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Nov 2006
I'm about to give birth to an approximately 7lbs baby. My older child is going to
preschool for about two months now and truly loves it. Many told me that kids at
this
age bring home a lot of viruses and I should consider stopping my older child from
school for couple of months. What is your advice on this and if you were in a
similar
position and had decided to keep your child at shcool, what measures did you take
to
minimize the risks. Thank you
anon
I wouldn't worry so much about your preschooler bringing home diseases!
Just teach you child to wash his hands a lot during the day. Talk with
the preschool staff about your concerns and ask if they can help him
wash his hands a few more times a day, if possible (the preschool should
have the kids washing before snack and lunch, anyway).
Have him wash his hands as soon as he gets home from school and
frequently at home.
And, if you are breastfeeding, then you pass your antibodies on to your
infant and protect the infant in this way--which is the best thing about
breastfeeding!
Many younger siblings have survived older sibling's germs and are better
for it.
1)wash hands
2)breastfeed
3)enjoy your kids
happy mom of almost 3
Don't keep your older child home from a school that s/he loves!
All kids get sick, all kids get exposed to germs, there's not much you
can do about it short of sealing off your doors and windows and never
leaving your house. My older son definitely brought germs home from
school, and my younger son definitely got more sick in his first year,
but what can you do? My advice is to just go with the flow and
breastfeed as much as you can. Jill
Presuming your child is born healthy (not immune compromised and not
premature) don't stop preschool because of a newborn. You need the
break from the toddler during the day, and the toddler deserves the
opportunity to be a ''big kid'' and have fun outside of the house. I
would practice good handwashing, and other than that, hope for the best.
Your toddler and baby will both get sick a few times this winter, and
they'll both have strong immune systems as a result. My son was born
last November, and got several colds, roseola, and influenza in his
first year (possibly because his sister was in preschool and possibly
not). It was fine.
mom of two
I would not take my older child out of preschool (and it did not even
occur to me several years ago when I had my kids). A new baby is going
to be a big change for your older child, and spending time at the
preschool he loves and doing ''big kid things'' will help him adjust.
Time alone with the new baby will help you and him or her relax and
adjust to each other, and become very special to you.
Baby's have been getting colds from their older siblings and others
since the dawn of time. Unless your new baby has a medical problem
affecting it's immune system, and a doctor has advised you to do this, I
wouldn't consider it.
Best of luck with the new little one!
anne
Pulling your kid from preschool to avoid getting the baby sick really
doesn't make sense or sound feasible. You would also have to keep your
older child away from all parks where other children play, away from
play dates, etc., etc. and live in a bubble in your home. You and your
child will go bonkers.
Instead, start talking with your child now about not touching the baby's
face but that he/she can touch the baby's arms, legs, etc., about
washing their hands more often and especially before touching the baby,
etc., etc.
All of my friends kept their preschoolers in school when the 2nd came
around. Some of the babies got sick occasionally, some didn't. Another
friend when she had her first basically didn't allow the nanny to take
the child out of the house for MONTHS, and they themselves only took her
out several times. Yet she got sicker than any other baby I know,
including a serious bout of RSV. I think it all depends on the baby. anon
I am both pediatrician and mother of young kids, and I would definitely
vote to leave the older kid in preschool.Life is full of risk-benefit
analyses,but for myself, having uninterrupted time to bond with baby,get
breastfeeding going, recover, etc, definitely trumped preschool
infection concerns.
