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First Birthday Cake
I have a 1 yr old who is allergic to wheat, dairy, nuts, eggs,
soy, corn and barley. He just turned one so we are celebrating his
birthday. Is there somewhere i can get cake which he can eat too?
One maybe made of rice flour. Please suggest.
Mariposa Bakery in Oakland is an all gluten-free bakery with a
walk-in store front open to the public. They have cookies, bars,
breads, bagels, muffins, pizza and even cake. Gluten-free means
free of all gluten containing grains: wheat, barely, rye, spelt,
kamut, and some oats. They have some items that are dairy-free,
but you will need to contact them and let them make suggestions
based on your child's dietary restriction:
Rice flour cake is very tricky as it is usually made with some
kind of eggs to help hold it together. You might have better
luck with finding cookies or bars without eggs and butter in
Judy Chadwick with True Confections makes fabulous cakes and can
easily accommodate allergies to make a delicious cake everyone
I just posted about Mariposa Bakery and decided that they
probably don't have what you need. You need an ''allergen-free
cake''. Most likely you will have to bake it yourself. I
recommend checking out these sites for info on products,
You might also try the brand new giant Whole Foods market in
Oakland to see if they carry any allergen-free cake mixes.
Is there a dairy-and-soy-free ice cream that your baby can eat?
If so, let it get a little soft, press it into a cake pan or
other mold of your choice, and re-freeze until hard. Add a
candle and call it cake! I guess it's kind of an ice cream cake.
We did that for my son when he turned one, and of course he
didn't know the difference. It allows for those cute messy
photos, too! You can easily add whatever decorations you like.
I found a couple websites that my help you.
Best of luck with your children's birthday parties.
Mike from http://www.themed-birthday-party-ideas.com/
My son is about to turn one and I just can't imagine giving him
a real cake for it! He seems too young for all that sugar but
I did want him to have something, I was thinking a banana or
pumpkin cake with maybe a cream cheese icing or something like
that. I was looking for recipes online but thought I'd check
here if anyone has a good recipe that they've used before and
could share with me. Also, I'm not sure how to ask for the
type of toys we usually get for him. We try to give him toys
mostly made from natural componants (wood, cloth, etc.) but it
seems like a lot to ask of guests (mostly family). How have
others handled this in the past? At christmas, we just took
the other things back but I'd like to establish other practices
so we don't have to go through this again when he's old enough
to realize what's going on. Thanks so much for the tips!!
We felt the same way about giving so much sugar, though we were
open to some sugar. We ended up giving our daughter a pancake
with some powdered sugar on it (and a candle). They don't really
care about cake, so it's really for your amusement that they get
a cake. We also put in the invitation that we didn't want gifts,
but if people really wanted to bring something, we said we'd love
them to share one of their favorite kids books with her. Many
people think it's rude to ask for specific gifts, but we felt
comfortable doing this because we were fairly certain none of our
friends and family would be insulted.
Remember that one bite of sugary cake won't ruin the kid - but
you could also just put something you'd like him to have in a
cake pan, frost it with something that looks frosting (if you
wish), and leave it at that. For my son, I smushed ice cream
into a cakepan and the re-froze it. You could use sorbet, or
anything, really. But your ideas - a lower-sugar ''muffin'' type
batter baked in a pan is just fine. He really won't know the
difference at this age - it's just for fun!
As for gifts - we found it easiest just to request ''no gifts,
please'' those first few years. They have plenty of stuff! If
people say they really want to bring something, how about clothes
in the next size up? Or a book? Again, at this point, he won't
know or care about it. And eventually, you will have to get used
to the idea that at future parties, there will be some plastic,
and some sugar for sure!
I honestly think sometimes that people on this list create their
own problems. It's one day. Is cake going to kill him? What are
you going to do when he has playdates at other's houses, when he
goes to school, etc.? Cake is not going to kill him.
And thr gifts? No, you can't ask. A gift is a gift--say thank you
and accept whatever it is, and you can do what you want after that.
