-5 pounds recent acquisitions, or have you pretty much always weighed what you do now for your adult life? At our age, it's quite common to gain a few extra pounds. But if it's been your typical weight, you may be at your personal ideal body weight (assuming it's not hugely overweight. Check one of the BMI calculators online, such as www.halls.md/body-mass-index). It's generally healthier to stay at a consistent weight, even a couple of pounds over ''ideal'', than to lose and (almost certainly ) regain weight repeatedly.

That said, Can you increase the cardio part of your work-out to at least 30 minutes each time? I think the recommendation is to exercise at moderate intensity 5 times a week for 60 minutes (yeah, right!), but even an extra ten minutes, three times a week, of really burning calories will increase you cardio time by 50%.

Are you able to adjust your routines to do more stairs rather than elevators, walking a few blocks to work from your car or bus stop, parking in one spot and walking between places when you do errands? Do your kids enjoy biking or swimming or other active pursuits you can do on weekends as a family? Good luck - and let us know if you try something that really helps! Just a few more pounds!


Because you are neither gaining or losing weight with your current eating/fitness routine, this means that you are at caloric balance. Calories in equals calories out. To lose more weight you need to tip the scales a bit so that your calories expended are slightly greater than calories consumed.

Since you have been strength training regularly for 20 minutes 3x a week, I will assume that your body is not ''under muscled''. I would suggest that you lenghthen the aerobic portion of your workout to 40 minutes, and try if at all possible, to fit in one more session a week. In order to most effectively burn fat as fuel, you need to use up your available muscle glycogen, which usually occurs after about 15 to 20 minutes of moderate intensity aerobic exercise. Only then will your body go into the pantry (stored fat) for additional supplies. This is particularly true with women. We are genetically/hormonally designed to hoard our energy suppplies.

Adjust your diet, and skim off 250 - 300 calories a day, to create a slight inbalance on that end too. But be careful that you don't go under 1200 calories a day. If you take away too many calories, your body will attempt to ward off starvation by lowering your metabolism. You want to make sure that this does not happen.

Be aware too that as we age, our metabolic rate lowers about 10% per decade. So the amount that you ate in your twenties and thirties is now too much. Many women notice a big change in their bodies at around 40. And it is a little harder and slower to lose weight when you are small framed because you have a smaller metabolism and already eat a lot less than others to begin with. FYI, I'm 5', 105lbs., and 47, and have had to cut back on total calorie consumption just to stay even too.

Since you are small and not eating dairy, you need to take calcium supplments daily to maintain bone mass. Calcium citrate is more esily absorbed than calcium carbonate. I like the brand Citricel(sp?) beacuse it also provides Vitamin D and other trace elements like magnesium. Some studies have shown that high calcium levels in the body helps with weight loss. If you're eating chicken and fish regularly, you probably are not protein deficient. Very few Americans actually are. That's a marketing myth.

And lastly, be patient. Slow weight loss is the healthiest and most effective long term. Small women should aim for no more than 1 lb. per week. Fast weight loss is almost never permanent. And a lot of times side effects have too many negative health consequences. Helene


Slowly gaining weight despite Weight Watchers

Feb 2004

I have been a member of Weight Watchers for the last few years with some success. However, recently, although I have diligently followed the program by journaling, exercising (including increase) and drinking water, as well as attending meetings and getting a tremendous amount of support, I have been slowly gaining weight in small increments. Needless to say, it is very frustrating. I will say that I have met my goal to be heart healthy, which was my main motivation for joining. I have asked for advice at meetings, but feel that working directly with a nutritionist would be helpful as well. I would like to find someone who is supportive of the WW program, as I plan to continue with the program and want to continue to learn life long habits. Any recommendations would be appreciated.


I, too, had some success with Weight Watchers but never fully achieved my goal. That last 5-10 pounds is really tricky. I recently found a book at Whole Foods called the Fat Flush Plan. I'm very impressed! It's a very healthy way of eating, beginning with a two week liver detox. You won't be hungry on this diet! I lost 6 pounds the first 10 days. You can learn more about it at www.fatflush.com. Imagine eating well, losing weight and inches, and gaining tons of energy while you break your carb & sugar addictions! I still use the WW online journaling just to keep track, though when I follow the Fat Flush Plan I am always within my point allowance anyway. Feel free to email me directly if you want to know more about it. Good luck! jvb

Weight loss resources: E-diets.com?

