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We are parting ways with our beloved nanny of 3 years and are at a loss
for how to express our gratitude. I plan to write her a nice letter but would
also like to get her some sort of gift. But, what kind of gift do you give
someone who has helped raise your child?? Would love some tips from
other folks who have gone through this process.
We gave our nanny cash and a small photo book with pictures
of our child throughout the time she cared for him.
Lots of cash (not a check) and a very thoughtful card with a small framed
photo of your child with her.
Our nanny has been with us over 7 years and just left since
our youngest just started daycare. As a goodbye gift we
gave her some money and I created a Shutterfly book with our
children and her over the past 7 years. She loved it!
Hi Kat - We gave our nanny of 3 years a book of photos (we used our iPhoto on
our Mac, but there are a number of self-publishing photo book options like
Snapfish or Blurb and many others) along with text. We inscribed it with what
you'd likely want to put in the letter you mentioned, and then we filled it of
pictures of her with our child. She loved it. It's a sentimental gift, plus a
''portfolio'' for her to show to prospective families. We even asked her to take
some photos towards the end of her term of service, not telling her what they
were for, but just to have documentation of all the places she took our son.
My nanny greatly appreciated severance pay of one week's pay per year worked !
She's still my close friend.
We've had a couple changes in nannies over the years, as
well as their birthdays, Christmases, etc... We have always
had rather young nannies who were saving up money for all
sorts of things and often did not have too big of a budget
to spend on unnecessarities. While my husband has always
argued for giving money, I have always found that too
impersonal, and have preferred to find a gift that reminds
them that they have a life outside of taking care of our
kids while trying to give something that they might long for
but would not buy for themselves (we usually end up doing a
mix of both, money AND gift). Favorites are Marc Jacobs bags
(clutches I should say), Leigh & Luca scarves, Creed
perfume, or beautiful jewelry from Pimlico Place on Piedmont
Ave in Oakland. So far, we've had no complaints
Have Fun Shopping
It is time for us to say a fond farewell to our nanny, who currently cares for our
daughter with another child three days per week. Our daughter is starting preschool
in the fall and it is an amiable parting. We want to give her a goodbye gift, and her
husband suggested a gift certificate for the Gap. I am wondering if other people give
parting gifts to nannies (we like her a lot), what they give (cash or gifts?) and for
about how much.
Thanks for the advice
When our nanny left our employ we gave her a cash bonus (I think
equivalent to 1/2 mos. pay but I honestly can't remember - it's
been a while) and a gorgeous bouquet of flowers in a vase. I
felt money would be most useful to her, to spend as she chose,
but I wanted her to also have a traditional gift that let her
know how much we cherished her.
My family is moving out of state so we will be leaving our nanny-
share situation. We have been using our nanny for the past 16
months and my daughter truly loves her. She is amazing with my
daughter and the other little boy whom we share her with.
Obviously I am feeling sad and somewhat guilty over taking my 18-
month old daughter away from a situation in which she is
completely thriving in, but our decision to move is based on
many factors (mostly to be closer to grandparents). I want to
get our nanny a gift or do something special for her to show our
appreciation. English is not her first language, so I don't know
how much she understands when I verbalize to her how much she
means to us. Any suggestions on a meaningful gift? I know she
probably mostly needs money, so maybe that would be best, but to
me it seems inpersonal. Also, should I do some kind of farewell
dinner, or just pick her up on the final day and say good-bye?
Finally, Is there someway to prepare my daughter for this major
change in her life? She is losing her nanny (who she often asks
for by name), her best friend (the little boy whom we share
with), moving out of her home to a new and unfamiliar place, and
getting a new sibling all within a few months. I appreciate any
When we moved away from our nanny of 4 years, I made a photo
album for her and gave her a pair of earrings. I invited her
over to say good-bye and we gave her the gifts, drawings, hugs
and tears. It is very hard to say good-bye and to make a big
change. Like all changes, you and your little will be sad and
then it will get better with time. Good luck!
I think you can do something that is very personal that is not
expensive, like give your nanny a framed picture of her and your
daughter, or a framed piece of art that your daughter made, or a
typed list of all the nice things your daughter has said about
her over the years, or some sort of corny thing where you spell
out your nanny's name and for each letter you make a word that
describes how you value her/her character. And then when you
give her the personal item you also give your nanny *cash*. I
really do believe that most nannies would much prefer cash to
expensive gifts of another type. I know friends who got their
nanny a day pass and massage at the Claremont and the nanny was
so bummed. She would have much rather had the $200 to spend on
her family, or herself, in a way that she could choose.
Another gift is to carefully write your nanny a strong formal
recommendation letter that she can take with her on job
interviews in the future (even if she has already set up her
next job, she can still use it in the future), and make yourself
super available as a reference.
Give the gift that keeps on giving...
Our nanny has been with us about 1 1/2 years and don't know
what would be an appropriate birthday gift. Any suggestions
would be appreciated. Also curious about what others have
I think a gift certificate for a massage is an excellent idea.
Nannys need a break too and probably need to release some stress. If you
don't want to spend a lot of money you can get one from National
Holistic Institute (NHI) which is around $30 or if you don't care about
money then you can get one from The Claremont.
I gave my daycare provider one for Christmas and she loved it!
I am currently a nanny for a wonderful family and have recieved (from
the child) simple gifts picked out by her (a scarf, a small travel
toiletries bag and the like) Mom and dad make sure I get a nice card,
signed by each of them personally.
Gifts don't have to be extravagant to have meaning to your nanny. The
big monetary bonus comes at the holidays only for me and that is fine.
I suggest choosing a gift that would be best suited to your nanny. Is
her job the only source of income for herself, her family or a 2nd
income? Maybe a gift certificate to a pedicure/manicure if she likes
that sort of thing. I had a friend who adored chocolates and was most
happy with a fancy ''up market'' variety box once a year. Put a little
thought into it and if your child is old enough to help - they should
choose a gift or make a card. It will truely be appreciated!
M-O-N-E-Y. It's a great color and it always fits.
Depending on your Nanny's age and the degree of intimacy you have with
her: a $50 to $100 gift certificate to an appropriate store or a small
gift and dinner out.
I was a nanny for quite a while and it is hard work without much time
for rejuvination. I suggest a gift certificate for a spa treatment like
a massage. Also, restaurant.com has dining certificates, and I love to
As someone who has been a nanny and has hired a nanny, a nice cash bonus
is ALWAYS appreciated. It may seem a little impersonal, but believe me,
as a nanny it was so nice (and sometimes a relief if I had pending
bills) to get an unexpected extra amount. And when we've given such a
thing to our nanny she has really has thanked us profusely and usually
says something along the lines of how it was really needed at that
particular time. You can make it more personable by having your
child(ren) help make a nice card and write something in it to the nanny
about how much you sincerely appreciate specific things that your nanny
does for them. Being a nanny can often be a job where a lot of extra
efforts on the nanny's part may not be recognized, so good for you for
doing something to show some appreciation.
Former nanny, current mommy
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