As for gifts, I think it is impolite to make specific requests, but
here's a way
that I think tactfully gets around that rule: include something on
the invitation like "if you're looking for a gift idea, we'd love for
to have a copy of your favorite childhood book". That way your
preferences honor your guests, as opposed to instructing or judging
And your request will also hopefully make it easy for them! If you open
presents at the party (which you can do at age one) this idea also
makes for great party conversations. You will inevitably get multiple
of Pat The Bunny, but that's fine - you can have one for the car,
one for the bedroom, one for a rainy day after the first one has been
mauled to bits...
Although I think books are ALWAYS the best present - they last the
are the easiest to pass along, and are fun AND meaningful, you could
do this with toys too, suggesting "or your favorite childhood toy." I'm
thinking that a
toy somebody liked 20 or 30 years ago is probably more likely to be
wooden blocks or something you find acceptable.
I also did not want to give my baby sugary, artificial colored,
preservative-laden, artificially flavored cake for his first
So I developed my own recipe from several I found on the
internet. I avoided eggs, because he was sensitive to them when
I ate them, and avoided wheat due to eczema in the family. We
had not used whole milk, but he was ok with yogurt. This limits
the possibilities but the cake turned out ok. I tested both oat
flour and rice flour, and various sweeteners like date sugar,
sucanat, banana. I ended up with rice flour- it was more
tender, but the oat is fine too - more hearty. I chose
unrefined sugar crystals (looks like granulated sugar but off
white, made by Florida Sun or something) it added just enough
sweetness and body without it being sugary. I tested it with
different amounts. 3/4 cup seems to be a happy medium for us,
experiment for yourself.
So here it is, enjoy!
1/4c + 1/8 c organic olive oil, combined
2/3c organic unbleached granulated sugar crystals
1 Tbs vanilla extract (Real stuff, NOT vanillin, check the
3/4c Organic Applesauce=Thick Braeburn is nice, consider
draining it a bit if you have runny sauce.
2Tbs Plain whole fat organic yogurt
2 c Organic Rice Flour
1 tsp Organic Cinnamon
1/2 tsp salt
2 tsp baking powder
*Preheat oven to 350degrees
*Grease Loaf pan (I used glass, metal may need different times
or temp) with some olive oil. Shake around about 2 Tbs of rice
flour to coat. Shake out any extra.
*Combine on a paper plate - flour, cinnamon, salt, baking
*Whisk sugar and olive oil in a bowl to slightly emulsify
*Whisk in applesauce, vanilla and yogurt in the same bowl.
*Dump dry ingredients from the paper plate in to the wet,
stir with a SPOON, just until moistened. (Over stirring will
make it flat, so will stirring with the whisk at this point.
With out any egg we are relying on the baking powder, so
gentleness is favored here)
*Pour into the Loaf pan
*Bake for 30-40minutes until toothpick comes out clean.
A few jars of ''Prunes & Oatmeal'' baby food from Earth's Best -
it is a dark brownish purple color. Looks like purple hued
Strain plain whole milk yogurt to make it thick. Put a
Tablespoon in the corner of a zip top baggie, snip off the very
end of the corner- squeeze out and presto- white writing.
Add pureed sweet potatoes, pureed raspberries, pureed
blueberries, pureed Swiss chard or spinach to make colors.
Possibilities are endless and FUN!
My kiddo loved it, and I had no heartburn over him stuffing his
face with the cake or frosting!
Sugar Can Wait
I made a carrot cake for both of my kids' first bdays. The recipe is in
the Super Baby
Food Book'' by Ruth Yaron; and it used apple juice concentrate, raisins
& apricots (as I
recall) instead of refined sugar to make it sweet. Very organic, yummy
and more dense
tasting - not the smooth, whipped sugar-feast that you get from Betty
used a frosting recipe made w/ equal parts cream cheese, butter & honey
after 1 year) YUM!