Also, I think my older child could have become bored and resentful
staying home, as my attention would be on baby.From pediatric
standpoint, the most important thing to protect baby from infections is
to breastfeed and maintain smoke-free environment. Baby will also arrive
with many maternal antibodies passed on transplacentally (assuming baby
is term), which will protect baby somewhat during first few months
(these gradually decline and will be replaced with antibodies baby
either makes itself and/or gets from breast milk). Of course it makes
sense to keep a young baby away from obviously sick people, and I
personally would keep one out of crowds, but I wouldn't keep baby away
from sibling as long as he/she seems healthy. Handwashing definitely
helps cut down on germ transmission, so that would be one thing you
could encourage your older child to do as much as possible.In my mind,
the most important reason to keep your healthy young infant infection-
free is not because they can't handle a minor cold, but because if a
baby under 3 months gets a high fever, the doctor will typically feel
compelled to do a rather comprehensive workup (possibly including lumbar
puncture and urine catheterization) just to make sure the fever isn't
due to some potentially deadly germ left over from the birth process or
obscure congenital defect. Almost always, fevers in young infants are in
fact due to benign viral infections, but as they don't offer many clues
at that age and the consequences of missing a more serious bacterial
infection can be great,the evaluation typically goes forward... Older
infants are easier to evaluate and the chances of such a problem
decline, so less intervention usually occurs. But let's not throw out
the baby with the bath water :)-- if your kids seem healthy and you are
breastfeeding, I would say just enjoy this special time for your family
and don't worry TOO much about germs.
pediatrician mama
Relax! Your first child has his/her place in preschool, which is perfect
when the new baby comes along. Why take your eldest away from this?
Yes, your newborn will get sick a lot, but that's the way it is. By
pulling your child away from school and his much needed friends (tough
times when a new baby comes along) your just delaying the inevitable
sickness.
My 2nd child got everything my 1st son brought home from school. It's
natural, it's building immunity and that's just the way it is. Now at 4
years old, my 2nd one hardly gets sick anymore (he's had it all)!
For your sanity do not take your 1st out of pre-school, it will give you
much needed time with the baby to have one at school.
My 1st child was SO happy to go to school and escape(if only for a few
hours) his crying brother!
Anon
October 2006
My son began going to daycare in June 2 days a week, then we
bumped him up to full time in August. Since August, he has had a
constant runny nose, on and off cough and progressively worse
respiratory illnesses. Just this week, his doc recommended we
begin using a nebulizer- even though he's not been diagnosed as
having athsma! Consequesntly, I have been getting sick often, as
well. Our family has never been illness prone, as we've always
tried to be very preventative. Now our old preventative ways
aren't doing any good. Does anyone have advice on a good kids'
wellness formula or other preventative stuff? Will this crazy
cycle of getting sick subside soon???
Feeling Yucky
When my daughter first started daycare, she was constantly sick. For the
first several months, my entire household had one cold and ear infection
after another. Now that she's been in daycare for awhile, she is NEVER
sick. She hasn't been sick at all this year, even tho I have had several
colds. She now has an immune system of steal.
Been There
My kids had the same problem. They were simply allergic to the dust
mites. Nebulaizer is a temporarily solution and condition will worsen if
it is an allergy and your son constantly exposed to it. You can ask
doctor to give referral to allergist.I asked my doctor to perform blood
test on 127 allergens by groups.
They took about 3 or 4 big vials which is a lot by baby standards but it
worth doing. Allergists don't like to do it because it is cheap and
accurate. They prefer torture children by exposing them to each allergen
one at a time, (more visits, more money) and after first 3 or 4 tests
next one is always positive even if your child doesn't have any allergy.
It happens because immune system is tired of fighting. If you do the
blood test, in a few days you will have a complete list of foods,
chemicals, pets your child allergic to.
My daughter is 13 now and she is still can not spend more than
2 hours in a dirty carpeted area without asthma attack. We removed
carpets long time ago in our house and replaced heating system. Some
time air ducts which carrying air from under the house also carrying
mold spores which can be deadly in some cases. But I would think it is
unlikely during the summer.
Check your child care for carpets and heating system. If you are
unsatisfied with the house condition you can consider my house, clean
environmentally for your child. My house has radiant heat which reduces
dust and allergens for sensitive kids.