June 2003

I am looking for inexpensive nutritional advice to help me lose weight and I wondered about signing up for E-diets.com and talking to their nutritionists. (I am not interested in their menus, shopping lists etc. but I would like advice about how many daily calories I should aim for in order to get slow, steady weight loss without getting hungry.) Has anyone tried their service or can anyone recommend a good alternative? E.g. a nutritionist I could see for one session? I checked the website about nutritionists but the recommendations were all for people who do herbs, acupuncture etc. and I'm looking for plain- vanilla basic advice. Anonymous


I've done both Weight Watchers (several times over the years) and eDiets and had more success with eDiets plus it was a fraction of the cost of attending WW. I lost and kept off 13 pounds on eDiets first then switched to WW and lost 7 more. I think the nutrition advice available through eDiets is the meal plan itself and would encourage you to try it for a few months to see if you have success using it. Using the menu planning software, I spent 1-2 hours/week creating a meal plan for the entire week, went shopping for the groceries, and posted it on the fridge to remind me what I had previously ''chosen'' to eat. Perhaps you are better than I am at planning what to eat once you have general guidelines on how many servings of this or that you should have and how many calories, etc. but I found that I needed something much more specific to keep me on track. I stopped doing eDiets because I got tired of doing all that planning and am now stuck and haven't been able to lose the last 20 (I haven't gained any back though so that's progress). --Progress not perfection

Other recommendations received:

  • Nutritionist at the Y, health plan
  • Michele Vivas

    I'm unable to lose weight - need help!

    June 2003

    Several years ago I was able to lose 25 pounds, just by sheer will power. I have tried and tried to continue losing weight, but now find that I am just unable to do so anymore. I can't find the will anymore. I am looking for a counseling program or some way I can succeed that really works. It's not Weight Watchers or any other program like this. I've tried these kinds of programs with no success. It's got to be some kind of powerful counseling program. Might anyone know of such a program? T


    Have you read ''Curves'' by Gary Heavin? I got it at the Contra Costa Library and have been following the plan. It is Atkins- like. There are also gyms (such as in El Cerrito plaza). I feel I can stick with it. (He promises you can go back to normal eating eventually) I also had an instant morale booster due to losing 5 pounds in a week. My rate has slowed, as described in the book, but this is better than I've done on other diets. good luck
    Having struggled my entire life with obesity, I can say that one of the things that I dislike the most about this particular problem is that I have no privacy. Because my weight at any given time is obvious, people feel that it is ok to discuss it. I really dislike discussing my weight, whether I'm gaining or losing, whether I'm obese or ''normal''.
    I have just discovered a book called The Diet Cure, by Julia Ross. She has recently come out with a book called The Mood Cure. She theorizes that overeating is due to certain chemical imbalances in the brain, and that we overeat certain foods in a vain attempt to achieve a healthier balance. She recommends a whole host of supplements. I have been taking several different amino acids based on her program and have been very surprised at how my appetite feels normal, I don't feel driven to overeat now. I have yet to lose weight, but I am still hoping for that. anon

    Depressed and overweight

    July 2002

    Does anyone know of a weight loss doctor in the east bay, that perscribes appetite suppressants? Overweight and depressed!


    This response may fall more into the category of advice than recommendations, since I do not know of any doctors who prescribe appetite supressants. But I had to write back to you anyway, since I have been ''overweight and depressed'' for much of my life. First on the topic of appetite supressants -- they can mess you up more than they help. When I was fifteen, my mother took me to a weight-loss doctor and had him prescribe an appetite supressant (Presate). It worked like a charm in terms of getting weight off, but the drug made me into a nervous wreck. My heart raced, my hands shook, and I had dreams that could have qualified as hallucinations. And while I did lose fifty pounds (in four months!), most of the weight came back on immediately once I stopped taking the drug. Of course there are many different drugs out there, and there may be one that doesn't make your life more complicated than it already is. But we all know about the drugs that have been taken off the market for their sometimes fatal side-effects. And replacing your own mental will with drugs is something that I believe will not work in the long run, since losing weight and keeping it off is about changing your life, ultimately without the help of drugs.