My husband and I are having a debate about what kind of cake to
feed our son on his first birthday. He maintains that a typical
kids birthday cake is appropriate for the occasion, and that we
can only give him 3 bites or so. I think introducing sweets like
that, even homebaked, it not appropriate for a one year old.
Suggestions? What have others done for the first birthday?
i would give my kid birthday cake! it's their birthday! you should not
of had kids if you we expecting them not to eat sweets. it's part of
growing up. i think it's cruel not to give a kid now and then some
sweets. you can find a recipe that has little to no sugar. don't buy one
if your this pickey about it.
good luck with the no sugar thing
sugar is natural
I strongly recommend baking (with lots of love) a nice birthday cake
from scratch and whole ingredients for your son and your
guests...letting the guests admire the cake and comment on what
wonderful parents you are...singing the song..blowing out the candles
with him...putting a big bib on him and putting him in the high
chair...giving him a small slice...and letting him dive in on his own
and get really really messy! A one year old's birthday is worth
celebrating for all of you...including your little guy! Have fun! Live
a little! And relax for your kid's party, so those around you can have
fun and not worry about your worries! I hope you all have a wonderful
loving first birthday party. Congratulations!
I was a little concerned about this too. I thought it would give my
daughter an upset stomach or make her crave sweets from that point on ,
or something. But, in the end we just put a small, frosted homemade
cake on her highchair tray and she didn't know what to do with it.
Finally, my mom got some frosting on her finger and put it up to my
daughters mouth. My daughter didn't even like it. She licked a little
off, but then just wanted to play in the cake. She was not interested
in eating it, at all.
It was a case of worrying for nothing
I agree with your husband. A few bites of cake definitely won't hurt
Mom of two-year-old
I didn't give our daughter any of the cake from her first birthday
party. She was too busy getting all the attention to notice -anon
We are very careful about what our children eat (we were especially
careful with #1), we don't provide much dessert, refined flour, sugar,
no juice, etc. However, for both of our kids' first birthdays, we
bought a good-quality bakery cake. We figured most of the kids wouldn't
eat it and we wanted our adult guests to enjoy it. Neither of my kids
even thought to ask for cake and we didn't offer. I was actually quite
surprised at my first son's birthday party when most of the parents were
trying to get their children to eat the cake when they would rather have
been off playing. I figure, if your child really wants cake or for some
reason you feel it's really important for him to try it, give a tiny
piece. He'll probably have a bite and be done It's just one day!
I'm sure you will get many recipes and recommendations for healthy cakes
but we went with a normal cupcake. It was the first sugary thing she's
ever had, and her 2nd birthday cake will probably be the second. I
really don't think it's a big deal. As my mother pointed out, she
cannot go to the bakery or bake a cake herself, so you are really in
Ya know, if you have to go through life not being able to enjoy birthday
cake, what's the point of celebrating? That said, for our son's first
birthday, he didn't even want to eat his cake that I lovingly made from
scratch. There is a ''best odds'' cake in the What to Expect books. You
can always just get him/her a cupcake without frosting. I say, just
relax and teach your kids that a little indulgence on their birthday is
not such a bad thing, within reason anon
We didn't even bother with a cake for my son's first birthday.
What's the point? He's not going to remember it. It's all about you
the parents really. So instead we blew up a bunch of balloons and let
him play with them and took a ton of photos.
Seriously, they don't even know what a birthday is until they're 3 low
key birthday mama
We had the same concerns about not wanting to give sugar to our
otherwise sugar-free baby. We celebrated his first birthday last
weekend and I used the recipe for the carrot cake with cream cheese
frosting listed on this web site:
The cake was a hit with the birthday boy and the adult party- goers
alike and doesn't have a lick of refined sugar in it. It is fairly
sweet, but it uses apple juice concentrate and raisins to get the
desired effect. I liked the cake so much I would make it again for an
all-adult audience. Enjoy!