Vicky
This happened to us when we put our son in day care when he was six
months old.
both he and i suffered constant colds and stomach viruses (the latter I
NEVER got before). We also were urged to use a nebulizer or an inhaler
for him. After that first year, we have been sick rarely so I say just
tough it out and you'll build up your resistance. Follow the rules for a
sick kid (fever, vomiting--keep him home until he's clear for 24 hours)
and even err on the side of caution. Go get him if he's not feelign well
and needs a parent for comfort. I think all that helps. I will add that
we have never gotten flu shots, nor did either of us get the flu. We
just got plain old colds and plain old stomach viruses anon
Yes, this madness will end, but not for a while. You didn't say how old
your child is but the bottom line is that he is going to be sick a lot
for the first several months. And then you'll have the winter/New Year
holidays off and he'll get all better again, and then he'll come down
with a raging fever the first week back in school. I know it's such a
pain - I went through this with 3 kids. Even now that they're in
elementary school they still get sick on and off for the first couple of
months when they go back in the fall
- Nurse Mommy
March 2006
Our 16 month old boy Alex recently had two very scary febrile
seizures due to high fever caused by ear infection. The
pediatrician told us that the ear infection was caused by stuffy
nose which is a direct result of common cold and we should try
to minimize Alex's exposure to common cold virus.
Alex has been with a large day care center with over 40 children
in the past 3 months. Before he was at home with grandparents
and never had any medical problems. We have noticed that there
are always 1 or 2 kids absent from sign-in sheet in Alex's class
(with 8 kids) in the past 3 weeks or so, most likely due to the
similar common cold. So we are really wondering if we should
switch to a smaller family-based daycare with fewer children. It
seems intuitive that this should reduce Alex's chances of
getting another cold.
Could someone please comment on this and make some suggestions
on selection of daycare? Thanks a lot!
Really scared parents.
We have our daughter at a 4-child home daycare. She has had a cold and
two minor ear infections (not bad enough for antibiotics) since she
started six weeks ago. The children, 6, 7, 9, and 16 months, all share
toys and breathe on each other. Her MD seems to think that a moderate
amount of sickness is unavoidable at daycare, especially at this time of
year, but that it hopefully will clear up in April. Apparently, when
they first go to daycare, they get *everything*. She explained to us
that it's either get sick now or get sick in kindergarden... So we kept
our daughter in her school. You might have to consider a nanny if you
don't want the baby to get germs... Or have a conversation with the care
provider, and make sure that they're washing toys every day, keeping
children from sharing pacifiers, etc. Good luck!
anon
My first thought is, don't change day care if you and your child are
happy there. Germs are everywhere and your child will continue to get
ill in a smaller day care too. The fear of another siezure is strong
and I can only speak from my one personal experience with a child who
siezured at the day care where I worked - He was about 1 year or so and
after that one occurance - it never happened again. It was a big
daycare, he continued to get colds as they came through the program.
One thing you might hear is that even if you ''protect'' your child from
illness in preschool, it will rear it's ugly head once they start
elementary school and some parents think it is harder to cope then than
when the children are younger. Your call, but you won't escape it
forever!
Daycare provider for 20+ years
Our daughter (now 8) attended a daycare that had about 12 or 15 kids,
and she still got plenty of colds and ear infections. We never had the
scary febrile seizure experience you have had, but for a while she was
ill almost constantly. I think it may reduce exposure a little if you
switched to a smaller daycare, but probably not enough.
What I would recommend is chiropractic. We mentioned to our chiropractor
that our (still infant) daughter got lots of ear infections, and he
suggested that the next time she was congested or runny we bring her in
right away. We did, and he adjusted her neck, allowing the fluids to
drain rather than pool. No ear infection. In fact, since then she has
had exactly one ear infection and one sinus infection - both times, we
neglected to bring her to the chiropractor at the first sign of
congestion. (With the ear infection, the chiropractic adjustment cleared
up the infection without antibiotics).
