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Club and Band for a 40th birthday

March 2006

Any ideas on clubs or similar places to rent for a party with a band in the Oakland/Berkeley area? Nothing fancy, a place that can hold 150 people, ideally where we can set up our own bar but in-place bar is ok too. Also any suggestions for bands that play music everyone can dance to - thinkcover tunes, songs from Aretha Franklin, the Committments, Robert Cray etc. Any and all suggestions gladly taken! Meri


The Berkeley Yacht Club (and perhaps other local yacht clubs) can be rented for parties as you describe. Karen

A fun 40th birthday with kids

Nov 2005

I am turning 40 in a couple of weeks and would like to plan a fun 40th birthday party. I have a 6 week old baby, and most of my friends have children under the age of 3. I would like to plan a party that is FUN for adults and that parents can bring their babies to. Ideally, I would like to plan something indoors that is active and different. To give an idea of what I am looking for, if I knew where I could rent out a place that has a trapeez I might consider something like that. I'm not necessarily looking for something kid centered, rather I want to ensure that parents can bring their kids along without a problem (i.e. A bar at 10:00 pm probably wouldn't work). Any ideas you have would be highly appreciated! Mary


I attended a party at Trapeeze Arts in Oakland last year. It was fun for everyone, although most of the kids there were closer to teenagers than toddlers. Susan
We had my mom's 80th at Habitot. It was great actually. The children could play safely. We had the party after hours and rented the entire museum. We didn't have to worry about the kids and the adults all had a good time. anon

Need ideas for husband's 40th birthday party

June 2004

Hello: My husband is going to be 40 in Aug. and I am usually creative but I am stumped about how to celebrate. Please recommend something you may have done or think would be nice for a 40th birthday. Thank you! stacey


When my husband turned 40, I threw him a great suprise poker party. I invited about twenty men friends who showed up after a fancy family dinner. While his friends arrived I put up the card tables with green cloths, produced the chips, cards, peanuts, drinks, etc. Everyone seemed to have a great time and at 11 o'clock I served dessert and coffee. I know I REALLY pleased my husband. Janet
I chartered a yacht through a company out of Alameda called Compass Rose for my husband's 30th birthday. I got one of my friends to man the boat and to direct all the guests on board before I arrived with my husband. He thought we were going on a dinner cruise, which he was excited about as it was, but when he saw 30 of his friends on the boat, he was just ecstatic. I put scrapbook pages on all the tables and took polaroids of all the guests. Throughout the night, they were then able to put their pictures on their page and write him a birthday message. Everybody had a blast! Kelly

Cheap 40th Party

Jan. 2003

My partner turns 40 this year, so we'd like to mark the occasion. However, cash is very tight this year, so I'm looking for suggestions on the best cheap party you've every held or been too. Must be child friendly, medium-sized crowd, outdoor options fine (birthday is in the summer). Is potluck too tacky? Cake and beverages too cheap? Thanks! Anon


Why not organize a weekend long group camping party? That way the party lasts all weekend and folks can come for as long as they like. You can have group meals and everyone can pitch in food and drinks. Big Basin and Tilden (as do other camping places) both have great group camping sites but book soon because they fill up fast. allison
I'm a big fan of fun, so here are some party ideas I've used for my birthday's in the past that I think are pretty cool. They are pretty cheap too!

1. Bowling. There is the bowling alley in Albany and another cool bowling alley in Castro Valley. I'm not sure what the names of either alley are but you could look them up online. Fun for all and kid friendly. I can't bowl to save my life but I still like to go bowling with friends.

2. Mini Golf. There is a cool course in Castro Valley, one in Concord, and I'm sure more are around that I don't know about.

3.Ice Skating. Lots of rinks around. I like the one in Berkeley more than the one in Oakland.

4. The Bocci Ball courts in Lake Merritt. You could rent the bocci ball kit from the park. Also there is a Bocci Ball group that will teach you and your friends how to play for free if you contact them in advance!

5.Crazy game and party in your home. Ask your guests to bring a game they like to play with others like Twister, Uno, Pin the Tail on the Donkey etc. Get a Pinata (sp?) and fill it up with goodies. Have a potluck and offer cake and beverages.

Potlucks ARE NOT TACKY!! They are fun, especially if you have friends that love to cook, or have the money to buy really good take out!!