Our son was actually allergic to wheat at this age (has since grown out
of it), so I made him a wheat free cupcake with some low sugar whipped
cream on top. He loved the whipped cream and had some messy bites of
the cupcake, but it wasn't too sugary.
You can use a premade flour mix available at Whole Foods - instead of
Betty Crocker (full of sugar) HAPPY BIRTHDAY
My son is 19 mos and has had very little sugar. We did have a birthday
cake for his first birthday, but he was not given any.
Since we had just had a healthy meal he wasn't hungry and therefore
wasn't interested. It was no problem. I think most people give one
year olds cake for their own personal gratification, but I don't think
it's necessary. There will be so many opportunities for your child to
have cake and sugar, why start now when it's not wanted and definately
not needed? I don't plan to always deny my son sugar, but do plan to
wait until he is old enough to be interested on his own. Good luck and
Really, not even a few bites once a year? That seems a bit too
controlling to me. What's wrong with sweets now and then?
Breastmilk is sweet, so clearly we are designed to like sweet food. If
you don't like the ingredients in store-bought cakes, make your own.
Marie Antoinette may not have said it, but I will:
Let Them Eat Cake
I stressed about this too and finally just decided to ''cave'' (I got
cupcakes from Safeway for the kids and a Katrina Rozelle carrot cake for
adults). We gave our son a cupcake and, having never had sweets he
swirled the frosting around (it was piled
high) curiously and tried a little and he wasn't all that interested.
He did make a big mess so we got our photo op.
He's 22 months now and we haven't given him any refined sugar since so I
think it worked out fine. I wished I hadn't stressed as much and wish
you much joy for this exciting day.
I'm looking for a good bakery to buy my son's first birthday
cake. I'd like to buy a small tradional cake (lots of frosting
fun!) for him and larger one for party goers. Any suggestions
we got a postcard from safeway for a free 8 inch (i think, it was enough for at least 8 people
had we shared it) cake for our sons first b-day. It's just what you are looking for and tasty
to boot. they even put his name on it with happy birthday! Other mom's I know have just taken
the birth certificate in. We got our at the safeway at 51st and Broadway in Oakland. love free
We have used Toots Sweets bakery in Berkeley on Gilman Street for birthday cakes and they have
been quite yummy! I especially enjoyed their carrot cake.
I don't know how small a cake you are looking for, but Grace Bakery, at Market Hall have
delicious little cakes, that feed about 4-6 adults. They're like a higher quality Safeway cake.
They come in bright, fun colors, too.
Such a fun event to plan for isn't it? I found out right before my son's first birthday that
both Safeway and Albertson's offer a FREE first birthday cake with a birth certificate.
And as far as a great adult cake I LOVE the cakes at Tucker's on Park Street in Alameda. Their
contact information is:
Tucker's Super Creamed Ice Cream
(510) 522-4960 1349 Park St Alameda, CA 94501
Near intersection of Park St and Alameda Ave
Happy First Birthday
Try Viriginia Bakery on Shattuck. It's a real old fashioned bakery, and they do lots of
specialty birthday cakes. They also have a wide variety, so you can get something for the
We have always gone to Toot's Sweets on Hopkins in Berkeley for birthday cakes.
They can copy beautiful designs, or take work easily over the phone. This is not
gourmet cake, this is kid pleasing, sweet, frosting, type of cake. We always
freeze what is left over and it is such a temptation to eat it afterwards. They
have always had cakes ready on time and everyone has been pleased. For a one year
old, well, give the baby a lick.
Great places for cakes are:
Love at First Bite, in Berkeley, tucked away off Shattuck and Vine. They make the
most amazing Red Velvet cake, a fantastic strawberry cake with strawberry
buttercream, and a really great variety of other cakes using wonderful, natural
ingredients. No yucky transfats smeared on flavorless cakes, like safeway!
Bake Sale Betty at 51st and Telegraph also does a wonderful strawberry shortcake
which is perfect for a first birthday party.
Miette, in the Ferry Building in SF, has my favorite cakes! Well worth the trip.