I know the idea of adjusting a baby is scary, especially if you don't go
to a chiropractor yourself. But I can tell you that in our daughter's
case, it was and is the only thing that has worked consistently.
Good Luck!
Lisa
When my older son transitioned to preschool from a home based day care
he suddenly started getting many colds. At one of the urgent care visits
to check for an ear infection our pediatrician said that it was common
once you put a kid into a care situation with more than four kids. But I
can also tell you that after the first winter my kids stopped catching
every cold that ran through day care and now in first grade my son has
only missed school once despite the huge number of illnesses that seem
to spread through the class. I remember a few years ago there was some
news story about how kids in childcare catch more colds when young, but
fewer absences in grade school.
a mom
I'm surprised your child's ped. told you to minimize his exposure to the
common cold. Yeah right, like that is possible!
It really won't matter if you move your child from a large daycare to a
small one, colds still make the rounds. There is no way you can avoid
your child getting sick. And it's actually GOOD for your child to build
immunity when they are young.
As for the fibrile seizures, you can try to avoid those. Our child had 2
that we know of. One was so severe we had to call the ambulance. From
then on, we were hyper vigilant about fevers. We made sure to give him
advil consistenly as well as liquids to avoid his fever spiking and
setting off another seizure. If he got too hot, we quickly put him in a
luke warm bath to bring his body temp down. All worked well and he never
had another seizure
So relax about the getting sick thing - that is inevitable.
Concentrate on keeping the fever down instead.
been there
My daughter was in a large daycare like yours from 4 months of age on.
She was CONSTANTLY sick (colds, ear infections, bronchiolitis, etc.) for
about a year-she caught absolutely everything, but we loved the daycare
and at the time I didn't make the connection between its size and the
number of times she caught something. Later I read (can't remember
where) advice suggesting that children under 1 yr. should ideally not be
in care with more than 5 other children in order to minimize the number
of ''bugs'' they're exposed to. On a positive note, my daughter is 3 1/2
and has had no actual illnesses (just a couple of colds that didn't make
her ''sick'') since age 2! I guess her immune system was strengthened
early. You might want to find a smaller care environment that also had
fairly strict policies on children not attending care while sick.
Julie
Feb 2006
any suggestions for preventing or alleviating colds in my 8 month old son? like,
things i could eat, herbs i could take (i'm breastfeeding), things we could do? he IS
in group childcare but he just started and had lots of colds before this. we did do
the flu shot. There is no indication that he is more succeptible than any other kid,
just seems like a year with lots of bad colds.
thanks.
anon
It makes me so sad to frequently hear of infants/children getting repeatedly sick after getting their shots.
Best thing you can do at this point is make sure to eat lots of yogurt or kefir, balanced, healthy meals, get plenty of sleep, reduce your stress, and try to maintain a stable, consistent schedule. Also, at your child's age, he can take yogurt or kefir directly, in small quantities (I can't remember if it's 1/4 cup or 1/2 cup per day), to allow the good bacteria to colonize his gut, and fight the bad bacteria.
anon
We put our son in daycare when he was 6 months old. He's now 23 months. Within one week of being in day care, he got sick and proceeded to get a cold and/or ear infection until he was about 16 months old or so. It was pretty horrible and I felt guilty because I blamed it on daycare and being exposed to more germs. However, summer came and he's had only two colds since then (he actually has a cold now). I read on the Berkeley parents a while back that getting sick seems to come and go so you'll go through times when he's never sick and times when he gets sick a lot in a season.
We opted out of the flu shot, tho I debated it. But, so far, he hasn't gotten the flu and it seems like this year's flu season turned out to be pretty minor. I personally have never been diagosed with the flu. I always think I have it but it turns out i just have a bad cold. Many people think the flu is a cold, but it's not.
Anyway, good luck. We treat the colds by giving him the pediacare multi symptom night stuff but try and not give him drugs during the day unless he's really stuffed up. Give them plenty of liquids. All that stuff. Colds happen, I'm afraid.
anon
Wash your and your little ones hands anytime you get a chance and antibacterial soapless wash (like purell). You will be amazed how much it will help cut down on the colds!