Hope this inspires you or someone else! beth


Potlucks are never tacky -- they're a wonderful way to bring people together without a big display of consumerism, any pressure on guests to bring additional gifts, or any pressure on you to orchestrate a huge menu. Just make sure you specify what type of dish folks should bring, or (in my experience) you'll end up with seventeen salads. I went to a potluck wedding a couple of years back -- it sounded weird at first, but it was really one of the most relaxed and happy weddings I've ever been to. Actually, the location was great, too: a clubhouse on Panoramic Hwy, just down the road (south) from Mountain Home Inn. I don't know the name of it, but I bet you could find out from the Mill Valley Chamber of Commerce -- I feel like it's a mountaineers' club, or something like that. Alexa
How about taquitos (you could even buy the frozen variety), guacamole, margaritas and beer with lime and cake? A pinata for the kids. A variety of hispanic music on the stereo. Viva la Fiesta!
Last spring for my 30th b-day my husband organized a great party at our house. He purchased drinks from Costco, my mom made a huge lazagna anbd a couple other large dishes, there was a spread of tomatos, basil and fresh mozzarella cheese (also from Costco). And, he ordered a cake. He didn't plan to have people bring food but when people asked if they could bring something (which at least half of the guests did), my husband asked them to bring food. There was a ton of food, lots of kids and people had a great time. So, its definitely ok to have a 40th b-day party at your house and if people bring food, that is even better. I think there were about 50 people there and it cost us less than $400! had a GREAT B-day party
We used to have my daughter's birthday party at Lake Merritt, at the picnic spot right above the boat house. There are two (maybe 3) tables with a great view of the lake and a nice large grassy area for spreading blankets, throwing frisbees, etc. It's a bit back off the main road, and pretty quiet, not too much foot traffic either, besides the occasional jogger. Nearby: Your almost-40 partner and friends and family might not be interested in going to Fairyland (and can't get in without a child anyway) but attendees who want to do more than sit around chatting can walk down the hill to rent a paddleboat, sail, etc. See http://www.oaklandnet.com/parks/ for more info. They also have a larger boat to take groups for a whirl around the lake, which was $2/person last time I went and lasted half an hour or an hour. The bird sanctuary's a block down, the rotary garden's across the street, and there are walkways for biking, skating, etc.

You can reserve the tables up there through parks & rec, but we never did, just had someone show up early that morning and save it for us.

As far as potluck, how tacky it is depends on the sort of people you're inviting ;) We always did potluck, provided condiments, cake, drinks, etc. and it worked out great. Gwen


A potluck would definitely be tacky. However, if you have a party in the middle of the afternoon, nobody will expect a meal. A homemade cake, juice, chips and dip are fine and not too expensive. People come to the party for the company and not for the expense of the food. Have it in your house and use your own dishes to save on the expense of paper plates. Have fun! anon
I went to a 40th birthday party recently, where everyone met at a restaurant for dinner. Everyone order their own dinner, some paid as a group, some paid separate check. Everyone seemed to enjoy it. There were not enough space for the kids to run around, but noone seemed to mind (the kids, the parents, other guest nor the waitresses). The restaurant had a party room, although it's quite small, but private. Afterwards, we went to their house for cake, coffee and opening gifts. p.l.
My husband has a huge family, so I've had to throw my share of parties on a tight budget.... Two of the best bets I've had are spaghetti (could work for an italian theme) and nachos. I think the nachos are actually the cheapest - get a giant bag of tortilla chips from Costco (about $3) and huge can of nacho cheese, which you heat in a crock pot, and can even dilute with water. Everyone seems to like spaghetti and nachos, so you really can't go wrong with either one. Hope this helps! Heather
I threw myself a birthday party for which I asked all comers to bring 1.) their favorite dish + recipe and 2.) their favorite piece of music. We spent the night playing everyone's favorite music, which I recorded onto one tape for a really great mixed tape (and great memories!!). The recipes went into a scrap book with signatures and whatever else the person wanted to write. The food was great, the people relaxed and conversational with a built-in conversation topic--their musical tastes. I ended up with music from Early American Appalachian to hard rock to classical to Zydeco to African to South American. It was a blast--cheap for all comers, great for my memories. Amy

Ideas for 40th Birthday Party

Nov. 2002

I am looking for some great ideas on what to do for a good 40th birthday party in January. It seems that a lot of ideas are for outside which really don't work in January and we have a small house which doesn't hold a lot of people. We would like some ideas that would be fun and memorable for kids as well as the adults. kristi


For my mom's 60th birthday party we went bowling and did a 50's theme and it was GREAT. It was at the bowling alley in Danville. We had about 60 people and we divided them in teams and assigned them lanes. We had a tournament and gave prizes to the winners. Everyone had a button (pin) with a picture of my mom on it and that gave them access to the Bowling alley bar so they didn't have to pay for drinks and then the bowling alley tallied the total for us. We also had 4 Brothers Chinese (also in Danville) cater the event. The food was not fancy but it was plentiful, delicious and relatively inexpensive. We also got my mom an old style 50's bowling shirt with ''It's my B-day'' printed on the back. Last but not least, we hired an awesome male singing group to come sing some doo-whop type oldies and everyone loved it. It was really a fun party. I'd highly recommend it. Feel free to email me with questions or for referrals to singing group/pin maker/shirt company/etc... nina
Why not go bowling? Albany Bowl has food, a bar, and relatively cheap bowling. If you don't normally go, it could be fun and nostalgic. If it wasn't in January, I would also recommend going somewhere like miniature golf. Bring out the inner child! MizzBee
For my 40th birthday party, I had a dessert potluck. The invitations said ''you only live once -- eat dessert first!''. This definitely works as an indoor party (my birthday is also in January). I didn't have kids at the time, but this seems like an idea that kids would like too -- although I guess they might like it a little *too* much -- you might have to keep an eye on them to make sure they don't overdo it. I still think it's an idea worth thinking about, especially if you love dessert as much as I do. -- dessert lover
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