Happy Birthday to your little one!
Both Safeway and Lucky's will give you a free small round
cake for your
child's 1st birthday. You just have to bring in a copy
of the birth
certificate and order it a few days before the party so
it can be
decorated. It was worked out great when my son turned
I'd like to make my daughter's first birthday cake, but I don't
have a recipe for a good chocolate cake. The icing will be
orange-chocolate. I've heard that the cakes with coffee as one
of the ingredients are pretty good. Anyone have a good recipe?
I found a great recipe on Epicurious (Double Chocolate Layer
It is the best chocolate cake I have ever made at home. Don't
worry if you don't have 10-inch pans. I just use 9-inch pans
and pour leftover batter into a muffin pan. I'm sure it will
be delicious with your orange-chocolate frosting.
Try: Mahogany Chiffon Cake
It's an old, old family favorite of a friend of mine and has
been their birthday cake of choice for decades now!
(FYI it requires an angel food tube pan and presents
beautifully. When icing it, somewhat runnier icing is better)
Mahogany Chiffon Cake
3/4 c. boiling water
1/2 c. cocoa
1 3/4 c. sifted cake flour
1 1/2 tsp baking soda
1 tsp salt
1/2 c. vegetable oil
8 egg yolks
8 egg whites (1 cup)
1/2 tsp cream of tartar
1 3/4 c. sugar
Heat oven to 325 degrees. Combine boiling water and cocoa;
cool. sift flour, soda and salt into mixing bowl. making a
well, add in order; oil, egg yolks, cocoa mixture and vanilla.
Beat with wooden spoon until smooth. in large bowl, beat egg
whites and cream of tartar to very stiff peaks. Do not
underbeat ( a dry rubber spatula leaves a clean path). Pour egg
yolk mixture in thin stream over entire surface of egg whites,
gently cutting and folding in with the spatula until blended.
Do not stir. Pour into 10-inch angel food tube pan. Bake 65-70
minutes or until top springs back when lightly touched. Invert
pan on bottle utnil cold. Loosen from sides of tube with a
spatula. Turn pan over and hit edge sharply on table to release
Hope it turns out well. have a great birthday party.
P.S. If you like this recipe, consider buying the awesome
cookbook it comes from, called ''Yum!'' put out by El Cerrito
Preschool Co-op (professionally published). 350 recipes, lots
of award-winners, international stuff, desserts aplenty and kids-
stuff. $12 each. Call 526-1916 to order one!
I'm crazy for cake and have tried many recipes for chocolate
cake and found this one from Martha Stewart to be the best.
Moist, dense and oh so delicious!
One Bowl Chocolate Cake
Makes 2 eight-inch square or 3 eight-inch round layers
Unsalted butter, for pans
1 1/2 cups unsweetened cocoa powder, plus more for pans
3 cups all-purpose flour
3 cups sugar
1 tablespoon baking soda
1 1/2 teaspoons baking powder
1 1/2 teaspoons salt
3 large eggs
1 1/2 cups buttermilk
3/4 cup vegetable oil
1 1/2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
1. Preheat oven to 350B0. Butter two 8-by-2-inch round or
square cake pans, and line bottoms with parchment; butter
parchment, and dust with cocoa.
2. Into the bowl of an electric mixer fitted with the paddle
attachment, sift cocoa, flour, sugar, baking soda, baking
powder, and salt. With the mixer on low, stir in eggs, 1 1/2
cups warm water, buttermilk, vegetable oil, and vanilla until
smooth, about 3 minutes.
3. Divide batter among prepared pans. Bake, rotating once,
until tester inserted in center comes out clean, 35 to 45
minutes for 8-inch layers, depending on amount of batter.