:)
I'm in the same boat w/my 6 month old, though he's not in daycare. I'm trying to take comfort in the rumor that if we all suffer now, when he's older he'll have greater resistance to the bug of the moment. Also, this just seems to be a particularly nasty cold season. He and his 2 1/2 year old brother (and their parents!) have had one cold after another for weeks now w/coughs that linger. We feel your pain!
Caroline
I think that if your baby is 8 mos. old, you no longer transmit antibodies through breast milk, unfortunately ... Since you already opted for a flu shot, I'm not sure what you can do at this age, other than cutting down on daycare.(Which, for most, is probably not an option!)
If it's any consolation, I have a 27-month-old who had a terrible time in the 2004-2005 cold season, but is not getting sick much at all this winter. So, sometimes you really can
just have a bad year.
At least in my experience, certain people just seem more susceptible to colds, no matter what they do. My brother's kids are a good example: the 5-year-old gets sick maybe once a year, while the 3-year-old is otherwise healthy, but still manages to catch 6-7 colds a year, no matter how his parents clean the house, force him to wash his hands, take vitamins, etc.
Here's hoping you have a healthier spring!
E in Oakland
I don't know what stage of foods your feeding him so I can't tell you what to give him other than rest and liquids. As for yourself and bf-ing, it might help to increase your nutrients:
vitamin c, green tea, green veggies, ginger, and garlic; less sugar and junk food. Wash your hands frequently and his too.
We just got through a harsh cold in our family and the above foods really helped us.
good luck!
July 2003
My 14-month old daughter started daycare about a month ago and
ever since she's been sick. She's been coughing and having a
runny nose. Just last week she had a temp. of almost 104. I've
taken her to the doctor's about 4-5 times this month just to
make sure her lungs and ears are ok. Anyway, she hasn't
finished a full week yet (5 days). It seems like over the
weekend when she's home with me, she'll recover a little bit and
feel better (cough less and nose less runny) and when I take her
in Monday, by Tuesday morning it starts all over again.
I'm wondering if anyone out there has gone through this and if
you'd have any advice for me. For the month of July, I'm going
to try just bringing her 3 days a week to see if she'll do
better. Many people have told me that it builds their immunity
and if kids don't get sick now in daycare they will get sick
when they go to pre-school or kindergarten, but I just feel like
it's making her so unhealthy. What should I do??
Jane
I would advise you to read this months issue of ''MOTHERING
MAGAZINE'' (find it at picadelly circus on university, and
probably wholefoods and berkeley bowl, or at
http//motheringmag.org ) It has an article writen especially
about this issue and should answer ALL of your questions and
concerns with expert advice.
Jessica
I noticed at the daycare my daughter was in for a few months
(she ended up not being ready to continue) was that they washed
the children's hands before they ate meals, but not AFTER. That
always struck me as odd since the children had just put their
hands all over their mouths and then they went out to play with
toys and on the structures. Had I continued taking my daughter
to the daycare I would have suggested that they be as consistant
with washing hands before and after meals. You may want to find
out what your child's school practices.
am
Just a hunch, but any possibility there is something in the
daycare setting that your baby is allergic to?
Emily
I feel your pain. This sounds like exactly what's happening at
our house. We started part time day care in early May and there
were a series of small colds with about 1 - 2 days between them.
My son is now in care full time and he seems a bit healthier,
actually. I really think it's a matter of waiting for their
immune systems to catch up. My advice is to give lots of fluids,
us a vaporizer, have plenty of time for the morning routine when
they're feeling poorly, and take yin chiao (adults only) so you
yourself don't get sick. I'll be curious if there's anything more
I'm missing.