    Just this past December, when I wasn't even consciously thinking about weight loss, I happened to get hold of a book called The 9 Truths about Weight Loss by Daniel S. Kirschenbaum, a weight-loss and sports medicine doctor. I don't think of it as a bible, and it isn't the most eloquently written book, but it offered a plan for weight loss that I felt I could try. You have to 1) write down everything you eat 2) cut back on fats and sweets to the least possible amount and 3) exercise every day. It was the last requirement that made the difference for me. His plan requires at least thirty minutes of aerobic activity every day. I started following this plan at the beginning of December and have lost twenty pounds (and this was through the holiday season).

    It's the exercise that gets you out of the depression and helps you lose the weight even when you have trouble adhering to a stringent diet (I usually eat between 1500 and 1800 calories a day). I joined the local Y and go in almost every day (other days I jog, bike, or walk). I like it because I can choose my aerobic machine, a class, strength training, etc. You have to take an hour or so a day for yourself, and this is hard for parents. But I tell myself that in order to be a good parent, I need to be a happy, healthy parent. So I selfishly (!) take that time for my well-being. Another method that works is Weight Watchers, but you have to stick with the program, and it costs money. I lost weight with them, but when I dropped out because of cost, I found that I wasn't sufficiently self-motivated to stay on track.

    Even if you are very overweight, you can start with the exercise plan I mentioned on a very low level -- short walks for ten minutes or so, for instance. It will make a difference on your scales and more importantly, in your mood. Good luck and God Bless. Formerly overweight and depressed


    I'm afraid I don't have any doctors' names to give you, but I know many people who have had short-term success and long-term failure with drugs, not to mention the side effects and problems.

    The bottom line, in my experience, is that most of us who have a problem with eating and weight aren't eating only out of hunger, so suppressing the appetite doesn't always eliminate the eating behavior. Weight lost on diets, augmented with drugs or not, tends to return. I have been struggling with food and weight for most of my adult life. I've weighed everything between 140 and 295 pounds, I've been on the commercial diet programs, fasting programs, etc.

    I apologize if the following seems like unsolicited advice, but I want to share the existence of an alternative that has worked for me. For about a year and a half now I've been going to a support group called Overeaters Anonymous, and for the first time in my life I've lost weight without feeling deprived all of the time and without immediately gaining it back. OA is a fellowship of people who have problems with food who meet to share support. It is modeled on the 12 steps of AA, which people use to help them handle life without excess food. There are no fees for members, no weighing in, no requirements to follow a particular diet. Every person decides for themselves what way of eating they need to follow. You can contact OA at 510-273-9292 or the web site at oaeastbay.org

    This may or may not seem like what you want right now, but if you didn't know about it I just wanted to let you know it exists. I used to feel very frustrated when people gave me advice about eating right and exercising and I felt that nobody understood me--''if I could just do that, I wouldn't be in this situation!'' At OA I'm not alone. It's not a perfect program, but it's given me more than any other way of addressing the problem. I've lost 70 pounds, and more importantly, I'm living my daily life free of the obsession with eating. Anyway, I wish you the best of luck in feeling better, whatever you pursue. divalent


    The real issue about weight loss is your metabolism, how well does your body metabolise the food you eat. All the drugs and exercise and diets in the world will not help you if your metabolism is screwed up. There are ways to jumpstart your metabolism so that your body works with you instead of against you. I would first check with your regular doctor and ask him/her to give you a complete checkup (including all blood tests to include thyroid) just to make sure nothing is wrong physically. I say this only because I have a friend who had a thyroid problem and a weight problem. Once her medication was right, she began to lose weight and is now comfortable with herself.

    There are many reasons people are overweight and they don't all center around diet and exercise or no self-control. You need to find the reason before you can really start successfully losing weight and that requires starting with your regular doctor. Or ask for a referral if you don't feel comfortable with the one you have.

    Make sure you don't have a physical problem before you knock yourself for being overweight. marianne


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