4. Let cakes cool in pans on a wire rack for 20 minutes,
then remove from pans and cool completely, right side up on
I have a wonderful chocolate cake recipe. It's extremely easy,
uses oil instead of butter, so it stays light and moist:
1 cup unsweetened cocoa
2 3/4 cups flour
2 tsp baking powder
1/2 tsp salt
1/2 tsp baking soda
2 1/4 cup sugar
1 cup vegetable oil
2 cups water*
Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Grease and flour two 9'' baking
pans. Mix all dry ingredients in large bowl. Mix all wet
ingredients in another bowl. Ad wet ingredients to dry and beat
until just smooth; do not overbeat. Pour evenly into pans; batter
will be thin. Bake for approximately 25-35 minutes or until a
clean toothpick inserted in center comes out clean.
* You can substitute up to half of the water with milk,
buttermilk (makes a richer cake), or even some coffee, if you
I'm not sure, but is chocolate appropriate for a 1 year old? Or
perhaps the cake is for grown ups only? For baby, there is a
carrot cake recipe in What to Expect the First Year. I suggest
your local library.
Try the Texas Sheetcake in Joy of Cooking. So yummy and
amazingly EASY. Especially because you serve it right from the
I don't recommend coffee for a chocolate cake for kids. It just
fuels the fire of over the top energy even more. However, I
have come across a great moist chocolate cake recipe (and am
looking forward to everyone else's. It's from a book called
Quick Vegetarian Pleasures and its on page 215. It uses that
vinegar-baking soda reaction to get its rise.....Preheat oven to
350 (and make sure it is ready cuz the batter MUST go in as soon
as it is mixed). Wait 10 minutes for oven to begin to heat.
Butter and flour (I like cocoa powder instead) two 8 inch cake
pans. When the oven is hot thoroughly combine 2&1/4 cups
unbleached whit flour, 1&1/2 cups sugar, 1/2 cup cocoa, 1&1/2
teaspoons baking soda, and 3/4 teaspoon salt in a bowl. Pour
into the bowl 1&1/2 cups WARM water, 1/2 cup vegetable oil,
1&1/2 teaspoons vanilla extact, and last of all 1&1/2 teaspoon
white vinegar. Stir all briefly until well combined and pour
into pans and get it into the oven very soon. Bake for 30
minutes or until the center tests done. Cool on a rack for 10
minutes, THEN remove cakes from pans and cool completely. Yum.
Yum Yum Yum
My baby is turning one year old soon and I would like to
make her a cake from scrach. It sounds more healthy to me
than buying these artificial cakes from the store. I know that
babies not suppose to have nuts, chocolate and honey and I
am wondering if anybody can send me a great first birthday
I just made a carrot cake with maple cream cheese frosting for
my daughter's first birthday. It was YUMMY and very easy. The
recipe was in the 2001 issue of Bon Appetit magazine. If you'd
like me to type it up and email it to you, just send me your
For both my kids first birthdays I made strawberry shortcake:
white or vanilla cake, strawberries, and whipped cream. It was
yummy, easy, and did the trick for the messy face photo op.
I solved the cake dilemma for the 1st birthday by buying a cake
for the adult guests and children who already eat sugar. And
making a whole grain muffin recipe from the back of an arrowhead
mills flour bag w/o sweetner. I used grated carrots and
sultanas. My child ate it with gusto that day and never again.
And I found it a decent breakfast for the next few days (with a
little extra jam).
no sugar mama
we made a cake from scratch for our son's first birthday. we
used the recipe for angel food cake from ''joy of cooking,''
with a whipped cream and banana frosting. (if you need the
recipe, email and we can get it to you.) it was a wonderful
yummy cake which made for a yummy wonderful mess! :)
You could use the recipe for "First Birthday Cake" (p. 624) from the "What
to Expect the First Year" (Eisenberg et al, 1996). It's a carrot cake
(made with all healthy ingredients and no sugar) and you could simply omit
the cream cheese icing. I made it for my son's first birthday and he (and
we) loved it! In fact, he much preferred it over the gourmet bakery cake
we had (which had lots of sugar, etc.). Hope this helps and is not too
late to be useful--happy birthday!
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