Mama of another sick one
My kids were very very sick in child care for their first
year. We were in and out of the Dr. office all the time. It's
just the way it goes I'm afraid. However, I have to say that
my kids were always in a good mood despite the constant runny
noses and coughs. If your child is miserable then you might
want to reduce the amount of time she spends at school or give
her a week off to recover her defenses.
I just read an intersting article in the July/August edition of
Mothering Magazine about childhood illness and how it is a
natural part of growing up. It focused on illness as a
necessary part of childhood and one that should not be
routinely suppressed with medications because that supresses
the body's own natural methods for healing itself which can
lead to chronic adult illness. It said that childhood
illnesses peak around age 6 and then taper off after age 7. It
made me feel a bit better about the non-stop colds that my
twins have been having since they started pre-school because it
explained that all the runny noses, coughs, diarreah etc...
they have been having means that their bodies are actually
strong enough to fight off all these illnesses and are
naturally ridding themselves of toxins. It explained that
there is still a time and a place for more drastic action- such
as when your child just appears to be getting worse and worse
and NOT able to fight of the illness, but I will definatlely
look at their next bought of colds differently and not run to
the medicine cabinet so quickly.
mama doc
This past winter and spring, one of my daughters was sick almost
constantly. Even the preschool teachers became concerned. But
nearly every bug she had, I heard of other children experiencing
the same symptons (strep, or a high-fever bug, or the croupy
cough bug...)And this was her 2nd year of preschool, not her
first. Another preschool mom went back to having her son take
naps and found that improved his apparent immunity. I decided
that maybe I was sending my daughter back to school too soon and
so began keeping her home an extra day (altho she was only in
school 2 days a week!). I also asked that the school wipe down
their toys during their spring cleaning week in June (why else
would we all be getting the same things?) Maybe it's the summer
weather, but we've been healthy for 3 weeks now and counting.
Except I just had the flu...
Best Wishes,
Lori
In my children's preschool they showed me an article about
preventing the spread of illness by increased hand washing,
enforced for both teachers and children. They instituted a
policy of frequent handwashing (many times per day) and did
reduce markedly the number of sicknesses that got passed around.
Mary
April 2003
I would love to hear from other parents who have had a young
baby who got sick very often. My baby is just five months. We
brought him to the ER last night and doc said he has Croup.
About a month and a half ago he was admitted through the ER with
RSV. In between these illnesses, and before the RSV, he has had
several colds. I have talked to moms with babies the same age
who have not even gotten one cold yet! My baby goes to daycare
fulltime and started at 2 1/2 months. Could this be the
reason? Are there other reasons? Is it just bad luck??? I
feel discouraged and very stressed out about all these
illnesses! I worry so much about him.
lola
My now 15 mo. old is always sick it seems with a cold. She is a
second child, and her big sister is in preschool. It started at
the tender age of 4 weeks or so, and she was constantly with a
cold the first four or so months of her life (she was born on the
first day of winter!). I too sometimes think something is ''wrong
with her''. But it is never anything more than a cold or virus (if
she was immune compromised, it would be alot worse things she'd
be getting), and it IS starting to lessen. Its the scourge of
the second child. Since yours is a first child, I'm sure its the
daycare (my firstborn was with a nanny until two, then once she
went in daycare she was sick for months!). I too get lots of
colds, and there is the possibility that she is just more
suspecptible. But I know she is fine and that it will lessen. By
the time she's four, she'll rarely get sick I'll wager!
Hilary
Your guess that the reason your baby gets sick so much is because he
goes to daycare is probably right. It depends somewhat on how careful
the staff of the daycare is, but even at the best places, it's pretty much
impossible to wash and sanitize every surface all the time. If one of the
kids in the daycare, or even one of their family members, gets sick, it's
pretty likely that most of the kids there will have it eventually.
I read somewhere that whenever your child starts interacting with a
number of other kids, whether it's daycare, preschool, or kindergarten,
he will probably spend at least the next two years getting sick all the
time, until he's caught and built an immunity to most of the common stuff
-- after that, I hear it tapers off (we're not there yet...).
On the plus side, there is at least a tiny bit of benefit for all of this
sickness. As long as it's nothing terribly serious, having colds and such
may actually benefit the immune system. For example, kids who've had
at least one cold before their first birthday are less likely to develop
asthma.
Karen
I have to say, this has been a bad year for illnesses. My kid's
preschool has been hit very hard (some days 1/3 of the class is
home sick), and we've been sick with some type of cold all winter
long. It happens. However, when my son was a baby, we lived in a
horrible basement apartment that flooded and was never properly
cleaned. Hence, we had a HUGE mold problem. Both my son and my
husband battled colds for months until finally my husband was
hospitalized with pneumonia. We moved out immediately and VOILA
the illnesses stopped. Do you live in the Village? I know that
they have had mold problems in the past. Even if you don't, you
might want to get your home checked out. Good luck.
Laurel
My daughter has been in daycare since she was three
months old, and although she hasn't had croup or rsv (as
far as I can tell -- supposedly most kids are exposed to it by
age 2) she has had back-to-back colds often, some
resulting in breathing emergencies (for which we keep
albuterol on hand). She had six ear infections in the first 1
and a half of her life (probably due to a tube defect in her
right ear). Kids in daycare do get sick a lot. I missed a lot of
work the first year, and had many scares (high fevers,
breathing issues, dehydration...) Now she's two and her
health seems more robust.They say they get less sick as
they get older and are exposed to more bugs.
At one point my doctor said that if she got one more ear
infection, it might be time to take her out of daycare. (So you
may want to ask your provider what he or she thinks)
Thankfully, we didn't get to that point. I think any time your
kids are going to be around other kids, the chance to pick up
a bug is there. I have seen colds and flu go around our
mother's group, too. Or around the nieces and nephews in
our family.
What is your daycare's policy? It should be 24-hours fever,
diarrhea and vomit free. Wash your hands(and your child's
hands) before you leave daycare.
Best of luck. You are not alone!
Paula
My younger son (now almost 8 ) got sick a lot as a baby.
He would start getting sniffles and it would progress into a
cold and cough...croupy, then dry cough till it got more
productive and it would almost get totally better and then it
would start all over again.
This went on for about a year or so..we tried homoeopathy,
antibiotics, acupuncture. Nothing seemed to change anything
untill I took him off of dairy. Voila!!! He got better
I'm not saying your child has a dairy allergy, but dairy is one
of the most likely allergies in kids (wheat also).
We use goats milk in our house which he's not sensitive to so it
was a matter of getting him off of cheese, switching to non
dairy desserts, etc. The difference was quite amazing.
Now he can eat dairy sometimes without any problem but if he
eats it all the time he's in trouble.
If you are big on milk you might try goat's milk. Meyenberg is a
brand that doesn't taste too ''goaty'' as opposed to the raw goat
milks. We're so used to it that cows milk tastes wierd to me and
my kids now.
I was also told by the pediatrician that sometimes kids get a
virus that stays in the body and if they have a weak immune
system the virus does it's thing more often, so strengthening
the immune system would be something you could look at.
Good luck. I know it's frustrating...been there.
June
What I found helps quite a bit with curbing illnesses with my
infants and children is to wipe their hands off before eating and
when I pick them up from childcare. People always like to hold
the hands of young infants, so when folks would come up, I would
poke my fingers into my baby's hands so his hands were not readily
available to them. I would tell children to gently pat his head
or hold his foot. You might check on the cleanliness of the toys
at the childcare. I remember reading here about having hard toys
wiped down daily and rotating the stuffed animals so they had a
day or two to let the slobber dry and the bacteria to die. I found
that focussing on these things without obsessesing over them helps
keep my children much healthier.
eve
I feel like I could write a book (but I'll try to be concise)! I
can completely empathize with you - our baby was (is) the same
way. She is also in daycare, started at 4 months (is now 17
mo.s), and there is no question that daycare is a primary factor.
She had croup twice last year (ER visit required the first time),
along with countless colds and infections, and in the ER with RSV
this past January. Since she started daycare she's had a near
constant rotation of respiratiry infections, and we have to
nebulize her daily. We got a little break from the nebulizing
from August through October, when the cold viruses seemed to be
on vacation, but started up again with her first cold in
November, kept it up all winter and are still at it. I'm alarmed
at how many times this child has been given antibiotics (ear
infections, secondary respiratory infections) in her short life
so far! Our doctor told us point blank that if we don't want her
to be sick so often, keep her out of daycare,and if that wasn't
an option for us, then try to find a daycare situation where it's
always the same kids every day (this is supposed to help a
little). Our only option was my company's daycare. But after
January we finally decided to bite the bullet, and now keep her
home with a nanny 2 days a week, at great financial strain. So
even though she still has 3 days to be exposed to all the germs
at school, at least for 2 more days a week she gets no exposure,
and good long naps (which never happens at daycare, and which I
believe lowers her resistance). It seems to have helped. It also
helps that she's just getting older and stronger, and hopefully
developing resistance.
Hang in there, your baby will get stronger. But in the meantime,
I highly recommend using that Purell alcohol-type stuff (on his
hands as well as yours, if your doc says it's ok), and making
sure that all the daycare staff are using it religiously, that
they monitor the children's toys and remove toys from rotation
that have been chewed on, that they are vigilant about
nose-wiping and strict about parents not bringing in kids with
green runny noses. This might make you feel like one of those
annoying new parents, like I fear I was (I think I was secretly
called the Nose Nazi!), but this is your child! You have every
right to be vigilant! You are the one who has to spend countless
nights awake and terrified by your baby's raspy labored breathing
or choking coughs that make him throw up! (Well I don't know if
that's happened to you but it has us, on several occasions!)
At home, we keep her room EXTRA clean, we bought a good quality
air purifier, we keep the cat OUT and put an extra filter in the
heat duct - can't say for sure this helps but it seems to, and it
sure can't hurt. We also put a (very firm) pillow in her crib
so she can sleep at an incline, which definitely helps.
And finally, do whatever you can to ensure that he gets good,
long naps. Sleep is crucial and healing and helps resistance.
If naps are a problem at daycare, maybe you can visit at lunch to
hold him for a nap...
Sorry this is so long, but your situation is soooo familiar to
me I couldn't help myself! Best of luck!
Been there, still there
I really sympathize with your situation. My advice is to hang
in there because there's a good chance the streak of illnesses
will end shortly when the weather warms up, and next winter will
be better. My daughter was in daycare full time from age five
months and was sick seemingly constantly during her first
winter -- chicken pox (which she did not get at daycare), croup,
ear infections (about a dozen -- then we got the ear tubes, but
that's another story), eye infections, allergic reaction to
penicillin used to treat the ear infections -- you name it. We
were at the doctor every week from about October through March
(thank goodness for Kaiser). It was really hard to see her sick
so much, and we missed a huge amount of work because she could
not go to daycare. Then the weather warmed up and she was fine
for several months. Her second winter was easier. This winter,
her third, she has only missed about three days of preschool due
to illness!
It may or may not be daycare. They certainly are exposed to a
lot of illnesses when they're with other kids. During my
daughter's first winter, many people, including her
pediatrician, told us that kids just get sick a lot when they're
first in a group setting, whether that's infant care or
kindergarten or sometime in between, so if she was missing a lot
of infant care she'd be healthy when she started kindergarten.
That was cold comfort when we had a sick little baby, but I am
starting to feel that we did get it over with. On the other
hand, my niece started full-time daycare at three months, and
she's practically never been sick, and has never had an ear
infection, which were the bane of my daughter's infancy, so
perhaps it depends on the kid's constitution whether she ever
goes through this at any age. Good luck -- spring is coming!
Teresa
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